FabSwingers.com forum: Men....a little insight!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

Within 40 minutes!! She had 98 unread messages.. Now we've always known its a woman's world on here but guys come on are things so bad that the majority are on 'autofuck' she could've been the ugliest, nastiest woman walking yet guys were desperate to meet...I know this won't change anything but just 'try' focusing on what you want, not what's there..

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made a lot of female friends on here , they have told me the same.story. A lot of blokes just continually send the same lady the same message .

Chaps please think on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again "

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Predators praying on the new, and possibly nieve

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

But if they don't send messages how do they get their ding-a-lings' wet?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!"

I think this makes many newbies leave quite quickly ,it can be overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???"

207 messages is nothing for a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG thats shocking..I have not heard this before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of them won't be looking for a fuck.

They'll be looking for dirty chat (thinking newbies don't know how that works yet).

I'm gonna take all my filters off next time i'm looking for sex and see how that goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use filters. If I see an attractive man on the forums, I'll give him a wink and take it from there. I'd rather do that than have to hunt through dozens of messages!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!

I think this makes many newbies leave quite quickly ,it can be overwhelming."

Yeap, I ran away after a few days originally when I first joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!

I think this makes many newbies leave quite quickly ,it can be overwhelming.

Yeap, I ran away after a few days originally when I first joined

glad ya stayed...and of course am glad u became less of a bunny boiler...20msgs a day bombarding me to fuck u was just a bit much

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that's not the point though is it?

I bet 90% of the messages were "hi" or "want to fuck?".

That just makes it more likely for her to delete all messages or leave, making it even less likely for those of us who put in effort to even get to the talking stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!

I think this makes many newbies leave quite quickly ,it can be overwhelming."

I left twice before sticking with it. It takes a while to get the site to suit your own needs but it can be done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that's not the point though is it?

I bet 90% of the messages were "hi" or "want to fuck?".

That just makes it more likely for her to delete all messages or leave, making it even less likely for those of us who put in effort to even get to the talking stage."

I never blame other guys for making my life on fab absolute hell...

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

Why?

I genuinely cannot understand why you would delete all of the messages.

Scroll through and assess who is and who isn't to your taste.

How difficult is that?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem? "

Easy for you to say! As a single man have you suddenly been bombarded with hundreds of messages where the men were being predatory, to a newbie it is bloody daunting to say the least!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why?

I genuinely cannot understand why you would delete all of the messages.

Scroll through and assess who is and who isn't to your taste.

How difficult is that? "

You're missing the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem?

Easy for you to say! As a single man have you suddenly been bombarded with hundreds of messages where the men were being predatory, to a newbie it is bloody daunting to say the least!

yes I have..I turned many down..mainly on days I was washing my hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean OP.

You couldn't make it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember my first month on here being really hard work actually. Does takes a while for people to calm down on here and for you to get your filters to work in the best way possible, ie: have it so guys you're more likely to be interested in message you with not too many people messaging you overall.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

The people who message you cannot reach through the screen and grab you.

There is absolutely nothing to fear.

Simply delete the messages you don't like and chat to the rare few who appeal to you.

There's no drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem? "

Totally agree. I get rid of at least 2/3 of all my messages without having to click into their profiles because you can just tell from the username, profile photo or first line that they're not going to be for me. It's easy to cut it down to a manageable number. Since I blocked newbies and people without photos I get far fewer messages anyway, unless I've put new photos up or something. And I'm generally doing that to attract attention, so why would I then complain about that same attention?

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem?

Easy for you to say! As a single man have you suddenly been bombarded with hundreds of messages where the men were being predatory, to a newbie it is bloody daunting to say the least!

It's not really that daunting or predatory. It's the Internet. You're safe, secure & in full control.

Basically start with a decent profile & filters set up from day one.

