FabSwingers.com forum: Would you be offended

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If a couple called you their "plaything?"

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

It would depend who they were, the context, and how it was said.

I've been called a bald, ugly tosser before and taken it in good spirits.

Mr ddc

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Context is everything. There are many terms that some people would like on here but would offend others so ultimately there is no right or wrong answer here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not atall if that's all I was

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By *callycatMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales

Offended?.....hell no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, because let's me honest that's all we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as it wasn't meant in a condescending or patronising tone and was a term of endearment then no offence would be taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd find it a slightly clumsy term if I'm honest. I wouldn't be really offended but I'd question it as it comes across as a bit of an owner and pet terminology to me.

But that's just my opinion. Others are available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, because let's me honest that's all we are "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be offended if a guy thought that's what we classed him as. .

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a female sub I play with and in a sexual sense she is my play thing - I explore and engage different facets of my personality with her, through our play. We are besties outside of the bedroom and love each other very much, and I love the dynamic we share, and I know if I called her that, she'd be okay with it, as she knows that it's more than just that.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I would like it but I would be demanding lots of strokes so it would be petlike

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd find it a slightly clumsy term if I'm honest. I wouldn't be really offended but I'd question it as it comes across as a bit of an owner and pet terminology to me.

But that's just my opinion. Others are available

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time..."

Playmates is fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would like it but I would be demanding lots of strokes so it would be petlike

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

Yeah it would.

I met a couple once or twice and HE said that I was a "plaything" for him and his wife.

I never met them again.

That really did piss me off.

In fact, I can't remember the last time I was that pissed off with a couple on here.

Fair enough I probably was/am but there was no need to tell me that like I was some sort of contraption.

That really pee'd me off that did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No if love to be called a plaything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

Yes, very much so.

I'm not interested in being just a sexual object for someone.

(Unless I had specifically sought out sexual objectification, then I would proberbly find it hot.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time..."

That's a completely different word with a completely different conotation all together. Imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sooooo what's everyone's opinion on fuck-puppet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often people are referred to as things on here. Plaything along with anything,which people often call someone they don't think is up to their standard,are both offensive to me. A thing is an inanimate object you have no feelings for or chemistry with,it implies they are worthless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sooooo what's everyone's opinion on fuck-puppet

Depends where they want to stick their hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it shows some terms of endearment towards there chosen plaything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Yeah it would.

I met a couple once or twice and HE said that I was a "plaything" for him and his wife.

I never met them again.

That really did piss me off.

In fact, I can't remember the last time I was that pissed off with a couple on here.

Fair enough I probably was/am but there was no need to tell me that like I was some sort of contraption.

That really pee'd me off that did.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Quite often people are referred to as things on here. Plaything along with anything,which people often call someone they don't think is up to their standard,are both offensive to me. A thing is an inanimate object you have no feelings for or chemistry with,it implies they are worthless. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unless I asked to be called they're plaything for the evening I'd be offended, I am offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not... just need to find the couple too make me there plaything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because if I meet a couple alone I am their plaything. I'm what they use to play with then send me away as I'm the outsider.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the long and short of it is that some will take offense and others will not as not every situation will be the same.

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away

I wouldn't particularly like it but I wouldn't take offence to it either. If it was just a one off in conversation I could oversee it, but if it was continuously I would have to ask them not to referrer to me in that way. Find an alternative pet name something I find more enticing then being called a plaything. A thing isn't particularly endearing and play suggests toying with me. Use toys on me or with me but I'm not anybodys toy to be owned and played with at request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore "

Iv not even started and being called that has put me off a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes. I am not a toy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us a 3sum is exactly that . A 3 way thing. For all to enjoy,not just us as a couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For us a 3sum is exactly that . A 3 way thing. For all to enjoy,not just us as a couple"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore "

When I first joined this site I used to think the same way.

But then I thought "hmm well Ben... you kind of are".

So in my own head I'd accepted that and I knew that was the deal.

But it's a totally different matter entirely when a couple actually comes right out and says it to you.

Like in my case above (a few posts up).

