FabSwingers.com forum: assumptions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm very sure on who I find acceptable and attractive on here, including those I find to attractive but of late we have had a few guys that assume that when we refuse them its Mr saying no because they are young, hung and gym fit...

Why do people seem to jump to that conclusion.. reality is Mr doesn't care as long as they treat us with respect and can give me a good time with or without him joining in...

The other one that bugs me is the assumption that he isn't enough for me and that's why we are looking for other men...

Nope we look for couples and other guys as if we are looking for guys we are looking to fulfil things that we csnt do by ourselves....

What assumptions do you find can be annoying and mildly insulting . Have also had women that have actually turned around and told me that Mr must be bored of me or why else would he want other women too.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Men or couples assuming I will meet them when my profile clearly says I only meet women. Re-thinking the profile pic though? (not a look at me thing, just it instigated a random rude message, so not what I need as soon as I get back from work)

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

People thinking i will make exceptions just for them .

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

bi/gay guys all do anal

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People assuming that I love receiving oral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.

Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.

Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"People thinking i will make exceptions just for them ."

This

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

people who are invited to comment on a situation are being judgemental

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something"

This bugs me.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Racial assumptions that go beyond the assumed length of my cock.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.

Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.

Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!"

Sorry I Did giggle at these ...

So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.

Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.

Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!

Sorry I Did giggle at these ...

So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then

Only if your Mr is bored with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.

Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.

Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!

Sorry I Did giggle at these ...

So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then

Only if your Mr is bored with you

( ps just spat my iced wine spritzer out now )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People assume that I'll bring my strap on to every meet - I don't.

Men assuming that if I hook up with them, they'll eventually be involved in a ffm - they won't.

Couples assuming I'll happily be a birthday present for their other half - they can get to fuck!

Sorry I Did giggle at these ...

So you dont fancy being a belated birthday present with us so we can have mff with your strap on then

Only if your Mr is bored with you

( ps just spat my iced wine spritzer out now ) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The assumption that I'm grumpy and miserable never ceases to amuse me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People assuming that I love receiving oral."

This

AND the assumption that because we are also looking for men (mfm) Marc must be bi....uh, no.

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By *otlerCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

Men assuming that they talking to the fem,at least on the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming that because I am online I want to cam or cyber or am just in general desperate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and the assumption that the SW starts at the end of zone 6!!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

that people are looking for friendship, relationships and/or long term exchange of communication.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something"

Surely the same for women yes?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People assuming I'm bi just because I'm a woman.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something

Surely the same for women yes?"

much less so, it is usually assumed they have children at home, concerns over their safety ....

the guys: married and cheating

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By *otlerCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

Assuming that your profile is fake,when infact you soon find out they have a fake one.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

I find that people who make assumptions are pretty much always in the wrong..

I have met loads people here who go `Oh I thought` this or that and are then surprised to be wrong?

Knowing,basing opinion on fact rather than gossip or assumption,much smarter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming that id drop everything to go meet which is never possible as i have a child .

Annoys me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Assuming that I sit at my laptop in lingerie.

Assuming that I am ready and able to meet at 11.40pm mid-week.

Assuming that I don't mean what I've put on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people care so much what other people think about them?

It doesn't matter.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Assuming that I'm going to read their message

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Why do people care so much what other people think about them?

It doesn't matter."

because I want to belong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people care so much what other people think about them?

It doesn't matter.

because I want to belong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming because we don't meet BI men it's because we are homophobic.

Assuming because we have answered your message it's a binding contract to meet you. No matter how innocuous the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People thinking i will make exceptions just for them ."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something

Surely the same for women yes?"

No at least that's the impression I've got from reading various threads.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"The assumption that I'm grumpy and miserable never ceases to amuse me"

But you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People thinking i will make exceptions just for them ."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That a message I've took time time to word has been copied and pasted

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Assuming that because their message has been replied to, they're gonna get laid. Also, people who think that because they are free on a particular day at a certain time, we should be too. Obviously those people don't have jobs or kids.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something

Surely the same for women yes?

No at least that's the impression I've got from reading various threads.

Forgot to add that this always bugs me. Single women or couples are never asked to justify why they can't accommodate, so why should men have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What assumptions do you find can be annoying and mildly insulting . "

Men who assume I'm cheating.

Men who assume I'll put on a show for them with their straight girlfriend.

Men who assume I'm submissive.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

That I won't insist on a social meet first...I will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something"

Worst of all...

