FabSwingers.com forum: Emotions and sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you have a void of emotions when you swing.... Do you leave that part out when you have an extra in the bedroom?.

If you meet a person/couple on a regular basis do you still void the emotions ...

It's a question that I've always wanted to ask others. Ip

Also have you ever let you emotions get the better of you whilst playing ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No neither of us are void of emotions when we meet others for sex. We haven't met people more than twice so far so that hasn't come up and it follows that emotions towards another person or people haven't been a problem.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Do you have a void of emotions when you swing.... Do you leave that part out when you have an extra in the bedroom?.

If you meet a person/couple on a regular basis do you still void the emotions ...

It's a question that I've always wanted to ask others. Ip

Also have you ever let you emotions get the better of you whilst playing ?"

It's a 'how long is a piece of string' question in my opinion - it depends totally on the person and the dynamic between you. I am very open emotionally so yes, sometimes I give it free rein, and yet some people I can meet repeatedly and know we will never affect each other that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While fucking anyone, including someone i love, there isn't much love in there, it's all lust for me. I love fucking them, the kissing and everything outside of the sex is what makes something loving or not for me.

I do kiss meets, and without any personal connection to them it's sexy and lustful and not love or loving, and brings up no feelings of attachment for me.

I've even been meeting people for months, regularly and do 'love' their company and the sex we have but there's nothing more there for me.

Did fall for a guy on here, he said he'd done the same, but we spoke all the time as well, about everything and we'd started building a connection with each other in ways other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any sexual arousal is 'love' just a higher or lower degree of it, i put all my emotions into my meets....all or nothing for me, i dont like folks that hold back....feels like deception to me

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

When we Swing, we are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, we are still emotionally monogamous, spiritually monogamous, etc.

One way to look at swinging is imagine sitting down every night of your life and having dinner with just your partner, and then imagine inviting friends round for dinner, or going out to a restaurant. It's fun, it's exciting it's different, but you wouldn't want to do it every night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want/need to connect to the people I'm playing with. It would be pointless otherwise for me. So emotions play a part. That said, they are emotions in context. This is what it is.

There have been a few rare occasions when I've connected strongly with someone and things have gone a little ott emotion wise, but I remind myself of the context and all is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just going thro a post sex slump afteerr spending three hhrs masturbating on the phone with my Master running a bath n gonna have an early nite

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I want/need to connect to the people I'm playing with. It would be pointless otherwise for me. So emotions play a part. That said, they are emotions in context. This is what it is.

There have been a few rare occasions when I've connected strongly with someone and things have gone a little ott emotion wise, but I remind myself of the context and all is good. "

^^This for me also, I never confuse the two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, it's just scratching and itch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, it's just scratching and itch."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met lots swinging never had feelings, then last year met someone and it developed. We no longer together and she's with someone else (through swinging ) , I'll never get attatched again just good sex from now on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've met lots swinging never had feelings, then last year met someone and it developed. We no longer together and she's with someone else (through swinging ) , I'll never get attatched again just good sex from now on "

Agreed.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"I want/need to connect to the people I'm playing with. It would be pointless otherwise for me. So emotions play a part. That said, they are emotions in context. This is what it is.

There have been a few rare occasions when I've connected strongly with someone and things have gone a little ott emotion wise, but I remind myself of the context and all is good. "

Same for me.

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By *nknownCallerMan
over a year ago

Bath

This may sound a bit peculiar

Sometimes on these sites, I get chatting to someone who I seem to strike up a very good friendship with. It quite often makes me think twice about having sex with them, as I wonder if it will change things.

I know it sounds like I'm on the wrong kind of site, but it doesn't happen very often & more often than not, it doesn't happen at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of long term swinging 'relationships' with two couples. One couple I saw for eight years, another couple I am seeing currently and have forgotten how many times we have met. Emotions do come into it, of course they do. Its better if you connect with whoever you are playing with. But those emotions only go so far! Nsa! Having said that, there was once a single female who I connected with in a big way, but it fizzled out after a couple of years. So if you are asking am I 'cold' when I fuck? Of course not. But if you are asking if I want or need to be 'romantically' involved, then the answer is the same. Of course not. Swinging is swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to switch off the emotions and concentrate on the pure physical side. Let my mind go blank

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By *oodvibrations68Couple
over a year ago

Lake Constance

...describes it rather well!

"When we Swing, we are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, we are still emotionally monogamous, spiritually monogamous, etc.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Do you have a void of emotions when you swing.... Do you leave that part out when you have an extra in the bedroom?.

If you meet a person/couple on a regular basis do you still void the emotions ...

It's a question that I've always wanted to ask others. Ip

Also have you ever let you emotions get the better of you whilst playing ?"

You can't get rid of emotions but can be aware of them. Some people are better at this than others. It's a fine line between emotions and sex because you need the link to enjoy the experience. But you have to remember that it's just that. An experience.;-)

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I love my FB to bits, but he has his life outside of Fab and so do I. Think it would ruin what we have if either of us wanted more from the relationship, if that makes sense lol.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"I love my FB to bits, but he has his life outside of Fab and so do I. Think it would ruin what we have if either of us wanted more from the relationship, if that makes sense lol. "

Makes perfect sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is merely a game. An escape from reality.

I love my fb's to their very boots. They know the real me. But it is what it is. That suits us all. When we're together its all in. But when not. They make reality that bit more bareable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just sex laughs and frienship nothing more.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a void of emotions. Neither do I have inappropriate feelings though. Being married makes it easy not to get more involved than I should, I think I would struggle with that if I was single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have a void of emotions when you swing.... Do you leave that part out when you have an extra in the bedroom?.

If you meet a person/couple on a regular basis do you still void the emotions ...

It's a question that I've always wanted to ask others. Ip

Also have you ever let you emotions get the better of you whilst playing ?"

I have emotions for my friends... for my family... for almost everyone around me... why would I *not* have them for someone who I allow to be sexually intimate with me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love my FB to bits, but he has his life outside of Fab and so do I. Think it would ruin what we have if either of us wanted more from the relationship, if that makes sense lol.

Makes perfect sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have a void of emotions when you swing.... Do you leave that part out when you have an extra in the bedroom?.

If you meet a person/couple on a regular basis do you still void the emotions ...

It's a question that I've always wanted to ask others. Ip

Also have you ever let you emotions get the better of you whilst playing ?"

Impossible with some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always emotional.

I can only have sex with those who I like and have a connection with. And if you can make them feel amazing and happy, and if they can make you feel the same, how could it not be emotional?

But there's a fucking huge difference between that sort of emotional and needy. And different again from the emotional bond between family and loved ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play as couple and the only emotion we experience is lust and a thrilling rush of power over our play mates. As a couple that bounce off of each others fantasy's we connect on a deeper level than ebyone we have met in our time if swinging and we have a stronger more sold relationship than anyone we know. Its all about boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed."

Lol thanks let's meet

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