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what is it the frightens guys about those that are Bi or curious?

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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Now this has puzzled me for a long time as I consider myself open minded and not concerned about close contact in an intimate situation ie doggy while 69ing and that is why are the majority of Straight guys (claimed) of a couple so terrified that if they invite a Bi guy or Bi couple to play with them that HE will be the main target for the evenings fun...do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think its just a careless whisper - they are dead messy just ask george in prison

its all analentry my dear watson

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now this has puzzled me for a long time as I consider myself open minded and not concerned about close contact in an intimate situation ie doggy while 69ing and that is why are the majority of Straight guys (claimed) of a couple so terrified that if they invite a Bi guy or Bi couple to play with them that HE will be the main target for the evenings fun...do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?....... "

You are wrong I used to think along a similar vein until the forums taught me different.

The reason that many straight males will not meet with couples or single males where the male is bisexual is not because they are scared of them touching or because they are homophobic.

It is because some cannot get the image of what they do with other males or what they might be thinking, out of thier mind.

They find the bisexual acts performed by two males a turn off and these images in thier minds put them off meeting bisexual males in a play situation.

It is an understandable mindset and though I do not have this barrier and don't care if I am playing with a couple where the male is bisexual but respectfull of me being straight not everyone is the same (thank god).

Therefore it is only right that we should all respect thier feelings and not condemn them for it.

Many women also find the thought of the male they are playing with being bisexual is a turn off, whislt an equal number find it a turn on.

Nowt so funny as folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?....... "

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now this has puzzled me for a long time as I consider myself open minded and not concerned about close contact in an intimate situation ie doggy while 69ing and that is why are the majority of Straight guys (claimed) of a couple so terrified that if they invite a Bi guy or Bi couple to play with them that HE will be the main target for the evenings fun...do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

You are wrong I used to think along a similar vein until the forums taught me different.

The reason that many straight males will not meet with couples or single males where the male is bisexual is not because they are scared of them touching or because they are homophobic.

It is because some cannot get the image of what they do with other males or what they might be thinking, out of thier mind.

They find the bisexual acts performed by two males a turn off and these images in thier minds put them off meeting bisexual males in a play situation.

It is an understandable mindset and though I do not have this barrier and don't care if I am playing with a couple where the male is bisexual but respectfull of me being straight not everyone is the same (thank god).

Therefore it is only right that we should all respect thier feelings and not condemn them for it.

Many women also find the thought of the male they are playing with being bisexual is a turn off, whislt an equal number find it a turn on.

Nowt so funny as folk. "

Very well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

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I hate that also.I dont have anything else to find out about sexuality . I know that I'm only attracted to the female sex and i'm 100% straight and will remain that way until I die.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

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Totally agree. We're both straight, but we have played with couples with bi curious partners, both guys and gals, and will continue to do so.

No one has ever "overstepped the mark" with me, if they did, I would deal with it. Not in an aggressive way, well not unless the situation called for it, but I have enough confidence in myself to be able to act like a grown up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad I'm straight. I get plenty of rejections from ladies, and couldn't handle it if the guys turned me down as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm glad I'm straight. I get plenty of rejections from ladies, and couldn't handle it if the guys turned me down as well "

Lol that's a good one.

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

Totally agree. We're both straight, but we have played with couples with bi curious partners, both guys and gals, and will continue to do so.

No one has ever "overstepped the mark" with me, if they did, I would deal with it. Not in an aggressive way, well not unless the situation called for it, but I have enough confidence in myself to be able to act like a grown up.

