FabSwingers.com forum: Perfect first message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After reading differnt people's profiles I've noticed that diffrent people want people to send diffrent things is a first message. Just wondering what you want to when some messages you for the first time and what you don't want to see xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no such thing as the perfect first message.

Write something interesting, tailored to the recipient and refrain from 'fancy a fuck' style one liners. They're almost guaranteed to end up in the bin.

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over a year ago

There is no such thing as a perfect first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no such thing as the perfect first message.

Write something interesting, tailored to the recipient and refrain from 'fancy a fuck' style one liners. They're almost guaranteed to end up in the bin."

So that's why you didn't reply to me....I missed off the please

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"After reading differnt people's profiles I've noticed that diffrent people want people to send diffrent things is a first message. Just wondering what you want to when some messages you for the first time and what you don't want to see xx"

I'm sure you can work this out for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a shag doesn't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is no such thing as a perfect first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no such thing as the perfect first message.

Write something interesting, tailored to the recipient and refrain from 'fancy a fuck' style one liners. They're almost guaranteed to end up in the bin.

So that's why you didn't reply to me....I missed off the please

We got standards, try again with the 'please' and see how far that gets ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear AB,

Hello there young lady. I am a wealthy, single man who has been unfortunate not to be blessed with children, and am looking for a wife to spend all my money for me, i have so much i don't know what to do with it all any more.

I would love to make you the centre of my world and worship the ground you walk on, submit to you in all ways, and love you forever.

Please reply, i feel i have been looking for you all my life.

Yours, RM.

Failing that, anything fun or something to chat about, which is hard i will admit.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Just a normal hello and a bit of banter like

No Hi

No Anymore pics

No rude pics as a hello

Just normal pleeeeesssseee....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone fancy writing some examples of what they would wanna see lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Anyone fancy writing some examples of what they would wanna see lol "

No...you'll want someone to send it for you next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here is a picture of us if you like what you see please get back to us

And attached pics of a gorgeous couple that's a perfect first message for us

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Anyone fancy writing some examples of what they would wanna see lol "

Would you like us to come on meets as well and show you what to do?

Just be yourself,there are no examples,everyone is different,everyone likes different things

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

The perfect first message is a well written message from someone you fancy.

After that, a badly written message from someone you fancy comes a very close second.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im not fishing for a message lol was just interested in what different people like im fully aware that different people like different thing. and honeypot your more then welcome to join me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent well thought out first messages and they've been deleted.

I've sent out cheeky as fuck first messages too and got a response.

In other words. There isn't a perfect first message. Imo.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The last time I posted my take on a sensible opening message, several ladies later told me that they'd received cut'n'pasted versions on their inbox.

I would have thought that it was easy really.

First, attach a nice smiley face picture.

Next introduce yourself... Ideally using the recient's name if available..

Then explain what gave you cause to pick them from all of the wonderful fabbers you've browsed. Ideally referring to things in their profile and pictures.

Finally, explain that if they are interested in you, you'd love to hear back.

Then.... Wait for the outcome... if you get a reply, they're interested, if not.... they're not, move on and forget it.

At least that's my thinking.

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By *hyguyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"The last time I posted my take on a sensible opening message, several ladies later told me that they'd received cut'n'pasted versions on their inbox.

I would have thought that it was easy really.

First, attach a nice smiley face picture.

Next introduce yourself... Ideally using the recient's name if available..

Then explain what gave you cause to pick them from all of the wonderful fabbers you've browsed. Ideally referring to things in their profile and pictures.

Finally, explain that if they are interested in you, you'd love to hear back.

Then.... Wait for the outcome... if you get a reply, they're interested, if not.... they're not, move on and forget it.

At least that's my thinking."

Sounds crack on and great advise

.. Just be friendly

Ps - how do you cut and paste

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Sounds crack on and great advise

.. Just be friendly

Ps - how do you cut and paste

Scissors and a pritt stick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds crack on and great advise

.. Just be friendly

Ps - how do you cut and paste

Scissors and a pritt stick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I posted my take on a sensible opening message, several ladies later told me that they'd received cut'n'pasted versions on their inbox.

I would have thought that it was easy really.

First, attach a nice smiley face picture.

Next introduce yourself... Ideally using the recient's name if available..

Then explain what gave you cause to pick them from all of the wonderful fabbers you've browsed. Ideally referring to things in their profile and pictures.

Finally, explain that if they are interested in you, you'd love to hear back.

Then.... Wait for the outcome... if you get a reply, they're interested, if not.... they're not, move on and forget it.

At least that's my thinking."

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Why not try a few different styles and see which gets a response. As a fellow Leeds Loiner I could rewrite your profile and give you several message styles for you to send out.

Just send me your credit card details and the three digit number on the back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone's an individual with a different outlook that's what makes others interesting .. Just stay clear of " fancy a shag " type one liners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might say something like

Alright georgous (but only if they are)

Like the sound of your profile and would love to have a little chat...

I got face pics I can send or if you fancy it invite me as a friend then you will see some...

I would Say a funny one liner regarding something on there pro description and leave it at that...

A friendly hello basically

Let's do this lol

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

Ignore the people telling you to write out a C.V lol.

Short and funny wins the day. Be random if you can't be funny. Ask the first thing that pops into your head. Get more responses that way definitely, plus you won't be upset when 90% don't reply to your painstakingly crafted essay.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Ignore the people telling you to write out a C.V lol.

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By *hyguyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Sounds crack on and great advise

.. Just be friendly

Ps - how do you cut and paste

Scissors and a pritt stick

bit messy and destructive but it works

.. Not sure how to post it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally, I like more than..

How are you

Or copy and paste messages.

I like a message that makes me laugh.

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