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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers. "

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case anyone wants a quick sneaky under the table grope

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree, perhaps not as harshly as to say 'man up' but it does seem like they miss opportunities to get verified and ti check out the clubs without paying through the nose to get in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man afraid of going to pub...?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case anyone wants a quick sneaky under the table grope

You kept that quiet when I was sat next to you

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

because it means they actually have to talk to people, as opposed to just getting naked!!!

some people seem to think "social" is some sort of codeword for orgy... but when they find out social means exactly that... a lot back out

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"because it means they actually have to talk to people, as opposed to just getting naked!!!

some people seem to think "social" is some sort of codeword for orgy... but when they find out social means exactly that... a lot back out"

This is very true but the people who turn up are clearly prepared to make the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case anyone wants a quick sneaky under the table grope

I go commando too. Just a skirt, heels & hold ups

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case anyone wants a quick sneaky under the table grope

I go commando too. Just a skirt, heels & hold ups

No top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case anyone wants a quick sneaky under the table grope

I go commando too. Just a skirt, heels & hold ups

No top

Depends how cold it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love meeting couples for a social as its all about putting the effort in .

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Yes that's the problem, because as you know, I'm always naked!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case

anyone wants a quick sneaky under the

table grope

You kept that quiet when I was sat next to you

You kept your hands firmly above the table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to various organised socials but not been verified once from them. Doesn't always work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Yes that's the problem, because as you know, I'm always naked!

I don't think I'd recognise you dressed

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case

anyone wants a quick sneaky under the

table grope

You kept that quiet when I was sat next to you

You kept your hands firmly above the table.

They were stunt hands Steve for health and safety reasons

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Although I go commando in case anyone wants a quick sneaky under the table grope

I go commando too. Just a skirt, heels & hold ups

No top

Depends how cold it is

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Yes that's the problem, because as you know, I'm always naked!

I don't think I'd recognise you dressed

I need to get myself some of these clothes and get down to one of these events

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?"

Because they Are married and don't want to get caught cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Fully clothed? No wonder they don't want to go

Yes that's the problem, because as you know, I'm always naked!

I don't think I'd recognise you dressed

I need to get myself some of these clothes and get down to one of these events

Sod the clothes, sod the socials, just get that sexy arse to mine

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?

Because they Are married and don't want to get caught cheating "

Unlikely to get caught doing anything other than chatting at the socials we've been to.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?"

They are married and worry that someone who knows the wife will see them!

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

There can be many reasons for this, I for example would love to attend a social, but as I do not have my own transport and have to rely on public transport its a pain in the arse. At present where I am living the last buses are at 5pm, there is no train station nearby so would cost me a fortune to attend, I am not ruling it out in the future, but for now it is not practical for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?"

I really don't think they are scared at all .

For most of them it's because it is exactly what it says it is - a social .

Like us , they get a free evening and want to use it productively . ' A social is productive ' , I hear you say . networking , getting verified , etc....

Now don't get me wrong , I know most of you are as much into the social side as the playing . Infact some find it the primary reason to be here . The chat , the banter , the forums and the socials .

But for a huge % of fab users ( primarily the 98% that wouldn't dream of using the forums , go figure ) they are looking to spend free time enjoying sexual encounters , not attending a social .

We personally have attended socials in the past , and would rather have needles poked in our eyes ,or have our fingernails pulled out than ever attend one again . But regular posters already know that !

It's all about the sex for us and so many guys on fab , no matter how much you may like to deny it , it's a fact .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So when they say they're too scared they mean they don't want to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few "Socials" are at clubs though - so you get the stigma of

1. attending a club

2. the cost for a single guy to attend a club

3. most clubs even on "social" nights have the facilities available.

So whilst many may want to play - they may not want to play in that environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So when they say they're too scared they mean they don't want to? "

Yes

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Quite a few "Socials" are at clubs though - so you get the stigma of

1. attending a club

2. the cost for a single guy to attend a club

3. most clubs even on "social" nights have the facilities available.

So whilst many may want to play - they may not want to play in that environment."

All socials in South Wales are held in pubs and vanilla clubs, not swinging clubs.

