FabSwingers.com forum: more than a FB

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone help me lol..... what happens if your FB says to you they want to 'see how you both go' in terms of more than just FB and then when you fall for them hook line and bloody sinker, they throw you a curve ball and tells you that they aren't sure any more ... men lol definately thinking of staying away from them... ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And they say we're complicated and can't make our minds up lol!

Hope your doing ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would turn him down and continue to play with him as a FB with NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there hun just ignore him hes a nut case lol you get all the signals but theres nobody at home good luck

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I've had women do exactly the same.

But isn't that what "seeing how it goes" is all about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all, you are right but I can't help feeling so bloody foolish lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

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But isn't that what "seeing how it goes" is all about?"

Shhhh, that's just a too sensible answer, you were meant to say how bad the bloke is!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

funny but actually he's right though that is the point of it lol...

the worst thing is he's bloody good in bed lol lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I would say you both took a chance to see how it goes......it didn't work out.

The man is being honest by telling you and not stringing you along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have reservations, and it appears you do, then don't do it. Keep it simple and remain as NSA instead.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Anyone help me lol..... what happens if your FB says to you they want to 'see how you both go' in terms of more than just FB and then when you fall for them hook line and bloody sinker, they throw you a curve ball and tells you that they aren't sure any more ... men lol definately thinking of staying away from them... ha

Do like I do - run a mile and don't look back!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"...

But isn't that what "seeing how it goes" is all about?

Shhhh, that's just a too sensible answer, you were meant to say how bad the bloke is!

Damn, did I give the wrong answer too?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Thanks all, you are right but I can't help feeling so bloody foolish lol"

Trust me - after today's news you can't possibly feel more foolish than I do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What news???

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

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But isn't that what "seeing how it goes" is all about?

Shhhh, that's just a too sensible answer, you were meant to say how bad the bloke is!

Damn, did I give the wrong answer too?

Nah yours was just as sensible as Sharps, and I have to say you have quick fingers tonight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always a tricky path to go down but if you've given it a go and it's not working for one of you then surely it's best all round to be honest about it?

Hope it all works out for you xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"...

But isn't that what "seeing how it goes" is all about?

Shhhh, that's just a too sensible answer, you were meant to say how bad the bloke is!

Damn, did I give the wrong answer too?

Nah yours was just as sensible as Sharps, and I have to say you have quick fingers tonight!

Needs must, needs must

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just an update.

Firstly wanted to thank all who responded here and in private. Especially from the men as it helps to see things from a male perspective.

However, as part of the update I best thought I'd let everyone know that following on from meeting him recently, it transpires he is in a long term relationship with a partner and indeed teenage children at home, a life he never mentioned to me.

So as such, I've done the right thing. Told him in no uncertain terms to sort out what he's doing on here and also to stop messing around with peoples emotions.

So to everyone again, a huge thank you it is very much appreciated.

Gosh all this for a little bit of fun and it took me more than a week to post initially, so this has been an ongoing event for 2 weeks or so. Well for now this lady is just hanging up the lifestyle - temporarily - can't keep a good woman down for long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He has also removed his profile. !!

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By *heekyladyCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Oh dear ... well from one lady to another lady, don't let this get you down.

I believe that we all go through this at one stage or other, reading something more into a given situation that there actually is.

I've personally gone through this and fairly recently, although he wasn't in a relationship, but life has its way of running away with things.

Trust me if he's like that you are far better off without him.

Do what I did, cry, wail but get over it. In my situation I questioned if I mistook feelings for lust and thinking about it ... most likely I did. Taking a step back helps. Stay in touch if you want to keep a friendship as these are more difficult to loose than anything else I believe. But babes trust me if he is attached, you shouldn't be. I heard a saying just recently that fits situations like these : the thing that we are most afraid of is more than likely the thing that would make us the happiest.

Failing this, do what I did, go and have some fun with an old flame ... trust me it works lol.

Chin up girl. There are good ones out there.. just don't fall for them as I did lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Just an update.

Firstly wanted to thank all who responded here and in private. Especially from the men as it helps to see things from a male perspective.

So as such, I've done the right thing. Told him in no uncertain terms to sort out what he's doing on here and also to stop messing around with peoples emotions.

So to everyone again, a huge thank you it is very much appreciated.

I am really curious here... how do you get from FB to the stage of "seeing how it goes" ... going along the "seeing how it goes" path... which I assume means a relationship... and not seeing any signs until now that he's attached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just an update.

Firstly wanted to thank all who responded here and in private. Especially from the men as it helps to see things from a male perspective.

So as such, I've done the right thing. Told him in no uncertain terms to sort out what he's doing on here and also to stop messing around with peoples emotions.

So to everyone again, a huge thank you it is very much appreciated.

Polo...it happens.

I'm nobodies fool and I dated a man for 18 months, put my house on the market, went for a job in Norfolk where we would be based, spent weekends together at his home, went on holiday with each other, introduced him to my kids - the only man I've ever done that too...and he was married.

