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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you look for in the first message? What makes you think...actually I'm gonna look at this profile...on the other side what puts you off in a first message?...I've had some amazing ones and some less so fantastic ones and it got me thinking...dangerous I know...what are your views?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I like it if they show they have read my profile ,maybe refer to something in it.A little humour is good too in a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that women are far lazier than guys when it comes to messaging. I know the numbers are stacked in womens favour on these sites, but still. A "Hi" and fanny pic really isn't making a great first impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at all profiles anyway, i know how hard it is for guys to send a decent first message.

Only if it's something that puts me off them do i block and not look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get no hi and fanny pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it if they show they have read my profile ,maybe refer to something in it.A little humour is good too in a message."

This

And I (Dan) hate guys who message as if they are just talking to Kim,,,I'm not invisible and our profile states we arnt looking for single guys so why do they bother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are like gods here, doesn't matter what you write really, 99% of the time it wont replied to even tho its a thoughtful msg about their profile lol

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By *iggy1Woman
over a year ago

DORCHESTER

Humour gets my attention every time, as the saying goes... If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything or something to that effect

Things that put me off, lazy grumpy negative men who ask in the first message if I will meet them in an hour so they can get their end away...pretty sure I'm not a escort giving freebies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find that women are far lazier than guys when it comes to messaging. I know the numbers are stacked in womens favour on these sites, but still. A "Hi" and fanny pic really isn't making a great first impression. "

I've experienced this too

..now I'm not shy and will happily contact someone else but prefer to read n see if I'm what they are looking for first...but when I message with a well thought out message and my reply is...so u fancy a fuck then?? I get frustrated...I messaged you so I'm obviously interested in getting to know them but why cut our all the formalities lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women are like gods here, doesn't matter what you write really, 99% of the time it wont replied to even tho its a thoughtful msg about their profile lol "

As a single fem I've found its couples who are less inclined to reply

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I always reply ,it's just polite .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it if they show they have read my profile ,maybe refer to something in it.A little humour is good too in a message.

This

And I (Dan) hate guys who message as if they are just talking to Kim,,,I'm not invisible and our profile states we arnt looking for single guys so why do they bother?"

Just block them from messaging, will give you one less thong to moan about.And save you time deleting them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always reply ,it's just polite . "

I do too but not always possible straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are like gods here, doesn't matter what you write really, 99% of the time it wont replied to even tho its a thoughtful msg about their profile lol "

This is total rubbish !

Ive had lots of meets and i find ladies on here very welcoming !

Couples im afraid are a different kettle of fish . So i dont bother with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is a certain truth to shags post unfortunately some ladies (and couples) find themselves very popular on here so go for the why should I reply if I don't want you ..I get it when there's lots to reply to but I've found it stops repeat contact as they then know where they stand...most will then block to make sure they don't try again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are like gods here, doesn't matter what you write really, 99% of the time it wont replied to even tho its a thoughtful msg about their profile lol

This is total rubbish !

Ive had lots of meets and i find ladies on here very welcoming !

Couples im afraid are a different kettle of fish . So i dont bother with them"
Yes depends on demographics and how far your willing to travel, seen some go as far as 200miles. My area is not very active lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a certain truth to shags post unfortunately some ladies (and couples) find themselves very popular on here so go for the why should I reply if I don't want you ..I get it when there's lots to reply to but I've found it stops repeat contact as they then know where they stand...most will then block to make sure they don't try again lol "
YEs thanks, its like a mixture with couples and singles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've even gone abroad for a meet lol ...well met while I was away lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a certain truth to shags post unfortunately some ladies (and couples) find themselves very popular on here so go for the why should I reply if I don't want you ..I get it when there's lots to reply to but I've found it stops repeat contact as they then know where they stand...most will then block to make sure they don't try again lol "

I get a few, "hi remember me? we chatted last week", when all i was doing was rejecting them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a certain truth to shags post unfortunately some ladies (and couples) find themselves very popular on here so go for the why should I reply if I don't want you ..I get it when there's lots to reply to but I've found it stops repeat contact as they then know where they stand...most will then block to make sure they don't try again lol

I get a few, "hi remember me? we chatted last week", when all i was doing was rejecting them. "

Lol I get the "is that u on another site" all the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always respond to messages that give me something to respond to. An actual conversation starter that is meaningful and relevant.