Costs are minimal, maybe 2 quid per person entry, plus a few quid for drinks (how much depends on what you drink, and how many lol!).

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?

I really don't think they are scared at all .

For most of them it's because it is exactly what it says it is - a social .

Like us , they get a free evening and want to use it productively . ' A social is productive ' , I hear you say . networking , getting verified , etc....

Now don't get me wrong , I know most of you are as much into the social side as the playing . Infact some find it the primary reason to be here . The chat , the banter , the forums and the socials .

But for a huge % of fab users ( primarily the 98% that wouldn't dream of using the forums , go figure ) they are looking to spend free time enjoying sexual encounters , not attending a social .

It's all about the sex for us and so many guys on fab , no matter how much you may like to deny it , it's a fact .

Going to a social doesn't preclude you from having fun.

We book a room, go to the social, meet old and new friends, and then drag some of them back to our room later and shag them lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite a few "Socials" are at clubs though - so you get the stigma of

1. attending a club

2. the cost for a single guy to attend a club

3. most clubs even on "social" nights have the facilities available.

So whilst many may want to play - they may not want to play in that environment.

All socials in South Wales are held in pubs and vanilla clubs, not swinging clubs.

Costs are minimal, maybe 2 quid per person entry, plus a few quid for drinks (how much depends on what you drink, and how many lol!).

A few "Munches", etc are here - mainly because of the lack of clubs.

However the more well know ones aren't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So when they say they're too scared they mean they don't want to?

Yes

Dammit

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"So when they say they're too scared they mean they don't want to? "

No, it means they don't want wifey finding out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

You are such a tart!! I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of advice given to struggling single guys includes the phrase ' go to a social'

Why are single guys so worried about attending these events? Several guys I have chatted with said they were too scared to go.

Any suggestions?

I really don't think they are scared at all .

For most of them it's because it is exactly what it says it is - a social .

Like us , they get a free evening and want to use it productively . ' A social is productive ' , I hear you say . networking , getting verified , etc....

Now don't get me wrong , I know most of you are as much into the social side as the playing . Infact some find it the primary reason to be here . The chat , the banter , the forums and the socials .

But for a huge % of fab users ( primarily the 98% that wouldn't dream of using the forums , go figure ) they are looking to spend free time enjoying sexual encounters , not attending a social .

It's all about the sex for us and so many guys on fab , no matter how much you may like to deny it , it's a fact .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

You are such a tart!! I love it

We'd been chatting for weeks!

anyway, if people want sex with me all well and good, if they just want to chat, that's good too at a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials at clubs that I've checked out are still too costly for me when you factor in travel costs etc. If there is one put up close to me that was a true social event like a pub meet or something I'd gladly attend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

You are such a tart!! I love it

We'd been chatting for weeks!

anyway, if people want sex with me all well and good, if they just want to chat, that's good too at a social

Don't take me seriously on here! I hope you enjoyed it. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the problems for me are

firstly it seems most of the neutral places for social meets are bars, and i'm a non drinker.

secondly even if i did turn up to one i don't know anyone there and i'm terrible at striking up conversation with strangers and as a result likely come off as creepy (i'm not honest)

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

You are such a tart!! I love it

We'd been chatting for weeks!

anyway, if people want sex with me all

well and good, if they just want to chat,

that's good too at a social

Don't take me seriously on here! I hope

you enjoyed it. Xxx"

I'm more gooseberry tart than anything

and yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some just don't want to go to socials everyone is here for different things and not everyone wants to go to socials, clubs etc

If they just want to meet off here and have a private social with their meet or maybe just meet for sex that's their choice they just have to understand things will go slower for them

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

Of course I know you are the very epitome of decorum and modesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe some just don't want to go to socials everyone is here for different things and not everyone wants to go to socials, clubs etc

If they just want to meet off here and have a private social with their meet or maybe just meet for sex that's their choice they just have to understand things will go slower for them "

That's exactly how it is. I don't understand why others dont get that clubs aren't for everyone, and I for one am perfectly happy taking my chances elsewhere.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I had sex with a couple then went to a social with them

Strictly hands above table jobbie, nicecouple!

