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Jealousy - do you suffer with it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.

I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We are very careful to consider everyone involved in our meets to try and makes sure it doesn't happen. It certainly never has between us because we know each other so well and always consider each other's feelings.

However having been 'in the scene' for a little while now we have seen jealousy plenty of times and experienced it with other couples.

Humans and sex is going to involve jealousy somewhere along the line unfortunately.

You'd think being swingers it wouldn't happen lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't get jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't get jealous. My partners can do whatever they want and I'm happy for them as long as they're having a good time.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Yep, the green eyed monster takes over my soul regularly. I try not to let it creep out of my mouth though!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, quite the opposite ... I love seeing people work hard in life and achieve... they inspire me.

and I like to read about people who have achieved a great swinging experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, quite the opposite ... I love seeing people work hard in life and achieve... they inspire me.

and I like to read about people who have achieved a great swinging experience"

completely agree.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

I'm not a jealous person. You want me or you don't. Simples! I find jealous people very needy. I don't like that.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"No, quite the opposite ... I love seeing people work hard in life and achieve... they inspire me.

and I like to read about people who have achieved a great swinging experience"

We all have our own paths to personal success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I would get jealous here but I do get the odd pang of jealousy over my fb as she's a lapdancer so I know there are guys offering her all the time. But I just remember I'm the guy she picked to fuck so I just and carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can... but its rarely over things you would expect.

I often wonder if its jealousy at all..and when I do suffer with it, there is normally something negative that has happened along with it..

I think the most jealous I got actually resulted in one of our hottest 3 sums ever... So its not always a bad thing.. I felt jealous as hell.. yet it was amazing..

I sometimes think I get envious rather than jealous..I can and do blame it on the fact I actually have green eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not over meets as they mean nothing to me. But I would be extremely jealous if anything happened involving Sir.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealous, no, not at all.

My Fab Friends are people who I really like. I want them to have fun, enjoy themselves and take opportunities when they come around.

I wish my Fab Friends could meet more people and give me more ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Jealousy is very destructive,the effects of it in swinging are cringe worthy to witness

I have a good time,I want my friends to have a good time too

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I used to be very jealous in my relationship but now I really dont have one so jealously doesn't arise.

However if I cared for someone I would not be prepared to share.. jealousy would kill me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate it! So destructive and i cut all contact and often wipe my cock on the curtains as i leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on here at all but sometimes in real life with someone, then i remember people aren't possessions and i can't treat them like that.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

As previous poster said jealousy and sex it's inevitable in some shape or form....seen plenty jealous couples behaviour when I was on here before as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I used to be very jealous in my relationship but now I really dont have one so jealously doesn't arise.

However if I cared for someone I would not be prepared to share.. jealousy would kill me . "

Cinnamon you gorgeous chick.....I'm jealous of your chicken bag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't get jealous if poly is discussed beforehand openly and each person is ok with it then I just go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is.

If the person I'm seeing prefers it to remain one on one then I respect their wishes on that.

As long as everyone's happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... jealousy gets me often but I don't verbalise it.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone apparently

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Jealousy is very destructive,the effects of it in swinging are cringe worthy to witness

I have a good time,I want my friends to have a good time too "

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I don't and nor does my wife. The only time either of us has been jealous is when there is a feeling of insecurity. So we talk about why. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. D can do what (or whom) tickles her, wee and perfectly formed, fancy.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No - but it would appear quite a few on here do and many will not admit it......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit that after a meet I get the... Im not good enough for repeats... Nothing can be done some people just have that flare of jealousy seep through when they connect with someone sexually... It is hard to have a swinging (game face) at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes... jealousy gets me often but I don't verbalise it.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone apparently "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a difference between jealousy, and reaction. Not every reaction is due to jealousy. Although it's an easy card to pull.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.

I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom. "

I get sort of winsome and 'what if....?' when I see people post threads about fun times in adult clubs and such as it's something I've never done and probably unlikely to do (their location being so far and my free time so limited) but as for sex....not in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think there's a difference between jealousy, and reaction. Not every reaction is due to jealousy. Although it's an easy card to pull."

Actually , that's a very good point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.

I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom.

