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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here we go, i think this topic has been covered elsewhere, but cant find it,

Just been lucky enough to be invited to a gangbang, at a travelodge type hotel, exchanged a couple of messages, then mobile number was sent, with a message, will text you at %o'clock with room number, but within an hour of that last message, a text came through saying, guys supply your own condoms, NO worries there as i always do, but we were expected to split the cost of the room between us, now what happens if only a couple of us turn up, are we gonna get a bigger share to pay, or are the couple who arranged it expected to pay?

After all they have arranged the meet, and advertised it as well, are we as single guys expected to pay, is that nearly prostitution, or are we all that desperate for sex, we will apy for it..

Rant over, lets see what others think.

I for one will not be attending, because i will not pay for a meet.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Here we go, i think this topic has been covered elsewhere, but cant find it,

Just been lucky enough to be invited to a gangbang, at a travelodge type hotel, exchanged a couple of messages, then mobile number was sent, with a message, will text you at %o'clock with room number, but within an hour of that last message, a text came through saying, guys supply your own condoms, NO worries there as i always do, but we were expected to split the cost of the room between us, now what happens if only a couple of us turn up, are we gonna get a bigger share to pay, or are the couple who arranged it expected to pay?

After all they have arranged the meet, and advertised it as well, are we as single guys expected to pay, is that nearly prostitution, or are we all that desperate for sex, we will apy for it..

Rant over, lets see what others think.

I for one will not be attending, because i will not pay for a meet."
can i ask if you pay towards the cost of a hotel meet 1-1?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know .... I had an invite to join a hotel meet and if I got it I guess hundreds of other N.W Women got it too. Anyone going would be the entertainment for the boys ......so consider yourself lucky that you were only being used for your money.

It's easy to conclude that some of what goes on on here is less to do with swinging and just more to do with porn and other sex activities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't personally agree with paying for sex on a swinging site, but it's your choice at the end of the day.

I wouldn't do it myself, but only you can make that decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ya really wanna go then go

If not then dont

Plenty more places around lol

If they wanna charge for the room then let em get on with it xx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

i agree with jack n kate....and soapys last bit xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for all the messages so quickly, and i guessing the opion is don't pay, don't go. have messaged the couple concerned and said i won't be going because i don't believe in paying for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i agree with jack n kate....and soapys last bit xx"

i agree as well...

to pay or not pay...

me not paying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been to a few of these and in my opinion sharing the cost of the hotel is normal and reasonable.

As long as that is all you are paying and not an extortionate amount.

And like others have asked if you where meeting 121 would you expect to pay !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"been to a few of these and in my opinion sharing the cost of the hotel is normal and reasonable.

As long as that is all you are paying and not an extortionate amount.

And like others have asked if you where meeting 121 would you expect to pay !!!

"

yes i would if i had arranged the meet, and booked the hotel room.

But hey, there are always other options open.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'd ask how much they think the share cost will be... if it's a travel lodge they may have only paid £12 for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone is not happy to split any costs they’re not worth meeting, just our opinion of course, would understand if it was one of these commercial events where they charge men x amount, but reading the op it sounds like everyone attending is just being asked to contribute to the room cost.

Still trying to figure out how paying for a hotel room or a share of it equates to prostitution though

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

it is a travelodge not the Landmark hotel london.How much is the cost going to be if its a £19 room for gods sake.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"If anyone is not happy to split any costs they’re not worth meeting, just our opinion of course, would understand if it was one of these commercial events where they charge men x amount, but reading the op it sounds like everyone attending is just being asked to contribute to the room cost.

Still trying to figure out how paying for a hotel room or a share of it equates to prostitution though "

Because if there are 10 guys there I bet the organiser doesn't ask them for £1.50 each.

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"If anyone is not happy to split any costs they’re not worth meeting, just our opinion of course, would understand if it was one of these commercial events where they charge men x amount, but reading the op it sounds like everyone attending is just being asked to contribute to the room cost.

Still trying to figure out how paying for a hotel room or a share of it equates to prostitution though "

AGREED!!! Having booked hotels several times, the expectation is that costs are shared. No brainer really for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said before, no one should expect to pay for sex... but a share of a £19 travelodge room isnt really being extorted is it?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If you're arranging a meet with people and in the discussion decide to meet at a hotel - yep all should take a share.