I can but wont..... choice..

They should have can accommodate can't accommodate.. choose not to accommodate..

My choice is its my place to retire at the end of a hard week.. if i take my swinging life there where do i go next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something

Surely the same for women yes?

No at least that's the impression I've got from reading various threads.

Forgot to add that this always bugs me. Single women or couples are never asked to justify why they can't accommodate, so why should men have to."

to be honest, when guys ask for advice on the forums about why they cant get meets, I check their profile and see that they cant accom..alot of the time their status's often give the indication that they are after a quick fuck..and lets just say its never really about a meet to engage with..possibly a breakfast in bed type thing unlikely to be on the cards even if it was offered.

One of the nice aspects of swinging is the occasional regular...its a bit nice to be able to have that on equal terms and not always having to accom.

As we are a really large group(men),being able to prove that you are indeed single will naturally shift balance towards those that can accom on the majority of occasions.

At times various people wont care, lots still have fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who assume I'll meet them after a few messages

People who think I'm going to meet them just because they're local

And assumptions that my profile text should be ignored !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who assume I'll meet them after a few messages

People who think I'm going to meet them just because they're local

And assumptions that my profile text should be ignored !!!"

didnt read the profile..fancy a fuck..and this is'nt even a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People assuming we must just play with anyone , since we have had so many meets .

Far from it , we turn down way more than you may think .

Every time we put a meet up we get up to 80 requests , and at most accept 8 for a dogging meet . Of which maybe 2 or 3 actually turn up !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that because you have kids in the house, your cheating.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That muscle guys are more interested in checking out their muscles whilst having sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People assuming that I love receiving oral."

This! Hate oral!

Or that women they're hot enough to make me be bi. Incorrrrrrrrrrrrrect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assuming that id drop everything to go meet which is never possible as i have a child .

Annoys me "

I have this problem too! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assumptions that because we dont have public pictures of Mr Iconic on our profile that he is ugly

The assumption that if a guy enjoys going down on a woman, that he is not talented at penetrative sex or he has a small cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men or couples assuming I will meet them when my profile clearly says I only meet women. Re-thinking the profile pic though? (not a look at me thing, just it instigated a random rude message, so not what I need as soon as I get back from work)"

Then why have you ticked the "looking for men" option so that you pop up in all the men's searches for women looking for men?

Attention seeking?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"people who are invited to comment on a situation are being judgemental"

This!

Plus if you don't tell your parents/kids/postman/hairdresser/personal trainer/Tesco delivery driver/fellow commuters/clients you're a swinger you're ashamed.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Assuming that I don't mean what I've put on my profile."

Therefore will make an exception and meet them, even though they're the polar opposite of what you're looking for!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"men who decide not to accommodate are hiding something

Worst of all...

I can but wont..... choice..

They should have can accommodate can't accommodate.. choose not to accommodate..

My choice is its my place to retire at the end of a hard week.. if i take my swinging life there where do i go next

This attitude is why I no longer meet men who can't accommodate. I invite few people into my home. I was seeing someone for years, meeting at mine. We had arranged a meet but my daughter was coming home from uni. I said we'd meet at his to which he replied he didn't invite people he'd met off the net into his home it wasn't a knocking shop!

He was unceremoniously ejected from my home: he didn't get saying that whilst lying in my bed wouldn't bode well for him!

I don't think anyone should have to justify their choice of accommodating or not, I simply don't invite into my home anyone who wouldn't have me in theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who assume that because I'm 56 I'm over the hill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The assumption that other people's assumptions are bad, when they present as another handy asshat filter.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Then why have you ticked the "looking for men" option so that you pop up in all the men's searches for women looking for men?

Attention seeking?"

That's a bit of an assumption ... and very rude, if you don't mind me saying ... why would I need attention, justify yourself then ..... or do you just get away with bandying throw away comments around in public - thanks for the information, by the way, had not noticed I had neglected to change this. Thank goodness some people have enough time on their hands.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I think we've only had assumptions based on the fact that I'm not attracted to black or Asian men...

If people still message and get a polite "No thank you", we've had a few who then make it clear that they HAVE in fact read our profile and just chose to ignore it.

But they always assume they're talking to Bradley and think that it must purely be HIM stopping us meeting them, and come out with things like "What's the matter, scared she'll like it and won't want to come back to you? Why won't you let her fuck a real man?", etc, etc.

Even when I sign my messages, they think I'm lying.

- Amy. x

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