It really is a case of first world problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck!!!!! that must be like hell for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the replies ... Wow! Just wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boy I feel sorry for women on this site.... 200 messages to sort through. It must be daunting to get through. I wonder if these women went to a bar or pub , if 200 men would hit on them.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

It's daunting to attempt your first ever climb of Mount Everest.

It's daunting to be taken to the operating theatre for surgery.

It is not daunting to receive messages on a website which is for sending and receiving messages.

All the lady has to do is ignore, delete or respond to said messages.

(And also adjust her filters)

Why is there this insane desire in modern society to try so desperately hard to portray people as victims when they haven't been harmed in any way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's daunting to attempt your first ever climb of Mount Everest.

It's daunting to be taken to the operating theatre for surgery.

It is not daunting to receive messages on a website which is for sending and receiving messages.

All the lady has to do is ignore, delete or respond to said messages.

(And also adjust her filters)

Why is there this insane desire in modern society to try so desperately hard to portray people as victims when they haven't been harmed in any way? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!"

What is the point of the thread then? How you aren't like all those other single males?

The first bit of advice I'd give any newbie is use your filters. You seemingly still haven't told her that

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem?

Easy for you to say! As a single man have you suddenly been bombarded with hundreds of messages where the men were being predatory, to a newbie it is bloody daunting to say the least!

It's not really that daunting or predatory. It's the Internet. You're safe, secure & in full control.

Basically start with a decent profile & filters set up from day one.

It really is a case of first world problems. "

The difference is, I joined 6 years ago and knew SFA about filters! So it is easy to say with bloody hindsight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i first joined a 3 years back I signed off without putting any pics on, no info in profile, no interests at all.

I signed in later that day to find over 100 messages and most all said "I love your profile".

How can anyone love an empty profile

Now I know where the saying "any holes a goal" comes from!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then you should have told her to sort her profile out before going live. When i set mine up i immediately hid it. I spent time adding decent text and pics and setting all my filters. Guess what? When I unhid my profile I got barely any messages. I always reckon the less you have on your profile the more it encourages guys to message because they want to find out what you look like and they want to know if they have a chance with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was delighted at all the messages I got and still get i don't message them all back but I would be more upset if I stopped getting attention on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's daunting to attempt your first ever climb of Mount Everest.

It's daunting to be taken to the operating theatre for surgery.

It is not daunting to receive messages on a website which is for sending and receiving messages.

All the lady has to do is ignore, delete or respond to said messages.

(And also adjust her filters)

Why is there this insane desire in modern society to try so desperately hard to portray people as victims when they haven't been harmed in any way? "

well said!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's daunting to attempt your first ever climb of Mount Everest.

It's daunting to be taken to the operating theatre for surgery.

It is not daunting to receive messages on a website which is for sending and receiving messages.

All the lady has to do is ignore, delete or respond to said messages.

(And also adjust her filters)

Why is there this insane desire in modern society to try so desperately hard to portray people as victims when they haven't been harmed in any way? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!"

I'm shocked that you're surprised.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The problem is that once people have messages all the locals and had no joy then the only hope they have is to either relocate, look to travel - or hit on a newbie in the hope their message lands first.

Relocating would probably be the most productive.

*or a change in profile/pics/message content

**and possibly plastic surgery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!

I'm shocked that you're surprised. "

Exactly. ..as i said the lack of pics and profile will attract more chancers not less attention! !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!

I'm shocked that you're surprised.

Exactly. ..as i said the lack of pics and profile will attract more chancers not less attention! !!"

I often have no pics and just a dot for profile text and only get about 3 mails a day. I must have a bad reputation so no-one bothers mailing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???"

From 1 to 270 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???

From 1 to 270 lol

Sorry that's 207 getting ahead of my self lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in summary.

1. set filters 2. delete anything with a rude intro line 3. when putting "hi all" expect a few hi's back 4. say hi back to anyone looking promising.

that applies to all sexes btw.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"Why?

I genuinely cannot understand why you would delete all of the messages.