If you're replying to a profile which states they only do hotel meets and a room is booked as a result of argeeing to meet - yeah it's right you should pay your share.

If someone says "we have a room booked does anyone want to come" - fuck that! It was their choice.

Personally I think it's a fucking cheek to tell some poor sod he's got to cough up after they have been reeled in.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Sharing costs for a hotel room at a meet is hardly prostitution.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Sharing costs for a hotel room at a meet is hardly prostitution.

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It is if they make £20 per head (pardon the pun) out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you expect not to share the costs ? thats unreasonable IMO and why should the couple organise it not ask for a contribution to the room costs, as long as its fair and reasonable then I cant see the problem. Too many couples on here book rooms and get let down by timewasting idiots who should not be on a swingers site in the first place and as far as im concerned if you are worried about the small cost of a room I would worry about the quality of your condoms.

Masterq81

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Sharing costs for a hotel room at a meet is hardly prostitution.

It is if they make £20 per head (pardon the pun) out of it."

As far as I know thats not quite what the OP said...he was worried his share of the room would go up if not many men turned up, so it looks like it is just for the hotel room price.

Obviously charging for a gangbang that you are guaranteed sex is prostitution.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If someone posted “we have booked a room for a gangbang, the room cost is £45 and we will expect those who attend to pay an equal share”… fair enough.

If it's just a text basically telling guys to bring cash with no indication of what the final 'bill' could be.... hmmmmmmm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiousity though, how is everyone only paying £9 to £19 for a room, admittedly we've only used the travelodge a couple of times, both on saturday nights, but it was £69 wished it was only the £19 people are stating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for all the messages so quickly, and i guessing the opion is don't pay, don't go. have messaged the couple concerned and said i won't be going because i don't believe in paying for sex."
it,s ok to split the cost of a room but it takes the mic when they charge the guys £60 a head theres 10 guys there thats £600 theres no way the room cost that much.so it has to come down to makeing money from sex!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Out of curiousity though, how is everyone only paying £9 to £19 for a room, admittedly we've only used the travelodge a couple of times, both on saturday nights, but it was £69 wished it was only the £19 people are stating."

There are loads of really cheap deals about - people booking rooms in advance for £9.

But yes there is a big difference between £9 and £69... though it is still only £6.90 per person if 8 guys turn up.

But don't you think it's fair to tell the guy what the maximum he might be expected to pay is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiousity though, how is everyone only paying £9 to £19 for a room, admittedly we've only used the travelodge a couple of times, both on saturday nights, but it was £69 wished it was only the £19 people are stating.

There are loads of really cheap deals about - people booking rooms in advance for £9.

But yes there is a big difference between £9 and £69... though it is still only £6.90 per person if 8 guys turn up.

But don't you think it's fair to tell the guy what the maximum he might be expected to pay is?"

Yes we do, we also agree that events that charge £20 a head is way wrong, but thats not what the OP said, he asked if it was wrong to ask people to split the share of the hotel costs, and thinks doing so is bordering prostitution, now if they are/were charging men £20 a head then it probably would be but that wasn't what was said.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I suppose if it was just room expenses shared Polo that the couple won't know how many people are going to share it until the people turn up, or not as the case may be.

I think the couple should be in on the share too though.

To the poster who mentioned being charged £60 a head.....if it was on this site REPORT it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Out of curiousity though, how is everyone only paying £9 to £19 for a room, admittedly we've only used the travelodge a couple of times, both on saturday nights, but it was £69 wished it was only the £19 people are stating.

There are loads of really cheap deals about - people booking rooms in advance for £9.

But yes there is a big difference between £9 and £69... though it is still only £6.90 per person if 8 guys turn up.

But don't you think it's fair to tell the guy what the maximum he might be expected to pay is?

Yes we do, we also agree that events that charge £20 a head is way wrong, but thats not what the OP said, he asked if it was wrong to ask people to split the share of the hotel costs, and thinks doing so is bordering prostitution, now if they are/were charging men £20 a head then it probably would be but that wasn't what was said. "

* nods *

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the problem with what has been mentioned is that we don't know if said couple are making a profile from this or just covering the expense for the room...

okay.... say they got a £19 pound room, but they have 10 guys coming round for the gang bang....

the couple ask for a fiver each....

not a lot of money being asked for .... however couple are making a profile from it.....

so unless people start asking for receipts, it is always going to be a thorny issue........

