FabSwingers.com forum: friends or just random sex partners ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondered how people here view the people they meet.To meet someone I have to consider them a friend, someone I get along with.I get the impression my view isn't shared by many here.....am I wrong ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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If anyone became a friend I wouldn't want sex with them.

An aquaintance or a stranger I would have NSA sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one or two people I meet semi regularly and it's just sexual and others I meet who are close friends but there is also a sexual connection. So again I guess it just depends on the situation and what you/they are looking for and more importantly, it's all about what works for all parties involved xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have one or two people I meet semi regularly and it's just sexual and others I meet who are close friends but there is also a sexual connection. So again I guess it just depends on the situation and what you/they are looking for and more importantly, it's all about what works for all parties involved xx"

I'm the same - friends for all occasions lol!

I have some that I only chat too on here.

Other Friends I have slept with & we're very close - friends I chat every day to - friends who I call every now & again to arrange a club night or shag fest but one thing is in common - if I had a friend that was in need, regardless I'd do what I could to help. To me that's who I'd define as a friend!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I must be old fashioned....I couldn't have sex with someone I didn't get along with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made some great friends on here, people I can txt just about everyday stuff. Friends with benefits mmm x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose it's all about whether you view people as an object or as someone you have a connection with.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

"I suppose it's all about whether you view people as an object or as someone you have a connection with."

Not necessarily.. It's the situation that we find interesting..

i have said it before.. You can find some facial beauty in most people, the gene pool sorts that out..

(well we say that generously we live in the fens)

We are on Rugbys lines but sometimes we want to met people we have met before as the situation is less "dangerous" (for want of a better word) but just as sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have made some great friends on here, people I can txt just about everyday stuff. Friends with benefits mmm x

Totally agree !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some turn out to be friends, some turn out to be a shag ..

Some even turn out to be good friends and some can turn out to be a lousy shag ....

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

It seems to be infinitely variable for us but now you’ve got me thinking about it, it’s not, there is a pattern...

We have friendships that vary in strength/depth as in ‘a mate’ to ‘close friend. Through the swinging hobby we have made new 'mates' and we've made some great new 'friends'. We have sexual activities with some and some we don’t.

If the situation is a person/couple off here for example for what might end up as a more intimate session at our place or theirs then we’d want to see there was the makings of a friendship before we even meet them, if not then it won’t happen. The classic incoming PM with the line something like ‘I’m in your area this evening fancy meeting for some fun’ is NEVER going to work for them with us.

At a party either or both of us would and have had sex with another person(s) without hardly exchanging words, never mind exchanging names but by then we would have spent an hour or two in their company, exchanging banter, or just seeing them interact with others. When it gets to clothes off time body language does 99% of the talking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess it goes to prove that everyone has their own viewpoint and outlook on things.We can't all be the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have made some great friends on here, people I can txt just about everyday stuff. Friends with benefits mmm x

Totally agree !

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like bieng "friends" with the added benefit of some nice sexy playtimes.

These days , i couldnt just shag and go. And wouldnt want to know anyone who wants that kind of meet.

Good sex CAN happen quite spontaniously but i prefer the sex when you get to know your partner a little more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like bieng "friends" with the added benefit of some nice sexy playtimes.

These days , i couldnt just shag and go. And wouldnt want to know anyone who wants that kind of meet.

Good sex CAN happen quite spontaniously but i prefer the sex when you get to know your partner a little more.

Well said Peaches!!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I like bieng "friends" with the added benefit of some nice sexy playtimes.

These days , i couldnt just shag and go. And wouldnt want to know anyone who wants that kind of meet.

Good sex CAN happen quite spontaniously but i prefer the sex when you get to know your partner a little more.

Well said Peaches!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open this one is to me. On one hand i wouldnt want to do what i would to a female friend. It wouldnt seem right letting my filthy ass loose on her making her scream, shout, and blow her mind like a air bomb firework.I picture one female friend i av now,very pretty lady,all her bits in order, and in honesty we could of earlier in the year but didnt cos i didnt dig or feel it...Pussy eh.lol

The other side is, she's a friend, we know each other, we've talked so much sexual stuff that we probs know what we want weather her and me or mr&mrs dd and her.I think id feel like going that extra yard cos as a real close friend for many a year and many a fuck the arse off you thoughts towards her i want her to enjoy every second of it like me/us,that way she'll be wanting more with any luck.As a rule,friendships to me mean more than a fuck,a shout and a, see ya soon. I personally wouldnt risk losing a friend over swapping some fluids.Then again avin said that too,weve had a few top draw nights with a couple friends we have.Still friends,still av respect and yes,will do it many more times with them again....God im waffling,like i said, open this one.Down to the person/persons,situation,alcahol,moment,horn etc etc..........

So in all, a wasted post really as no conclusion drawn. Except,hard now cos of a thought i had.Friend,me,naked, her bent over..grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, most of the people we play with become good friends who we socialise with as often as possible, most of the time we don't play but do meet for drinks, play on the Wii, go for a meal, chat to in the clubs etc and occasionally when the time, place and mood is right we play again.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Some are one, some are the other, some are both.

Welcome to the Venn Diagram of my sex life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some are one, some are the other, some are both.

Welcome to the Venn Diagram of my sex life!"

I use Caroll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont class anyone as a friend til i have met them

I meet people, first meet, because i find them attractive and if they seem ok to talk to

after i have met them i decide if i like them enough to clsass them as a friend lol

tho to be honest i play with very few men i meet, all because i agree to meet someone that does not mean i will have sex with them, i walk away from more meet than i play, if it dont feel right i dont go thro with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both as ive met one offs that are down my way very rarely but others i meet regularly and i consider to be friends that i chat about everything (almost) with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gents that I decide to meet are usually considered as potential playmates, in the hope that they become friends with benefits.

However, it does not always happen that way, and quite a few ended up as one-offs.

Such as life!

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Generally, for us home meets are for friends, clubs are for random sex partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made some great friends on here. Friends and lovers. If I was to give up swinging tomorrow the friends would still be in my life.

The way I also look at it is, there is stuff you cannot talk through with vanilla friends, so swinging friends are necessary.

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