Of course I know you are the very epitome of decorum and modesty

Yes, I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe some just don't want to go to socials everyone is here for different things and not everyone wants to go to socials, clubs etc

If they just want to meet off here and have a private social with their meet or maybe just meet for sex that's their choice they just have to understand things will go slower for them

That's exactly how it is. I don't understand why others dont get that clubs aren't for everyone, and I for one am perfectly happy taking my chances elsewhere."

Makes sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe some just don't want to go to socials everyone is here for different things and not everyone wants to go to socials, clubs etc

If they just want to meet off here and have a private social with their meet or maybe just meet for sex that's their choice they just have to understand things will go slower for them

That's exactly how it is. I don't understand why others dont get that clubs aren't for everyone, and I for one am perfectly happy taking my chances elsewhere.

Makes sense to me."

And me

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"the problems for me are

firstly it seems most of the neutral places for social meets are bars, and i'm a non drinker.

secondly even if i did turn up to one i don't know anyone there and i'm terrible at striking up conversation with strangers and as a result likely come off as creepy (i'm not honest)"

People will assume you need telling to man up now....I see you as being like a lot of people, are nervous of going somewhere new where you don't know anyone.

Nothing to feel bad about or sneered at.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP....socials are not for everyone. Maybe the men who are looking for meets with the intention of having sex don't want to do socials anyway and thats the reason they give.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To the OP....socials are not for everyone. Maybe the men who are looking for meets with the intention of having sex don't want to do socials anyway and thats the reason they give."

I appreciate that. I am not trying to criticise or impose my views. It is something I have often found strange. As a single woman, meeting in a club at a social feels safe and neutral to me.

Each to his own and thanks to all contributors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, perhaps not as harshly as to say 'man up' but it does seem like they miss opportunities to get verified and ti check out the clubs without paying through the nose to get in."

It's ok ppl saying get yourself to a social I was looking through them today & there were two lists on one of them cpl's & single ladies & then single guys ..

Yes you have to have a good mix of ppl but it just felt like ok guys we might let a few of you in to make the numbers up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the OP....socials are not for everyone. Maybe the men who are looking for meets with the intention of having sex don't want to do socials anyway and thats the reason they give.

I appreciate that. I am not trying to criticise or impose my views. It is something I have often found strange. As a single woman, meeting in a club at a social feels safe and neutral to me.

Each to his own and thanks to all contributors."

But as a single woman you will be right at the top of the list to attend as cpl want to meet ppl like you..

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I am not worried about these social events, they are just to expensive and not for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a Brighton social last year, for me personally I found it hard making the first move to chat to someone new due to not knowing anyone and not knowing who is with who.

I know this is the purpose is socials is to meet new people, I would give them a try.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went to a Brighton social last year, for me personally I found it hard making the first move to chat to someone new due to not knowing anyone and not knowing who is with who.

I know this is the purpose is socials is to meet new people, I would give them a try."
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Making that first move is hard for everyone,I don't find it so easy myself.

I accept that being in a club is not everyone's idea of a good night out too.

Someone commented earlier about their being a stigma attached to going to a club and that surprised me. How is it different to meeting for sex elsewhere?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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" How is it different to meeting for sex elsewhere?"

No one would know you were meeting for sex ? Walking into a sex club people would assume you are going in there to hopefully have sex?

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I never did socials, always intended to play on the first meet, otherwise, too much potential to become something other than nsa, that is just me as I am friendly and get on with people. Now I am more of a socialite, but I think the prices for clubs are a lot for single guys, like the idea of fab members organising socials, much less stress and going to try my first one in a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers. "

Exactly. I don't go to pubs. Drinking culture doesn't interest me. So I'm stuffed.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think we need to seperate two things here because the excuse seems to have blurred the lines...

there are socials then are held in vanilla enviroments..non-play events

and there are socials that are held in clubs....

the social in clubs are actually the much less common of the two, so the whole paying more as a single guy is a red herring...

