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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

New 2 all this n would luv 2 make sum friends. Any tips cos seem 2 b havn no joy. Genuine seeker so no nasty replies pls

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

welcome.

expand your profile and sell yourself.

what do you bring to the party, what are you looking for.

what makes you different from 1000's of other guys.

good luck, hope you have fun

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Patience.....a more informative profile ....a few different pics rather than all cock pics.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"New 2 all this n would luv 2 make sum friends. Any tips cos seem 2 b havn no joy. Genuine seeker so no nasty replies pls"

time... patience... common sense... you can figure out the rest from there

this doesn't tend to be "insta-shag" and you have only been here 7 days.. can take people months before they get meets.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sum fair points and taken on board. Thanx. Would luv 2 chat via yim just 2 get 2 know people more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give the wee man a trim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

send us your wife's phone number so we can give her some tips too

Seriously though, whislt there is no reason why you cannot be on here you might get more success on one of the "married and cheating" sites around (google it) since the best place to find like minded people is on sites where there are like minded people.

You will find some couples and single fems on here actively seeking men in your situation but most avoid them, you are wise to admit it though as that will give you more chance on here than those that try to hide what they are doing.

Other than that patience and effort, you get out of this only what your willing to put into it.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

All of the above and one other little thing ... a lot of people do not like "txt spk". Please use proper text!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

FFS why the hell everytime a person asks a question you have to show your intolerance for others and tell them they need to go somewhere else....or sort out their marriage or let you sort his wife out with tips or doing her.

The man isn't asking for questions about his status and only changed his profile from the advice given in the forums, and now that isn't right for some people because he dares to be married but playing....it won't affect anyone unless unless they are forcing you to play with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ewis455Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Hey join the slow action bit, keep calm, but i know lots of the girls and guys like a trimmed bush!

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By *ewis455Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Hey join the slow action bit, keep calm, but i know lots of the girls and guys like a trimmed bush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give the wee man a trim "

Yeah, Think its time he took a Razor Round That for the next picture lol

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By *ewis455Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Lol, just too much bush baby ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFS why the hell everytime a person asks a question you have to show your intolerance for others and tell them they need to go somewhere else....or sort out their marriage or let you sort his wife out with tips or doing her.

The man isn't asking for questions about his status and only changed his profile from the advice given in the forums, and now that isn't right for some people because he dares to be married but playing....it won't affect anyone unless unless they are forcing you to play with them."

err because the man asked for advice and my personal opinion is that the best advice I can give is to tell him a, that there are other sites that cater to his status whilst pointing out that there is no reason why he shouldn't stay here and b, giving a little advice should he choose to stay here, and adding a bit of humour because I do have a sense of humour. hence the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFS why the hell everytime a person asks a question you have to show your intolerance for others and tell them they need to go somewhere else....or sort out their marriage or let you sort his wife out with tips or doing her.

The man isn't asking for questions about his status and only changed his profile from the advice given in the forums, and now that isn't right for some people because he dares to be married but playing....it won't affect anyone unless unless they are forcing you to play with them.

err because the man asked for advice and my personal opinion is that the best advice I can give is to tell him a, that there are other sites that cater to his status whilst pointing out that there is no reason why he shouldn't stay here and b, giving a little advice should he choose to stay here, and adding a bit of humour because I do have a sense of humour. hence the "

that was'nt funny it was judgmental. again you open your mouth without thinking first which has been proven so many times here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok judge me and call me always judgemental it's not a problem you are entitled to your opinion and your _iews

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did not judge you whatsoever. you do come across as a patronising and self opinionated person. not meant to offend you. sorry if i did.

ps. OP does need to see a barber. if he has already seen a barber he needs to shoot that barber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New 2 all this n would luv 2 make sum friends. Any tips cos seem 2 b havn no joy. Genuine seeker so no nasty replies pls"

Ensure you have plenty of patience. don't get despondent if you only get 10% of people reply and keep up beat and polite with people you do message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep I have opinions on lots of things, I have earned my living from the swinging scene for more than 10 years and I have opnions of myself too, sadly they are not very flattering opinions about myself but I am sure they, unlike some of my other opinions are shared by others

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bush completely gone already. Thanx again 4 tips

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"FFS why the hell everytime a person asks a question you have to show your intolerance for others and tell them they need to go somewhere else....or sort out their marriage or let you sort his wife out with tips or doing her.

