FabSwingers.com forum: Just curious - how do average, normal guys get on at clubs?single

By *woBiTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

north manchester

Given the number of posts from guys who are struggling or just moaning about the lack of meets/action, we were just wondering how 'well' your average single bloke fares at the clubs on mixed nights? Do regular attenders get to play every or most times they visit, or is it a lot less often?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Given the number of posts from guys who are struggling or just moaning about the lack of meets/action, we were just wondering how 'well' your average single bloke fares at the clubs on mixed nights? Do regular attenders get to play every or most times they visit, or is it a lot less often?"

I only go to clubs on a mixed night so I can't tell you what/how single guys do on a greedy girl night....

do I get to play every time I am there... nope,not even close!

obviously on mixed nights there is a large element of couples wanting couples, but there are still some that want singles, probably not as many as the greedy girl nights by nature....

but for me it is the social side of the mixed nights which keeps me going back, which apparently you don't always get on greedy girl nights.....

so a single guy probably would get more "action" (and I really hate that word in terms of swinging) on a greedy girls night... but just does nothing for me at all

hope that answers some of your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been to chams and not had any luck.My thing is i'm very laid back so I dont tend to come across as pushy or desperate.I don't have time to moan either.I love conversation so I tend to get to know people at first then see what happens.So I would say I do very well at clubs.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly..."

This made me chuckle. We are a couple and we dont get to lay everytime we visit a club lol.

hahahaha I think its all to do with mental attitude if you go arrogant enough thinking your gonna get a fuk you send the wrong signals. we go to a club relax have a chat a drink and a flirt and see if we get on. Nicky only recently had one of her most funfilled nights at a club with a male id normally say she wouldnt entertain. but due to his charm and his humour and willingness to chat and have a good time he got the shagging of his life lol.

Go mingle enjoy and relax. if you dont get a shag at least you have had a good night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly...

This made me chuckle. We are a couple and we dont get to lay everytime we visit a club lol.

Go mingle enjoy and relax. if you dont get a shag at least you have had a good night."

well said and very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly..."

No you wouldnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have been to jnct 2 for about 6 times some on fri , couples and singles some on greedy girls night , i am happy to say i have had fun all but 2 times , varying from bj to full on gb so overall clubs for singles seem ok

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By *woBiTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

north manchester

so on balance, it would seem time invested at a club might pay single guys back rather better than trawling the sites and sending dozens of unsolicited messages to people? Because of course, once you've made a connection with a fem or couple at a club, you've a much better chance of a re-match at someone's home or hotel? Maybe the right path for some of the guys on here who aren't getting many replies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have always said I think the club route is one of the best routes to dip your toes into swinging.Some people tend to shy away from clubs because of misconceptions. I say try it and see where it leads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all completely depends on who is there - D wants to play with every man who wants to play with her when we go, thats her reason for going! Other people are different (both the lady and the single guy) and want specific people to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally of a lover of clubs, been to about 3 in the northwest and more than once,

For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly..."
.... Ya can say that again lol

* hides in coffin * lol

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By *vor Bigun 69!Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"It all completely depends on who is there - D wants to play with every man who wants to play with her when we go, thats her reason for going! Other people are different (both the lady and the single guy) and want specific people to play with."

Sounds like my kinda gal!!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I tend to stick to people I know - am a shy wall flower so chatting to people is always daunting for me, however a smile tends to ease my nerves ... either that or I use the technique from one of my presentation courses ("Picture the audience naked".. except at Chams where they usually are so am buggered!)

How do I fare? like a box of chocolates - never knowing what will happen next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to go to a club. Perhaps its because I'm not really interested in the gangbang scenario. I prefer the more intimate meets to be honest. I can jump off the wardrobes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personally of a lover of clubs, been to about 3 in the northwest and more than once,

For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!

Agrees there, but if the guy is nice and non pushy he gets an invite to play.. not all blokes in clubs are pushy and some are gr8

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"personally of a lover of clubs, been to about 3 in the northwest and more than once,

For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!

its my biggest bugbear...

we all know the ones..they won't say boo to a goose, run around in packs, patrol all the area's "for action" and loiter round all the play areas....

thats not fun, that's intimidating!!

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

very rarely have we seen a single man not get to play in one shape or form,think it must just be the right mix of couples to single fellas where we go,certainly think the single fellas here should try the club scene at least once

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

I`ve been with my friend to Chams on more than a few occasions now.Normally, I stick with her and usually end up going into a room with her and a few others. One particular night I left my friend to it and sat outside the room for, I suppose, half an hour and was amused by how many times the same single guys passed where I was sitting! I`m also amused at when you`re sat in a social area in a small mixed group, how many single men that pass "have an itch that must be scrated" through the front of their towels!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I've only ever been to a club either for a forum social or a prearranged meet.

On my own I would do spectacularly badly.......

Ya can say that again lol

* hides in coffin * lol"

Ah, the old double bluff...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to Xtasia every Friday and all of the single guys seem to be having one sort of fun or another and I have never been followed about by the singles there! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i actually prefer to go on a weekend when its limited single guys. each time i have been to a club i have never gone home unsatisfied (i am not trying to sound like a big head twat)

i think i just have the right approach of being chilled out. i dont wonder round room to room looking for couples... "seriously guys you need to stop that" i just enjoy the night and make polite conversation and it all tends to go well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refer to chams on a friday evening as "shark bait" night

They the sharks and the single gals the bait.