I have been to countless socials up and down the country... never been to one in a club as i think as has been exampled here more than one i think leads to much different expectations of what may happen...

like someone said... south wales.. all held in non play enviroments...

scotland... all held in non play enviroments

northern england.... newcastle, york, sheffield, bradford, wakefield..... all held in non play enviroments.....

if you want to expand the conversation... i think the non-play socials... and the socials in clubs (which i have views about which is another conversation) should be in completly different sections.. so people have a better idea of what they are signing up for....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, say 'man up, wimpo' to them.

Socials are just that - a pub where people are chatting, fully clothed. No big deal and good to meet fellow swingers.

Exactly. I don't go to pubs. Drinking culture doesn't interest me. So I'm stuffed."

From our past experiences of socials in a neutral environment , usually a pub , we are in the same boat . I don't drink at all , and I can assure you that the drinking culture explodes at a social . Whether it's the nerves or whatever , the drink flows and the conversation and behaviour is not what a teetotal enjoys at all . Especially when all you are really looking for is fun

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think that says as much about the mindset of people going in...

I am not a drinker at socials normally for the reason i am driving there and driving back... but then i don't drink alcohol in clubs when i am at them anyway....

I think the key to it is whether you are taking the social as a tool to get to know people.... or whether you are using the social to get to play later...

i take it as a good night out... nothing more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think that says as much about the mindset of people going in...

I am not a drinker at socials normally for the reason i am driving there and driving back... but then i don't drink alcohol in clubs when i am at them anyway....

I think the key to it is whether you are taking the social as a tool to get to know people.... or whether you are using the social to get to play later...

i take it as a good night out... nothing more...."

I see your point , but as we said earlier in the thread , we no longer waste a night out with a social .

We can have a good night out with a nice meal with vanilla friends , or go to the cinema and enjoy a good movie .

There is no disrespect meant to those who do enjoy a nice social , but it's not for us , and clearly not for a lot of single guys either .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doubt I'll eventually HAVE to attend a social & hope someone will find what I say funny & entertaining enough to verify me!!!!

But as ppl who enjoy meeting others for sexual encounters when did we get so hung up on VERIFICATIONS?

It's probably one of the reasons I love Dogging so much!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No doubt I'll eventually HAVE to attend a social & hope someone will find what I say funny & entertaining enough to verify me!!!!

But as ppl who enjoy meeting others for sexual encounters when did we get so hung up on VERIFICATIONS?

It's probably one of the reasons I love Dogging so much!!!

Fab would be so much better if verifications didn't exist.

Or if all you could leave is the green tick -no text...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No doubt I'll eventually HAVE to attend a social & hope someone will find what I say funny & entertaining enough to verify me!!!!

But as ppl who enjoy meeting others for sexual encounters when did we get so hung up on VERIFICATIONS?

It's probably one of the reasons I love Dogging so much!!!

We love dogging too , but also love doing and receiving verifications

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If a man is too nervous to go to a pub and start talking to people who share a common interest and may be just as nervous as him, then stay at home and have a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're pussies, simple as that

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"No doubt I'll eventually HAVE to attend a social & hope someone will find what I say funny & entertaining enough to verify me!!!!

But as ppl who enjoy meeting others for sexual encounters when did we get so hung up on VERIFICATIONS?

It's probably one of the reasons I love Dogging so much!!!

nobody is forcing you to go to a social... it is there as an avenue to meet people if you decide that you want to...

so much negativity in your post like someone put a gun to your head!

for you to be poo-pooing something so loudly for something you have never been to is sad.... and if you take that much negativity into an event, then you are probably better off not going....

they are there for people to see the best side of you that you can be.... and in the meantime you can talk to nice people and have a good time in good company

if you are expecting anything more thats not really on a social, that more you being a bit more realistic about your expectations....

your post doesn't scream "i'm fun fun fun"

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

We organise a social we have around 40+ men message asking and if your lucky maybe 4 will actually turn up ....a quarter of them will stop messaging when they find out a social is a non play event ! Those that actually do turn up , have a great time , and tend to get invited to all sorts of things at a later date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been to various organised socials but not been verified once from them. Doesn't always work "

We as organisers, verify everyone who attends our socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, perhaps not as harshly as to say 'man up' but it does seem like they miss opportunities to get verified and ti check out the clubs without paying through the nose to get in."

