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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I was on an online dating site over summer, different to this, and had been chatting to this girl since the Christmas before, then she went silent and then she got back in touch. She was everything I thought I wanted, beautiful (from her pics), clever, (she was 'investigating dark matter'), financially stable (which meant she had her own flat in central London, and knew about luxury brands, tickling my slightly posh side), and just... Seemed amazing. I never met her,but I fell in love with the idea of her because I'm stupid... She 'went to Italy' in august, and she told me she needed space, so I stopped whatsapping. I'm sad because she seemed amazing ...

until! I'm going through my phone this morning, and see 'her' number come up, with a picture of a guy in the contact screen! It sounds stupid and please don't be like 'you should have met him/her before!' but, without sounding cliched it felt so real? Now I'm uber suspect of anyone.

Has anyone ever been catfished?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless you Hun! I really don't get why people do things like that! I've had similar things but I've picked up on it before it got too far xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone, loads of people have. Smile and move on.

Anyway, perhaps she has a new bf and the pic is him....?

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Not exactly catfished but i used to chat to a black guy on here.. Swapped numbers, texting and then he suddenly went quiet.. Profile deleted. I didnt think anything of it at first... Until, like you i was scrolling through my whatsapp... Hes actually a white guy with a profile on here!!!

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By *ayne78Man
over a year ago

Crook

This same thing happened to me 3 years ago it hurts like hell & people don't get it cos "you never met her " but you do form a big emotional attachment big hugs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're not alone, loads of people have. Smile and move on.

Anyway, perhaps she has a new bf and the pic is him....?"

'she' was a very staunch lesbian! And there are two other girls in the picture, but neither of them her... Yeah, smile and move on, its a bit of a woahhhh that's all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tempted to send them a message 'just going through my phone... Who are you?' and see if I get a response....

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

It's a shock especially when you think you're savvy anyway but some people are really clever

Anyone see Tall hot blonde? That was a horrific catfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tempted to send them a message 'just going through my phone... Who are you?' and see if I get a response...."

......move on, it won't end well.

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sad that you've been a victim of this - it's lousy and it hurts...

I got caught by profile on a lesbian site, everything was right, style of writing, the whole thing...

But slowly I realised, and had to back off - and the memory still hurts.

You can usually spot them a mile off on here, but the people who do it are small-minded, vicious and totally despicable - utter scum-suckers!

Big hugs and sympathy...

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By *nknownCallerMan
over a year ago

Bath

Could that possibly be one of those fraudster types?

They usually build up a big story of wealth, comfort & life style - which crashes & results in them asking for small amounts of money!

It's just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could that possibly be one of those fraudster types?

They usually build up a big story of wealth, comfort & life style - which crashes & results in them asking for small amounts of money!

It's just a thought"

I thought that as well but no, she never asked for money, 'booking' a fancy holiday in madrid... 'she' knew all about Alex McQueen and Prada etc all couldve been discovered from a quick Google... The writing was exactly like a girl too, just a total mind fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chatted to a lesbian for months. I figured out she was a man early on but carried on chatting as s/he was nice and it was good fun. I eventually told him I knew his secret and he stopped chatting which was a shame. Didn't bother me at all, I even told him I'd be happy to carry on chatting to 'her'.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I am sorry that this happened to you

Hope you get over it sooner rather than later; xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sad guys do this! it's hard enough being a single guy in a world where the females have the pick but people love mind games and the internet is full of them.

Just be yourself try not to think all profiles will be catfish but I'm sure your talk or video chat at an early stage now from experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a catfish....

I'm actually a Ghanaian lesbian called millicent. Who knew?!

Well.....me obviously...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's sad guys do this! it's hard enough being a single guy in a world where the females have the pick but people love mind games and the internet is full of them.

Just be yourself try not to think all profiles will be catfish but I'm sure your talk or video chat at an early stage now from experience.

"

It is unpleasant but it happens to men and women.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Tempted to send them a message 'just going through my phone... Who are you?' and see if I get a response...."

you might as well - if not lead them on and flirt about a meet, send tit's out

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151


"Tempted to send them a message 'just going through my phone... Who are you?' and see if I get a response...."

My personal suggestion is not to do it... because if it was a game to them from the start, this will just empower them to in one way or another to potentially lie to you or make you believe that the picture is of someone important to them but they are definitely into you... and you might with the best intention believe them and fall deeper into the game... I know this because I have been there... just a suggestion though... hope you are not offended with what I said... don't feel silly for feeling the way you did and do... you were genuine...they were not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was on an online dating site over summer, different to this, and had been chatting to this girl since the Christmas before, then she went silent and then she got back in touch. She was everything I thought I wanted, beautiful (from her pics), clever, (she was 'investigating dark matter'), financially stable (which meant she had her own flat in central London, and knew about luxury brands, tickling my slightly posh side), and just... Seemed amazing. I never met her,but I fell in love with the idea of her because I'm stupid... She 'went to Italy' in august, and she told me she needed space, so I stopped whatsapping. I'm sad because she seemed amazing ...

until! I'm going through my phone this morning, and see 'her' number come up, with a picture of a guy in the contact screen! It sounds stupid and please don't be like 'you should have met him/her before!' but, without sounding cliched it felt so real? Now I'm uber suspect of anyone.

