FabSwingers.com forum: how the messages change when they find its hubby

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bloody hell ladies . Feel sorry for you lot though you probably so used to it you laugh hard. Funny how messages go from the obscene to a normal conversation when me the mr comes online and god the offensive thats taken when my wife either tells them shes new and taking her time or not her type.

Wtf is it with blokes? So many bruised egos or not loved enough by there mothers. Ooh and the poor sods who are sending emails now asking why shes not talking lmao. So endearing.

In all honesty im quite shocked shes still on here. Can just see the wood from the trees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell ladies . Feel sorry for you lot though you probably so used to it you laugh hard. Funny how messages go from the obscene to a normal conversation when me the mr comes online and god the offensive thats taken when my wife either tells them shes new and taking her time or not her type.

Wtf is it with blokes? So many bruised egos or not loved enough by there mothers. Ooh and the poor sods who are sending emails now asking why shes not talking lmao. So endearing.

In all honesty im quite shocked shes still on here. Can just see the wood from the trees "

More wood than I've seen anywhere!

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I honestly don't get guys who do this. How do they think they are going to get a meet with a COUPLE if they don't respect both partners??? I prefer to chat to both partners on cam and try and get to know both of them, that way you know pretty much from the start if a meet might be on the cards.

Goof luck with it guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

More wood than I've seen anywhere! "

Pmfsl shame there's a lot of kindling acting as oak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More wood than I've seen anywhere!

Pmfsl shame there's a lot of kindling acting as oak "

A lot of saps too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep it the same, as I never know who I am talking to. I tend to be polite till I find out how the other person, is then adjust the conversation to suit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep it the same, as I never know who I am talking to. I tend to be polite till I find out how the other person, is then adjust the conversation to suit."

Most men, just chat as if there are talking to a single Lady and try to ignore the male half

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I say similar things to wife or hubby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf is it with blokes? So many bruised egos or not loved enough by there mothers. Ooh and the poor sods who are sending emails now asking why shes not talking lmao. So endearing.

In all honesty im quite shocked shes still on here. Can just see the wood from the trees "

Basically some men have no respect (self)

BLOCK - REPORT - DELETE - REPEAT

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I keep it the same, as I never know who I am talking to. I tend to be polite till I find out how the other person, is then adjust the conversation to suit.

Most men, just chat as if there are talking to a single Lady and try to ignore the male half "
I don't disagree with that, I just don't understand why they do it tough. A mystery!! J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say similar things to wife or hubby. "

Good morning x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I say similar things to wife or hubby.

Good morning x"

Hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More wood than I've seen anywhere!

Pmfsl shame there's a lot of kindling acting as oak

A lot of saps too....

Damn, I was reading this thread and that was going to my reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adam quite enjoys pretending to be V. Poor chap's getting all excited about what "I'm" going to do to him and its Adam. Makes us giggle but perhaps we are a little odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always presume it's the husband I am chatting to , that way it's saves the embarrassment lol

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I keep it the same whoever I am talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep it the same whoever I am talking to. "

Filthy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent two months talking too a guy solely from a couple. We swapped stories about footy, drinking and sex. Right up until about 3 days before we were scheduled to meet when they disappeared. In hindsight it was probably a bloke getting a kick out winding me up. But for my part I was the real deal!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I spent two months talking too a guy solely from a couple. We swapped stories about footy, drinking and sex. Right up until about 3 days before we were scheduled to meet when they disappeared. In hindsight it was probably a bloke getting a kick out winding me up. But for my part I was the real deal!!

He may have been genuine but one/ both of them got cold feet at the last mminute. Don't feel bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couples profile all mail we get addresses us both equally. I have a theory about why that is, and it always holds true.

OP just use it as an idiot filter.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I keep it the same whoever I am talking to.

Filthy?

haha as soon as i pressed 'send' I knew i was on shaky ground!...Respectful is the answer though.

There is a time for more filthy discussions, and it is when you know someone or it is clear that it is okay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On our couples profile all mail we get addresses us both equally. I have a theory about why that is, and it always holds true.

OP just use it as an idiot filter. "

May i ask your theory? oh and trust the idiot filter is in full affect . Plus i lurk lol

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"On our couples profile all mail we get addresses us both equally. I have a theory about why that is, and it always holds true.

