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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" Good Lord, yes! I'm not even in the same league as Mrs ddc (Why else do you think we don't have face pics of me?) ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" It depends upon what criteria you use to define the league you're in? Looks wise some may be in a category above you They may be more intelligent They may be funnier with a more accessible personality In fact there are probably some women out there with a bigger cock than me But ultimately, if you assess on the total package rather than one factor, you may well find yourself rising through the leagues if you let your best qualities be what defines you. | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'?? Good Lord, yes! I'm not even in the same league as Mrs ddc (Why else do you think we don't have face pics of me?) ![]() ![]() But therein lies the contradiction - Mrs ddc is with you, so clearly she's not out of your league. Beauty comes in many forms, not just physical looks! | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway." Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant." Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them. | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them." Thought I'd been going about it all wrong for a mo ![]() ![]() | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them." Well yeah it doesn't really matter how beautiful you think they are. You have to fancy them and they have to fancy you. If that happens then that's all that matters. | |||
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"No I don't get the out of my league bit, but I do sometimes wonder why a 25yr old good looking guy with a very fit gym toned body would want to meet me. I sometime think they believe I am desperate or they have no intention of meeting." Or... maybe they find you attractive | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them. Thought I'd been going about it all wrong for a mo ![]() ![]() That's the thing though, I'm certainly not the first person to read someones profile, be genuinely interested in what they've written, honestly believe myself to possess the qualities they're asking for, only to have my messages not responded to - and I do believe that the person who wrote the profile really is looking for those things, but if that X-Factor of FANCYING someone isn't there, then you have no chance. | |||
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"Nope, take the 'bull' by the horns and hang on for the ride!" shouting Yeeehaaaawwww!! ![]() | |||
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"Most of the guys I like are out of my league, I'm always surprised if they message me. I don't have the confidence to message them first " Exactly this for me ![]() | |||
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"'Out if your or my league is for them, up their own arses, pretentious fucking wankers! We are all born equal and should treated so! Nobody is out if anyones league! Love the skin your in! Sexiness is a state of mind! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"People often ask this question and I'm always astonished by the replies (I don't learn fast ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them. Thought I'd been going about it all wrong for a mo ![]() ![]() It's a weird thing. Same as those times you see somebody of interest... and then they open their mouth ![]() | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them. Thought I'd been going about it all wrong for a mo ![]() ![]() ![]() Its all about turning the milk chocolaty ![]() | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() Blimey, if you are Div 2, we are vanarama conference.. ![]() | |||
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"Its not about leagues for me... but I do sometimes wonder why anyone would be interested in me (self esteem, and always think I'm a bit plain jane and boring compared to some of my friends)" Holy moly I'd be every kind of interested in you if you weren't in mamoba. You are clearly out of my league let alone out my patch. | |||
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"No I don't get the out of my league bit, but I do sometimes wonder why a 25yr old good looking guy with a very fit gym toned body would want to meet me. I sometime think they believe I am desperate or they have no intention of meeting." Perhaps it's because you have an interesting profile, seem like a fun person and share common interests? You don't have open face photos, so I'm going to suggest that it's YOU the person they are interested in. | |||
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"Yes. I often look and think they wouldnt wanna meet lil ole me ![]() I'd want to meet you. The only reason I wouldn't try is the distance between us. This is the only reason and NOT a reflection or judgement about you as a person. | |||
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"Yes. I often look and think they wouldnt wanna meet lil ole me ![]() Same here, there's some beautiful ladies here. ![]() | |||
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"No I don't get the out of my league bit, but I do sometimes wonder why a 25yr old good looking guy with a very fit gym toned body would want to meet me. I sometime think they believe I am desperate or they have no intention of meeting." At base level it's because they want sex. The reasons they want it with older women vary and for some it will be as you say but not for all. | |||
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"When I've been messages by people who I think are out of my league I've sometimes thought 'fuck it' and meet them anyway only to find they've been decent, down to earth people as well as hot. Who knew you could have it all! " Yes I agree. This league business it terribly judgemental, imagining before you even meet somebody that they will only accept a certain body type or facial features set in a certain way. | |||
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"You should never be put off approaching someone you may consider to be out of your league. They may be one of those that occasionally like to slum it." ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"You should never be put off approaching someone you may consider to be out of your league. They may be one of those that occasionally like to slum it. ![]() ![]() ![]() I like em regretful . . . . . . that they hadn't met me earlier in their life ![]() | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" Yeah definitely! | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 16/04/15 13:29:31]" What I meant to say was I am intimidated by very young fit guys messaging me, I run a mile thinking what the hell do they want with me ![]() | |||
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"People often ask this question and I'm always astonished by the replies (I don't learn fast ![]() Exactly this!! | |||
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"People often ask this question and I'm always astonished by the replies (I don't learn fast ![]() It depends on your or their idea of better . If you or they pay no attention to their body , cleanliness etc..... If they are a generation older or younger . If they can barely string a coherent sentence together . See what I mean ? There are so many reasons someone may be above or below you in terms of shagability . ![]() | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 16/04/15 13:29:31] What I meant to say was I am intimidated by very young fit guys messaging me, I run a mile thinking what the hell do they want with me ![]() Sex. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I see profiles that are only looking for men who are "exceptional". That's not me, I'm ordinary and comfortable in my own skin. Still not sure who judges or measures who is or isn't exceptional though." MY thoughts too........ | |||
