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By *iamondjoe OP   Man
over a year ago

Glastonbury

...made or born?

I've always wondered...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

formed based on previous influencing/stimulating situations.

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By *iamondjoe OP   Man
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've dom'ed a few but struggle to get my head round it - the people I've chatted to suggest it's something innate - but my own thoughts are that, as you say, it's formed over time...

Just curious

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Made, I like the subway melt with lettuce, red onions and caesar sauce in a toasted herb and cheese roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've dom'ed a few but struggle to get my head round it - the people I've chatted to suggest it's something innate - but my own thoughts are that, as you say, it's formed over time...

Just curious "

I would imagine it depends on the person.

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By *iamondjoe OP   Man
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Made, I like the subway melt with lettuce, red onions and caesar sauce in a toasted herb and cheese roll. "

Mmm... 12 inch sub...

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Made, I like the subway melt with lettuce, red onions and caesar sauce in a toasted herb and cheese roll. "

chuckles..very funny x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only sub in the bedroom.. if a guy tells me what to do elsewhere he gets a swift kick in the testicles lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Born and made. I think you need to be naturally someone who likes to please, takes comfort in rules and structure and finds it all a bit horny.

Then from there a sub can be formed.

However I don't really know other subs so that may well just be me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Made, I like the subway melt with lettuce, red onions and caesar sauce in a toasted herb and cheese roll. "

I do need a sub now though! Hungry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Born and made. I think you need to be naturally someone who likes to please, takes comfort in rules and structure and finds it all a bit horny.

Then from there a sub can be formed.

However I don't really know other subs so that may well just be me"

That's thought provoking thank you. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...made or born?

I've always wondered..."

I think both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

female half is sub and she has always said she had known it was a part of her personality and she was that way inclined, she had always wanted to be able to show that part of her.

Sounds cheesy this but give the sub a freedom to grow and watch them flourish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...made or born?

I've always wondered..."

Just like many characteristics. It can be nature, nurture or a combination. What makes you who you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"female half is sub and she has always said she had known it was a part of her personality and she was that way inclined, she had always wanted to be able to show that part of her.

Sounds cheesy this but give the sub a freedom to grow and watch them flourish. "

Not cheesy. It's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm only sub in the bedroom.. if a guy tells me what to do elsewhere he gets a swift kick in the testicles lol"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people switch, not sure what to make of them. When we don't understand something it can be hard to ever understand without experiencing it yourself.

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By *iamondjoe OP   Man
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"What makes you who you are?"

I was born this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people switch, not sure what to make of them. When we don't understand something it can be hard to ever understand without experiencing it yourself."

What don't you understand - perhaps I can try and explain some of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a blend ....

If a natural submissive is brought up to be a Dom there will be a tenderness there.....

Our environments and and what is socially acceptable controls some of who we naturally are.....yes a BLEND X

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm naturally submissive in meaningful relationships... I meet as an equal via fab and would never sub to someone I met so casually on here as it takes time and trust to develop.

My current lover is also my dominant. Its developed over the time we have spent together. I am submissive in the bedroom to him, and also in some other aspects of our lives together (but we do not live together)

I think it is something innate in my that makes me submissive, but also that develops and blooms in the right supportive relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Subs are baked at subway !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was born this way sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe your born that way, i certainly was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first sexual thoughts involved a guy and a girl and me submitting to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people switch, not sure what to make of them. When we don't understand something it can be hard to ever understand without experiencing it yourself.

What don't you understand - perhaps I can try and explain some of it?"

Thanks.

Not sure what i don't understand really. I don't think about it much but i guess a see people as either liking something sexually or not. I don't like submitting at all so don't get how some dominant people can, although i know it will make sense or else it wouldn't happen. It doesn't bother me not to know, just this topic got me thinking about this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Made, I like the subway melt with lettuce, red onions and caesar sauce in a toasted herb and cheese roll. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a foot long, with double melted cheese. Can't beat em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite sub and would say it's just how I am. Think life experiences help make you who and how you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Born and made. I think you need to be naturally someone who likes to please, takes comfort in rules and structure and finds it all a bit horny.

Then from there a sub can be formed.

However I don't really know other subs so that may well just be me"

I think that's me to a tee. Although I've never ventured down the owned path yet it's something I wouldn't rule out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"formed based on previous influencing/stimulating situations."

I'll agree with that and add brain chemistry to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure subs are usually made.........

.....at subway

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"...made or born?

I've always wondered..."

It's an individual thing....for me I am sub only with Paul and that's because I trust him like no other....with anyone else I am dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy to admit, I like to switch and enjoy both being Dom and some ones Sub if given opportunity, id prefer a fem sub

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By *lieneWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Personally, I think I've always been this way... However it took the right person to teach me to be comfortable with myself and enjoy my submissiveness.

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By *lieneWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Personally, I think I've always been this way... However it took the right person to teach me to be comfortable with myself and enjoy my submissiveness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men I've met didn't realise they had a sub side until a few ideas and ehhhmm situations were put their way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men I've met didn't realise they had a sub side until a few ideas and ehhhmm situations were put their way! "

I think a lot have a sub side

There are certain things I love that most would consider submissive but theres no way I'd ever class myself as sub, I just enjoy certain things, but then I'm not dominant either but I think some of the things I enjoy would be seen as Dom

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