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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Try as i might to be positive and to break into the swinging scean and to make a positive impact on it, its just not happeningfor me. I would like to think my profile is honest to the point and i have a few pictures on it yet the females seem to be hiding from me. I dont send one liners out every message i send is individualy written what am i doing wrong help !!!!

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By *ertngladCouple
over a year ago

thornton -cleveleys

Try a better picture its too dark and we can't see your face properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to social events like the halloween party at Cannock, though i think you maybe too late to put yourself on the list, also the Christmas party at Chams

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Congratulations, you've written the ultimate generic profile. Unfortunately, that means there's nothing in it to differentiate it from all the others.

There's also quite a lot of repetition - you do safe sex AND not bareback. You only want women AND no men AND you're straight. Etc

If I were you I'd rationalise the content, then try to insert as much personality as you can.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Couple more photo's, they don't have to be 'cockshots' well dressed are better and lighter as already mentioned.

When you write your profile, if you are not confident in your grammar, then write it in Word and make use of the spellcheck facility, then cut and past it to your profile.

Having spelling errors of which there are a few on your profile, looks sloppy and rushed. Remember you are looking to make an impression in just a few words, get it wrong and you will never get a contact.

Take a looke at some of the other single guy profiles, look at those with lots of verifications (they have got it right!) and see how their profile compares to yours.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

i would suggest you get an avatar. Nice pic. Bright. The one you have is no good. It needs to be you looking your best. Maybe dressed ready to go out. Or in some nice fitted boxers. In nice jeans maybe. Get working on your photos as thats what i think your prob is. Your profile isnt bad. Make sure you read every profile before mailing and make sure you fit their criteria. But always read it all first x x good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pic is terrible and also the digital date stamp on it says 2005. A person can change a lot in 5 years so that may be putting people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most women are inundated with messages and dont need to trawl the profiles. Us men do the hunting !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try as i might to be positive and to break into the swinging scean and to make a positive impact on it, its just not happeningfor me. I would like to think my profile is honest to the point and i have a few pictures on it yet the females seem to be hiding from me. I dont send one liners out every message i send is individualy written what am i doing wrong help !!!!"

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You might be doing nothing wrong, but as others have pointed out women are inundated with invitations. You might be lovely but you substantially limit your potential market by excluding couples. It's entirely your choice but as a couple we know how many messages we get that are hard work replying to, single women must receive many times more, so you and your profile have to be exceptional to stand out, to put it politely.

As others have said your profile picture is poor and very old and frankly won't be having the girls diving for their keyboards to drop you a line!

At the end of the day this world is really hard work, not just for single men, but couples and women too. Many of the successful single men get known by attending social meets/munches or clubs, there people can get to know them and feel comfortable in their company.

Good luck

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Try as i might to be positive and to break into the swinging scean and to make a positive impact on it, its just not happeningfor me. I would like to think my profile is honest to the point and i have a few pictures on it yet the females seem to be hiding from me. I dont send one liners out every message i send is individualy written what am i doing wrong help !!!!

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You might be doing nothing wrong, but as others have pointed out women are inundated with invitations. You might be lovely but you substantially limit your potential market by excluding couples. It's entirely your choice but as a couple we know how many messages we get that are hard work replying to, single women must receive many times more, so you and your profile have to be exceptional to stand out, to put it politely.

As others have said your profile picture is poor and very old and frankly won't be having the girls diving for their keyboards to drop you a line!

At the end of the day this world is really hard work, not just for single men, but couples and women too. Many of the successful single men get known by attending social meets/munches or clubs, there people can get to know them and feel comfortable in their company.

Good luck "

as the post above try meeting cpls as well but for single females its hard work very but dont give up keep trying and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok...on a positive note, your profile contains more than one line...however, I'm still no clearer in knowing what you like, what you want to do etc.

I know that spelling and intelligence do not necessarily go hand in hand, but, if you're going to put on your profile you're intelligent, educated to degree level, well...your profile is littered with basic spelling mistakes. That would put me off.

Also I find the "bored, who's going to entertain me" status line off putting.

You really do need to stand out, and at the moment you don't but you could, so good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Also I find the "bored, who's going to entertain me" status line off putting."

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Just noticed that, and an instant turn off!

It implies the OP is seeking someone to provide a service to him..and there aren't many women here who would want to be considered that way

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Agree with everything that has been said so far. The ‘any size shape’ sounds desperate ‘any hole is a goal’. A happy smiling face picture as your avatar will probably make a difference. And while you can ask for anything you want and state what you don’t want, the tighter your criteria the smaller the playing field.

It’s often argued in these forums that one-to-one meetings are not actually in keeping with what swinging is about, its just dating of a type.

You joined three months ago, would have thought you could have ironed out the spelling/grammar/punctuation errors in that time, like you could have checked it 90 times (once a day) since you joined.

‘Very intelligent’ may intimidate people, ‘world wise and able to hold an interesting conversation’ is less intimidating but still gets the point across.

When all that is done this site, like most swinger sites has a massive male membership, mostly not real players but you still need to stand out from them. Even so, you don’t have much of a market place for what you seek.

Just one other thing, stating what you don’t want such as ‘males’ just tells people how to piss you off and often encourages what you don’t want to contact you. There is always the delete/block button.

Your profile is often your first and ONLY chance to make a good impression.

Best of luck.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Time, patience, common sense.... took me 6 months to get my first meet, yes people do have wait that long...

so what are you doing to help yourself?

are you going to socials.. like others have said?

are you going into the chatroom and just chatting....

the site does give you the tools to make it work, up to you to decide if you want to use them if you want....

you get out what you put in, your profile is your shop window.... how does it stand out from everyone elses?

all the stock phrases are in there which people who use them think "sound good" but in reality say absolutely nothing!(age and size unimportant... really... so if 98 yr old answered you would then???? )

all flowery but no thought... sorry...

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

some very intersting feed back and a some exeptional coments i will take them on board and change my profile and add more pics its help like this that will help me through a big thak you to everyone

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I have updated my profile and took all the adivce on board added an uptodate picture and removed a lot of the generalisations that were ther i think i have corrected the spelling and gramar errors so lets see what the response is like now

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

I assume you mean ‘bald head’ not ‘bold head’? Other than that it’s a hell of a lot nicer and more friendly to read, although personally I would prefer it a little shorter.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Max the avatar is still the same tho. The pic us ladies see isnt clear of you. I can just about see it is a man. I thought your last post said you had taken on board peoples comments and one of the main ones was your picture.

Where is the nice new pic as an avatar that is clear? Wether it be your face or body(not cock please)but where is it.

To me that hasnt changed and would instantly put me off

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