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Better to meet for a drink first or jump in to bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Which is best for when you meet someone for the first time.

Meet for a drink or just jump into bed with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely meet for a drink first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink the bed if your comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like social meets so i tend to meet for sex although it doesn't have to be in a bed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink

Unless I bump into them at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its a shag straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drink the bed if your comfortable. "

Or bed the drink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to the action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to just jump into bed with them, then chat and that after.

I don't need the social side of this stuff though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv not had a meet yet but a drink in bed to break the ice woukd be nice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like to meet in a public place so I can see them

I don't need a night out, one drink is all it takes for me to know if I want to shag them

I don't like to commit myself to shagging someone I have never met, people don't always look like their pics and i dont want to walk into a hotel room to a guy who's pics where from 10 year and 5 stone ago

Easier to get out of a meet in public

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I prefer to get right to it but I have never been in bed with a meet - most likely on a sofa or on a bed....or a floor....in a bath....you get the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quote like a brew first if I can help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to get right to it but I have never been in bed with a meet - most likely on a sofa or on a bed....or a floor....in a bath....you get the idea "

My kind of women

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By *igDD95Man
over a year ago

Watford

Would prefer going straight to having some fun, got asked to go to a social once where the drinks were super expensive and the meet was much further away than it needed to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to get right to it but I have never been in bed with a meet - most likely on a sofa or on a bed....or a floor....in a bath....you get the idea "

Bath....noted for next time

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

I like to have a drink first but it depends on communication beforehand. I've had messages like "are you free?" and I reply "and you are?" Sometimes it's a request for a skype call which is good because then you've flirted with them a little bit.

I appreciate people want to get down to business but sometimes a bit of build up is important, especially as you still don't really know much about them.

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"Which is best for when you meet someone for the first time.

Meet for a drink or just jump into bed with them? "

I would definitely jump into bed with you x

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"I just like to meet in a public place so I can see them

I don't need a night out, one drink is all it takes for me to know if I want to shag them

I don't like to commit myself to shagging someone I have never met, people don't always look like their pics and i dont want to walk into a hotel room to a guy who's pics where from 10 year and 5 stone ago

Easier to get out of a meet in public"

same here. I've done one social which was really good but I just don't have time for hours of drinking on a meet usually. We both know why we're there so why waste time?

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Plus I chat to people for a good couple of months on here before meeting first, so it's pretty obvious if there's attraction what will happen

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Definately a drink first,there might be no chemistry .I like the flirting and build up knowing it will lead to more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which is best for when you meet someone for the first time.

Meet for a drink or just jump into bed with them? "

Drink and a chat in the living room then if it goes well to be different not a good bye and part politely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on who it is you're meeting and the circumstances that have led up to the meet. A drink might be just fine, similarly straight to it might be preferable - there are no rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which is best for when you meet someone for the first time.

Meet for a drink or just jump into bed with them? "

I like to book a hotel and then meet a couple in the bar. If we're all happy then we go upstairs and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which is best for when you meet someone for the first time.

Meet for a drink or just jump into bed with them?

I like to book a hotel and then meet a couple in the bar. If we're all happy then we go upstairs and take it from there."

That's how I like to do things

Meet in a hotel bar, have a drink and take it to a room if we get on

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Either or is fine with me

Mind you having been a member of 4 swingers clubs at one time and visiting at least 13 across the country, generally in those circumstances, it's straight to the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we don't do socials we are on here for sex nothing else

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Definitely meet for a drink first."

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

Personally I prefer to get into things rather than go for drinks and coffees.

I tend to find socials with guys so awkward, especially if we've been talking via text and calls teasing each other for weeks and I just want to jump the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually straight to it

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Have a drink first, saves on the moment. Much easier than saying, come round and we'll have sex, of course you can stay the night, then have the moment. It's much more awkward, as we discovered some time ago

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Most def social first.

Twice I arranged to meet just for sex. Never again.

There has to be an attraction in person. Saves embarrassment on both sides if there's no attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how comfortable I feel with chatting to the person on here or Skype first. But usually a bit of a chat and jump straight in

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London

Usually a social but I have been known to jump straight in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a drink first, not everyone is the person they post pictures of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most def social first.

Twice I arranged to meet just for sex. Never again.

There has to be an attraction in person. Saves embarrassment on both sides if there's no attraction. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person your talking too and if you can keep your hands off them for a period of time ... From past experience socials never end up socials if you get my drift

Anyone want a social in that case haha ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A drink on the bed before getting undressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally meet at a club, either i arrange to meet a guy there or just simply meet someone there i like, then its easy enough to know if i want to play or not.

I hate socials, as in getting a drink of some kind, as i don't wanna chat with them, if its got to the stage where we are meeting then usually i will know by now if i want to play anyway, if they dont look like their photos then i dont bother to say hi but i will txt them to say that to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wouldn't feel comfortable turning up at a hotel and going straight upto a room and knocking on the door to have someone I had never met before open it and invite me in

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I explain this on ma profile

*disclaimer,this is NOT a look at me post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the post. Very much down the middle hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to meet for sex, usually chatted enough beforehand to know if I want to meet them, met for a drink occasionally but just depends on the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A drink on the bed before getting undressed "

Mmmm yes to this

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

upto the person i meet really most just want to goto room and chat xxx Then into bed xxx

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By *oecurler69Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

A social just adds to the sexual tension, then there is no guarantee of course you make the bedroom!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Thanks for all the post. Very much down the middle hehe "

Best place to be!

It will depend on the person you're meeting and how the communication between you has been. Sometimes it's a slow burner and sometimes it's dynamite! But I'm easy-going enough to leave most of those parameters to the women I meet as I want them to be relaxed and not feel pressured. For me, it's not just about sex, it's about the experience.

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"I tend to meet for sex, usually chatted enough beforehand to know if I want to meet them, met for a drink occasionally but just depends on the situation "

I need to get chatting to youuuuu! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the meet. We have done both. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men have come a long way to meet me,they get to the room first and wind down before I get there. I will have already got a good idea of what they are like by chatting beforehand,some for months before meeting. They have actually been my best times on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met some where I've chatted to for a while on here but there has been no chemistry when I've actually met them & others I've not really felt much for them online but thought they were nice & when I've met them for a drink I've found it hard to keep my hands off of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we don't do socials we are on here for sex nothing else "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll have a teeny drink before I arrive, bit shy so Dutch courage I suppose. I always explain to the person(s) beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to speak first, doesn't have to be a separate meet tho..

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

Happy either way.

It has to be a mutual thing so if the other party wants a social first that's fine with me - if they just want to use my body immediately they are welcome to.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"I prefer to get right to it but I have never been in bed with a meet - most likely on a sofa or on a bed....or a floor....in a bath....you get the idea

Bath....noted for next time "

Oh yes please.....we are overdue a watersport day

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