FabSwingers.com forum: Help needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have only recently joined fab, only met one guy so far. But i havent been with many men at all, and not many lately, so i have been used to pleasuring myself, mostly with rabbits and bullets and the like, I have now found that a man can not bring me to orgasm, i enjoy it, and i get turned on by oral and fingers etc but i just cant orgasm. Any tips? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have only recently joined fab, only met one guy so far. But i havent been with many men at all, and not many lately, so i have been used to pleasuring myself, mostly with rabbits and bullets and the like, I have now found that a man can not bring me to orgasm, i enjoy it, and i get turned on by oral and fingers etc but i just cant orgasm. Any tips? x"

Don't worry about it. You orgasm with D.I.Y so it's clear there is nothing physically wrong.

It takes a lot of time for sex partners to discover the exact way to bring each other to orgasm and just to complicate matters what works for me one time wont work another time.

~Sex with others brings pleasures you cant bring to yourself and sex with yourself can be luciously indulgent. Enjoy it and don't percieve it as a problem xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, i think i just get myself stressed out about meeting someone new and trying to hard to make myself orgasm, I know i am not used to a mans touch, hence why i was looking for one guy, thought that way we could learn how each others bodies work together.

Will just see what happens, thank you again xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong in giving yourself a little help in order to reach climax.

Hence I like being on top or doggy, as I can reach and help myself while the gent is inside me.

Learnt that from watching porn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously... Find another man.

It may be that you need more of a connection with a partner, above and beyond physical attraction, in order to let yourself go...

This may be a swing site, but it can also (with time and patience) be a great way to make longer term relationships with "like minded people"

If your Rabbit can do it then the right partner certainly can...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax and enjoy the fun don't b afraid to tell the guys whats really gets you going ,they love it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just feel that its always me making myself orgasm, i would love a guy to do that for me.

Yes maybe i am with the wrong man, i need a very patient one to guide me and help me and i need to learn how to relax

As for telling a guy what to do, i am a confident person, but i never speak my mind, i know i should, and i guess when he hits the right place i moan louder as a little clue , but he never seems to get the hint lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually climax via oral with or without fingers, and have yet to reach orgasm with penetration alone without helping myself.

I don't care how I get my orgasms so long as I have them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have never orgasmed through penetration alone either, but can if i use my toy or my fingers, i guess no one knows the exact place apart from the woman herself, and it is a learning curve, just not easy in a swinging world! x

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