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By *un4allxMan
over a year ago

Arkley

I'd love to be a couples play thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore

When I first joined this site I used to think the same way.

But then I thought "hmm well Ben... you kind of are".

So in my own head I'd accepted that and I knew that was the deal.

But it's a totally different matter entirely when a couple actually comes right out and says it to you.

Like in my case above (a few posts up). "

That's why I've left the couples to find other willing women, it just isn't my thing.

I felt a little sad after meets too, they'd be left to discuss the meet, probably followed by more sex and cuddles where as I'd be alone cuddling pillow!!

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By *un4allxMan
over a year ago

Arkley

Better than Fuck Muppet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offended.. Hell yes. Cheeky twats. A thing is an object. We're either playing as friends or we're not playing at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time...

Playmates is fine

Playmate yes, plaything no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Generally I wouldn't be offended....but then I don't take offence at what I would consider harmless banter. I've been called a lot worse. Most of the people I meet I have a relaxed relationship with so I would know that they wouldn't mean it in a patronising way. if someone I hadn't met referred to me a their plaything then it would put me off....but I still don't think I'd be offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I would like it

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have met women who specifically asked to be treated as a couple's 'plaything'.

It doesn't necessarily follow that there is then any lack of respect, consideration, mutual enjoyment or appreciation on the parts of anyone involved.

Of course, if a 'plaything' is not what you are seeking to be, you are likely to find it very offensive if that's what you are referred to as. And it indicates a lack of consideration from the couple concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Offended.. Hell yes. Cheeky twats. A thing is an object. We're either playing as friends or we're not playing at all. "

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"As long as it wasn't meant in a condescending or patronising tone and was a term of endearment then no offence would be taken."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have met women who specifically asked to be treated as a couple's 'plaything'.

It doesn't necessarily follow that there is then any lack of respect, consideration, mutual enjoyment or appreciation on the parts of anyone involved.

Lack of consideration in a first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not offended as such, but that right there is the main reason I'm not into meeting couples. I'm nobody's toy, plaything or performing seal; I like it to be all about me and what I want and need as well as the person I'm meeting, and that's not what came across at all in the majority of approaches I got, where it was all about what I could do for their experience; not what they could do for mine.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We have met women who specifically asked to be treated as a couple's 'plaything'.

It doesn't necessarily follow that there is then any lack of respect, consideration, mutual enjoyment or appreciation on the parts of anyone involved.

Lack of consideration in a first message."

Yes, that's how it sounds. Or perhaps they misjudged what they thought you were looking for.

Either way, not a succesful start!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A plaything is all I want to be on here.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as it wasn't meant in a condescending or patronising tone and was a term of endearment then no offence would be taken."

True. But I can generally sense when it's one way traffic and that's normally when I go cold.

When I sense it's all about them and absolutely dick all about me that's when I'll go cold and switch off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Probably not offended as such, but that right there is the main reason I'm not into meeting couples. I'm nobody's toy, plaything or performing seal; I like it to be all about me and what I want and need as well as the person I'm meeting, and that's not what came across at all in the majority of approaches I got, where it was all about what I could do for their experience; not what they could do for mine."

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

This is the very reason I do not meet couples on my own. Have not met a couple o want to meet with my bf either... really dont like the dynamic of many couples. One interrupted our play at a party Saturday to ask if I would like to join them.... ummm, let me think about that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hence it being really difficult to find the right couple to play with. I see so many threads about it being difficult to meet single bi fems, but honestly, I've found the prevailing attitude from couples who've contacted me to be one of me providing a service to aid their fantasies.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

It would depend who they were, the context, and how it was said.

I've been called a bald, ugly tosser before and taken it in good spirits.

Mr ddc"

Who called you that!!! I'll sort em out (it wasn't me was it?) Lol!

Mrs DDC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if it was a couple of ladies

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

Chance would be a fine thing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not if it was a couple of ladies

I bet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Chance would be a fine thing!

Howi your a good looking chap!!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Chance would be a fine thing!

Howi your a good looking chap!!

Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Chance would be a fine thing!