The man isn't asking for questions about his status and only changed his profile from the advice given in the forums, and now that isn't right for some people because he dares to be married but playing....it won't affect anyone unless unless they are forcing you to play with them.

err because the man asked for advice and my personal opinion is that the best advice I can give is to tell him a, that there are other sites that cater to his status whilst pointing out that there is no reason why he shouldn't stay here and b, giving a little advice should he choose to stay here, and adding a bit of humour because I do have a sense of humour. hence the "

n my opinion as normal you only pick out the married aspect to comment on. You seem obsessed.

The "humour" would only work if it is actually meant that way, but as you come across as patronising and rude when you offer to go sort his wife out or give her tips ( what on I don't know) then the smilies don't really work.

I would imagine all these married people who get told they should go somwhere else, go sort their marriage out, let me sort your marriage out, get her to join with you etc etc would feel very offended.

The people are normally asking for advice on how to get meets, not on their marriage or which other sites they should be using.... I think sometimes they must think they are in a relate counselling session.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I do sometimes have to wonder if those that seem so obsessed with married men (or women) playing behind their partners back are obsessed because....

(a) They have been badly hurt themselves by a cheating partner and will remain bitter until their dying day.

(b) They themselves have been married or in a committed relationship, and have cheated on a previous spouse and shout about others to mask their own behaviour....and maybe even guilt?

Whatever the reason I find obsession with any particular subject to be tiring.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I do sometimes have to wonder if those that seem so obsessed with married men (or women) playing behind their partners back are obsessed because....

(a) They have been badly hurt themselves by a cheating partner and will remain bitter until their dying day.

(b) They themselves have been married or in a committed relationship, and have cheated on a previous spouse and shout about others to mask their own behaviour....and maybe even guilt?

Whatever the reason I find obsession with any particular subject to be tiring....."

it is interesting....

I'll admit that I am closer to a)... and it took me a long time to get over that, so for me who i "felt most sorry" for" it will always be the person who doesn't know... because I can Empithise for the person in that position

sorry for the thread hi-jack

but I try not to make it personal as much as humanly possible, but sometimes people do hit spots that you can't help

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"I do sometimes have to wonder if those that seem so obsessed with married men (or women) playing behind their partners back are obsessed because....

(a) They have been badly hurt themselves by a cheating partner and will remain bitter until their dying day.

(b) They themselves have been married or in a committed relationship, and have cheated on a previous spouse and shout about others to mask their own behaviour....and maybe even guilt?

Whatever the reason I find obsession with any particular subject to be tiring....."

… or (c) Because Internet swingers sites get infested with males claiming to be single while in fact they are just looking for a free shag behind the wife’s back. At least the OP makes it clear he is married and (trying) to play away which for some folks can generate point (d) Intent to betray the person they have promised NOT to betray ever, which doesn’t make such a person attractive to us regardless of what the profile looks like.

The first thing I noticed was ‘married’ and because of that I was not intending to comment on this thread because I know my opinion is biased. It would ‘seem’ that when reading opinions in these forums that there is a anti-cheats tendency but everyone should remember that the people who populate these forums only represent less than 1% of the overall membership of this website. A massive percentage of this site is indeed married males trying to play away so in fact you’d get massive support from the overall site membership.

However, to answer the OP’s question…

Patients, you’ve only been on the site a week. As others have suggested your profile is a bit bland. Personal care makes a difference as in ‘trim the pubes’, but avoid cock pictures, a good mug-shot will be much better. As for your married status it will repel some people but some it may attract from a safety point of _iew as a married man MUST BE VERY careful not to take something home that the wife won’t appreciate. One thing you did get right is to disclose the fact you are married as it saves time for folks who will not participate in such things.

Be lucky

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

My advice to OP is to give it time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why is every one replying when hes not even on the site . fuck im even doing it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is every one replying when hes not even on the site . fuck im even doing it lol"

pmsl. Bad as me ffsake

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"New 2 all this n would luv 2 make sum friends. Any tips cos seem 2 b havn no joy. Genuine seeker so no nasty replies pls"

New 2 this...

Would love to make sum FRIENDS...

well sorry to see you go, you did only ask for help.

good luck

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"New 2 all this n would luv 2 make sum friends. Any tips cos seem 2 b havn no joy. Genuine seeker so no nasty replies pls

New 2 this...

Would love to make sum FRIENDS...

well sorry to see you go, you did only ask for help.

good luck "

When the next person who starts a thread stating that these forums can be really unfriendly when people ask for advice and the regulars defend themselves.......I am going to steer them to this and the other thread that kicked off the other day about other members who happen to do something they are allowed to do.

Hopefully the man who left has just changed his profile, but how can anyone be open on this site if they feel the need to hide their status, which I am sure will happen if he comes back.

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