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I think that answers the Q beautifully its about acting in a grown up way.... how many here happily kiss their lady after she's given a bj or bjs to others and never think about it..or do your ladies have to keep a tooth brush, floss and mouth wash with them! lol and as for the anal comments does that mean that all Bi or curious perform anal and its their only form of enjoyment! there must be girls out there who don't want to perform with another lady and who find it just as off putting....i think there's a lot of stereo typing ..and remember this was just one of those thoughts that randomly happen to judge peoples _iews as i remember seeing a quote from a previous that 99% of all men can have bi tendencies at some point

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I'm glad I'm straight. I get plenty of rejections from ladies, and couldn't handle it if the guys turned me down as well "

listen here Stone Cold i'm turning you down before you get any ideas....haven't upset you have I lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

"

Not only men: it pissed me of I'm a straight woman that doesn't play with bi men! Not because I think what they do is disgusting - oh Lordy, she with the collection of amazing anal toys. No I don't play with bi men as my strap on won't make them pale and squirm as they're used to the real thinhg!

Don't you get tired of people with preferences questioning other peoples!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

That was until we met a bi guy in a club. he didnt try touch me or suck although nicky would of loved this lol

We had a real good time and nicky was spoiled by teh pair of us. it was only after he told us he was bi. It didnt bother as it was one of the horniest 3sums we have ever had.

So we now are more than happy to meet bi guys.

I have never been pounced on as yet lol

Sure a sneaky hand has come into play at some point but thats all fine and dandy lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It doesn't mean anyone is in denial about their sexuality, homophobic or scared that someone is going to jump their arse if they bend over.

You have to be comfortable when you play. If people are not comfortable for whatever reason then it is best to avoid that situation.

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

Not only men: it pissed me of I'm a straight woman that doesn't play with bi men! Not because I think what they do is disgusting - oh Lordy, she with the collection of amazing anal toys. No I don't play with bi men as my strap on won't make them pale and squirm as they're used to the real thinhg!

Don't you get tired of people with preferences questioning other peoples!!! "

excellent re-post!lol so all those toys and now all those straight guys you play with enjoying anal!!! lol it gets better and better! do they come back for more? lol

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

That was until we met a bi guy in a club. he didnt try touch me or suck although nicky would of loved this lol

We had a real good time and nicky was spoiled by teh pair of us. it was only after he told us he was bi. It didnt bother as it was one of the horniest 3sums we have ever had.

So we now are more than happy to meet bi guys.

I have never been pounced on as yet lol

Sure a sneaky hand has come into play at some point but thats all fine and dandy lol

"
WAHOO for common sense! or is it???? lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?....... "

what's a TRUE mmf scene? sorry if i am being thick..

as for the str8 guys being frightened that they jump out of the closet the second a bi guys arrives is twaddle.

IMHO..

some find the act between guys a complete turnoff.

some consider Bi guys a higher sexual health risk.

some may be homophobic.

and if I am brutally honest, some of the most irritating people are the bi guys who blanket message str8 guys asking if they fancy fun.. it puts back the fact that we can all respect each others sexuality equally and all enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm comfortable around cats, dogs & horses but it doesn't mean I want to play with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?.......

I think its quotes like this that piss some men off,its as though you're saying that because some men are'nt comfortable in a play situation around a Bi guy that they have concerns about their own sexuality and may be Bi themselves and are in denial!

Not only men: it pissed me of I'm a straight woman that doesn't play with bi men! Not because I think what they do is disgusting - oh Lordy, she with the collection of amazing anal toys. No I don't play with bi men as my strap on won't make them pale and squirm as they're used to the real thinhg!

Don't you get tired of people with preferences questioning other peoples!!!

excellent re-post!lol so all those toys and now all those straight guys you play with enjoying anal!!! lol it gets better and better! do they come back for more? lol "

I spend time getting to know my playmates and meet socially before play. I've been able to out married, dominant, non sub and bi men.

It works for me, after all I'm here for my own hedonistic pleasure, choosing who I wish, not posting poorly phrased threads about the personal choices others choose to make!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

That was until we met a bi guy in a club. he didnt try touch me or suck although nicky would of loved this lol

We had a real good time and nicky was spoiled by teh pair of us. it was only after he told us he was bi. It didnt bother as it was one of the horniest 3sums we have ever had.

So we now are more than happy to meet bi guys.