Scroll through and assess who is and who isn't to your taste.

How difficult is that? "

How difficult is it for some people to actually think before they send a message! If the lady has nout on her profile then I wonder how she has especially been selected by a man to message. What selection process of mind has he gone through....?

So let's say she has no pics....well can't be he is visually attracted to her. Pretty much no profile text maybe.....Can't be her personality he is attracted to. So I then wonder why on earth all these people are interested in her? Maybe because she is female, on a site maybe looking for sex and has a pulse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh, it's about the same as I get.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

When I put my profile up while I was still typing in my information about what I was looking for or getting pics on I already had loads of mail.

That was before I had found out about filters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why?

I genuinely cannot understand why you would delete all of the messages.

Scroll through and assess who is and who isn't to your taste.

How difficult is that?

As i said guys are more likely to message someone with nothing on their profile. They MIGHT be hot and they MIGHT be what they are looking for. How do they know unless they message? They aren't mind readers! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's t'internet.

Calm ya self.

Wank zombies most of 'em.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Surely if they don't care who they fuck then an empty profile is perfect. A man that messages an empty profile clearly doesn't think it important to choose to message who they are attracted to, or something in their profile strikes an interest in them.....they can't. As there is nothing in their profile.

Surely it is better to want to message a person for a certain reason as previously said instead of purely a chance, an opportunist!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Sorry Scarlet I don't think they are messaging using their minds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if they don't care who they fuck then an empty profile is perfect. A man that messages an empty profile clearly doesn't think it important to choose to message who they are attracted to, or something in their profile strikes an interest in them.....they can't. As there is nothing in their profile.

Surely it is better to want to message a person for a certain reason as previously said instead of purely a chance, an opportunist! "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry Scarlet I don't think they are messaging using their minds!"

Ok then why don't i get many messages then if men blanket message without reading profiles?

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

"Why?

I genuinely cannot understand why you would delete all of the messages.

Scroll through and assess who is and who isn't to your taste.

How difficult is that?

Imagine that on a swingers/sex hook up site.

Men would have the nerve to be trying to get sex.

Heaven forfend.

It is a bloody disgusting outrage!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"that's not the point though is it?

I bet 90% of the messages were "hi" or "want to fuck?".

That just makes it more likely for her to delete all messages or leave, making it even less likely for those of us who put in effort to even get to the talking stage."

This fella gets what I mean...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me as well. When I make a new profile, I add no pics or profile text and leave it's for a week and then bulk delete.

To me it just screams desperation and tbh that's not sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem?

Easy for you to say! As a single man have you suddenly been bombarded with hundreds of messages where the men were being predatory, to a newbie it is bloody daunting to say the least!

It's not really that daunting or predatory. It's the Internet. You're safe, secure & in full control.

Basically start with a decent profile & filters set up from day one.

It really is a case of first world problems. "

Sense from a fellow Scouser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's t'internet.

Calm ya self.

Wank zombies most of 'em. "

Omg hilarious "wank zombies" I'm having that

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem? "

Maybe even block a few while she is doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???"

Delete all button give it a few days and if there is someone reasonably serious they would message back

Being a lady on here must be the polar opposite of a guy not sure how some ladies even cope ??

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

How does she feel about the attention, OP??

I'm sure, as a friend, you would have helped he with filters, etc, if she had given you any hint it was too much for her?

Me.. I'm used to men and the net, so found the filters that I wanted to use easy enough to find. Especially since they are highlighted for new members nowadays

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

"I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???

Delete all button give it a few days and if there is someone reasonably serious they would message back

Being a lady on here must be the polar opposite of a guy not sure how some ladies even cope ??"

As we type, there are people in countries like Nepal and Haiti who are organising care and aid packages to be sent to any women in the UK who have been traumatised by the horror of receiving too many messages.

Stay strong.