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

According to the first post, the men were to share the cost of the room....and it seemed the case of just paying for the room as the man was worried if some didn't turn up that his cost of the share would go up. It doesn't sound like he was asked for a set amount.

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By *h_errotic_onesCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth, Pokesdown

We have a local hotel that rents out an apartment for X amount.

We invite a few couples and let them know it will cost x/n just to cover this cost. Its not run for a profit, even though the owner said we could, but we only in it for the fun.

If we did it in a hotel room and it was for our own pleasure (if you get my drift) then we would not comprehend on asking others for money.

H&S

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are single guys expected to pay for the pleasure???....Simple answer...NO!!!

Noone on this site is EXPECTED to do anything they dont want to do!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmmmmm

Firstly must admitt i didnt read all responses to the original posters question but did read a few.

Here are my thoughts for what its worth. . .

I really dont understand why you think you are 'paying for sex'!!!

You have been asked to conrtibute towards room costs, that seems fair enough to me. Perhaps the couple could of made it clearer in their ad but even then i dont think there is anything wrong with that.

Its not like they have then said 'Oh and another £30 each for a shag lol. You obviously have the choice, and have taken the choice of saying no thanks. I think your reasoning is a little off myself. To be honest, just knowing you were such a tight arse would put me off wanting to do you anyway lol.

Ah well, hope all the women offer you continued freebies. . . .its awful that fun has been equated to 'im not paying for it' lol

Happy fucking peeps xxxxx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

No the couple haven't said they want £20 per person or £30 per person or £60 per person... BUT they haven't said they won't be either and from what has been posted neither have they told the guy what the maximum would be or the cost of the room (and they do know the cost of the room). It's easy enough to say "we paid £30 for the room"... BUT they haven't.

Yes the couple don't know how many will in fact turn up and so can't say what the cost to individuals will be for definite...... BUT they could say what the maximum would be based on just this guy turning up.

Transparency is the key.

If you have nothing to hide, be upfront with people and lay the cards clearly on the table before they decide if they want to lay on the bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the Op could have simply asked how much the room was, divided that by the amount of people who were there and gave his contribution to the costs based on that, if he did not believe that the couple would be honest about the cost of the room then phone the hotel and ask how much a room costs, mountain out of a molehill in my opinion and making the couple out to be PIMPS and profiteers without the facts is totally wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We simply think that if you dont want to pay towards the cost then you simply dont go. I do not think the couple will loose any sleep.

lets get real guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if they are a couple and already staying at the hotel, then money should not be a issue. They should pay. If I arrange to meet a guy, or couple in hotel, just for sex and no one is actually staying there, then split the cost of room. If I get invited to a guys hotel then I never pay towards cost, cause he already staying there. I think it's only fair to share the cost if only using the room for meeting x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just checked on a standard double room for tonight at the said hotel, £55...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why can't guys who are invited ask the EXACT costs and what it covers...

ffs, can people not communicate.. or are they so afraid they upset the hosts they don't get a leg over.

we do complicate life at times.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

........... which is why I said that unless you can provide some sort of receipt for how much you paid for the room you are never going to know....

but like polo said... transparency is the key....

I have had hotel meets in the past.. but not paid as the people were staying in them and wanted "extra company", but I have heard tales in the past where people have been asked for 10-15 pounds per head for gangbang meets and thought..."the rooms there have never cost that much".....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"just checked on a standard double room for tonight at the said hotel, £55...

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might have been 55 if you are booking now... how much did they pay for it at the original time of booking (sunday nights actually tend to be the cheapest for hotels booked in advance).....short of asking to see a receipt you are going to be going round in circles if you think you are being hard done by....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

agreed... but it doesn't take a 1st class honours degree geezer to be able to work out.. budget hotel divided by 10 agreed visitors gonna be approx a £5.

if the others fail to turn up.. they should have picked the guys better.

and a fiver is given... or meet is cancelled and home they go or to the nearest pub for a pint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen socials where a contribution from 2 to 10 quid is asked per person and people sign up for them like its the last helicopter out of a disaster area.