OP just use it as an idiot filter. "

Would that theory go along the lines of if you've only got the female on display in pics and don't speak about both the male and female in the profile text then don't be surprised if only the female is addressed when receiving messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On our couples profile all mail we get addresses us both equally. I have a theory about why that is, and it always holds true.

OP just use it as an idiot filter.

Our profile pic is us both. I find it makes a difference. Plus types of pics... attracts different types of people.

But it's up to everyone to have what pics they want on show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On our couples profile all mail we get addresses us both equally. I have a theory about why that is, and it always holds true.

OP just use it as an idiot filter.

Fair point but then again very few read so it seems. And then theres just the generic sent to 100 people message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On our couples profile all mail we get addresses us both equally. I have a theory about why that is, and it always holds true.

OP just use it as an idiot filter.

Fair point but then again very few read so it seems. And then theres just the generic sent to 100 people message "

Don't feel bad, people rarely read profiles. Have yours the way you want it, just use it as an idiot filter. I have recently changed my mind on this- I think it's better to use it as an idiot filter as it makes the 'good' ones easier to spot.

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By *ustlovingitCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Most messages I get assume that I am the male, like, love your wife's pics etc I get the feeling that peeps assume that the male is the one wanting to pursue the fab thing. We have two profiles and I talk on one and my husband talks on the other and we tell each other who we are talking to and he sends peeps to me if he thinks I will like them. Works for us

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Most of the messages we get from single men are directed at the pair of us.

Very rarely do we get any abuse from them either.

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

Most messages we get are aimed at Steve, or they will address me directly in the title if its to compliment a picture and normally end with "how are you both?" Or "would like to chat to you both" which is respectful enough in my opinion....

Although the profile is clearly written by me, I make it reasonably clear on the forums normally that it's the woman speaking and most of the pictures are of me so actually I find it more annoying when they immediately message with stupid things like "she's hot mate fancy letting me fuck her" lol like - I know I'm hot, why don't you ask me if I want to fuck you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean op. I (amber) do all the writing around here. I am so sick of some of the messages I get. So, I just pretend I'm hubby. Hey presto. They either stop messaging me or they start talking to me like I am an actual real life human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We declined someone politely yesterday and they then sent 12 messages starting with "why not" to a complete mental breakdown by message number 12.

The mind boggles how some people function on a day to day basis with rejection in the real world?

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By *ansingleMan
over a year ago

market Drayton

Wtf is it with blokes? So many bruised egos or not loved enough by there mothers. Ooh and the poor sods who are sending emails now asking why shes not talking lmao. So endearing.

In all honesty im quite shocked shes still on here. Can just see the wood from the trees "

We are that pissed off with it now , I initially send our first message if I like what I see, and can tell instantly when it's the guy replying cos it's always explicit and flirty and mentions my tits or is very suggestive,, and to be fair it does tend to put me off,, so we've got that way now that I let ian take over the conversation and. Then he " picks the bones " out of the messages to see if the " couples " are real or not,, and unfortunately 9 times out of 10 it's a single guy trying his luck

It's so infuriating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My conversation tone and style is pretty much the same whether I'm chatting with a single fem or a couple.

When I'm chatting to the female half and the conversation switches to a sexual tone. .I wouldn't just suddenly change because the hubby came online.

But if the hubby engaged with me in the conversation I wouldn't continue that line of conversation with him.

But that's not because I'm "hiding" anything.

Or for any sinister reason or I didn't want him to know.

It would just be for the pure fact I have no sexual interest in him as myself being a straight male.

I've yet to meet a couple or the female half of a couple where the husband WASN'T aware of the conversation.

It doesn't bother me.

But for the most part. .I dont chat a huge amount that's of an explicit sexual nature.

I prefer to save that for the meet itself.

I tend to generally discuss pre meet likes and dislikes ... turn ons and turn offs.

Other than that it's pretty normal conversation most times.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Our profile pic is us both. I find it makes a difference. Plus types of pics... attracts different types of people.

But it's up to everyone to have what pics they want on show. "

Totally agree with this. Ours are pics of Mrs N only as I don't play just watch but always send my face pic via messages along with hers. Messages addressed to Mrs only we do reply if we're interested stating who's talking at the time, we also mention that we're a couple who like to be addressed as such, however, if the conversation goes on to omit myself it tends to end there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He may have been genuine but one/ both of them got cold feet at the last mminute. Don't feel bad. "

I only feel bad in so much as if they were genuine she had a fantastic arse and i didn't get to grab it lol.

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