FabSwingers.com forum: Who in a couple is the meet arranger?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you decide to have a meet, do you both look together or does one of you take charge and do the searching and arranging? I know for us it is me mostly for single meets but if I want a 'party' then Mr. arranges it! What is your preference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer Mr to do all the arranging as for some reason I am just rubbish at it. I can spend days talking to people and it falling through. He tends to sort it quick

Occasionally he has forgotten to even look at the guy for me lol x normally when distracted by great legs or boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do all the arranging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always me ( Andrew ) .

Sabrina trusts my judgement and really can't be bothered with the hassle lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do all the arranging "

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys we both look at profile and pictures, if Shaz likes then I will do the messaging.

When we used to seek ladies I left that to Shaz although we don't seek them on swingers sites now as found a better way for that

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

MrH does all our couples account meets but MrsH does hers on her own profile if she wants to surprise him or have some fun on her own.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we arrange meets together, I do most of the messaging with A reading them all and if we both like the person/people we sort a date and time agreeable to us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

I'm still part of a couple no matter what profile I'm on

And if you think I'm going to sign out of this profile to sign into my couples one to then search for this thread, just to say 'I do the arranging' your sadly mistaken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

Quote "Who in a couple is the meet arranger?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use this account jointly, but it's S that makes the call on arranging! Firstly coz I couldn't organise myself out of a paper bag, and secondly she has to feel totally comfortable with the guy before inviting them back! Of course I get equal say too, so if either one isn't 100 % comfortable it's a polite "no" from us

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

Quote "Who in a couple is the meet arranger?"

I hate to be pedantic but quote "they are asking" I just thought if the question is being asked from a single person its ok to answer from a single person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

Quote "Who in a couple is the meet arranger?"

I hate to be pedantic but quote "they are asking" I just thought if the question is being asked from a single person its ok to answer from a single person.

Behind every single woman theres a good man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

As to the original question,I mr.G do the searching and arranging,sweet has the final say on everything.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

its a slow day

I can't find anything else to do

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

Quote "Who in a couple is the meet arranger?"

I hate to be pedantic but quote "they are asking" I just thought if the question is being asked from a single person its ok to answer from a single person.

Behind every single woman theres a good man

if she's lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

its a slow day

I can't find anything else to do

"
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Then get that blouse ironed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in a couple I want us both to do the arranging.

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

I do all the searching, messaging and arranging meets. If I left it up to him then we'd never meet anyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

its a slow day

I can't find anything else to do

Then get that blouse ironed

Its not a blouse its my skin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (male) select the target , Mouse goes in for the kill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr does all the leg work here as Mrs can't be bothered then I show the Mrs , including chat and she says yes or no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the kind of meet we want but tends to be that I cin chat to them first and if they're a match for the kind of person we're looking then we either arrange a meet or invited to speak to ginger on her account so that she can surprise me as she sees fit. Helps out the fakes,timewasters and fantasists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have access to the account but I (Mr) do most of the messaging and arranging mainly because Mrs can't be bothered

but we only meet people we have mutually agreed on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when I've met couples I would say almost everytime it's been the female I chat to the most.

Only once has it ever been the male. (Actually arranging)

Although I do chat to them both anyway. (Usually)

Sorry for the reposts it didn't make sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was in a couple I want us both to do the arranging. "

Now see.

The problem I see with that is.

It's rate you're both going to agree on the same person.

I'd guess that the main reason that one half of the couple (him or her) tends to take the lead when arranging.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

It is normally my husband who arranges things, I will look at the profile, read the messages and if i'm not interested or spot something he has missed I will let him know.

He does most of the messaging, mainly because I get fed up with the bloke trying to talk dirty with me then deleting his messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*rare.

stupid phone today!! (Grrrrrr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We decide what type of meet we want.

He goes online, gets excited and sends out 200 mails forgetting what we agreed.

I go online and decide who I like and mail the ones who replied to his mail.

They rarely reply to my mail because apparently I'm shit at mails.

He goes back online, mails them again and they are all chatty with him.

We meet and have fun.

So I guess it's him that sorts it for us.

(On our couple profile... not this one clearly....)

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I do more of the chatting and deciding if I fancy the person....then we both decide if it is going to happen. If Mr Ruggers is unhappy with my choice for any reason the meet doesn't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

We both do. Both look at profiles, message people, etc. And we both agree on who we're meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly always Mr when it comes to arranging partys. He knows what I like.