I have never been pounced on as yet lol

Sure a sneaky hand has come into play at some point but thats all fine and dandy lol

WAHOO for common sense! or is it???? lol"

For once. yes it is lol

It doesnt come from me very often but it does sometimes hahaha

But seriously. Come on...... Why shouldnt we play with bi guys lol.

im not bothered if he is looking at my cock while nicky sucks him off. We find the whole thing very horny lol

Lighten up and crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not being funny but the stray hand thing would bother me. If it happens while we are all playing fine but a deliberate touch would turn me off.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I'm not being funny but the stray hand thing would bother me. If it happens while we are all playing fine but a deliberate touch would turn me off. "

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In a MFM you are bound to brush against each other now and then, but a stray hand on purpose would stop any fun we were having.

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

That was until we met a bi guy in a club. he didnt try touch me or suck although nicky would of loved this lol

We had a real good time and nicky was spoiled by teh pair of us. it was only after he told us he was bi. It didnt bother as it was one of the horniest 3sums we have ever had.

So we now are more than happy to meet bi guys.

I have never been pounced on as yet lol

Sure a sneaky hand has come into play at some point but thats all fine and dandy lol

WAHOO for common sense! or is it???? lol

For once. yes it is lol

It doesnt come from me very often but it does sometimes hahaha

But seriously. Come on...... Why shouldnt we play with bi guys lol.

im not bothered if he is looking at my cock while nicky sucks him off. We find the whole thing very horny lol

Lighten up and crack on."

truth, honesty and the american wahaay! lol

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I'm not being funny but the stray hand thing would bother me. If it happens while we are all playing fine but a deliberate touch would turn me off.

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In a MFM you are bound to brush against each other now and then, but a stray hand on purpose would stop any fun we were having."

err how can a stray hand be on purpose does that mean that DP is a no go or doggy with 69 in case of a stray tongue, cock or hand or...again answers on a post card too....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I'm not being funny but the stray hand thing would bother me. If it happens while we are all playing fine but a deliberate touch would turn me off.

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In a MFM you are bound to brush against each other now and then, but a stray hand on purpose would stop any fun we were having.

err how can a stray hand be on purpose does that mean that DP is a no go or doggy with 69 in case of a stray tongue, cock or hand or...again answers on a post card too.... "

If you don't know what I mean then it shouldn't really bother you.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

We have plenty of MMFs they're one of my favourites,there is a difference between an acciental touch between the men that no-one would take a blind bit of notice of as its all about the woman and an accidental on purpose stray hand that ends up where it should'nt be

That would be seen as offensive sneaky and bang out of order

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Actual comment from Court :

(ex ) Wife : "But you love this other woman, you're fucking her."

Husband : "I love my dogs but i'm not fucking them."

I read about this guy. cough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh not again

John just come out of the closet, there’s someone for everyone here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I said what I said earlier because my mate was in a situation where him and another guy were playing with a woman while her husband watched and while my male was performing oral sex on the woman the other guy reached over and stroked his cock a few times .My mate was furious but kept his cool and told the guy he doesn't swing that way and he should have asked before he touched him.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"Oh not again

John just come out of the closet, there’s someone for everyone here "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh not again

John just come out of the closet, there’s someone for everyone here

"

Lol that's funny .

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

The simple answer to the OP is that everyone has a perfect right to play with who they want, of whatever shape, size, colour or orientation. For example, although both bi, we don't get off on TV/TS play, and would be distracted ( note, not sickened or threatened, just distracted) by their presence in a play environment, so we would choose to avoid them. And we presume that this could be the case for some straight guys, and not the fear of discovering they are actually closet bi's in denial!

Oh, and for the record, as an openly bi male, I have never and would never attempt to get it on with a straight male... strangely, I actually prefer my sexual playmates of either sex to be carnally interested in me too!

A bit of respect and common sense goes a long way.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh not again

John just come out of the closet, there’s someone for everyone here

Lol that's funny . "

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think its HIS decision?

I (cath) have NO interest in bi/bi curious guys, and lets face it, its ME he be playing with!!!

Just not my thing......end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some singles and couples avoid bi men as they are far more promiscuous and are often regarded as taking more risks sexually. It may be untrue or it may be correct but it is always a consideration for some.