Howi your a good looking chap!!

Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!

You can be my playmate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should think not especially as ive been asking to be a couples plaything for long enough it would be an ambitio. Fulfilled x

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Chance would be a fine thing!

Howi your a good looking chap!!

Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!

You can be my playmate

You say all the right things. You're on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From reading all the posts, in general it seems single women don't like to be treated as sex objects, but single men would love the opportunity.

Thank goodness we only meet single men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From reading all the posts, in general it seems single women don't like to be treated as sex objects, but single men would love the opportunity.

Thank goodness we only meet single men

Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it.

I always make the most of my meets also as to not feel like a sex object.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Chance would be a fine thing!

Howi your a good looking chap!!

Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!

You can be my playmate

You say all the right things. You're on!

Very nice pics, I feel a bit flushed now

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Chance would be a fine thing!

Howi your a good looking chap!!

Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!

You can be my playmate

You say all the right things. You're on!

Very nice pics, I feel a bit flushed now

Oh, hello...and thank you. Nice pics yourself

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it."

No-one should feel like they're only a sex object, ever. Where's the fun in that?

Surely mutual fun should always be just that: mutual.

I do feel though that it is beholden on couples to always ensure any single person is comfortable - as a couple you have strength in numbers, whereas it must always be more daunting for a single person.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

This all totally depends on the dynamic. And a longer association than one or two meets. And a shared sense of humour and kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it.

No-one should feel like they're only a sex object, ever. Where's the fun in that?

Surely mutual fun should always be just that: mutual.

I quite enjoy being a sex object at times. Even though I get treated like a toy at times I still feel I have 'the power'.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We conciously avoid this and don't particularly like it, it doesn't play any part in our thought process when meeting. For us it's a joint experience with the said person(s) which is why we tend not to have socials prior, our social is during the meet, before, after and sometimes during the fun as we feel it takes away that 'plaything' element making the meet more personal and less mechanical. We're always concious of this and try to get the balance just right so all of us are getting an equal amount from the meet without anyone feeling they're the spare part.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

I would prefer to be called your plaything

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

Like most things it would really depend on how it was said and by whom. It might give us pause for thought rather than actually offend us if we didn't already know them.

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

I would just think they lack tact or intelligence to communicate properly.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

I wouldn't like to be referred to as any kind of 'thing'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"

Yeah it would.

I met a couple once or twice and HE said that I was a "plaything" for him and his wife.

I never met them again.

That really did piss me off.

In fact, I can't remember the last time I was that pissed off with a couple on here.

Fair enough I probably was/am but there was no need to tell me that like I was some sort of contraption.

That really pee'd me off that did.

So it annoyed you a bit then

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By *asonnosaMMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Definitely not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time...

Playmates is fine

never refer to the fems or couples we play with as a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""
no it would be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to be a couple's play thing as long as there was a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no problem with it. I am their "plaything", with regards to their relationship. But they would be made aware that they are my toys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it.

No-one should feel like they're only a sex object, ever. Where's the fun in that?

Surely mutual fun should always be just that: mutual.

I quite enjoy being a sex object at times. Even though I get treated like a toy at times I still feel I have 'the power'. "

I'm the same. I Dom from the bottom! Its an unspoken rule for me.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

I'd be flattered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore

When I first joined this site I used to think the same way.

But then I thought "hmm well Ben... you kind of are".

So in my own head I'd accepted that and I knew that was the deal.

But it's a totally different matter entirely when a couple actually comes right out and says it to you.

Like in my case above (a few posts up).

That's why I've left the couples to find other willing women, it just isn't my thing.

I felt a little sad after meets too, they'd be left to discuss the meet, probably followed by more sex and cuddles where as I'd be alone cuddling pillow!!

Awww

Meh , yep been called a lot worse , sawn off ginger runt, as a term of affection,

Mind you I've been called butter cup , which is an Afro t too far!!

I'm no ones cup!!!

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

To us it is defiantly down to context.

We are actively looking for a female plaything. A lady to be used by us for our pleasure.

