FabSwingers.com forum: How many of your friends know you swing?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

I see no reason to tell them about my private life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2, my absolute bestest, only because they are dirty little fuckers too lol

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

My husbands oldest friend knows but that is it.

My private life is exactly that, private.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "

Do you feel they should?

For me (due to personal experience), the two remain separate.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"None

I see no reason to tell them about my private life"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think they need to know as my private life should stay private, I was just interested to know how many people told their friends/family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Pretty much all of them + my doctors, my barber etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my 2 best friends know, 1 was on here before.

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I don't think they need to know as my private life should stay private, I was just interested to know how many people told their friends/family."

stays private till some so and so of here from same small town told most of the local about us amd showed pics thats why all our pics are now private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody but little old me!!!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

The one that introduced me to fab on the first place. And one I told to get on here but she didn't hang around long x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully none and with a bit of luck they wont find out either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't have any friends.

I'll be your friend..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends.

I'll be your friend..

Aww thank you.

I have a secret...................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None I don't have friends only family and they would be shocked although they know I'm bi

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

As of this week... One... that's what happens when Mrs goes out for a "quiet" drink with her nearby friends and the talk gets a bit naughty...

However as swinging meets continue to become regular friends too, we can see one day our vanilla friends being outnumbered!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't have any friends.

I'll be your friend..

Aww thank you.

I have a secret...................

Ooh really ... What is it???

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We like to keep this part of our life seperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Two.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "

Currently just our closest joint friend. I expect the number to go up a little when we see some of our oldest friendship group but I wouldn't share with all our friends simply because I don't generally discuss our relationship in fine detail with most of our friends.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

Two of mine know. One is on here the other isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my best mate he cant get head round it but always asking what I get up to

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

None, my sex life is private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a little too much JD on a night out and let out a few details. My friends were a) horrified b) full of questions. c) Judgmental when I wouldn't answer those questions.

I've never spoken to any of them since.

Btw, they'd all had secret affairs with married men. At least when I'm fucking a married man, I'm usually fucking his wife too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few, recently told my best friend whilst d*unk and he said he had known for years, quite a relief, no judgement, just surprise.. he thinks im quite innocent .. always the quiet ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my best mate.

I don't think my family would "understand" the whole swinging thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most my close friends know including my mother who was just highly jealous when I told her.it also helps with the safety aspect, as I can tell her where I am or whos coming around and know that she keeps it to herself

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

"I had a little too much JD on a night out and let out a few details. My friends were a) horrified b) full of questions. c) Judgmental when I wouldn't answer those questions.

I've never spoken to any of them since.

Btw, they'd all had secret affairs with married men. At least when I'm fucking a married man, I'm usually fucking his wife too

They don't sound as though they were particularly good friends to begin with, sounds like you are well rid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most my close friends know including my mother who was just highly jealous when I told her.it also helps with the safety aspect, as I can tell her where I am or whos coming around and know that she keeps it to herself"

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

None.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The exact Square root of no fucker.

Not because they would be shocked because none of my mates would be shocked.

It's more of NOT having my mum and dad find out.

I live on my own but I still disappear and they do wonder.

My dad would be ok ish but my mum wouldn't let me hear the end of it

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

A few of our friends do, would rather tell the truth the the host about why we're leaving a bbq early. We've both been known as being a bit naughty so no one really batted a eyelid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None

I see no reason to tell them about my private life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "

Pretty much all my good friends know I go to various types of sex clubs. They all know I have multiple partners - some more casual than others.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Pretty much everyone, and the fact that I'm bi, but I don't go shouting it from the rooftops

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Been swinging 36 year,s in July we got married very young Paul was my first.Our friends would be gob smacked if they found out.

We made a very big mistake year,s ago played with friends but they moved away and so have we. It all went wrong with them so we made a rule no friends and don,t tell any of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My swinging friends do.My vanilla friends don't. I plan to keep it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a married couple who are friends who use another site like this..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0 and I like it that way.... I'm a prude to everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my friends know. I think they would be absolutely shocked as I come across as pure as snow!! Lol!!!

Being honest nobody's business what I do in my spare time. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2. They both ended up making an account each with various degrees of success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One. An ex who I introduced to Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend.

I told her while on a night out all about it. Her and her partner now have a profile and join us at clubs.

we have 2 other friends who also know but don't judge. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None, our sex life is exactly that.........ours. Our friends have no need to know.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"None, our sex life is exactly that.........ours. Our friends have no need to know."

Well if you're swingers, it's not just yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nine

Apart from my friends on here

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Only those on here.

Oh - and one of our mums knows how we met.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

A few of ours know, some are interested in it, but don't want to try, others want to give it a try, some don't want to hear about it at all

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

80% or so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None

I see no reason to tell them about my private life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None outside of Fab.

I heard about Fab from my best mate, but not even be knows I've joined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are quite open about what we do with most people, when we first went to a club I told my friends immediately and they weren't surprised in the slightest. We also told his parents who asked us lots of questions and weren't bothered in the slightest just curious...telling your mother in law that last night you were in a dungeon, on a cross getting shocked with a violet wand is hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one friend knows I'm on here. She has led a interesting life herself, but has never swung, but doesn't approve what I do.

Partner's friend knows, as he introduced us fab.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"None

I see no reason to tell them about my private life"

Simply: this!