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester


"Some singles and couples avoid bi men as they are far more promiscuous and are often regarded as taking more risks sexually. It may be untrue or it may be correct but it is always a consideration for some."

... then perhaps you should have said


"Some singles and couples avoid bi men as they *THINK* they are far more promiscuous and are often regarded as taking more risks sexually. It may be untrue or it may be correct but it is always a consideration for some."

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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well its fantastic to see that peeps have an opinion which after all was all that was asked for as to what their own thoughts as to why this may or may not be the case and its good to see that making judgments about peoples preferences what ever they are and may be shows just how biased (no pun!) we can be. lol

simple Q and the answers range from Bi are more promiscuous so dangers there..

to some worries about being pounced on(accidentally on purpose) to we've enjoyed it....in the word of Mr Burns "EXCELLENT!" thank you and once again has shed some light on how diverse we all are...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"We have plenty of MMFs they're one of my favourites,there is a difference between an acciental touch between the men that no-one would take a blind bit of notice of as its all about the woman and an accidental on purpose stray hand that ends up where it should'nt be

That would be seen as offensive sneaky and bang out of order"

* nods *

Like us I doubt very much if you are actually worried about anyone doing that on a meet as you have probably set all bounderies before the actual meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nicky sometimes enjoying having DV if she is upto it.

We have had many a set of straight guys jump straight to it. cocks side by side in her pussy. Where is the boundary. But I reckon that out of them guys if nicky was to ask them to lay in a way so there cocks touched so she could wank both cocks whilst they touched they would freak.

Its all a mental thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have plenty of MMFs they're one of my favourites,there is a difference between an acciental touch between the men that no-one would take a blind bit of notice of as its all about the woman and an accidental on purpose stray hand that ends up where it should'nt be

That would be seen as offensive sneaky and bang out of order"

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!! "

Go and have a beer Ric, I'll have one with you

I was thinking the same thing this morning

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!! "

well said........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!! "

Well said that man!

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!! "

just a suggestion but I think you may need to read all of the posts as the ladies _iews are also sought and as i said at the beginning this was just a thought generated and that was after the reading of profiles of those seeking to play with straight guys and from a recent forum where one lady suggested that most men, I think her _iew was 99% have had bi tendency at some time. so please read all comments before jumping on the band wagon..this was not a moan Question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does it puzzle you? are you yourself bi curious and worried it may put people of meeting you if you say so? cannot see what brought you to start this topic otherwise, although if everyone suddenly became as openminded as you then surely there would be more people to compete with to get a meet? like i've said before why worry what others do when there is someone for everyone on here.

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"Why does it puzzle you? are you yourself bi curious and worried it may put people of meeting you if you say so? cannot see what brought you to start this topic otherwise, although if everyone suddenly became as openminded as you then surely there would be more people to compete with to get a meet? like i've said before why worry what others do when there is someone for everyone on here."

I'm a curious animal and like to know what makes people tick..like to look beyond the surface....

I have met couples where there has been occasional contact and feel for the most part enriched for it...we all have likes and dislikes and its their choice and they will find peeps who like the same.

will that answer do?

a little controversy is healthy! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it puzzle you? are you yourself bi curious and worried it may put people of meeting you if you say so? cannot see what brought you to start this topic otherwise, although if everyone suddenly became as openminded as you then surely there would be more people to compete with to get a meet? like i've said before why worry what others do when there is someone for everyone on here.

I'm a curious animal and like to know what makes people tick..like to look beyond the surface....

I have met couples where there has been occasional contact and feel for the most part enriched for it...we all have likes and dislikes and its their choice and they will find peeps who like the same.

will that answer do?

a little controversy is healthy! lol"

Cmon buddy.Nothing wrong with being bi.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

To answer the OP’s question in another thread he started related to this one…… may be you should read the question before telling others to.