His wife was physically disabled and he got his mother-in-law to look after her while he was away with me. His family knew all about it, I was basically his bit on the side: tolerated as long as he went back to his wife. His father didn't like me and I couldn't understand why. His mother was warmer, but I finally understood - his mum cheated on his dad and he took her back, he saw me as "the other woman" which I was but I didn't have any idea.

That experience has made me very cynical - I take what anybody says with a great big pinch of salt. I never thought I was gullible - but who would think somebody would do that. For my 45th birthday he took me to Cuba, first class, we had a ball travelling the world, spending time together, planning our future - all smoke and mirrors.

He couldn't have pulled it off alone, his family and friends were all in on it - what a chump I was!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

He couldn't have pulled it off alone, his family and friends were all in on it - what a chump I was!

No chump.

Sassy what happened to you is a rare-rare-rare exception to the norm.... what chance did you have when the whole family is in on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going through similar myself, gave up playing for a man, he now tells me his last trip away he ran into an ex of his who announced that he is the father of her 2 yr old child, he says he wants to be with me but she won't let him see his child if they don't get back together, how hurt and foolish do I feel now?

I've given him the get out of jail card free and licking my wounds alone. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear laine n hugs from T

ive bn there guess it happens loads just learn from mistakes and get ur guard rite up next time xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry to hear laine n hugs from T

ive bn there guess it happens loads just learn from mistakes and get ur guard rite up next time xxx"

That's what hurts just as much, very few get through my guard and get close to me yet a few have and all hurt me, so it will be another few years before I drop it again, if ever.

I love my friends like family and am loyal to them, thanks for your kind words T xxx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Sorry to hear what has happend to you and like a few have said before you need to be on your guard of idiots who come on here claiming to be something they aint .

Some people will tell you what they think you want to hear but in truth they probably telling every other person they meet the same thing this is all about TRUST but some people just dont know the meaning of the word.

I THINK SOME NEED TO BE TRUTHFUL WITH THEMSELF.

hope you come back after your break and have a brilliant time around here.

There are some really decent people on this site but also way to many playing with peoples emotions .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its easier than you think about it, he worked away a significant amount of time and we never met at his, one of lifes little ironies. Suffice it to say I've decided to take a breather for now and just concentrate on sorting myself out. Its hard when you think I'd spent a long time meeting him and never knew. Now thats being duped also ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry to hear laine n hugs from T

ive bn there guess it happens loads just learn from mistakes and get ur guard rite up next time xxx

That's what hurts just as much, very few get through my guard and get close to me yet a few have and all hurt me, so it will be another few years before I drop it again, if ever.

I love my friends like family and am loyal to them, thanks for your kind words T xxx"

soz 2 hear that laine but on here

i think ur guard should always be up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My guards been up for the last ten years and it would take a very special man to knock it down.

Though i aint looking. lmao

chin up laine, what dont kill ya , makes you stronger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im really sorry that all this has happened, chin up girl life will get better for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to get over a man is to get under another one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying that women aren't unfaithful to their partners, but I find that the running theme here is men going to incredible lengths to satisfy their needs.

I spent ten years with a man who I subsequently discovered had no intention of divorcing his ex...for him, it was easy as she lived in another country, we had children and a mortgage...you kinda think that's firm commitment.

when i left him, he eventually did go through the divorce..but it was too little too late.

I would love to know what it is about the genetic make-up between the male and female that make the male (more so than the female) capable of this and the female (more so than the male) vulnerable to it.

Is it really so simple as to say that a woman is lead by her heart and a man with his dick?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Is it really so simple as to say that a woman is lead by her heart and a man with his dick?

I wouldn't say it was that simplistic... there are loads of genuine guys out there...

but like most things a few can spoil it for the rest.....

you could say there is a good arguement to say that "marrieds playing away without consent" are thinking with there "loins"

this is why I think the "marrieds playing away without consent" is such a thorny issue... and any time it comes up it is such a contenious issue....and people find the need to justify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is why I think the "marrieds playing away without consent" is such a thorny issue... and any time it comes up it is such a contenious issue....and people find the need to justify "

I know there are exceptions, like a friend of mine who's a carer for his wife and loves her soo much he doesn't want to leave her...nor does he want to hurt her by having her think of him with another woman...but I still don't think it justify's it...nor do I think it can be.

Would be so much more respectful to explain how he feels to his wife and allow her the right to decide if that's the kind of marriage she wants.

some wives are accepting and see it as a release form their 'duty' (not everyone enjoys sex).

I do believe that there is no marriage if one person is reneging on their vows without prior consent. A marriage is a contract, an agreement between two people and any adjustment to those vows should have the buy in from both parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say is thank you so much from the bottom of my bruised heart to those true friends xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are predisposed to go populate the world and women are predisposed to care for said population . With obvious exceptions.

the "men are from mars" etc theory is quite apt most of the time as we will forever keep bloody wondering what he or she wants.

Unfortunately, Even if we knew all the answers..It wont stop hearts being broken

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"All I can say is thank you so much from the bottom of my bruised heart to those true friends xxxxxxx"

Been there hun, got the t-shirt. Those that are close to me know I run at the first sound of "commitment". To me it just says "only a matter of time and your playing days are over!", which I feel should be my choice and no one else's.

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