Help is on its way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting with a female friend last night who was saying she was quite down and looking for some NSA, long story short I suggested fab, I showed her how it worked and she signed up,

No profile pic

Simple profile saying "hi all"

She just sent me a screenshot of 207 unread messages, seriously...if I was a woman I wouldn't know where to start???

Delete all button give it a few days and if there is someone reasonably serious they would message back

Being a lady on here must be the polar opposite of a guy not sure how some ladies even cope ??

Stay strong.

Help is on its way. "

And if the horror of receiving too many messages is too much to bear, try volunteering for a charity to take your mind off it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem? "

Please tell me you're joking. That would take ages lol

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

No it doesn't take ages.

It can be done very easily and in a matter of minutes.

But the theme on this website often seems to be.

I delete everyone's messages.

But yet and still, I can't seem to find anybody I like. Why?

.....

That'll be because you deleted everyone's messages.

Try sifting through them to pick out the people who actually appeal to you instead.

And simply delete those you don't like.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

I've got a really traumatic story for you all.

One day I wanted to buy a new pair of shoes.

So I went into a shoe store.

Well to my horror, they stocked hundreds of different brands and styles of shoes.

I was so overwhelmed by this I just had to leave.

(I never bought shoes ever again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem?

Please tell me you're joking. That would take ages lol"

It doesn't. It really really doesn't. This is what I do and it really doesn't take much time out of my life. Although I'm probably harsher than the guy suggested because I don't open the profiles of most of them: I know by the name, subject and first line that they're not going to be for me. Possibly harsh? Maybe, but seems less harsh than slagging off all men for daring to message a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this site definitely favours the women,they can certainly pick and choose.

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By *drogansMan
over a year ago

Bedford

"that's not the point though is it?

I bet 90% of the messages were "hi" or "want to fuck?".

That just makes it more likely for her to delete all messages or leave, making it even less likely for those of us who put in effort to even get to the talking stage.

I never blame other guys for making my life on fab absolute hell..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry Scarlet I don't think they are messaging using their minds!

Ok then why don't i get many messages then if men blanket message without reading profiles? "

Oh I dunno maybe they looked at your pics and went no not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way swinging works is generally dictated by the overall shit quality of the guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on - take time (like most things) you won't be overwhelmed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to a friend of mine.. Within 5mins over 300 msgd,, mind you was same when I first joined... I daren't turn off my filters now either i already get a lot of mags now,,, some desperate guys out there, not all I might add before you guys have a go at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All she has to do is scroll through the messages.

If the message is rude or not quite right.

Delete.

If the guy isn't physically to her taste.

Delete.

If the guy isn't within her age, racial, height or location preference.

Delete.

Those who make the cut, she can reply to.

What's the problem? "

When I first started out on here many moons ago before I knew about the filters I sat in front of my lap top crying trying to clear messages by being polite. As quick as I was sending a reply I was getting 3 or 4 more messages including the why what's wrong with me the why didn't you read my message and the fancy a fuck ones. Soon learnt where filters were and how to block. That was only with 70 odd messages and I spent a good couple of hrs trying to get through them before throwing in the towel giving up and not coming back on for days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry Scarlet I don't think they are messaging using their minds!

Ok then why don't i get many messages then if men blanket message without reading profiles?

Oh I dunno maybe they looked at your pics and went no not for me."

There is your answer then. Put up really unattractive pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you show her the filters ? Get her to block everyone give her a cHance to find out about the site. Delete every message she has a start again

I did but that's not the point if the thread, I'm just saying how ridiculous it is ,I dont think many men fully know...I was pretty shocked as I say with no pics or profile!!"

Men do it all the time, they really don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been back on fab about two weeks after a year off...

Still haven't received 207 messages...

Luxury of being a woman ey....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you have your system in place it's really very easy to sort out, no need for drama.

I much prefer being on the receiving end of the messages than being the ones getting disheartened and sending out the dross.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

In some countries people cry because their entire village has been massacred by militia.