I get sort of winsome and 'what if....?' when I see people post threads about fun times in adult clubs and such as it's something I've never done and probably unlikely to do (their location being so far and my free time so limited) but as for sex....not in the slightest. "

You'll get to a club one day! There's plenty of life left in your cock yet !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do you get jealous ? Here, I'm often surprised by jealousy as theoretically I wouldn't expect anyone to get jealous - to me swinging is about sharing. I realise though that, that comes with full honesty too.

I don't get jealous here, so it's a concept I find hard to fathom.

I get sort of winsome and 'what if....?'

when I see people post threads about

fun times in adult clubs and such as it's

something I've never done and

probably unlikely to do (their location

being so far and my free time so

limited) but as for sex....not in the

slightest.

You'll get to a club one day! There's plenty of life left in your cock yet ! 8-

)"

Is there? Why do I keep getting messages that say "hey droopy! Wanna buy some mega-hyper-ultra hard stiffening tablet cream?" then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had husbands get jealous of my strap on - not sure that counts though

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get jealous ? "

No.

And in real life that's my main downfall in relationships (real life).

Girlfriends in the past have equated that to me not giving a fuck.

Thing is.

My parents have been married nearly 30 years. They met as kids.

My dad gets a ridiculous amount of attention and the way they handle it has rubbed off on me.

Jealousy is just not even in my head and my most recent ex was an outrageous flirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but only when I fall to hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope - I might spare a thought a times about who might be doing what to whom but that just puts a smile on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No jealousy. In fact the opposite. I'm turned on to watch my man fuck others, especially if they mean loudly and are clearly loving it!

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

On here no jealousy... Away from here a little.... Isn't jealousy a strange way of showing you care? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy depends on circumstances I think, I was with a guy I swear tried to play me with it, with scottie I love him getting attention.... We all have it in us but it does depend on the person involved ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here no jealousy... Away from here a little.... Isn't jealousy a strange way of showing you care? X"

It depends how you _iew life.

I don't think that being jealous means I care about someone. It's more caring, to me, to enjoy my partners enjoying life rather than being envious that they've got something I haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do whenever Ginger has a solo meet but I man up as I introduced her into this lifestyle and I don't own her. She does what she wants to and I take pleasure in the fact that she always comes home and with a smile on her face.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Yes, I have done on here. It is how I know I am not a proper swinger.

I have been on the receiving end quite a bit on here as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that."

It's inevitable that some (mainly women) get jealous. I always keep an open mind regards meets etc.

I'm in this for fun and we've had many a good meet, but I also bear in mind people could have hidden agendas and are not in it only for the fun, so my wits are always well and truly kept about me - as per

S x

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I have never really understood jealousy. It goes back to my mother getting jealous and angry when my dad received a Christmas card from an ex. I just couldn't see her point of _iew and still don't.

So o don't get jealous whan my wife or anyone else important to me is having fun. I feel good that they are having a great time.

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

If we did, we would stop swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often yes but I like challenging my thoughts.

It is not the end of the world if I FEEL jealous.

Doesn't mean it's rational.

I'm not made of wood.

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By *arty LoversCouple
over a year ago

kent

I often think, what if he falls in love with the woman he is kissing. It's like a torturous feeling that turns me on to see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often think, what if he falls in love with the woman he is kissing. It's like a torturous feeling that turns me on to see. "

Yep , I get that. I guess that, in that situation, it can be used to your advantage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no,not the jealous type

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Nope... Haven't got that attached to anyone to be jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, the green eyed monster takes over my soul regularly. I try not to let it creep out of my mouth though!"

I'm with you. I get incredibly jealous. Stupid, as I know our marriage is secure, and this is all about fun and a bit of spice.

But.... Still there occasionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I sometimes feel jealous? Hell yes.

Do I let those feelings affect my behaviour towards anyone else on here? No, because that's completely unfair.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

When we started out going to Swingers Clubs we were both really nervous, excited and didn't know how we would feel seeing each other with someone else. When a guy played with Beth the first time we both talked about it afterwards and we were ok with it, for us it was more a concern that we were both ok with what was happening rather than jealousy. Now we know the kind of people we like and are much more relaxed and happy to go with the flow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that."

