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The secret of a succesfull marraige

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bite your toung (occasionally) & swing (occasionally) Any other thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking through your problems (always) and being faithful (always)

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

Don't compare your partner with people.

Be honest with each other about things.

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By *mokeynbubblyCouple
over a year ago

poole

Being open and honest with your relationship, communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say sorry,don't start arguments because you're miserable. Give a little,take a little. Never refuse sex. Don't burn his dinner.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Tell them you love them as often as you think it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marrying the right person in the first place

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Marrying the right person in the first place "

That is a great tip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't rely on your partner to make you happy ......but when you feel happy share your happiness with them. Be kind, considerate and give each other pleasure freely.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington


"Bite your toung (occasionally) & swing (occasionally) Any other thoughts ?"

bite their tongue.

opposing twelve hour shifts

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

All of the above - great contributions.

Him

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Love your partner unreservedly and openly. Trust them completely and accept them for who they are.

Cal

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are as many secrets as there are successful marriages I suspect.

An acquaintance of mine has just left her husband because she doesn't love him any more. Is there any secret that can prevent that happening? If you truly love somebody is it possible to stop?

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Honesty and keeping things alive and exciting even though she as a ring on her finger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A coffin

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

Don't have kids keep the cpl closer the wifey always treated like a princess all the money for hols n pressies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A successful marriage is only successful until it ends by death or divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be supportive. If your wife complains about anything or anyone agree with her. Don't try and argue the other side.

She will not be happy with you if you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine was the least successful marriage of anyone I know. I did try though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust and talking things out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be supportive. If your wife complains about anything or anyone agree with her. Don't try and argue the other side.

She will not be happy with you if you do. "

So if she hates your family ? ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being open and honest with your relationship, communication is the key "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Marrying the right person in the first place "

And this

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Not that I am an expert with relationships, and divorced...

But never go to bed angry with one another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't sign the certificate and there is cheaper ways of getting fruit cake.

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By *arbarella PartiesWoman
over a year ago

oxford


"Marrying the right person in the first place

That is a great tip! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let your wife have her own way all the time.You'll be rewarded big time.

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Marrying the right person in the first place "

Absolutely this! I had cold feet on the morning of my wedding day but didn't go with my gut and it lasted, well a very short time indeed!

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Mine was the least successful marriage of anyone I know. I did try though "

So was mine and I tried damn hard too! It wasn't me, it was him!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Marrying the right person in the first place

Absolutely this! I had cold feet on the morning of my wedding day but didn't go with my gut and it lasted, well a very short time indeed! "

I had major cold feet, and even my dad told me noone would be cross if I said I couldn't do it. I don't regret it because I have my son... but I'm not sure i'd ever do it again.

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"There are as many secrets as there are successful marriages I suspect.

An acquaintance of mine has just left her husband because she doesn't love him any more. Is there any secret that can prevent that happening? If you truly love somebody is it possible to stop?"

Sometimes it's a question of was it actually love in the first place? A friend of mine was with her husband for 17 years, a mostly good 17 years she said but then slowly fell out of love and said she felt like he was more of a brother or family to her than a husband...they divorced and she's now with someone she says she's absolutely 100% in love with and never felt this way with her ex husband, not even at the beginning of their relationship. She said something which made me think, 'maybe I just felt love for him but wasn't in love with him'...can relationships be successful if you love a person but aren't in love with them? I personally don't think they can unless it's the other way round ie you're in love and then end up loving them if that makes sense!

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Marrying the right person in the first place

Absolutely this! I had cold feet on the morning of my wedding day but didn't go with my gut and it lasted, well a very short time indeed!

I had major cold feet, and even my dad told me noone would be cross if I said I couldn't do it. I don't regret it because I have my son... but I'm not sure i'd ever do it again."

It's good you had your dad to talk to, I didn't speak to anyone, I kind of just assumed it'd upset the family and with all the time, money and effort that had gone into it by everyone, I didn't want them to feel let down but deep down, knew he wasn't the one...I'm definitely sure I wouldn't do it again but like you, I don't regret it either, not because I have any children but because it allowed me to become me, slightly more bitter and twisted than I already was but more of a realist and to go with my gut more than I used to!

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Sell your collection of guns

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Marriage is like a deck of cards.

In the beginning you have hearts and diamonds. In the end you all you want is a club and a spade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our secret of a successful marriage? Don't have kids. We haven't and we're still very happy after 20 years. Of the 12 weddings we've been to, every one of the couples that had kids are now separated, the 2 that didn't have kids (inc. us) are still together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love, trust, honesty.

Not going to sleep on an argument.

Being bests friends as well as husband and wife.

Act as a team but maintain some sense of individuality.

Allow time apart doing your own thing as well as all the the things you do together.

Compromise.

The list is by no means exhausted but those are a few things that work for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women is always right. Can't go wrong then

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are as many secrets as there are successful marriages I suspect.

An acquaintance of mine has just left her husband because she doesn't love him any more. Is there any secret that can prevent that happening? If you truly love somebody is it possible to stop?

Sometimes it's a question of was it actually love in the first place? A friend of mine was with her husband for 17 years, a mostly good 17 years she said but then slowly fell out of love and said she felt like he was more of a brother or family to her than a husband...they divorced and she's now with someone she says she's absolutely 100% in love with and never felt this way with her ex husband, not even at the beginning of their relationship. She said something which made me think, 'maybe I just felt love for him but wasn't in love with him'...can relationships be successful if you love a person but aren't in love with them? I personally don't think they can unless it's the other way round ie you're in love and then end up loving them if that makes sense! "

I don't understand the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Is it the difference between romantic love and brotherly love?

