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"After reading some of the replies on another thread,it made us wonder. Have any of the members, who put personality first,looks unimportant and don't bother with pic's,ever met someone on the strength of phone calls,messages etc and got on great. Then when they eventually meet,found they had no physical attraction whatsoever,despite the others sparkling personality. Surely its bound to have happened and how did they deal with it,having already said "looks unimportant"? XXXX" I agree with you. I always say - as do other cliche ridden fools - it's personality that counts. Yeah .. in getting to like someone and in making life long friends it does. In the short term fuck fining fiasco LOOKS matter. I could marry a munter i'd learned to love but I couldn't shag an ugly stranger...... end of. | |||
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"For us personality is paramount. We have seen couples in clubs and thought WOW, but when we have chatted to them we have decided they are not for us. We have got chatting to people in clubs that we didn't really notice at first and probably wouldn't be someone we would contact online but thier personalities have wooed us and we have had some great playtimes together. Thats the problem with net meets, you never really see the personality until you meet in person though we do try to convey some of our personality in our profile and pictures." Thats the thing though,it was the looks that attracted you initialy before you realised their personality was suspect. We too couldn't have sex with someone we didn't gel with. But what about meeting blind,on the strength of personality alone,then finding theres no attraction? XXXX | |||
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"For us personality is paramount. We have seen couples in clubs and thought WOW, but when we have chatted to them we have decided they are not for us. We have got chatting to people in clubs that we didn't really notice at first and probably wouldn't be someone we would contact online but thier personalities have wooed us and we have had some great playtimes together. Thats the problem with net meets, you never really see the personality until you meet in person though we do try to convey some of our personality in our profile and pictures. Thats the thing though,it was the looks that attracted you initialy before you realised their personality was suspect. We too couldn't have sex with someone we didn't gel with. But what about meeting blind,on the strength of personality alone,then finding theres no attraction? XXXX" We only ever arrange net meets on the basis of "no strings" to see if we the spark is there, if not we always seem to make new friends and have some laughs anyway. | |||
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"If we meet you, trust us it's not only on the menu but done and dusted But that is because we meet couples who want to meet us for that scenario However it takes ages to do the phone calls etc to ensure everybody is happy We get an idea by the initial emails and our profile is quite extensive in what we are after We actually turn down a lot of requests for one reason or another.. Normally those which state stuff like.. Let the girls have a play, going for dinner etc But then that is us and our rules.. But all said and done we have taken a flyer on last minute meets bfore and not been disappointed But you get an idea if you would get on by the type of pictures and tone of emails or profiles " Exactly,that's how we are. As you say,you can tell by phone calls and emails plus you already know how they look from pics and we haven't been disappointed yet. Could never do a blind date though,no matter how nice they seemed on the phone etc. XXXX | |||
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"funny how this post just been put up ive just met a cpl well wouldnt say met they sat looking at me in there car pretending not to no me but for me looks mean nothing its personality its whats on the inside that counts " Ahh,now we're getting there,someone who can meet on the strength of personality alone. So,can you honestly say as long as the personality is there looks don't matter? Have you never been unable to perform because the looks didn't turn you on,despite the personality? XXXX | |||
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"Depends on what basis your first meet is, many members on here, me included, make a first meet a drink/coffee and chat only affair. For me, and many others, this is the ideal way to establish whether I gel with a guy or couple....regardless of what they looked like on the photo they sent me." That's how I do it! | |||
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"If we meet you, trust us it's not only on the menu but done and dusted But that is because we meet couples who want to meet us for that scenario However it takes ages to do the phone calls etc to ensure everybody is happy We get an idea by the initial emails and our profile is quite extensive in what we are after We actually turn down a lot of requests for one reason or another.. Normally those which state stuff like.. Let the girls have a play, going for dinner etc But then that is us and our rules.. But all said and done we have taken a flyer on last minute meets bfore and not been disappointed But you get an idea if you would get on by the type of pictures and tone of emails or profiles Exactly,that's how we are. As you say,you can tell by phone calls and emails plus you already know how they look from pics and we haven't been disappointed yet. Could never do a blind date though,no matter how nice they seemed on the phone etc. XXXX" | |||
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"I would'nt do a blind date,I like to have an idea of what people look like,plus I want to give them the same chance to say no thanks you're not my type " ARRRGH! Hell yes could you imagine that,turning up on a blind date and the other couple ran a mile. How embarrassing and crushing would that be? We'd never swing again! XXXX | |||
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" Looks AND personality = fuckable. Looks NO personality = Not fuckable Personality and NO looks = fuckable. No looks No personality ... uhmmm Seems personality wins ....... Overall winner has to be hygeine tho ... Cos bags of personality but stinky is a def no go ...." practical as ever | |||
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"I would'nt do a blind date,I like to have an idea of what people look like,plus I want to give them the same chance to say no thanks you're not my type ARRRGH! Hell yes could you imagine that,turning up on a blind date and the other couple ran a mile. How embarrassing and crushing would that be? We'd never swing again! XXXX" Ive had that, he tried to hide behind a pole then walked off, but i wouldnt let it put me off especially as i didnt chat to him through a swingers site but a social network site | |||
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" Looks AND personality = fuckable. Looks NO personality = Not fuckable Personality and NO looks = fuckable. No looks No personality ... uhmmm Seems personality wins ....... Overall winner has to be hygeine tho ... Cos bags of personality but stinky is a def no go ...." . Personality No Looks = Not fuckable for me, sorry! | |||
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"After reading some of the replies on another thread,it made us wonder. Have any of the members, who put personality first,looks unimportant and don't bother with pic's,ever met someone on the strength of phone calls,messages etc and got on great. Then when they eventually meet,found they had no physical attraction whatsoever,despite the others sparkling personality. Surely its bound to have happened and how did they deal with it,having already said "looks unimportant"? XXXX" Well as ya know im one of those that say personality is more important to looks any day for me I don't actually meet as such off profiles and never have I talk to people on msn and the forums etc I don't actually take much notice of pics because i have found out over the years that they are not always an accurate reflection even if they are up to date If someone comes over as approachable and Happy go lucky then i go from there I have on occasions see peeps in clubs that didn't really appeal to me until they opened their mouths and spoke or by their actions etc On the other hand i have seen folks that i thought were drop dead gorgeous and quickly changed my mind when they have opened their mouths and been really shallow and spiteful in their manner Hope this goes some way to explaining how i see people and shows that yes in the main i feel personality is more important to me personally than looks xx | |||
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