If they are humorous it shows they have read my profile and understand what I'm about.

I have to roll my eyes at the 'hi, how are you messages?'. I know it's a start, but it gives me very little to work on. The response being 'Good ta, you?' And their's then being 'Yeah thanks, what you been up to?'

I'd rather have a wank than have to endure the tediousness of that script. If they can't capture my attention in the first message they certainly won't be able to do it several messages down the line or in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've even gone abroad for a meet lol ...well met while I was away lol "

I met a lady in Majorca last september !

Had a good laugh too

I put on my status that i was going to magaluf for adults weekend and i got a cpl of people saying us too and i ended up meeting her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always respond to messages that give me something to respond to. An actual conversation starter that is meaningful and relevant.

If they are humorous it shows they have read my profile and understand what I'm about.

I have to roll my eyes at the 'hi, how are you messages?'. I know it's a start, but it gives me very little to work on. The response being 'Good ta, you?' And their's then being 'Yeah thanks, what you been up to?'

I'd rather have a wank than have to endure the tediousness of that script. If they can't capture my attention in the first message they certainly won't be able to do it several messages down the line or in person. "

Had a few hundred of those ones lol...even the ones who look like their profile shows they have humour then bland messages...it's depressing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've written something quirky and relevant to my profile in the message title box then I'll read without looking at their profile.

My profile purposely says a minimum of 7 words in your message (I'm being facetious) so a 'hi how's you' is a refusal.

When I'm addressed as hun or babe its a instant no thanks..trivial I know but hey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they've written something quirky and relevant to my profile in the message title box then I'll read without looking at their profile.

My profile purposely says a minimum of 7 words in your message (I'm being facetious) so a 'hi how's you' is a refusal.

When I'm addressed as hun or babe its a instant no thanks..trivial I know but hey.

"

Makes sense if they don't read profile they may well miss out on that kind of thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send us a first message and we will let you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooh cheeky ...I like it lol...incoming!!!!!!@

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they've written something quirky and relevant to my profile in the message title box then I'll read without looking at their profile.

My profile purposely says a minimum of 7 words in your message (I'm being facetious)

Makes sense if they don't read profile they may well miss out on that kind of thing... "

Ahh the elusive messager with sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they've written something quirky and relevant to my profile in the message title box then I'll read without looking at their profile.

My profile purposely says a minimum of 7 words in your message (I'm being facetious)

Makes sense if they don't read profile they may well miss out on that kind of thing...

Ahh the elusive messager with sense"

Those who have met me would probably disagree I have sense...I usually start the naughty trouble lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it if they show they have read my profile ,maybe refer to something in it.A little humour is good too in a message."

Yes, this gets me too, and a little humour goes a very long way for me.


"I find that women are far lazier than guys when it comes to messaging. I know the numbers are stacked in womens favour on these sites, but still. A "Hi" and fanny pic really isn't making a great first impression. "

Feel free to look at my profile and tell me if it makes sense, and if so then why single men still try their luck . That said I almost always reply to every message, even if it's just a "Thanks for the message but we're not looking for the same things" etc.


"Women are like gods here, doesn't matter what you write really, 99% of the time it wont replied to even tho its a thoughtful msg about their profile lol "

Ah, but a thoughtful message would not be "hi love, fancy a fuck tonight?" when my profile says I'm in Madrid :P

For me... it's about showing me you're capable of more than just thinking with your genitals. Show me that I can actually have an intelligent conversation with you and I'll be happy. Besides, I always look at the sender's profile; I'm nosey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have the conversational skills of a spoon then it never really gets past a first message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you have the conversational skills of a spoon then it never really gets past a first message "

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