However that would be very much by mutual agreement before we met. I can also see it being used in other contexts without problem but it certainly does have the possibility to cause offence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To us it is defiantly down to context.

We are actively looking for a female plaything. A lady to be used by us for our pleasure.

However that would be very much by mutual agreement before we met. I can also see it being used in other contexts without problem but it certainly does have the possibility to cause offence."

See i don't like your second paragraph, that gets my back up.

I understand what you are saying though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We conciously avoid this and don't particularly like it, it doesn't play any part in our thought process when meeting. For us it's a joint experience with the said person(s) which is why we tend not to have socials prior, our social is during the meet, before, after and sometimes during the fun as we feel it takes away that 'plaything' element making the meet more personal and less mechanical. We're always concious of this and try to get the balance just right so all of us are getting an equal amount from the meet without anyone feeling they're the spare part.

Him"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called a blow up doll.Plaything is much nicer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok having read some of the points made by others, i think i have changed my mind based on a blanket statement, in certain situations i certainly wouldn't mind being called "their plaything" but if that is the general attitude taken and it is all about objectifying and treating me as nothing but a toy then hell no, play should be mutual and not all about one partys benefit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

I'd prefer pleasure bot

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

let me think about that for a minute, no ,

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"If a couple called you their "plaything?"."

We are all playthings to other people! So what? We are here for sex and if we have a fantasy about meeting others and fucking their brains out, we are not looking for relationships! For the time we are together, we use their bodies! They use ours too..

Otherwise, we would all be doing this out of the kindness of our hearts and basically giving "pity fucks"! I do not believe that anyone on here is that altruistic! (if they are, I can message our phone number!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?".

I think you're missing the point. To me, playmates would be fine because that implies a level of equality, plaything (especially when said by a couple about a single) feels like something just there for their benefit, not mine.

Yes it's just sex not a relationship. But it's sex for my enjoyment too not just theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?".

I disagree!

no man or anyone I play with or fuck is a "plaything" to me and never will be. Yes it's just sex! However I enjoy good sex, sex with a big sexual connection, sex with most Iv gotten to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends..

if one said "your just a plaything", in a particular conversation, then..yes...it could be offensive..

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"I think you're missing the point. To me, playmates would be fine because that implies a level of equality, plaything (especially when said by a couple about a single) feels like something just there for their benefit, not mine.

Yes it's just sex not a relationship. But it's sex for my enjoyment too not just theirs."

I think you are missing the point, you have just confirmed what I have said.! I am speaking for couples mainly, because singles are not swingers! If they were, every guy or gal who went out on a Saturday night to pull would be a swinger!

Fact is that we are all in it for what WE want! No ifs ands or buts! If it wasn't for YOU wanting sex, you wouldn't do it! Or are you saying that even if you didn't want sex and someone else did, you would put out?

Whether we were to meet a couple or a single, we would be using them for our ends and they would be using us for their ends! OK, it would be in a mutual way, but it is still using. Otherwise as I said, that would be a very altruistic thing to do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's just sex not a relationship. But it's sex for my enjoyment too not just theirs.

I haven't confirmed what you said. To me, plaything implies that the 'using' is a one way street and that's why I don't like it. If it's mutual, that's totally different.

And yeah I'm not a swinger, I don't see how that makes any difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers."

Why?

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over a year ago

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why? "

because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years.

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over a year ago

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why?

because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years."

To be fair not just them, many people's views (on what swinging is) are outdated and incorrect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Context is everything. There are many terms that some people would like on here but would offend others so ultimately there is no right or wrong answer here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she likes it, I'll call her whatever she likes... Plaything Not a term we've ever used though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people cherish their toys,some discard them after use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As roleplay, why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

That's an interesting one. If I knew them well and knew it to be a light-hearted joke, I'd have no problem. But my hackles would be raised if someone I don't know well said it to me.

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over a year ago

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why? "

Because I think swinging has evolved from just being about couples putting their car keys in a bowl.

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over a year ago

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why?

Because I think swinging has evolved from just being about couples putting their car keys in a bowl."

