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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a newbie on here, been thinking of messaging people, but seen a lot of profiles that say.... Don't bother saying Hi / my name is / I fancy you etc etc... Basically everything I would normally use in life if I was just starting to speak to someone lol. What's the usual etiquette on here for initiating contact???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a "fancy a fuck" message and attach a cock pic

Make sure you've read their profile and pick up something on it to put in your message, just be polite and respectful and try to inject a bit of humour but above all else just be yourself, if they're not interested then at least you've been true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lmao really? I guess I'm a bit square and old fashioned ... Better change my ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ps saw on another thread cock photos were a no no... Would be interesting to see what % of women like / dislike that kind of thing, currently got on on my photos debating removing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmao really? I guess I'm a bit square and old fashioned ... Better change my ways "

It was a joke!! Just be yourself, don't go changing. Oh, that sounds like a song!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say what you feel is right. Anyone with what you quoted as having ignore. Be yourself and you will attract the women who appreciate you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say what you feel is right. Anyone with what you quoted as having ignore. Be yourself and you will attract the women who appreciate you "

Agree, I'd stay well away from those types of profiles, they always come across as demanding and uptight.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Read their profile and maybe mention something in it,so they know you have read it .A face pic and/or body shots are ok to send .

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

In real life a 'hi, how are you' works because I can see your smile, your look and get an inkling of personality. On screen you don't have that. So you have to get it across in your initial message and/or profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also don't fret about the delete n not read messages

Us women get lots n lots of messages a day and to reply to them all is insane if its not replayed to just see it as a no xxxx

Good luck op

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

saying you are not gay (in upper case) will only make you come across as actually very gay. No offence meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck goes down a treat fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a newbie on here, been thinking of messaging people, but seen a lot of profiles that say.... Don't bother saying Hi / my name is / I fancy you etc etc... Basically everything I would normally use in life if I was just starting to speak to someone lol. What's the usual etiquette on here for initiating contact??? "

We think it's polite if people say hi and introduce themselves, usually it's better to send more than one sentence

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

as you can see from all the replies you'll be none the wiser by the end of this thread - welcome to Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"saying you are not gay (in upper case) will only make you come across as actually very gay. No offence meant "

Brilliant, very true, why even mention that OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"saying you are not gay (in upper case) will only make you come across as actually very gay. No offence meant

Brilliant, very true, why even mention that OP?"

Maybe he's getting messages from guys but doesn't know about message filters?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol ok I'll remove that... Within 5 minutes of joining had 4 gay requests!!??? Even though I specified looking for women in the header.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Message filter? Sounds like I need that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol ok I'll remove that... Within 5 minutes of joining had 4 gay requests!!??? Even though I specified looking for women in the header. "

lol, welcome to fab! Go to your account and click message filters then you can block single guys from messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a great profile pic xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol ok I'll remove that... Within 5 minutes of joining had 4 gay requests!!??? Even though I specified looking for women in the header. "

To this day after a year I get more interest from males than females lol.

#gayicon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a great profile pic xxx"

Wow thanks!!! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol ok I'll remove that... Within 5 minutes of joining had 4 gay requests!!??? Even though I specified looking for women in the header.

To this day after a year I get more interest from males than females lol.

#gayicon"

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys n gals

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