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"There are as many secrets as there are successful marriages I suspect.

An acquaintance of mine has just left her husband because she doesn't love him any more. Is there any secret that can prevent that happening? If you truly love somebody is it possible to stop?

Sometimes it's a question of was it actually love in the first place? A friend of mine was with her husband for 17 years, a mostly good 17 years she said but then slowly fell out of love and said she felt like he was more of a brother or family to her than a husband...they divorced and she's now with someone she says she's absolutely 100% in love with and never felt this way with her ex husband, not even at the beginning of their relationship. She said something which made me think, 'maybe I just felt love for him but wasn't in love with him'...can relationships be successful if you love a person but aren't in love with them? I personally don't think they can unless it's the other way round ie you're in love and then end up loving them if that makes sense!

I don't understand the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Is it the difference between romantic love and brotherly love?"

I didn't properly at first but yes, it's exactly that! It's almost like a convenience thing, for some a convenient and comfortable marriage is more important than a more romantic one...it's a question of could you marry your friend who you love (in a brotherly or family sense), that is everything you'd love in a husband/wife/father/mother but aren't in love with? Or do you need the whole romance and sweep me off my feet, making my whole body warm when I'm with you, kind of love? It's a matter of compromises I think, how one perceives life to be, ideology and the general outlook on life as an individual!

Oh and how many times you've been screwed over by people who 'loved' you and how many mushy, romantic movies you've seen...again all moulding your perception and ideology!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are as many secrets as there are successful marriages I suspect.

An acquaintance of mine has just left her husband because she doesn't love him any more. Is there any secret that can prevent that happening? If you truly love somebody is it possible to stop?

Sometimes it's a question of was it actually love in the first place? A friend of mine was with her husband for 17 years, a mostly good 17 years she said but then slowly fell out of love and said she felt like he was more of a brother or family to her than a husband...they divorced and she's now with someone she says she's absolutely 100% in love with and never felt this way with her ex husband, not even at the beginning of their relationship. She said something which made me think, 'maybe I just felt love for him but wasn't in love with him'...can relationships be successful if you love a person but aren't in love with them? I personally don't think they can unless it's the other way round ie you're in love and then end up loving them if that makes sense!

I don't understand the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Is it the difference between romantic love and brotherly love?

I didn't properly at first but yes, it's exactly that! It's almost like a convenience thing, for some a convenient and comfortable marriage is more important than a more romantic one...it's a question of could you marry your friend who you love (in a brotherly or family sense), that is everything you'd love in a husband/wife/father/mother but aren't in love with? Or do you need the whole romance and sweep me off my feet, making my whole body warm when I'm with you, kind of love? It's a matter of compromises I think, how one perceives life to be, ideology and the general outlook on life as an individual!

Oh and how many times you've been screwed over by people who 'loved' you and how many mushy, romantic movies you've seen...again all moulding your perception and ideology!"
Ok I understand thank you.

I suspect I've been very lucky then.

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Always, and we mean ALWAYS, provide each other with an alibi. If you can't do that what's the point of marriage?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Always, and we mean ALWAYS, provide each other with an alibi. If you can't do that what's the point of marriage?"

If you knew how many times we've said that to each other .

I think that's it in a nutshell really, its when you've got his back and you know he's got yours even on those days when you don't like each other very much.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

..... is an early divorce

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Communication.

Honesty.(if you never hear something you don't necessarily like you are not getting honesty)

A genuine concern for you partners happiness and well-being.

Never go to sleep on an un-resolved argument.

You are a team. Always remember that.

Always look to add fun.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find someone who loves you for you - that doesnt control you and puts themselves first before you and the kids - i needed to do this and failed miserably - we were together 20 yrs in spite of the crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chanel !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely these are also tips for a successful relationship also?

I don't believe marriage is actually the holy grail these days.

I met him at 21, married at 23 and had daughter at 25. Married 9 years this month.

(he's ten years older)

Respect one and other... and generally just try not to be a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Red wine

Porn (or 'historical romance' for ladies)

Sex

Repeat, lots..

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Add being best buddies into the dynamic and it becomes almost effortless. Great sex and mutual respect don't go amiss but in truth it's such a complexed question, way too many facets.

Oh, 20 years n counting.

Him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having him work away for about half of our relationship.... everything from 2 weeks to 6 months straight. It's nice to have my own space from time to time, eat when I want, not watch the football and go out with friends without worrying that I'm spending all my time out of the house. Only down side is the drinking when he's home. Falls in d*unk and wonders why he wakes up on the sofa...

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

If you think something's wrong, speak up. Don't stay silent at the risk of your own unhappiness. Work hard always but have respect for yourself.

Wow that was inward looking lol

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

Spelling. Correct spelling definitely helps. The next time my husband writes brocklie on the shopping list I'm filing for divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wank together don't hide it and do date night ( not including dogging night)

X

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"Spelling. Correct spelling definitely helps. The next time my husband writes brocklie on the shopping list I'm filing for divorce."

Wait, that's not how you spell brocklie? Oh...

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Let her think she's in charge

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Dont get married ,

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Let her think she's in charge"

There's no "think" about it . I always say let him think everything was his idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be open and chat about everything even the things that are not nice ... So you understand each other and your needs.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

As above, share your thoughts and discuss everything. Enjoy swinging as much as you want but save your best sex for eachother.

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