As long as it is only a contribution towards the costs and not a profit making scam i can't see where the problem is.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"why can't guys who are invited ask the EXACT costs and what it covers...

ffs, can people not communicate.. or are they so afraid they upset the hosts they don't get a leg over.

we do complicate life at times. "

Thats far too simple View........now go and stand in the corner with your hands on your head for being logical xxx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"just checked on a standard double room for tonight at the said hotel, £55...

"

Reallt?

The first thing which popped up when I just googled it was.... "Sleep Tight In Rooms From £19. Book in advance at Travelodge.co.uk"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"why can't guys who are invited ask the EXACT costs and what it covers...

ffs, can people not communicate.. or are they so afraid they upset the hosts they don't get a leg over.

we do complicate life at times.

Thats far too simple View........now go and stand in the corner with your hands on your head for being logical xxx"

ok...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each "meet" has to be looked at individually, if I was the OP I would text back and ask what the total cost of the room is. Up to £70 for a room is reasonable, shared between the guy and the couple that is a maximum contribution of £35, hopefully more guys will attend and that cost will go down.

More than that then report the e-mail/advert to the site admin, there is a provision for this on adverts and mails with one of the headings being specifically for reporting events which are charging extortionate amounts.

At the end of the day, if your happy with the costs attend, if not then don't but before you can decide that you need to know the exact total amount that may be asked for ie "if your the only one that turns up"

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Whatever happened to just saying 'Thanks but no thanks'?

If someone doesn't agree with paying a share of a hotel room then wouldn't the simple thing be to just say 'No' and get on with their life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if I arranged a meet with single lady or couple i'd pay and expect same if vice versa

I'd certainly text back in the OP case and request more info about costs

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"No the couple haven't said they want £20 per person or £30 per person or £60 per person... BUT they haven't said they won't be either and from what has been posted neither have they told the guy what the maximum would be or the cost of the room (and they do know the cost of the room). It's easy enough to say "we paid £30 for the room"... BUT they haven't.

"

I am now guessing you have more information that what was said on the OP as he didn't say what the couple have said , he was asking us would he have to pay more.

PS Do us a favour please Polo, can you re set your avatar please as all I can see is a red cross where your arse should be

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Errr this is a hijack.......but has anyone ever managed to get a room for £19.00? Or do they only realise five a year !

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

The cheapest we have booked is £9, but they are rarely in the popular or well used Travelodges, on average a 'cheap' Travelodge goes for around £29.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a few meets in our hotel rooms,wouldnt dream of askin peeps for any money towards it ,be it a single guy or cpl.to us it was just a change from doin the deed at home or a club

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I think Pearl necklace has booked a couple or rooms for £12

the cheapest we have had is £29

I think the further in advance you book the cheaper it is

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i have had 9, 19 and 29 pound rooms..... but funny enough they tend to only do those rooms sun to thurs....

also worth double checking the smaller hotel chains like "campanile" I know they have in the past done 1 pound rooms....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Errr this is a hijack.......but has anyone ever managed to get a room for £19.00? Or do they only realise five a year !

"

FFS release not realise.

Ta for answers about rooms x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can receive email notification of cheap rooms from travelodge and yes you can get them very cheap if you book at the right time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think Pearl necklace has booked a couple or rooms for £12

the cheapest we have had is £29

I think the further in advance you book the cheaper it is"

The last Barnsley social we went to, only cost £22 for a Saturday night. We booked about 8 weeks in advance on Travelodge website.

We booked a room in York, a couple of years ago Monday to Friday and average room cost was only £30. They charge different rates for each day. Saturday is usually the costliest, and Sunday the cheapest. If you book a long weekend, Friday to Sunday or Saturday to Monday you can get average room cost for about £30 depending on the venue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i book a block of rooms in advance when they go on sale. the prices vary from £9 to a maximum of £19. i tend to book one a month in different cities. if i dont use them, its not a major waste, and if i do then i consider the cost to be mine and ask for no contributions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think Pearl necklace has booked a couple or rooms for £12

"

.

