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"Here we go again ffs! One word, discretion. " There's a cream for that you know. Z | |||
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"one guy asked me about my verifications, he wanted to know exactly what happend when i met, so that reason i dont show mine, he just wanted to get his kick of me telling him exactly what went on...... em dont think so as its no one elses business what happenes except those involved in the meet" . We've had this too and on one occasion shared the detail of one of our meets. The person then went and mailed our verifications to find out who it was we'd had that particular adventure with! So we hide ours for that reason, it avoids people discussing us with others we've met, when we're unaware of it. | |||
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"one guy asked me about my verifications, he wanted to know exactly what happend when i met, so that reason i dont show mine, he just wanted to get his kick of me telling him exactly what went on...... em dont think so as its no one elses business what happenes except those involved in the meet" The same reason as me, I was getting fed up of being asked about the details of this meet and that! I don't even think the people asking were interested in meeting, just as you say wanting a bit of tittilation from you explaining the details | |||
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"They are for my enjoyment alone, and also because I can. Simples! " like ya answer pearl huns xx | |||
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"Am I the only one who hates the verification process? Yes I have them Yes I show SOME of them Yes I give them But I feel pressured by the site set up to do so. I don't really want everyone to know who I have met. And the way some verifications are given of sexual prowess really embarrass me but guys leave them and then mail " why aren't you showing it" so I feel that I have to show them. Then there's those that make the insinuation that you have something to hide by not showing them ( yes I have seen endless threads on this topic) For some its like a badge of honour - a notch on the bed post I will give them if asked ( guys I meet) but I do say right away it will be a social one. To me it really does feel that there is too much importance placed on the verifications, esp when advice on how to get meets is always " only arrange to meet verified members"" Agree with you 100%! | |||
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"i hide all, mine because some nasty jealous woman mailed some of my friends and veris saying horrible things about me....." Apart from the discretion factor your story is another reason why ours are hidden,there are some weirdos on here I also feel that if people are that hung up on what other people think of us without being able to work it out or find out for themselves from chatting to us then im not fussed about getting to know them x | |||
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"Must admit. I like to see verifications to see if people actually meet or not. I'm not interested in all the ins and outs of the meet itself. When I see lots of verifications verifying that they sound good on the phone, or they just go to socials, it just makes me wonder. If someone hides their verifications, then thats up to them, but doesnt it make you wonder if they are genuine or not!!" OK, I know I've said this before on a similar thread but for us veri's are simply to prove you are who you say you are and that's it. For this very reason we only show our social veri's, this doesn't mean these are the only veri's we have but who we play with and what we do when we play is nobody else's business and there for I don't feel the need to prove anything! So just because the only veri's you can see on somebody's profile are social doesn't mean they don't play, it means that they have discretion! | |||
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"I leave three or four on...." I might ask some friends to do some really odd ones to have on show hehehehe | |||
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"Must admit. I like to see verifications to see if people actually meet or not. I'm not interested in all the ins and outs of the meet itself. When I see lots of verifications verifying that they sound good on the phone, or they just go to socials, it just makes me wonder. If someone hides their verifications, then thats up to them, but doesnt it make you wonder if they are genuine or not!! OK, I know I've said this before on a similar thread but for us veri's are simply to prove you are who you say you are and that's it. For this very reason we only show our social veri's, this doesn't mean these are the only veri's we have but who we play with and what we do when we play is nobody else's business and there for I don't feel the need to prove anything! So just because the only veri's you can see on somebody's profile are social doesn't mean they don't play, it means that they have discretion!" I'm not saying it means that they dont play and accept what you say about discretion. Thats fine. Everyone can choose to show or not. However. It would still make me think twice as to whether all I would be doing is just going for a drink. | |||
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" I'm not saying it means that they dont play and accept what you say about discretion. Thats fine. Everyone can choose to show or not. However. It would still make me think twice as to whether all I would be doing is just going for a drink. " Thats really interesting,what about if they have loads of play verifications you meet them and still only end up having a drink? Would you feel dissappointed? cheated out of something? or just think oh well it was'nt meant to be this time? | |||
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"Why shouldn't I?" I tried to add to my comment. I have no problems meeting up for a drink and would accept it especially from a single lady but if all their verifications showed going for a drink only, it would make me think that thats all they do. Sorry if thats how I think. Had a lady have me take her for a few drinks and a meal and then fooook off through the back door. She was noted for it. Had a free nite out. | |||
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"Am I the only one who hates the verification process? Yes I have them Yes I show SOME of them Yes I give them But I feel pressured by the site set up to do so. I don't really want everyone to know who I have met. And the way some verifications are given of sexual prowess really embarrass me but guys leave them and then mail " why aren't you showing it" so I feel that I have to show them. Then there's those that make the insinuation that you have something to hide by not showing them ( yes I have seen endless threads on this topic) For some its like a badge of honour - a notch on the bed post I will give them if asked ( guys I meet) but I do say right away it will be a social one. To me it really does feel that there is too much importance placed on the verifications, esp when advice on how to get meets is always " only arrange to meet verified members"" You don't have to do anything you are uncomfortable doing. For every person who seriously thinks you are hiding them because of some sinister reason, there will be someone else who reads something negative into those who only have one or loads or from the wrong type of people, or any other reason thay can twist into meaning something else. Bollox to them all - do what you feel is right for you. | |||
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"Why shouldn't I? I tried to add to my comment. I have no problems meeting up for a drink and would accept it especially from a single lady but if all their verifications showed going for a drink only, it would make me think that thats all they do. Sorry if thats how I think. Had a lady have me take her for a few drinks and a meal and then fooook off through the back door. She was noted for it. Had a free nite out. " I was asking the question generally - re the OP.... why should I show them? | |||
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"i hide all, mine because some nasty jealous woman mailed some of my friends and veris saying horrible things about me....." . Jealousy is a green eyed monster!!! | |||
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"would you verify a person if it was all one sided, i met a guy on sat night was but was all very one sided from me, it for me was a very big let down and he then askes me to verify him...... dont think so when he was getting all the pleasure and not me...... i thought it was supposed to a fun time for both" Didn't you guide him?!! We all react differently, perhaps he's used to doing a certain "thing" that gets the ladies going, or they pretend, but unless you tell them, how will they know?!! When playing I've got to get my groove on too, what's the point otherwise?!! | |||
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"would you verify a person if it was all one sided, i met a guy on sat night was but was all very one sided from me, it for me was a very big let down and he then askes me to verify him...... dont think so when he was getting all the pleasure and not me...... i thought it was supposed to a fun time for both" I would and have yes. But only to say met ****recent and just like his photos. Thanks for a nice evening... Leave it like that. He turned up, he was who he said he was. He is genuine. Yes you didnt get the fun and was unfair of him but he was a real person wasnt he, so why not verf them. If I read a verfi which is short and says nothing complemntary like fabulous or sexy,amazing.... then makes me wonder if nice is the only word for the person so its more about what isnt being said maybe rather than what is being said. | |||
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