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By *eckandcarlCouple
over a year ago

leicester

None shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lol x

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

A few of our friends, family & workmates. I operate a don't ask the question if you don't want to hear the answer policy with everyone because I don't have the 'too much information' filter that a lot of others do.....most are curious and ask questions

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

most of mine know ..they dont care ..why should they .they dont judge people

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By *iandbustyWoman
over a year ago

motherwell

None my private life is private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of my friends know and a lot of my workmates too, even my boss who finds it amusing...the only people who don't are my parents and sister...though I think my sister has an inkling after our spa day yesterday when I announced that this was the first time id been in a jacuzzi and not been naked

(Miss)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "

Zero

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Not courting my step daughter,its just 3 friends an two of them are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

None

They were shocked enough when we said we sunbathed naked on holiday last year

I really don't think they need to know anything about our sexlife

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By *ouple1973Couple
over a year ago

clowne

A couple but there on here to so nobody says owt about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats to tell? Swinging isnt a 'lifestyle' its a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone bar my family knows. I've always been ridiculously honest and my friends aren't even shocked anymore lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quiet a few friends know but only ones we trust and Mr mum knows cos she pretty much guessed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "

a few close friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my friends know im here, friends I met in secondary school and college no point in lying to them

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By *oddamnCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

Mrs G told her sister yesterday as the subject "just popped up". Apparently the sister in law wants to try a swingers club so maybe it's better that we all know so we don't go to the same club on the same night.

Although if we ask her to babysit now she will never believe we are going to the cinema

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one of my friends knows - an ex I'm still friendly with. We're both sort of discovering this lifestyle at the same time, in fact we egg each other on a bit! She's not on here, though, she's on Killing Kittens and trying to persuade me to join too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My auntie and uncle know as they have a profile on here so they found out the weird way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2, my absolute bestest, only because they are dirty little fuckers too lol

Same here lol

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I tell anyone and everyone. I even tell vanilla 'dates to be'.

It is part of who I am atm. I also use it as a filter to see how people react to my openness and my liberal attitude to sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None, we think, hence the lack of face pics, we only show faces on cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my best friend knows, to many people judge.

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Swinging is still a taboo subject to some folks

no matter what kind of window dressing or publicity attached to it as normal folks . Some people still regard swinging as abnormal way of life.that's why always keep it to myself.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Friends!??

What are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only friends I have that know about it are those I have made through fab

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over a year ago

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

For us the fact we swing feels like a great big secret. None of our family know so we chose to tell a couple of our friends, newer ones only. It was a huge release to be able to talk about it and answer questions they had.

Mr has also told a couple of people at work as those lives don't cross.

Honestly we're hoping to move and start a new life away from where we are now. If we do we'll be much more open about it.

Just feels good sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well... I had a phone call off my mother. Convo ran like this 'please tell me your not one of those doggers'

So I suspect she's got an inkling.

I did say 'God no way mum'. Lol

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By *eavy Metal BallzMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

My sister, we bumped into each other at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None. It's my private life and so it remains so.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None. But often paranoid I have been or will be recognised ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best friend and mrs know i use some sort of online site, but i doubt they think its anything like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a zero from me. I wouldn't tell a soul.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Most of our friends know. But we don't tend to discuss our adventures if the other parties wish it kept secret.

My wife and I simply choose to be quite open and honest about our own life with friends.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "
. Hopefully no one . There is a lot more to life than swinging and I prefer to keep these activities private . Why would anyone need to know or why would you want to discuss it with friends ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 guys and one girlfriend, they all tasted my mrs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple question really. None of my friends know I'm into this lifestyle. I'm not too sure how they would react if they knew.

What are your thoughts on this? "

Friends relatives and work mates we don't hide the fact that we live this lifestyle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never told anyone. but sometimes i think they tell just by the look in my eye

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Only one, Jaynes best friend, and she kind of figured it out for herself, and during one d*unken girly night in with Jayne she kept asking, having already come out to Jayne as being bi, until Jayne admitted it.

It kinda led on to a very pleasant MFF on another d*unken girly night in, when she told Jayne she needed some decent cock (her and her partner had split up), and she asked if she could "borrow" me, Jaynes answer was "only as a 3sum", next thing they are heading to ours and the rest is, well, a very pleasant tale lol!

Other than her, we prefer to keep this secret, around here they think we are "Mr and Mrs Boring" lol.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

"I don't think they need to know as my private life should stay private, I was just interested to know how many people told their friends/family.

stays private till some so and so of here from same small town told most of the local about us amd showed pics thats why all our pics are now private "

Just happened to us too, had a reporter on the doorstep and people sniggering behind their hands. That's why our profile is currently hidden!

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

2 of my freinds know both of them are awesome people and im glad i knew them before fab. They ate both on here

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away

Pretty much everyone that is close to me. I have managed to changed most of their perceptions of what'swingers' are too. It's unbelievable that they stereotype swingers all the same (not favourably either) and when they have met some of my friends I have met on here on a 'vanilla' night out they have actually said to me " they were really nice and I'm surprised how normal they were" Ffs what did you think they were going to be like?? Having sex in the middle of the dance floor for everyone to watch?? being open with my friends has made my pass time more excepted for sure. Even converted a couple of them onto this site and I'm taking my friends brother (purely platonic) to a club on Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i nearly told someone on friday when d*unk

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

A few of our vanilla friends know, but we don't go around telling people. We're not ashamed of the fact we are swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are pretty open about the clubs we visit and the bondage equipment I make , but I keep everything extremely secret from work colleagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non atall hahah

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Hell no, I cop for plenty of stick without a shower full of rugby lads with more ammunition against me!

_tripper9

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of ginger's should know seeing they've had their fair share of fun together but he doesn't know that I know

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