FabSwingers.com forum: Cheating on yr partner..What is your definition?

By *vgloryholebs16 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Today I had a meet with a guy who identifies as str8...We had sex and then a chat,during which time he told me that he was married and that whilst he played with tv's &other guys, he didn't consider himself unfaithful or a cheat and that his conscience was clear,however he said he wouldn't go with a woman as that would feel uncomfortable and that he would be cheating on his wife..

Is this something other people can identify with? What are your thoughts? I mentioned his orientation as straight to give you the big picture on it..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

god bless him, if it works for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its still cheating however he defines it and why would it not be cheating if its a man but cheating if its a woman??

He is still sharing his body with another person without his other half knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today I had a meet with a guy who identifies as str8...We had sex and then a chat,during which time he told me that he was married and that whilst he played with tv's &other guys, he didn't consider himself unfaithful or a cheat and that his conscience was clear,however he said he wouldn't go with a woman as that would feel uncomfortable and that he would be cheating on his wife..

Is this something other people can identify with? What are your thoughts? I mentioned his orientation as straight to give you the big picture on it.."

Hmmm ya gotta love the male rationale! Seriously though, if I'm doing something I don't and won't tell my partner about then it's gotta be creating hasn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this something other people can identify with? What are your thoughts? I mentioned his orientation as straight to give you the big picture on it..

Hmmm ya gotta love the male rationale! Seriously though, if I'm doing something I don't and won't tell my partner about then it's gotta be creating hasn't it?"

cheating not creating, obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So in his mind, if he's been with another female then it's cheating? But otherwise it's fine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In denial, on both accounts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 cheating threads and a bareback thread. .

All in one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope... he's a cheat... end of!

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me "

Obviously it exists whether she knows or not and if he doesnt consider it cheating why doesnt he tell her?

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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago

bournemouth

"Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me "

She will find out at some point. Wouldnt want the guilt to be honest but perhaps he doesnt have a conscience, once you break the trust you dont have much left, surely thats the point of swinging is that its out in the open even if its only one playing

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me

Obviously it exists whether she knows or not and if he doesnt consider it cheating why doesnt he tell her?"

Semantics dear

Semantics

Obviously she won't like it

So like I said

How can she feel it's cheating IF SHE'S GOT NO IDEA IT'S HAPPENING

The answer is

She can't

Logical really honey

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Yeah the rationalisation is unbelievable...I don't suppose any one who does this and agrees with his justification will add to this thread?

I have met a number of guys who consider 'oral sex' only to be non cheating!

..seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me

Obviously it exists whether she knows or not and if he doesnt consider it cheating why doesnt he tell her?

Semantics dear

Semantics

Obviously she won't like it

So like I said

How can she feel it's cheating IF SHE'S GOT NO IDEA IT'S HAPPENING

The answer is

She can't

Logical really honey "

Nothing logical about it

Its cheating end off

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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago

bournemouth

"Yeah the rationalisation is unbelievable...I don't suppose any one who does this and agrees with his justification will add to this thread?

I have met a number of guys who consider 'oral sex' only to be non cheating!

..seriously.

Well Bill Clinton said it wasnt sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating on yr partner..What is your definition?"

Doing something that you would avoid telling your partner about because it would make them unhappy.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Is this something other people can identify with? What are your thoughts? I mentioned his orientation as straight to give you the big picture on it.."

If I was retarded to fuck and back I'd agree with him.

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By *vgloryholebs16 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

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By *vgloryholebs16 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

"Cheating on yr partner..What is your definition?

Doing something that you would avoid telling your partner about because it would make them unhappy."

Such as being on fab swingers. .

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me

Obviously it exists whether she knows or not and if he doesnt consider it cheating why doesnt he tell her?

Semantics dear

Semantics

Obviously she won't like it

So like I said

How can she feel it's cheating IF SHE'S GOT NO IDEA IT'S HAPPENING

The answer is

She can't

Logical really honey

Nothing logical about it

Its cheating end off

Yea whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snorted tea thru my nose laughing at this cheating not cheating scenario lol.. good stuff ..i needed a good laugh today and there it is..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating on yr partner..What is your definition?

Doing something that you would avoid telling your partner about because it would make them unhappy.

Such as being on fab swingers. .

If your partner would be unhappy if they knew you were here, then yes I believe it's cheating.

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By *vgloryholebs16 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

"Cheating on yr partner..What is your definition?

Doing something that you would avoid telling your partner about because it would make them unhappy."

I really like that definition.