It was not a simple question you have posted… not when it uses words like “terrified” and suggests that straight men may be suppressing their true sexuality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!!

just a suggestion but I think you may need to read all of the posts as the ladies _iews are also sought and as i said at the beginning this was just a thought generated and that was after the reading of profiles of those seeking to play with straight guys and from a recent forum where one lady suggested that most men, I think her _iew was 99% have had bi tendency at some time. so please read all comments before jumping on the band wagon..this was not a moan Question. "

We always read previous posts before commenting.

And many of the reasons you seek,given in the replies, probably apply to us.

As for the woman's _iew that 99% of guys are latently bi,this is a common misconception born more from wishful thinking than fact and often perpetrated by some bi/gay guys and also by some women trying to encourage their man to suck cock for her pleasure.

We,like some of the previous posters, can't understand why a straight guy,no matter how inquisitive,would ponder something that is, apparently, never going to concern him sexually ???

And we still stand by our comment that these posts are invariably started by men and very often "straight" ones at that.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I don't think that the majority of straight guys are 'terrified' of bi or bi curious guys - where do you get this data?

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

The original sentiment expressed by the OP may have some mileage in some of the terms used in profiles.

Examples include.. No bi males or couples at all, mr x is straight and you cannot turn him or sentiments to that effect

This may appear to us, at least, to be common place, but that is only because we notice the comments.

It would very interesting to see a comment on a other cpuples profile which said explicitly said Mrs x is straight so girls don't try to turn her..

Anyway each to their own... But for us we have no problems with straight couples, in fact a lot of our friends are straight! Lol!

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Ahh when i said common place.. I meant to say.. It is noticeable in some of the profiles we see

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs


"To answer the OP’s question in another thread he started related to this one…… may be you should read the question before telling others to.

It was not a simple question you have posted… not when it uses words like “terrified” and suggests that straight men may be suppressing their true sexuality...

"

not a possibility then..no way no how..you are absolutely positive that some wouldn't be "terrified" ...think you should read funpair2009 comments

"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Ahh when i said common place.. I meant to say.. It is noticeable in some of the profiles we see"

thank you for your comments you have said exactly what i have been trying to say or by asking the Q

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I'm 100% straight and have no fear of bi men. If there were any overtures toward me I'd just knock it back in a friendly manner.

As for MMF there is inevitably male to male contact, anyone with tips on preventing your balls slapping off the other guys balls when doing DP please tell!

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Why is it ALWAYS a guy that starts these posts?

Trace is bi,we only meet couples with a bi woman.

We also know that some straight women are turned off by the thought of sex between women.

But you never see a post from a bi woman bemoaning the fact that straight women don't want to play with them.

They just respect others wishes and play with those that want to.

So FFS bi guys,stop moaning about those who don't want to play and enjoy those who do.

In short.........Get over it!!!

just a suggestion but I think you may need to read all of the posts as the ladies _iews are also sought and as i said at the beginning this was just a thought generated and that was after the reading of profiles of those seeking to play with straight guys and from a recent forum where one lady suggested that most men, I think her _iew was 99% have had bi tendency at some time. so please read all comments before jumping on the band wagon..this was not a moan Question.

We always read previous posts before commenting.

And many of the reasons you seek,given in the replies, probably apply to us.

As for the woman's _iew that 99% of guys are latently bi,this is a common misconception born more from wishful thinking than fact and often perpetrated by some bi/gay guys and also by some women trying to encourage their man to suck cock for her pleasure.

We,like some of the previous posters, can't understand why a straight guy,no matter how inquisitive,would ponder something that is, apparently, never going to concern him sexually ???

And we still stand by our comment that these posts are invariably started by men and very often "straight" ones at that. "

what difference does it make if you are straight or bi are you not allowed to ask Q's

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London


"I'm 100% straight and have no fear of bi men. If there were any overtures toward me I'd just knock it back in a friendly manner.

As for MMF there is inevitably male to male contact, anyone with tips on preventing your balls slapping off the other guys balls when doing DP please tell! "

Snow

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs


"I'm 100% straight and have no fear of bi men. If there were any overtures toward me I'd just knock it back in a friendly manner.