But lots of fun to had never the less

Just ignore the pushy ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever been to a club once and got to play , it might just have been beginners luck lol

Not being bigheaded but even turned someone down .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personally of a lover of clubs, been to about 3 in the northwest and more than once,

For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!

you can say that again, for my first visit in august for the beach party, it was okay but towards the end of the night, we went back into the dungeon and there was about 8 round the bed where a guy and a girl were playing, all stood there wanking, i just wanted to tell em all to p*ss off

On sunday when i went again, some were okay but when i was playing on one of the beds under the mirror, id have liked to have gone more but them outside watching was just so off putting

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"personally of a lover of clubs, been to about 3 in the northwest and more than once,

For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!

On sunday when i went again, some were okay but when i was playing on one of the beds under the mirror, id have liked to have gone more but them outside watching was just so off putting

That's why lockable rooms are great if you can get them - its not always about putting on a show for some to wank to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personally of a lover of clubs, been to about 3 in the northwest and more than once,

For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!

On sunday when i went again, some were okay but when i was playing on one of the beds under the mirror, id have liked to have gone more but them outside watching was just so off putting

That's why lockable rooms are great if you can get them - its not always about putting on a show for some to wank to."

yes cept the moment was there as id have liked to have watched myself in the mirror but then it was lost with everyone watching, did get a nice couple invite us to a private room though, but lost count how many times someone tried the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i went to a club in leeds with a fb, and to be honest i was really put off by the whole atmosphere.

single guys just had a mountain to climb and were constantly giving us both alot of unwanted attention. we were there to play with another couple and maybe a single guy, but it seemed there was a good reason that these guys were single.

when we did find a nice couple to play with we found a private room but the corridor outside was just full of guys standing around looking at us as we walked in, expecting to be invited in.

when the fun started we kept getting knocks on the door and through the peep window and all we wanted was for them to just fuck off basically.

i realised i would never set foot in there as a single guy or in any other club unless invited personally by another female or couple. i would just feel like a complete creep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and rightfully so

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

i realised i would never set foot in there as a single guy or in any other club unless invited personally by another female or couple. i would just feel like a complete creep.

Ditto. I wouldn't feel comfortable being there as a single male, knowing that I'm likely to be perceived as part of that group that would behave the way I've seen them behave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP... Cant answer the question... If I bump into one, Ill ask him...

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Blimey, it sounds bad enough to put anyone off going to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who know the ropes do very well for themselves in clubs.

The wankers are not exactly the highlight of the evening but you do get somewhat used to them and you can always tell them to back off if they try and get up close.

Private rooms can be hard to get if its very busy, a good reason to avoid special party night or maybe go Sunday.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i realised i would never set foot in there as a single guy or in any other club unless invited personally by another female or couple. i would just feel like a complete creep.

Ditto. I wouldn't feel comfortable being there as a single male, knowing that I'm likely to be perceived as part of that group that would behave the way I've seen them behave"

but this is where you get the chance to change the "perception"...

I'll tell you one of the things that makes me smile... when a couple come up to me and say that I was expecting men to be creepy... but that I had changed that!

yes you will get guys who in effect do themselves no favours at all... but you can change that and if you are the exception then good for you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fair enough, if you do make the effort to change perceptions, you will do well. agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to stick to people I know - am a shy wall flower so chatting to people is always daunting for me, however a smile tends to ease my nerves ... either that or I use the technique from one of my presentation courses ("Picture the audience naked".. except at Chams where they usually are so am buggered!)

How do I fare? like a box of chocolates - never knowing what will happen next."

If you are a shy wall flower, my ass looks like J-Lo's

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

How do I fare? like a box of chocolates - never knowing what will happen next.

If you are a shy wall flower, my ass looks like J-Lo's

I quite like J-Lo' ass actually

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

i realised i would never set foot in there as a single guy or in any other club unless invited personally by another female or couple. i would just feel like a complete creep.

Ditto. I wouldn't feel comfortable being there as a single male, knowing that I'm likely to be perceived as part of that group that would behave the way I've seen them behave"

For me, that's the perfect opportunity to surprise the nay-sayers

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"For me the thing I cant stand is all the single guys following any female that moves !!!they are like a pack of hyena's lol. Just puts me off is all !!!"

And this is why I think that "Greedy Girls Night's" may have had their day...er, sort of, well you know what I mean.

I find GG nights at Xtasia to be far less "fruitful" than other nights because of this behaviour. I'm pretty sure that the savvy couples will have cottoned on to the fact now that there will be at least 50% more single guys on a GG night than normal, and that they will be hunting in their tribes for any female that they feel to be "prey". As a result, LESS couples go on these nights, distorting the proportion of guys to couples even more than normal, leading to an even more daunting prospect for whatever couples are left.

I much prefer the other Fridays in the month, maybe less people, but at least you can enjoy the social side as well as the "other activities"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a single male at the clubs I was the worst swinger in the world. I really go for the social side and once I get chatting I just talk and talk.... My good friend _abio above will vouch for that. On a good note, and it's a very very good one I met the love of my life at our club. She was impresed that I was just sitting and chatting, with _abio as it happens and a couple. In truth I only had eyes for her that night and didn't want to play with anyone else, usual stuff though, thought she was out of league. Glad one of us was brave enough to take the first step and no it wasn't me. I still remember that first kiss. So to say that single guys don't get to play much might be a bit off the mark but if your not looking for sex and just being yourself. You can have the time of your life. Need me hankys now.... Sniphhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single straight girl I love swarms of single guys in clubs. I don't play with couples at all, I'm there to play with blokes. I guess I'm unusual as I really can't be arsed with all the chat ups at the bar. I like strutting round looking for a guy I fancy and beckoning him over. A crowd will form round which is fine because I like to be watched and if the one I've chosen isn't performing the way I like he can easily be replaced

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