Has anyone ever been catfished?

"

Hate to say this but

why didnt you have a skype conversation with her at the start

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I was on an online dating site over summer, different to this, and had been chatting to this girl since the Christmas before, then she went silent and then she got back in touch. She was everything I thought I wanted, beautiful (from her pics), clever, (she was 'investigating dark matter'), financially stable (which meant she had her own flat in central London, and knew about luxury brands, tickling my slightly posh side), and just... Seemed amazing. I never met her,but I fell in love with the idea of her because I'm stupid... She 'went to Italy' in august, and she told me she needed space, so I stopped whatsapping. I'm sad because she seemed amazing ...

until! I'm going through my phone this morning, and see 'her' number come up, with a picture of a guy in the contact screen! It sounds stupid and please don't be like 'you should have met him/her before!' but, without sounding cliched it felt so real? Now I'm uber suspect of anyone.

Has anyone ever been catfished?

Hate to say this but

why didnt you have a skype conversation with her at the start

"

When we got chatting, she was just about to go to Italy and I wasn't in the mood to skype then, we'd been talkin for like three days, seemed a bit eager... so 'when she went to Italy' the 'house she was staying at had poor wifi' as 'it was in a tiny village by the sea' and by the time she 'got back', they'd decided to stop talking to me. So yes, silly me but also no, not silly me.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Seriously ?

I treat all profiles as if they probably have a man or a malevolent school girl at the helm xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously ?

I treat all profiles as if they probably have a man or a malevolent school girl at the helm xx "

That's a shame.....to live so suspiciously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrr what's catfished?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Errrr what's catfished? "

Hoodwinked into believing someone you meet on line is someone other than they really are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhhhhhh. Dirty horrible bastards.

Not nice.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

pmsl - I get it all the time .. my favourite was one where I was invited to cam .. the guy was saying his wife was on the bed and wanted to see my cock before meeting. I asked to see her, he said she was shy, I asked to see a little of her. At which point - believe this or not, he tired to reach out of the view of the cam lens and wave!

Another from a 'woman' inviting me to a gloryhole, I backed out saying my luck you would probably be a man. It was all kisses and kind flirtation up until that point, the reply was a blokes handshake of a reply, 'probably wise' or something.

The good side of this OP is, at least you dont have a cock. The advantage of have a pussy is enormous for getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously ?

I treat all profiles as if they probably have a man or a malevolent school girl at the helm xx "

Me too, although recently met up with a woman who the first time she contacted us, we rejected her because we assumed she was fake! No verifications or photos in her profile!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Seriously ?

I treat all profiles as if they probably have a man or a malevolent school girl at the helm xx "

Unfortunately, sad as it is, I do the same, until I chat and see the woman/couple on Skype

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"pmsl - I get it all the time .. my favourite was one where I was invited to cam .. the guy was saying his wife was on the bed and wanted to see my cock before meeting. I asked to see her, he said she was shy, I asked to see a little of her. At which point - believe this or not, he tired to reach out of the view of the cam lens and wave!

Another from a 'woman' inviting me to a gloryhole, I backed out saying my luck you would probably be a man. It was all kisses and kind flirtation up until that point, the reply was a blokes handshake of a reply, 'probably wise' or something.

The good side of this OP is, at least you dont have a cock. The advantage of have a pussy is enormous for getting meets "

Giggled at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was on an online dating site over summer, different to this, and had been chatting to this girl since the Christmas before, then she went silent and then she got back in touch. She was everything I thought I wanted, beautiful (from her pics), clever, (she was 'investigating dark matter'), financially stable (which meant she had her own flat in central London, and knew about luxury brands, tickling my slightly posh side), and just... Seemed amazing. I never met her,but I fell in love with the idea of her because I'm stupid... She 'went to Italy' in august, and she told me she needed space, so I stopped whatsapping. I'm sad because she seemed amazing ...

until! I'm going through my phone this morning, and see 'her' number come up, with a picture of a guy in the contact screen! It sounds stupid and please don't be like 'you should have met him/her before!' but, without sounding cliched it felt so real? Now I'm uber suspect of anyone.

Has anyone ever been catfished?

Hate to say this but

why didnt you have a skype conversation with her at the start

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"pmsl - I get it all the time .. my favourite was one where I was invited to cam .. the guy was saying his wife was on the bed and wanted to see my cock before meeting. I asked to see her, he said she was shy, I asked to see a little of her. At which point - believe this or not, he tired to reach out of the view of the cam lens and wave!

Another from a 'woman' inviting me to a gloryhole, I backed out saying my luck you would probably be a man. It was all kisses and kind flirtation up until that point, the reply was a blokes handshake of a reply, 'probably wise' or something.

The good side of this OP is, at least you dont have a cock. The advantage of have a pussy is enormous for getting meets

Giggled at that.

"

Yeah me too!

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By *aturdayNightSexCouple
over a year ago

Tameside, Manchester

I think after being on here for a while, when you're very aware of the amount of fake profiles and time wasters you become somewhat immune to catfishers. If someone isn't willing to verify they are who they say they are within a couple of weeks chatting, they aren't worth wasting any more time on them.

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