Or because they have to walk 5 miles every day just to get a small bowl of clean water.

In other countries people cry because they received a lot of messages on a website that is specifically created for you to receive messages.

The pampered Westerner has it so hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it ok for me to cry because sainsburys just delivered feta instead of halloumi? I mean FFS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ok for me to cry because sainsburys just delivered feta instead of halloumi? I mean FFS! "

That is worth crying over..i don't like feta!

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over a year ago

"Is it ok for me to cry because sainsburys just delivered feta instead of halloumi? I mean FFS!

That is worth crying over..i don't like feta!"

Neither do I. I gave it back to the man with a look of disgust. My profile - sorry my order - clearly stated halloumi and he tried to push his luck giving me feta. I don't know who he thinks he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In some countries people cry because their entire village has been massacred by militia.

Or because they have to walk 5 miles every day just to get a small bowl of clean water.

In other countries people cry because they received a lot of messages on a website that is specifically created for you to receive messages.

The pampered Westerner has it so hard. "

And you are such a gentleman just the type fab needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ok for me to cry because sainsburys just delivered feta instead of halloumi? I mean FFS! "

Abso-fuckin-lutely!!

and while your at it make sure the shopper gets the sack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ok for me to cry because sainsburys just delivered feta instead of halloumi? I mean FFS!

That is worth crying over..i don't like feta!

Neither do I. I gave it back to the man with a look of disgust. My profile - sorry my order - clearly stated halloumi and he tried to push his luck giving me feta. I don't know who he thinks he is. "

All about Nando's halloumi... Unrivalled!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I fist signed up my messages were in the hundreds. I put a new photo up the other day and within a couple of hours my inbox was in the 80's. Men are like vultures on here lol

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

Abergavenny

"In some countries people cry because their entire village has been massacred by militia.

Or because they have to walk 5 miles every day just to get a small bowl of clean water.

In other countries people cry because they received a lot of messages on a website that is specifically created for you to receive messages.

The pampered Westerner has it so hard.

And you are such a gentleman just the type fab needs.

Forgive me for not entertaining the, woe is me I'm a victim, theme that so often crops up here.

God I've just received a message.

I have PTSD if this continues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's pretty unfair to slag men off for mailing a woman's profile ... on a sex site.. when she has sex type pics on.

It's a site for people looking for sex. They mail to ask for sex they get slagged off. They mail with a non-sexual "how are you" type mail they get slagged off.

They don't mail, the women's ego's take a battering. (Aww bless)

People can't win.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yea the newbie rush can be Intimidating also as a newbie that doesn't upgrade to site supporter you can only send 100 messages per day so how your expected to answer 207 messages with only 100 to use just doesn't happen so that's why they just get deleted guys

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Sorry Scarlet I don't think they are messaging using their minds!

Ok then why don't i get many messages then if men blanket message without reading profiles?

Oh I dunno maybe they looked at your pics and went no not for me.

There is your answer then. Put up really unattractive pictures."

Go on then, put up unattractive pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's t'internet.

Calm ya self.

Wank zombies most of 'em.

Omg hilarious "wank zombies" I'm having that

'ave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 8 messages in my box.

It's usually 8-10 messages a day.

Maybe word has spread I've had pubic lice and I'm a bit menthol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just another sad day on Fab with the Desperadoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just another sad day on Fab with the Desperadoes "

You comfy there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure Ginger still has a backlog of messages from day she first joined 6mths ago. Everytime she made an effort to reduce her inbox she was inundated with more. She has filters on to reduce the amount of messages and I think that is the way forward for any woman.

Can't remember the procedure for signing up but maybe tweak it so more help and advice is given about filters so that fab newbies aren't given such a fright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just another sad day on Fab with the Desperadoes "

Yep, hence why I so often say there should be multiple categories for single males, so we don't all have to be associated with the 'I'll fuck anything with a pulse (optional)' crowd.

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