FabSwingers.com forum: Something wrong with wanting to watch?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a voyeur and I love to watch. The Urban Dictionary states dogging '...is where people meet up in car parks and watch each other having sex. Sometime other people join in, but its mainly about watching and getting off on it'.

I got slated recently (on a different post) because my profile states I want to watch, discreetly if preferred or closer with permission. I also seemed to be questioned as to why I wouldn't join in...like I was a weirdo for not wanting to which made me question myself a little. Most of my experience is based on spending my younger days at what was a very popular outdoor location in Walsall. Turning up randomly, pulling up next to a car (or them next to u), the 5-10 seconds of glancing at each other, wondering who was in the car and whether anything was going to happen; then the stimulation of seeing a female head lower into her man's lap or both people getting out, walking toward the woods, a little tap on her arse by him and a glance back over the shoulder- the cue to watch!!!

With the rise of clubs and webcams, do any cpls in the Midlands still enjoy this kind of 'old fashioned' thing...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often go clubbing with one of my partners because we enjoy watching. I wouldn't personally be interested in dogging, but we use clubs for basically the same reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I got slated recently (on a different post) because my profile states I want to watch, discreetly if preferred or closer with permission. I also seemed to be questioned as to why I wouldn't join in...like I was a weird.. "

Nothing wrong with it at all. Voyeurs have most likely been around for as long as sex itself. I'd say let it wash off quicker and don't worry about people judging you as it's perfectly natural IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with watching I throughput enjoy it.... Love the sounds and the glancing back if what I'm up to while they play.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Observation is participation.

Without voyeurs, who could exhibitionists provide a show for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Observation is participation.

Without voyeurs, who could exhibitionists provide a show for? "

Great point!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Observation is participation.

Without voyeurs, who could exhibitionists provide a show for? "

'Observation is participation'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching is a huge turn without the awkwardness of introductions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes people get slated, not because of what they like, but how they say it.

And then slated even more for calling those of disagree "the opinion police and self righteous knobs"

So maybe it wasn't voyeurism that was being criticised.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes people get slated, not because of what they like, but how they say it.

And then slated even more for calling those of disagree "the opinion police and self righteous knobs"

So maybe it wasn't voyeurism that was being criticised. "

Thanks for doing ur research and ur very, very helpful advice and insight...

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By *ighorn2006Man
over a year ago

Ceredigion / N France

I love to watch . . . And be watched . . . And join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes people get slated, not because of what they like, but how they say it.

And then slated even more for calling those of disagree "the opinion police and self righteous knobs"

So maybe it wasn't voyeurism that was being criticised.

Thanks for doing ur research and ur very, very helpful advice and insight..."

You're very welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often go clubbing with one of my partners because we enjoy watching. I wouldn't personally be interested in dogging, but we use clubs for basically the same reason."

Watching is quite normal. It's one of the things that's separates soft swingers from full swingers. Watching is just entertainment.

It's just like watching a porno in real life 3d. Lol

Sometimes it's quite difficult to get sex in a club when there is a lot of competition. But it's easy to find a good play show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So...I'm not a deviant??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm not a deviant??"

No. Much of the bdsm scene I've been to is watching only. A sub/ dom relationship is pure trust and sharing isn't always a option.

Swinging isn't that different. Enjoy a good show.

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