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What's the ice breaker?

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

We've only ever played in clubs and never at a private meet (yet).

What we are curious about is what ice breaker you use at a private meet to take things from coffee and flirting/chatting to playing?

We are very curious about this whole dynamic and can't wait to see it first hand (assuming when we meet that people actually want to take things further).

But we just wondered what works for you.

We are assuming it's not just a case of "right, let's get on with it then" or is it? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

In a club I usually hang out in the jacuzzi and if I chat to someone I like the look of I sometimes say 'I am going to play now if you would like to join me?' Always works

Private meets and parties are different for me because everyone knows me and is used to me so I get away with 'so who wants to have sex?' Whilst standing naked in the middle of the room - this is not for everyone but it works for me

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

Well that'd work.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"Well that'd work. "

If nothing else it would make everyone laugh and relieve the tension which then encourages everyone to start kissing and licking

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

Would you go for the same approach with a first meet couple?

If not, what would be the approach then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With some of our private meets we play games and such, usually with couples, that lead to clothes coming off, etc. Other times we finish our drinks and we go for the straight forward "so we are interested, do you want to get started?" approach. It tends to depend on the person/situation for us.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met someone and they had a little bell .. If we all rang it then it was time to play

If someone didn't ring it .. Was goodnight and nice meeting you etc....

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

I like the idea of the games.

The bell sounds a bit ominous. Especially if everyone has rung it bar one... Surely there would feel like some pressure to ring it anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like the idea of the games.

The bell sounds a bit ominous. Especially if everyone has rung it bar one... Surely there would feel like some pressure to ring it anyway?"

If you feel under pressure shouldn't be in that situation .. Just leave it out and see who rings it !

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

When were on the look out for fun and a guy looks interested and a bit slow at coming forward i once said to a very nice young man who could not take his eyes off Jane,s boobs or legs she was sat on a bar stool in a hotel in mid conversation i said would you like to fuck my wife

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp "

Haha! Am laughing at this one!

I only do private meets and about 3 sips into my coffee ask 'shall I get my clothes off?'

No idea what to do in a club.

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I like the idea of the games.

The bell sounds a bit ominous. Especially if everyone has rung it bar one... Surely there would feel like some pressure to ring it anyway?

If you feel under pressure shouldn't be in that situation .. Just leave it out and see who rings it ! "

Ah I see. I had visions of it being passed around while people say in a circle lol.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp

Haha! Am laughing at this one!

I only do private meets and about 3 sips into my coffee ask 'shall I get my clothes off?'

No idea what to do in a club."

I have even arrived on a doorstep naked so have no problem walking into a room and dropping my dress and climbing on a guy

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"With some of our private meets we play games and such, usually with couples, that lead to clothes coming off, etc. Other times we finish our drinks and we go for the straight forward "so we are interested, do you want to get started?" approach. It tends to depend on the person/situation for us.

-Courtney"

The problem I have found with this is that a lot of swingersdo not actually like being naked - so they already feel pressured......if you have someone who is happy to start everyone off by maybe kissing someone or kneeling down to give someone a bj you are sorted - once everyone sees one person start then they are happy to join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the private meets I have had it has varied, but with couples it has usually been the husband suggesting that the lady removes some clothing. Often porn on the tv to make everyone feel horny...if they don't already!

Meets with just guys tend to be more direct. Quickly feeling each other and getting naked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually just go to a room. Leave the door wide open & start having sex. Anyone that stops to watch and looks interested is invite in to join us.

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West


"With some of our private meets we play games and such, usually with couples, that lead to clothes coming off, etc. Other times we finish our drinks and we go for the straight forward "so we are interested, do you want to get started?" approach. It tends to depend on the person/situation for us.

-Courtney

The problem I have found with this is that a lot of swingersdo not actually like being naked - so they already feel pressured......if you have someone who is happy to start everyone off by maybe kissing someone or kneeling down to give someone a bj you are sorted - once everyone sees one person start then they are happy to join in "

That's something that has surprised me since we started this. How many couples are a bit wary about being naked. You'd have thought that given the circumstances that they'd be fine with it.

We are naked at any opportunity lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being in Spain, I'm learning that sometimes it might be better to ask for what you want.

When I've met couples in the past with my boyfriend we've tried playing games, sometimes that works, sometimes not. On occasions, the girls have gone upstairs and got changed, then presented ourselves to the boys in our outfits... all fun and games.