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

Offended, not at all I would be delighted ! As long as they used me as a plaything not just said it.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why?

because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years."

So anyone who goes down the pub/club and pulls is now a swinger? Just because you are on a swingers site, doesn't make you a swinger! I note it is the singles who have replied to what I typed and I would expect that. Some couples who use singles would think the same.

Here you are on a swingers site. But think on this, just because you stand in a garage workshop, does that make you a mechanic?

My view is only outdated because you are so desperate to belong to something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like it personally being a couples plaything can be a real turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I quite like it personally being a couples plaything can be a real turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we are the temporary add on

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I quite like it personally being a couples plaything can be a real turn on

Give me a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am part of couple and am not offended when single guys want to play with us,because they want to experience the threesome scenario. We are just experimental to them.

They are simply our plaything.

It is what it is, noone will mean anything more to me that just that and the same goes for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

I'd be deeply offended and would verbally tear them to pieces....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why?

because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years.

Here you are on a swingers site. But think on this, just because you stand in a garage workshop, does that make you a mechanic?

My view is only outdated because you are so desperate to belong to something."

desperate to belong?

get a grip....

you are more desperate to prove that you have something more to offer than any singles can...

not that often I meet people from the pub and engage in group sex...you have used that analogy for years now...

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers.

Why?

because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years.

Here you are on a swingers site. But think on this, just because you stand in a garage workshop, does that make you a mechanic?

My view is only outdated because you are so desperate to belong to something.

desperate to belong?

get a grip....

you are more desperate to prove that you have something more to offer than any singles can...

not that often I meet people from the pub and engage in group sex...you have used that analogy for years now...

And it still holds! If you are really saying that singles are swingers, then every single that goes out on the pull is a swinger. Whether it is group sex or not. That is not the usual scenario on sites like this. Look at the profiles, men looking for women. Look at the posts on here, men looking for women. Not that many men looking for group sex at all...

If you need to call yourself a swinger because it makes you feel part of a group, then go ahead. But as far as we and others are concerned, swingers are couples. They bring a partner with them. They are not just an extra cock or fanny! Some couples on the forum won't agree, but c'est la vie.

We don't call ourselves swingers. We are just a couple who like the occasional hook up with other couples. Yes we have met singles, but they are not part of us, they are extra! They are something WE want, we are not being altruistic in any way. It is for our benefit, or we simply wouldn't do it! Any couple that tells you they are meeting singles for the singles benefit are quite simply lying! They are doing it because THEY want to do it. If it happens to benefit the single, then all is good....

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over a year ago

i dont know why the objectified ones are getting huffy about being the object of someones sexual whimsy. i thought it was couples being unequal in their desires which might cause friction ,but not the one whos called in for specific reason or purpose. to be good! to fulfil a purpose, no hard feelings but if its more about youthan them why are you on a swingers site in the first place? its really only about sex which doesnt have to carry the emotional baggage of a relationship. thats why swinging is fun ffs. if you need someone else to commit fully o your needs you probably watched them leave when you suggested opening the relationship up because they werent good enough for you either. but your gonna keep banging on about it till someone says of course its all about you , well it would be if you put something into it which was committed but you never are.just be good at at you do ,if thats telling other people why your right you need a dictaphone and a decent life insurance policy , so at least you,ll get what you want eventually . i,m good at giving blowjobs, to either sex. what i want is to enjoy doing what i do well hile someone else finds different ways of expressing their enjoyment of it by wanting it while someone else gives it to them just how they like it. i can fuck pretty well too,but the freedom to find someone fulfilling my need will never have the same resonance for me as the idea that they will.thats all i need. but i have to ask otherwise no one would realise that i need to give my power away to keep it, so im explicit from the start , you the boss im the maid, the helper the facilitator of your wishes, you both are, if you then tell me that you expect me to do th same for you your looking in the wrong place, go discover the art of listening. at first i thought its weird how couples say , no single men, not any more.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If a couple called you their "plaything?""

Not really. If she was talking to her husband as she sat on my face, I wouldn't mind at all and positively encourage her

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