I don't have the time to sit chatting on here that often. Now when Mr p is away I arrange all by myself.

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

S does 99% of the chatting and picking as its singles we want to meet. We both decide on who gets lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" We both decide on who gets lucky. "

Now this really pisses me off with couples.

They seriously think that we should be "lucky".

The second I even sense they are viewing it like I should be grateful I've pulled out of meets because of it.

I did it last week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" We both decide on who gets lucky.

Now this really pisses me off with couples.

They seriously think that we should be "lucky".

The second I even sense they are viewing it like I should be grateful I've pulled out of meets because of it.

I did it last week. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" We both decide on who gets lucky.

Now this really pisses me off with couples.

They seriously think that we should be "lucky".

The second I even sense they are viewing it like I should be grateful I've pulled out of meets because of it.

I did it last week. "

There's gratitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is usually me on here (Mrs). We make any decisions jointly though.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We both search, angel does the majority of messaging

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester

With us it's Mr Pinups doing all the legwork on Fab with searching and messaging and then Mrs Pinups comes along and adds (or nor as the case may be) her seal of approval before we arrange a chat on the phone and meet up socially. So ultimately both involved at the initial stages.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"When you decide to have a meet, do you both look together or does one of you take charge and do the searching and arranging? I know for us it is me mostly for single meets but if I want a 'party' then Mr. arranges it! What is your preference?

If we are messaging someone about a meet then it's because both of us are in full agreement. Doesn't matter if its a couple or a single.

I tend to do most of the actual messaging but it's with Mr B's input and full knowledge.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

We always do it together, saves raising someone's hopes only for them to be rejected later on. We sit down from time to time, me on my phone, mrs ddc on her hudl, and throw names at each other.

As for who gets lucky, hopefully everyone involved will feel that afterwards.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both talk to the guys but as my bf has more experience in this type of thing he has final say

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

" We both decide on who gets lucky.

Now this really pisses me off with couples.

They seriously think that we should be "lucky".

The second I even sense they are viewing it like I should be grateful I've pulled out of meets because of it.

I did it last week. "

Figure of speech.

Besides, pull out all you want, there's hundreds about to fill the devastating void that would leave in people's lives.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If I was in a couple I want us both to do the arranging.

Now see.

The problem I see with that is.

It's rate you're both going to agree on the same person.

I'd guess that the main reason that one half of the couple (him or her) tends to take the lead when arranging. "

For us it's important that we both agree on who we're meeting/messaging. Our free time is so limited and we only meet privately that we don't want to waste it by meeting those that we aren't both 100% about.

It can make finding meets difficult as we very rarely agree on people, especially couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was in a couple I want us both to do the arranging.

Now see.

The problem I see with that is.

It's rate you're both going to agree on the same person.

I'd guess that the main reason that one half of the couple (him or her) tends to take the lead when arranging.

It can make finding meets difficult as we very rarely agree on people, especially couples. "

Ah. Now here's a couple I always enjoy chatting to..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

Quote "Who in a couple is the meet arranger?"

The lady is answering from a single profile but may well be part of a couple. Us fems usually have a single profile as well as a couples. What exactly is your problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems no matter what is asked,or who answers it,some busybody is going to finds holes to pick

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Aint that the truth !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do all the arranging

Then surely you should had answered this thread on your couples profile..after all they are asking for answers from couples

Look again, it's a woman's profile asking

Quote "Who in a couple is the meet arranger?"

The lady is answering from a single profile but may well be part of a couple. Us fems usually have a single profile as well as a couples. What exactly is your problem

I dont have a problem...i do have an opinion though..as do you !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Its always the me (female half) who chats initially and arranges meets

I know my OH well enough to know what type of person he'll get on with and he leaves me to it as he trusts my judgement

When we first started it was very much the both of us who went through all the messages together,chatted together ect,he soon got bored with all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me and my hubby, although many of my meets are arranged by me on my single profile and i normally meet alone, hubby has to be excited by it otherwise there is no point in me meeting. Believe it or not my hubby is more picky than me. I've virtually given up meeting new people because it's so difficult for us to agree on someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're pretty equal in the arranging - the chatting beforehand as well - depends who's feels chatty that day. The forum posts thus far is all me (Mrs) though.

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