As for MMF there is inevitably male to male contact, anyone with tips on preventing your balls slapping off the other guys balls when doing DP please tell! "

can only think of castration but seems a little extreme ..any other suggestions?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"To answer the OP’s question in another thread he started related to this one…… may be you should read the question before telling others to.

It was not a simple question you have posted… not when it uses words like “terrified” and suggests that straight men may be suppressing their true sexuality...

not a possibility then..no way no how..you are absolutely positive that some wouldn't be "terrified" ...think you should read funpair2009 comments

"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

"

Of course there is a possibility...... for some.

Of course there will be some who are some who just don't want to admit the thought turns them on.

Of course there are some who are just out and out homophobic.

The key word here being 'SOME'.

You have asked why guys are "scared" and offer two possible reasons "terrified" at the thought of being the apple of the bi-eye or the suggestion they won't be able to hold back in an MMF situation.

So I ask you...... are you sure these are the only two reasons couples with straight males may 'choose' not to play with bi-guys?

If you answer is 'yes' then I fear you do not have the open mind you think you have.

If the answer is 'no' then you may be able to understand why some people may be offended by the suggestion they must fit in one or other of the two camps.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

If all the straight guys are actually terrified, why haven't they posted with the reason why? Surely that was the point of your post - asking why they're all so frightened of bi chaps? Z

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

"

promises to never, ever, ever again go up behind a str8 guy and go... BOO !!!

seems I have terrified some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

promises to never, ever, ever again go up behind a str8 guy and go... BOO !!!

seems I have terrified some. "

Ah _iew but you're openely bi and proud, it's the sneaky straight ones they're probably worried about

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

Ah _iew but you're openely bi and proud, it's the sneaky straight ones they're probably worried about "

aye but when I dress up in my builders outfit wi the crack of my arse showing and spout on about the fitba results and the burds I been shagging..

lulls em into false sense of str8 security, dims lights and then brings out my old playboy and asks them to cop a look at the titties on her.........

and then welcome to bi-ville

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I'm 100% straight and have no fear of bi men. If there were any overtures toward me I'd just knock it back in a friendly manner.

As for MMF there is inevitably male to male contact, anyone with tips on preventing your balls slapping off the other guys balls when doing DP please tell! "

You should be having too much fun to notice what ya balls are slapping onto

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

Ah _iew but you're openely bi and proud, it's the sneaky straight ones they're probably worried about

aye but when I dress up in my builders outfit wi the crack of my arse showing and spout on about the fitba results and the burds I been shagging..

lulls em into false sense of str8 security, dims lights and then brings out my old playboy and asks them to cop a look at the titties on her.........

and then welcome to bi-ville "

phwaorrrrrrr... even I'd fall for that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Ah _iew but you're openely bi and proud, it's the sneaky straight ones they're probably worried about

aye but when I dress up in my builders outfit wi the crack of my arse showing and spout on about the fitba results and the burds I been shagging..

lulls em into false sense of str8 security, dims lights and then brings out my old playboy and asks them to cop a look at the titties on her.........

and then welcome to bi-ville "

Quality

Still it’s nice to see people who are confident in their sexuality, I still maintain that when you’re 100% comfortable with your own sexuality, whatever that may be, then you’ll understand everyone else’s without having to question it.

Ps…. Bet you get many offers from straight open-minded men

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs


"To answer the OP’s question in another thread he started related to this one…… may be you should read the question before telling others to.

It was not a simple question you have posted… not when it uses words like “terrified” and suggests that straight men may be suppressing their true sexuality...

not a possibility then..no way no how..you are absolutely positive that some wouldn't be "terrified" ...think you should read funpair2009 comments

"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

Of course there is a possibility...... for some.

Of course there will be some who are some who just don't want to admit the thought turns them on.

Of course there are some who are just out and out homophobic.

The key word here being 'SOME'.

You have asked why guys are "scared" and offer two possible reasons "terrified" at the thought of being the apple of the bi-eye or the suggestion they won't be able to hold back in an MMF situation.