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Why would he tell his partner if he knows full well that she'll disapprove??? And maybe they're not having sex anymore and are happy to live together but not be physical; and maybe she's having it off with others!!! So many variables!!! Wake up smell the coffee - Duh! And folks, pls don t forget what this site is for

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Why would he tell his partner if he knows full well that she'll disapprove??? And maybe they're not having sex anymore and are happy to live together but not be physical; and maybe she's having it off with others!!! So many variables!!! Wake up smell the coffee - Duh! And folks, pls don t forget what this site is for

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Sorry... Confused.

What has this to do with if he us cheating or not? Which he clearly is.

If a relationship isn't working you are better off getting out of it, not cheating as it'll probably

be the same result in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as I was aware, this site was for consenting adults to meet up and have sex with each other.

The problem is that in a monogamous relationship where one person is cheating - not all parties are consenting.

This isn't 'fabcheats.com' this is 'fabswingers.com'.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Sorry... Confused.

What has this to do with if he us cheating or not? Which he clearly is.

If a relationship isn't working you are better off getting out of it, not cheating as it'll probably

be the same result in the end."

No necessarily no

I know many people

Male and female

The marriage itself is super

Everything else pretty much works brilliantly

Except where one just one has decided that sex is off the menu

So why should the other person live a sexless life when the life they lead out of the bedroom is pretty damn good actually?

Why not seek just NSA Sex off likeminded people?

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

As far as I was aware, this site was for consenting adults to meet up and have sex with each other.

The problem is that in a monogamous relationship where one person is cheating - not all parties are consenting.

This isn't 'fabcheats.com' this is 'fabswingers.com'."

The other person isn't even involved

Especially in situations where the person on Fab knows they'll never consent

And like I've said on here sooo many times before

It's often swinging couples on here who protest about other's behaviour

When in actual fact, ask any single lady on here, and they'll all tell you that they've been memessaged by just the male of the couple who suggests a meet and let's not mention it to the lady on the profile

It's nieve to imply that just because you both agree that sex outside your relationship with others is ALWAYS CONSENSUAL

When often it's not

So whose fooling who

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a very broad interpretation.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My definition is doing ANYTHING romantic or sexual with someone who your partner would be unhappy of. That's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry... Confused.

What has this to do with if he us cheating or not? Which he clearly is.

If a relationship isn't working you are better off getting out of it, not cheating as it'll probably

be the same result in the end."

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

"My definition is doing ANYTHING romantic or sexual with someone who your partner would be unhappy of. That's it."

or without a partner's knowledge

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

please read my reply FULLY; I said they may be happy living together so why spilt up? Please read my reply again - this time in full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My definition is doing ANYTHING romantic or sexual with someone who your partner would be unhappy of. That's it.

or without a partner's knowledge"

Yeah,that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bill Clinton..

I didnt put it in Her Piss flaps so it wasnt Cheating.

Mrs Clinton.

Spend the rest of your life sleeping with one Eye open you Wanker.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married - he's cheating!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

As far as I was aware, this site was for consenting adults to meet up and have sex with each other.

The problem is that in a monogamous relationship where one person is cheating - not all parties are consenting.

This isn't 'fabcheats.com' this is 'fabswingers.com'.

The other person isn't even involved

Especially in situations where the person on Fab knows they'll never consent

And like I've said on here sooo many times before

It's often swinging couples on here who protest about other's behaviour

It's nieve to imply that just because you both agree that sex outside your relationship with others is ALWAYS CONSENSUAL

When often it's not

So whose fooling who "

Any single lady? All of them? Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does cheating actually exist if the wife has no clue it's taking place?

I mean ignorance is truelly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me "

Or Bishop George Berkeley.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as I was aware, this site was for consenting adults to meet up and have sex with each other.

The problem is that in a monogamous relationship where one person is cheating - not all parties are consenting.

This isn't 'fabcheats.com' this is 'fabswingers.com'.

The other person isn't even involved

Especially in situations where the person on Fab knows they'll never consent

And like I've said on here sooo many times before

It's often swinging couples on here who protest about other's behaviour

It's nieve to imply that just because you both agree that sex outside your relationship with others is ALWAYS CONSENSUAL

When often it's not

So whose fooling who "

have to be honest I've had that several times, I even had males of couples I have met and know ask me to meet him alone on the sly

I've even had males of couples I have played with where their wife knows ask me not to mention certain things we have done as it's against their rules after we have played

I can't speak for anyone seen though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating wherever your dick is stuck and I for one dont tolerate it and make it clear on my profile plus I added the liar bit as those that dont say they have partners are liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating on yr partner..What is your definition?

Doing something that you would avoid telling your partner about because it would make them unhappy."

This. Pure and simple.

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Next we'll get get guys saying it's only cheating if their wife/partner finds out

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

I mean ignorance is truly bliss people

And it's up to him how he defines his sex life

Not you or me "

Agreed..everyone to their own

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