FabSwingers.com forum: Single Guys at Clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've never been to a Swingers Club but the idea really turns me on. However I am slightly worried that being a single guy I won't be overly welcome and a little out of place.

I know most clubs allow single guys to enter but what about the other people there.

What does anyone think?

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Just don't be creepy and you'll be fine

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Think of it like going to a pub - a bit easier if you had some friends to meet up with but if you behave nicely there's a chance you will make friends.

Read the club's website for what to wear and whether it's BYOB, only drink alcohol sparingly, don't just sit in a corner, don't follow people about, don't expect some sort of sexual free for all and you could do well.

People (including us some times) complain about groups of single men who are lurkers but don't forget that some couples as well as a number of ladies are keen to meet the right sort of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so comfortable to go alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love meeting single guys at clubs , go over and introduce yourself to anyone that you like the look of but most importantly for us .... talk to both the male and female half . We like guys who are chatty .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice. I don't want to come across as a weird sleazy guy. Which sounds like it could be tricky.

I might try and find a local club buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the advice. I don't want to come across as a weird sleazy guy. Which sounds like it could be tricky.

I might try and find a local club buddy"

I'm still to attend, but I imagine it not being that tricky. Just don't go around following people with your cock in hand, making them feel uncomfortable, just be respectful of people's space if they indicate no interest. As posters above have said, introduce yourself to both guy and lady of a couple, chat to them both, be respectful and don't touch unless invited to do so, but don't expect any play, if that happens that's a bonus. Just go their to make some new friends, IMO-for what it's worth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again. You make a good point to just go for a social night not expecting anything other than to make some friends.

I think I'm always polite and respectful so would never 'dive in' without being asked

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Some good advice so far... Not sure about your plan for a club buddy though. Speaking personally (others will disagree) we feel intimidated by groups of males in clubs. A single guy on his own is okay but we feel like prey when they start hunting in groups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single guy in a club is fine, just don;t stalk, walk around wanking your cock and start groping flesh without asking if it's OK.

And SMILE - having been part of a couple the thing that struck was the serious faces and inability to engage in regular conversation but still expecting to get laid. Relax, laugh and go with an open mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a single guy night at a club then you will be more than welcome. If any one complains about single guys at a night that welcomes them has no cause to to complain and should go on another night.

Just go along and be social clubs are great!

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By *aunchy21Couple
over a year ago

dub

I like single guys at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks again. You make a good point to just go for a social night not expecting anything other than to make some friends.

I think I'm always polite and respectful so would never 'dive in' without being asked"
. Just don't go expecting to have sex. Just because you have paid to get in.... Don't be pushy .. Be polite be chatty and be yourself

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By *indandfireCouple
over a year ago

ashbourne

Echo so much of the previous posts!! In our many club visits we find that sadly it is almost always the case that the single men sit in a corner looking glum the trail round behind couples waiting to pounce. Twice only have we met sociable chatty pleasant single men. on one occasion he then joined us... on the other we were with a couple on their first ever club visit/meet and three young men joining our play would have been a bit much I think so sadly we declined but I would have loved to have played on another occasion. hope we get to visit that part of the country again!

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

We like chatting to people on here first and then meeting up at clubs to have a social in person. Last time we met 4 couples and a single guy. There's no pressure to play but having someone you recognise to wander up to and say hello is so much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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This! We felt like we were experiencing a real life episode of The Living Dead with the pack of single guys following us around the place. They were slack jawed and dead eyed and there was nothing attractive about that. They wouldn't make eye contact, smile or in one case even reply when engaged in conversation. And yet they obviously thought they were in with a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't be creepy and you'll be fine

That and FOLLOW people around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

I've never been to a Swingers Club but the idea really turns me on. However I am slightly worried that being a single guy I won't be overly welcome and a little out of place.

I know most clubs allow single guys to enter but what about the other people there.

What does anyone think? "

DONT GO it's essentially prostitution !!!

Sex is free to all those who wish to be a party of it, clubs are vile and the people who go should look at the attendees and consider what they are doing wrong

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Hi

I've never been to a Swingers Club but the idea really turns me on. However I am slightly worried that being a single guy I won't be overly welcome and a little out of place.

I know most clubs allow single guys to enter but what about the other people there.

What does anyone think?

DONT GO it's essentially prostitution !!!

Sex is free to all those who wish to be a party of it, clubs are vile and the people who go should look at the attendees and consider what they are doing wrong "

Hmm, spotting a theme with your attitude this morning.

Not having much luck, so trying to police everyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

I've never been to a Swingers Club but the idea really turns me on. However I am slightly worried that being a single guy I won't be overly welcome and a little out of place.

I know most clubs allow single guys to enter but what about the other people there.

What does anyone think?

DONT GO it's essentially prostitution !!!

Sex is free to all those who wish to be a party of it, clubs are vile and the people who go should look at the attendees and consider what they are doing wrong "

Hmm I didn't get my cut of the profit last time I went to a club. Man my pimp is mean! Would you care to elaborate on what people are doing wrong in clubs? I'm assuming that when you went and paid your pound of flesh you automatically assumed it entitled you to some hot n sexy action? Thus when you left the place some hours later unsatisfied, it is the fault of the club and the people in it and not YOU dear reader? It is you, therefore, assimilating sex in clubs with prostitution as to your mind if you pay a price you should get some action?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats why its nice to have a big bouncer to remind single guys behave!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about clubs, I really want to go back to Kestrels!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've frequented clubs for years as a single fem and love the confident but not cocky single guys who attend...be approachable and don't be scared to say hi...the worst that can happen is a nice chat and someone saying thanks but no thanks.. same as online but with a chance for you to shine instead of relying on how the last line of text came across. .have fun wander round and be polite..you will be welcomed in no time at all ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks again. You make a good point to just go for a social night not expecting anything other than to make some friends.

I think I'm always polite and respectful so would never 'dive in' without being asked. Just don't go expecting to have sex. Just because you have paid to get in.... Don't be pushy .. Be polite be chatty and be yourself "

This! And until I got to know a lot of people in the club world, I used to sit at the bar and talk to the bar staff and smile and chat to people who came for drinks - I made a lot of Friends in a short space of time that way!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"We love meeting single guys at clubs , go over and introduce yourself to anyone that you like the look of but most importantly for us .... talk to both the male and female half . We like guys who are chatty ."

This is spot on - and don't assume that because you speak to a couple they will invite you to play. We love single men at clubs - the more the merrier providing they are clean, polite, and not pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a single guy in a club is fine, just don;t stalk, walk around wanking your cock and start groping flesh without asking if it's OK. "

That's good etiquette. The other term used instead of stalking is being 'predatory'.

It earns you a bad reputation and that spreads around the club very quickly. Don't expect much action on the first couple of visits. Give yourself chance to become a familiar face in the club and let the invitations come to you.

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By *r69StaminaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

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By *r69StaminaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

There's nothing wrong with going as a single male I started as a couple then went our seperate ways so I started as a single male just talk to people socialise you shoild soon meet new playmates I did. Just don't be pushy get talking to the regulars & socialise you should be fine its harder starting with a playmate or partner as you have to lay your rules down & harder to find people you both click with trust me try it before you knock going as a single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look relatively in good shape and smartly dressed. As long as your not a total creep or oddball you'll be fine

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Be prepared to pay loads and have no expectations of playing. Be friendly and chatty, you may get lucky...

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