So I ask you...... are you sure these are the only two reasons couples with straight males may 'choose' not to play with bi-guys?

If you answer is 'yes' then I fear you do not have the open mind you think you have.

If the answer is 'no' then you may be able to understand why some people may be offended by the suggestion they must fit in one or other of the two camps."

why be offended? i say once again it was not a statement of fact but an observation as seen by others too..why is there a need to be offended...blimey some people have a short fuse if they are offended by a question.. not as if i was saying that this is gospel and is cast in stone is it..or do you just like to argue? you will also see that I have met and played with couples and singles,there was bi contact that's 1 couple and have played with the remaining 90% who class themselves as straight couples... so i think I can say I'm open minded...after all you don't know me but feel qualified to judge over a Q asked..do you have a couch i could come and lie down on and tell you my troubles? and there maybe and probably are more reasons and that's why we have surveys....not that I'm running one, at least not at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now this has puzzled me for a long time as I consider myself open minded and not concerned about close contact in an intimate situation ie doggy while 69ing and that is why are the majority of Straight guys (claimed) of a couple so terrified that if they invite a Bi guy or Bi couple to play with them that HE will be the main target for the evenings fun...do they really believe that or are they worried they might find something out about themselves in a true mmf scene?....... "

Didn't you know? Bisexuality, like homosexuality has been proven to be contagious. The merest contact (the brush of a leg, a finger, a cock) can transmit the virus and turn a 100% straight man "queer" in seconds, it's incredibly potent.

Either that or "straight" men are terrified that bimen fancy them more than the woman.

I dunno, humans, all funny, all squishy and mostly all utterly pointless

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"To answer the OP’s question in another thread he started related to this one…… may be you should read the question before telling others to.

It was not a simple question you have posted… not when it uses words like “terrified” and suggests that straight men may be suppressing their true sexuality...

not a possibility then..no way no how..you are absolutely positive that some wouldn't be "terrified" ...think you should read funpair2009 comments

"To be honest I was a sguilty as the next guy about being "scared" of bi guys.

Dont kno what it was but it was there.

Of course there is a possibility...... for some.

Of course there will be some who are some who just don't want to admit the thought turns them on.

Of course there are some who are just out and out homophobic.

The key word here being 'SOME'.

You have asked why guys are "scared" and offer two possible reasons "terrified" at the thought of being the apple of the bi-eye or the suggestion they won't be able to hold back in an MMF situation.

So I ask you...... are you sure these are the only two reasons couples with straight males may 'choose' not to play with bi-guys?

If you answer is 'yes' then I fear you do not have the open mind you think you have.

If the answer is 'no' then you may be able to understand why some people may be offended by the suggestion they must fit in one or other of the two camps.

why be offended? i say once again it was not a statement of fact but an observation as seen by others too..why is there a need to be offended...blimey some people have a short fuse if they are offended by a question.. not as if i was saying that this is gospel and is cast in stone is it..or do you just like to argue? you will also see that I have met and played with couples and singles,there was bi contact that's 1 couple and have played with the remaining 90% who class themselves as straight couples... so i think I can say I'm open minded...after all you don't know me but feel qualified to judge over a Q asked..do you have a couch i could come and lie down on and tell you my troubles? and there maybe and probably are more reasons and that's why we have surveys....not that I'm running one, at least not at the moment"

And there was me thinking I would be nice and try to explain why you got the reaction you did... but look how YOU have reacted?

Why would they be offended... well... if I really have to elaborate further...

Your "just a question" states the majority of men (in MF couples) who 'claim' to be straight and do not wish to meet bi-males are terrified homophobes or bi-boys in denial.

It wasn't just a simple question it was phrased as an insinuation.... and a bloody clear one at that.

If I judge you it is based on your posted judgement of people who don't want to meet bi guys.... not just a simple question.

Allowing a man to touch your wanger is not the be all and end all of open mindedness.... as you seem to have closed your mind to the other possible reasons why others have preferences.