But please remember that many, many of them are likely to be married guys playing away....so actually turning up for ANY kind of pre-arranged event will be slim.

Most of the moans are from wannabes and dreamers, often in the above category too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men just want to fuck. They don't want endless mindless chat. They aren't scared of socials, they just don't want to go.

Why is that so difficult to understand?

There's thousands of people outside the forums that are meeting and fucking and having a fantastic time. Without ever posting on the forum or going to a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men just want to fuck. They don't want endless mindless chat. They aren't scared of socials, they just don't want to go.

Why is that so difficult to understand?

There's thousands of people outside the forums that are meeting and fucking and having a fantastic time. Without ever posting on the forum or going to a social.

Well put , excellent point

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Some men just want to fuck. They don't want endless mindless chat. They aren't scared of socials, they just don't want to go.

Why is that so difficult to understand?

There's thousands of people outside the forums that are meeting and fucking and having a fantastic time. Without ever posting on the forum or going to a social.

and i also bet they aren't the ones that complain in thread after thread about their lot in life, and how things are soooooo much harder for them... and like to blame everything on other factorss.... they have the people that have found a way to make the site work for them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a social drink but more than 90% of the time I am driving so I stay off of the sauce. I have absolutely no problem being in a "drinking environment " and socialising. I have been to both pub and club socials. If anything there is probably less play at a club during a social than on a normal night.

Yes it can be oppressive walking cold into a pub social with a whole load of strangers but a good host or hostess will say hi and introduce you to others. I have been to one or two crappy ones where that hasn't happened which were disastrous. Whatever happens say hi and introduce yourself to someone a fun atmosphere will attract more people like bees to honey. Make the situation work for you.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We organise a social we have around 40+ men message asking and if your lucky maybe 4 will actually turn up ....a quarter of them will stop messaging when they find out a social is a non play event ! Those that actually do turn up , have a great time , and tend to get invited to all sorts of things at a later date "

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think we need to seperate two things here because the excuse seems to have blurred the lines...

there are socials then are held in vanilla enviroments..non-play events

and there are socials that are held in clubs....

the social in clubs are actually the much less common of the two, so the whole paying more as a single guy is a red herring...

like someone said... south wales.. all held in non play enviroments...

scotland... all held in non play enviroments

northern england.... newcastle, york, sheffield, bradford, wakefield..... all held in non play enviroments.....

Yeah I agree. 2 very different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

I went to one of these and it was a disaster! Brightonsteve and _icecouple561 were there

No need to say more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attended my 1st mixed social on Friday night and was surprised at the lack of single males. Great opportunity missed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men just want to fuck. They don't want endless mindless chat. They aren't scared of socials, they just don't want to go.

Why is that so difficult to understand?

There's thousands of people outside the forums that are meeting and fucking and having a fantastic time. Without ever posting on the forum or going to a social.

Exactamundo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They're pussies, simple as that"

Charming

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

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and your missed at everyone since

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over a year ago

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

and your missed at everyone since

Can't beat your socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men just want to fuck. They don't want endless mindless chat. They aren't scared of socials, they just don't want to go.

Why is that so difficult to understand?

There's thousands of people outside the forums that are meeting and fucking and having a fantastic time. Without ever posting on the forum or going to a social.

True. But the moaning moodhoovers that you refer to would be no good at a social anyway. So it would be better not to encourage them to go.

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

and your missed at everyone since

Can't beat your socials

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well thank you , you should come to the next one (they are held in Brighton now)

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

and your

missed at everyone since

I wish I'd been to Saturday's one!!! A couple of people there I'd very much like to be social with. I didn't go cos UN LOS went to a Heathrow social. I need to hold his hand.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

I went to one of these and it was a disaster! Brightonsteve and _icecouple561 were there

No need to say more.

well you did insist on knitting that darn scarf under the table but we will own up to absolutely ruining the whole event

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've been to a couple of these socials and they were very good for making connections, having a chat and a laugh and being.....er....social. Really well organised too

I went to one of these and it was a disaster! Brightonsteve and _icecouple561 were there

No need to say more.

No. Please don't. Ever.

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