12.50 GBP, and I have one night booked in Nov and Dec respectively! At this rate, I can afford to cough up on my own!

I hesitated and missed out on the 9.00 GBP rooms, and shan't make the same mistake again when the next lot are released!

Back to original topic.

I do not accommodate at my own home, and prefer to travel to the gent's home or a hotel to play instead.

If the gent prefers not to or cannot accommodate, and suggests meeting at a hotel half way, then I would contribute towards the cost of the hotel.

One thing for sure. When paying 45+ GBP for a room, I would not book a room that does not allow one to cancel 24h beforehand without refund.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back on topic,

The OP sounds like the nightmare single man at a club with the ,

I've paid so i'm entitled mentality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not get that impression from the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Back on topic,

The OP sounds like the nightmare single man at a club with the ,

I've paid so i'm entitled mentality."

Making a big assumption there.

A wrong one I'd say.

He is just questioning a situation where he turns up and someone says "That's £80 for the room me old treacle".

Not much wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might not be a tight ass, maybe he’s just embarrassed to admit that the wife handles all the money

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By *osforthMan
over a year ago

newcastle on tyne

Think i may have been chatting to the same couple. Was invited to a gangbang for 6 - 8 guys at a cost of £50 toward cost of room. So £300 - £400 is one expensive room, add to that it was a cum & go situation so you wouldn't even get seconds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i may have been chatting to the same couple. Was invited to a gangbang for 6 - 8 guys at a cost of £50 toward cost of room. So £300 - £400 is one expensive room, add to that it was a cum & go situation so you wouldn't even get seconds."
And i have seen this before on other sites. people making money from singles asking to help pay for room .. men come and go all day all night and its just for the money really. Single men should look out for couples even single woman doing this on sites like this. There are some who will mike everything for what thay can get. You really need to chat get to know the people before meets.Its always lovely if after a sexie night man offer to help pay hotel most of the time if we asked for the date we will pay .jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for all the messages so quickly, and i guessing the opion is don't pay, don't go. have messaged the couple concerned and said i won't be going because i don't believe in paying for sex."

so just out of interest, and im not having a go im just asking, if i asked you if you was interested in meeting me and you said yes, you dont accommodate and nor do i so the only other option is a hotel, would you expect me to pay for the room?

because personally i think rooms costs should be shared and i dont see as paying for a room as playing for sex, i see it ask paying for someone to have sex

christ did that make sence lmao

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Think i may have been chatting to the same couple. Was invited to a gangbang for 6 - 8 guys at a cost of £50 toward cost of room. So £300 - £400 is one expensive room, add to that it was a cum & go situation so you wouldn't even get seconds."

It doesn't sound like the same couple as aas far as the post reads, they were not asking for a huge amount of money for each person, just for a share of the hotel room.

I would report the profile you are talking about though.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Back on topic,

The OP sounds like the nightmare single man at a club with the ,

I've paid so i'm entitled mentality."

How is that "back on topic"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More on topic than discussing travelodges offers on room rates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Back on topic,

The OP sounds like the nightmare single man at a club with the ,

I've paid so i'm entitled mentality.

How is that "back on topic" "

and how does he said like that when hesa saying he wouldnt pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sound* lol

b****ks we really need an edit button lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is something really wrong with men being asked to pay more than a share of costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is something really wrong with men being asked to pay more than a share of costs. "

there is something really wrong with anyone single or couples being asked to pay more than a reasonable share of costs. quite honestly we still stand by the "host is the host" concept. If you have a guest, it is an honour to look after them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think a lot of couples, and im sorry but it does seem to be couples more than single females who take the piss with guys on here, think that single guys on here are desparate saddos who will do anything to get a sniff of pussy

They have the mentallity that they are providing the woman so the guys can porvide the room

I think its cheeky for anyone to book a room and then expect other to replace the bill money

if im talking to someone and we arrange to meet in a hotel im more than happy to share the costs, however i will not give anyone back money for a room they have already booked before they speak to me

Thats just how i work

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"More on topic than discussing travelodges offers on room rates."

At least the likely cost of a travel lodge room is more relevant to the subject than some random comment implying how you think he might behave at a club...

Too many couples think they can treat guys like shite and chuckle at the fact people do try and rip them off. Some couples act not far short of being a pimp and hooker. They act as if they are doing the guys some sort of favour by having a gangbang. But isn't it the couple who want the gangbang? Or do they really think they are providing a 'service' and thus feel it is OK to make a few quid out of the suckers?