The problem with that is that you don't know what is said and discussed behind closed doors.. So to some what may seem to look like jealousy, could in fact be a reaction to something that has previously been spoken about/lied about or whatever. Nothing is ever black and white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no place in swinging for jealousy. Nor competitive behaviour, which I have also witnessed in the chatrooms. Mainly women I have to say. It's actually vile to watch if honest, and can get quite nasty! I tend to steer clear of folk like that.

The problem with that is that you don't know what is said and discussed behind closed doors.. So to some what may seem to look like jealousy, could in fact be a reaction to something that has previously been spoken about/lied about or whatever. Nothing is ever black and white. "

very true, so always best to keep an open mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been known to get jealous when my partner has had some fun in a club whilst ive been away, but after talking and being in their arms we have had the best sex ever and now have decided as long as we are honest and talk then we can have lots of fun without the jealousy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'm jealous when my fb takes someone else to a club and I can't get a lift

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Doesn't affect us at all, after all it's just sex, not love. At first we wondered if the sight of the other one fucking someone else would be too much, but we both agreed after the first time that it was exciting rather than anything else. We didn't have any problems with separate room swaps or sleeping swapped either.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I'm a bit odd, swinging wise, no I don't suffer from the green eyed monster.

However in everyday life occasionally it will poke it's ugly head up and usually for the most silly things.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I wouldn't get jealous on here with previous meets etc. In a relationship I probably would though. I wouldn't make a good swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is self destructive and a weekness to be exploited by those with insincere intentions

Get over yourself

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope, don't get jealous. Winsome perhaps and sometimes mildly envious when it comes to nice cars but other than that and relating to sex - no.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

envious but never jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't get jealous

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Actually, I can get a little jealous at times. But only when I've seen him really make a woman scream in pleasure, I'm just sat there watching and I'm wishing it was me instead!

If he does he hides it well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope no way not in the slightest do I get jealous.

I don't like that at Dogging meets the girls like to have all the men to themselves so you have to move on. I'd share, And 2 of my fuck buddies have "bi Swinging wife's" the gilrs wont play with me as I'm seem as a threat. Its just sex!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always someone better with more than you

Appreciate your assets be they physical or financial

Enjoy yourself and be free to enjoy others

Jealousy is a cancer

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"There is always someone better with more than you

Appreciate your assets be they physical or financial

Enjoy yourself and be free to enjoy others

Jealousy is a cancer

"

make the most of what you have got, and not worry about what others might or might not be getting

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"No I don't get jealous"

Me neither

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By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro

male half here - when another guy has some wonderful technique producing great effects and you don't know what it is - but the "jealosy pang" has receded as you find most folk forthcoming and happy to share ideas with someone who is genuinely interested

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm jealous of the other halves of Nicecouple561, purehoneypot, and Scarlet Seduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is a primordial human instinct, originally essential to the continuation of the species.

It's human nature to guard what we consider ours.

Ill-advised for swingers, though, I suppose....

Xxx

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Jealousy is a primordial human instinct, originally essential to the continuation of the species.

It's human nature to guard what we consider ours.

Ill-advised for swingers, though, I suppose....

Xxx"

So do you suffer from it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm jealous of the other halves of Nicecouple561, purehoneypot, and Scarlet Seduction "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm jealous of the other halves of Nicecouple561, purehoneypot, and Scarlet Seduction "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealousy is a primordial human instinct, originally essential to the continuation of the species.

It's human nature to guard what we consider ours.

Ill-advised for swingers, though, I suppose....

Xxx

So do you suffer from it then?"

Of course. It just has to be mastered like everything else.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealous, no, not at all.

My Fab Friends are people who I really like. I want them to have fun, enjoy themselves and take opportunities when they come around.

I wish my Fab Friends could meet more people and give me more ideas "

My thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get jealous of Mrs all the time.

She always cums 4/5 times to my once lol

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I get envious sometimes but not jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is always someone better with more than you

...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealous, no, not at all.

My Fab Friends are people who I really like. I want them to have fun, enjoy themselves and take opportunities when they come around.

I wish my Fab Friends could meet more people and give me more ideas

My thoughts exactly "

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