There are many on this site who would class you as bi because you have allowed sexual activity with another man.... yet you claim to be straight. To take their _iewpoint for a moment... if you are happy for a bi male to play with you as well as the female.... why don't you class yourself as bi?

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

We thought we were allowed to make our own choice about who we meetwe dont want to meet bi guys because it is of no interest to us not because we are frightened of it.We dont like marmite either but we are not frightened of it.

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs

how have i crossed my mind off to other reasons if i'm asking a question as to other reasons and the one i have demonstrated as seen by others from profiles is a justifiable Q? also your argument that because i have played or allowed to play with a bi couple makes me bi and that there isn't any room for maneuver..I've seen profile where the lady will stipulate doesn't mind kissing another women but nothing else does that constitute being bi so just what level does in your eyes. this post was started off to try to understand different _iewpoints and to clarify my own not as a slanging match... but guess what once again a forum has gone this way thats in my opinion which I'm entitled too and you wont change my mind on this...and thats having an open mind.

i've seen this in to many Q's .... so bi all means carry on..oops a pun!

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By *john121 OP   Man
over a year ago

staffs


"We thought we were allowed to make our own choice about who we meetwe dont want to meet bi guys because it is of no interest to us not because we are frightened of it.We dont like marmite either but we are not frightened of it."

LOVE MARMITE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am i straight guy who is part of a cpl..i am not terrified of bi guys..there, I said it. i feel so much better. they do have much better dress sense than me tho

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Dear OP - you just can't see it can you. You didn't ask an open question to find out people's reasons. You asked why the majority were terrified of being pounced on and gave an alternative suggestion that they were secretly hiding desires.

I have asked you a number of questions... yet you seem to avoid those and make attacking comments instead...... or misread what I have said and still not answer the question.

I don't think you are leaving yourself much room to complain about anyone else's replies.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

PS.... by the way... the only solid judgement I have made of you is... you can't frikin' read properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 100% straight and have no fear of bi men. If there were any overtures toward me I'd just knock it back in a friendly manner.

As for MMF there is inevitably male to male contact, anyone with tips on preventing your balls slapping off the other guys balls when doing DP please tell! "

Have you not thought about a drawstring velvet pouch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 100% straight and have no fear of bi men. If there were any overtures toward me I'd just knock it back in a friendly manner.

As for MMF there is inevitably male to male contact, anyone with tips on preventing your balls slapping off the other guys balls when doing DP please tell!

Have you not thought about a drawstring velvet pouch? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am i straight guy who is part of a cpl..i am not terrified of bi guys..there, I said it. i feel so much better. they do have much better dress sense than me tho "
.

bit of a sweeping statement there possibly

i might be "bi-playful" ie..dont find men attractive in everyday life,and i MAY touch a penis a cpl of time a year (so shoot me),,,,but im certainly not gok wan !!!!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Still no comments from all the 'terrified' straight guys as to why they're so scared? If couples don't choose to meet a certain section of people it may merely because they don't want to and not for a hidden ulterior motive! I also don't like Marmite therefore I don't eat it! Simple really! Z

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

whether you are a gay guy, a bi guy or a 'str8' guy who plays with guys and is a tad sensitive to put bi... we all look the same....

'that is when we have a cock in our mouths...'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am i straight guy who is part of a cpl..i am not terrified of bi guys..there, I said it. i feel so much better. they do have much better dress sense than me tho .

bit of a sweeping statement there possibly

i might be "bi-playful" ie..dont find men attractive in everyday life,and i MAY touch a penis a cpl of time a year (so shoot me),,,,but im certainly not gok wan !!!! "

but you can carry off a hat..and indoors too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thier is also a thing about being a blood donor.... if a women sleeps with a bi guy apperently she cant give blood for a while! i think that is absolutly fucking ridiclious!

i even know a guy who full well knows he is hetexible and would like to try it if he could but he wont because the blood thing! and the giving blood is something that he really feels strongly about

but yes i do understand some guys and gals dont like what they picture the other guy doing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

outstanding !!!! i now have coffee all over my laptop....

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