** off to wonder if you sound like one of those couples**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More on topic than discussing travelodges offers on room rates.

At least the likely cost of a travel lodge room is more relevant to the subject than some random comment implying how you think he might behave at a club...

Too many couples think they can treat guys like shite and chuckle at the fact people do try and rip them off. Some couples act not far short of being a pimp and hooker. They act as if they are doing the guys some sort of favour by having a gangbang. But isn't it the couple who want the gangbang? Or do they really think they are providing a 'service' and thus feel it is OK to make a few quid out of the suckers?

** off to wonder if you sound like one of those couples**"

You will see on other threads how I disagree completly about charging I agree in this case I might have got it wrong but I know what I wanted to say.

But it doesn't help when the OP hasn't stated if they were after a maximum of £10 each to cover costs or enough for a 3 week holiday, both are completly different cases and can't be lumped together

When we hold a party at home we just ask people to bring any alcohol they intend to drink with them, food and soft drinks aplenty are provided whether they are single male,female or couples, so by asking single males to provide there own alcohol does that make us pimps???

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

You obviously (I would hope) realise I was just making a point about making unrelated assumptions about the OP in a different situation.

No it doesn’t help that none of us know what the couple intended to charge those who turned up. Many had taken the line of assuming the couple were not going to try and rip their guests off. I presented the opposing assumption, which is equally plausible.

How you describe your approach to hosting parties is the way I believe it should be done….. and no, it doesn’t make you pimps – far from it.

I stated previously that some couples act not far short of acting like a pimp and hooker. If I am honest, I seriously think a few of them might be just that and have found a fresh market on swinging sites. We are all aware that escorts turn up on swinging sites from time to time, some sites more than others. And if you have ever had a look around some of the sites which allow ‘pay-2-screw’, the gangbangs advertised sound very much like many you will find on swinging sites.

That is NOT to say all gangbangs are pimps and hookers.

If I state anything strongly on this subject it is because I dislike the thought of turning a blind eye to people transforming a recreational activity site into a new business venture opportunity - the two should be clearly separated.

Hence the need for transparency. If someone somewhere expects cash to change hands, even if it is just to cover legitimate expenses, they should be upfront about what that charge will be from the start… not once the guy is getting ready to attend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" You obviously (I would hope) realise I was just making a point about making unrelated assumptions about the OP in a different situation.

No it doesn’t help that none of us know what the couple intended to charge those who turned up. Many had taken the line of assuming the couple were not going to try and rip their guests off. I presented the opposing assumption, which is equally plausible.

How you describe your approach to hosting parties is the way I believe it should be done….. and no, it doesn’t make you pimps – far from it.

I stated previously that some couples act not far short of acting like a pimp and hooker. If I am honest, I seriously think a few of them might be just that and have found a fresh market on swinging sites. We are all aware that escorts turn up on swinging sites from time to time, some sites more than others. And if you have ever had a look around some of the sites which allow ‘pay-2-screw’, the gangbangs advertised sound very much like many you will find on swinging sites.

That is NOT to say all gangbangs are pimps and hookers.

If I state anything strongly on this subject it is because I dislike the thought of turning a blind eye to people transforming a recreational activity site into a new business venture opportunity - the two should be clearly separated.

Hence the need for transparency. If someone somewhere expects cash to change hands, even if it is just to cover legitimate expenses, they should be upfront about what that charge will be from the start… not once the guy is getting ready to attend.

"

I agree as I am sure most people will with you.

Unfortunatly though as I stated on the parties thread the only way you will ever stop people been charged is when people refuse to pay.

While people are paying and are quite happy to continue to pay people will continue to charge.

I even refused to hold a birthday party at a club because it would have meant guests paying, I know its a slightly different scenario but it still didn't feel right with me.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


"why can't guys who are invited ask the EXACT costs and what it covers...

ffs, can people not communicate.. or are they so afraid they upset the hosts they don't get a leg over.

we do complicate life at times. "

Agreed, but I also think if the couple had suggested a fixed contribution when they first asked for interest, we wouldn`t be having this conversation!

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