In future though, I'm going to try and take the lead with meets a bit more. A shy Lily is no fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With some of our private meets we play games and such, usually with couples, that lead to clothes coming off, etc. Other times we finish our drinks and we go for the straight forward "so we are interested, do you want to get started?" approach. It tends to depend on the person/situation for us.

-Courtney

The problem I have found with this is that a lot of swingersdo not actually like being naked - so they already feel pressured......if you have someone who is happy to start everyone off by maybe kissing someone or kneeling down to give someone a bj you are sorted - once everyone sees one person start then they are happy to join in

That's something that has surprised me since we started this. How many couples are a bit wary about being naked. You'd have thought that given the circumstances that they'd be fine with it.

We are naked at any opportunity lol."

I agree. We have no problem getting naked in these scenarios. But it's a fair point that some do. Tho we haven't met them yet

-Courtney

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"With some of our private meets we play games and such, usually with couples, that lead to clothes coming off, etc. Other times we finish our drinks and we go for the straight forward "so we are interested, do you want to get started?" approach. It tends to depend on the person/situation for us.

-Courtney

The problem I have found with this is that a lot of swingersdo not actually like being naked - so they already feel pressured......if you have someone who is happy to start everyone off by maybe kissing someone or kneeling down to give someone a bj you are sorted - once everyone sees one person start then they are happy to join in

That's something that has surprised me since we started this. How many couples are a bit wary about being naked. You'd have thought that given the circumstances that they'd be fine with it.

We are naked at any opportunity lol."

Same here.....I am always happy to get naked and even though I am fat I am not body conscious so don't mind my belly wobbling and boobs bouncing - we have met conventionally 'perfect' people who are bothered by their tiny podge belly and hate being naked.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp

Haha! Am laughing at this one!

I only do private meets and about 3 sips into my coffee ask 'shall I get my clothes off?'

No idea what to do in a club.

I have even arrived on a doorstep naked so have no problem walking into a room and dropping my dress and climbing on a guy "

Nice

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp

Haha! Am laughing at this one!

I only do private meets and about 3 sips into my coffee ask 'shall I get my clothes off?'

No idea what to do in a club.

I have even arrived on a doorstep naked so have no problem walking into a room and dropping my dress and climbing on a guy

Nice "

I have no shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp

Haha! Am laughing at this one!

I only do private meets and about 3 sips into my coffee ask 'shall I get my clothes off?'

No idea what to do in a club.

I have even arrived on a doorstep naked so have no problem walking into a room and dropping my dress and climbing on a guy

Nice

I have no shame "

Nothing wrong with a bit of confidence

Now get here and sit on my face

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

My first mff i went to their house..i chatted to the woman and she said her bf was in the shower and could i ask if he wanted a drink. Knocked on the door and he grabbed me for a kiss..when we came out she was on the bed.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"I just flop it out n say Well it wont suck itself Luv

Gimp

Haha! Am laughing at this one!

I only do private meets and about 3 sips into my coffee ask 'shall I get my clothes off?'

No idea what to do in a club.

I have even arrived on a doorstep naked so have no problem walking into a room and dropping my dress and climbing on a guy

Nice

I have no shame

Nothing wrong with a bit of confidence

Now get here and sit on my face "

I would love to

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

My bf is very shy when approaching men, yes he is bi, so I have to try to find out which one he likes then approach them, or set the meet up. I like it though, its fun ...

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By *he horny kinksters OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West


"With some of our private meets we play games and such, usually with couples, that lead to clothes coming off, etc. Other times we finish our drinks and we go for the straight forward "so we are interested, do you want to get started?" approach. It tends to depend on the person/situation for us.

-Courtney

The problem I have found with this is that a lot of swingersdo not actually like being naked - so they already feel pressured......if you have someone who is happy to start everyone off by maybe kissing someone or kneeling down to give someone a bj you are sorted - once everyone sees one person start then they are happy to join in

That's something that has surprised me since we started this. How many couples are a bit wary about being naked. You'd have thought that given the circumstances that they'd be fine with it.

We are naked at any opportunity lol.

Same here.....I am always happy to get naked and even though I am fat I am not body conscious so don't mind my belly wobbling and boobs bouncing - we have met conventionally 'perfect' people who are bothered by their tiny podge belly and hate being naked....."

No point being body shy given how close we are to exploring each other intimately.

Arriving naked or in just undies must surely be the best icebreaker

That sounds great. Let's hope someone tried that on us.

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