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"I see profiles that are only looking for men who are "exceptional". That's not me, I'm ordinary and comfortable in my own skin. Still not sure who judges or measures who is or isn't exceptional though. MY thoughts too........" I do. We all do don't we? Or are we going to pretend we're not interested in how attractive a person is when we're fucking! | |||
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"People often ask this question and I'm always astonished by the replies (I don't learn fast ![]() ![]() I can see your point but I don't like thinking of people as above or below me in any terms really. However I wouldn't meet somebody who wasn't clean you're right ![]() | |||
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"Am naturally a shy person anyway having said that I'm sure there's plenty of guys who feel like they're in the same boat but may have more confidence in sure ladies can smell that." They are like sharks, they'll smell your fear......... ![]() | |||
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"Its not about leagues for me... but I do sometimes wonder why anyone would be interested in me (self esteem, and always think I'm a bit plain jane and boring compared to some of my friends)" this is the same for me, im not 'hot' tho i didm't get beaten with the ugly stick either, i dont wear make up often, so when looking through profiles, if a couple fit the bill, but the lady is very well groomed and polished, nails, hair, fake lashes etc, then its not so much a league thing from my side, but a lack of anything in common, and that they probably wouldnt look twice at me. same with buff gym addict guys, id just feel a blob. lol, ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them." ![]() | |||
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"It's only a problem if they think they're too beautiful for you. Then they're not worth knowing anyway. Don't we all think this? Otherwise pics would be irrelevant. Gonna have sex with someone? Gotta fancy them." No you don't need to fancy someone to fuck them. | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" I guess that's subjective I've looked at a lot of profiles and thought there's no way he will like me so not bothered mailing Does that mean he's out of my league? Suppose to me it does I tend to more see it as being realistic | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() you never heard of a giant killing or a cup run you dont know unless you try maybe they dont want people from thier league | |||
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"Definitely subjective, you can't tell who is out of your league or not. I don't have a type, i fancy a lot of guys and can be flexible so long as i find them attractive overall. I like a nice face, but what that face is i couldn't tell you, i just know when i see it. I've been surprised by the amount of good looking guys who see me and want to see me again. I've also been surprised by the amount of unattractive guys who think i will fuck them." Your last paragraph kind of sums it up: Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Women in general are fussier, even if they are not that attractive themselves. | |||
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"Definitely subjective, you can't tell who is out of your league or not. I don't have a type, i fancy a lot of guys and can be flexible so long as i find them attractive overall. I like a nice face, but what that face is i couldn't tell you, i just know when i see it. I've been surprised by the amount of good looking guys who see me and want to see me again. I've also been surprised by the amount of unattractive guys who think i will fuck them. Your last paragraph kind of sums it up: Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Women in general are fussier, even if they are not that attractive themselves." That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. | |||
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"Definitely subjective, you can't tell who is out of your league or not. I don't have a type, i fancy a lot of guys and can be flexible so long as i find them attractive overall. I like a nice face, but what that face is i couldn't tell you, i just know when i see it. I've been surprised by the amount of good looking guys who see me and want to see me again. I've also been surprised by the amount of unattractive guys who think i will fuck them. Your last paragraph kind of sums it up: Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Women in general are fussier, even if they are not that attractive themselves.That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks." Some are | |||
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"Definitely subjective, you can't tell who is out of your league or not. I don't have a type, i fancy a lot of guys and can be flexible so long as i find them attractive overall. I like a nice face, but what that face is i couldn't tell you, i just know when i see it. I've been surprised by the amount of good looking guys who see me and want to see me again. I've also been surprised by the amount of unattractive guys who think i will fuck them. Your last paragraph kind of sums it up: Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Women in general are fussier, even if they are not that attractive themselves." Promiscuous species generally have women that are fussier yes. We've even evolved so that our fertile time is hidden so that we don't have men forcing themselves onto us at that time. | |||
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"That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks." You can speak for yourself shag. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. You can speak for yourself shag. ![]() ![]() That's good, for me its bout bed notch marks lol. | |||
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"Definitely subjective, you can't tell who is out of your league or not. I don't have a type, i fancy a lot of guys and can be flexible so long as i find them attractive overall. I like a nice face, but what that face is i couldn't tell you, i just know when i see it. I've been surprised by the amount of good looking guys who see me and want to see me again. I've also been surprised by the amount of unattractive guys who think i will fuck them. Your last paragraph kind of sums it up: Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Women in general are fussier, even if they are not that attractive themselves.That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. Some are " That's right as well. | |||
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"That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. You can speak for yourself shag. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. You can speak for yourself shag. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() YEs and no I didn't joke about it, just made it sound abit more funnier you know. | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() I cannot see why. .you both look gorgeous x | |||
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"Definitely subjective, you can't tell who is out of your league or not. I don't have a type, i fancy a lot of guys and can be flexible so long as i find them attractive overall. I like a nice face, but what that face is i couldn't tell you, i just know when i see it. I've been surprised by the amount of good looking guys who see me and want to see me again. I've also been surprised by the amount of unattractive guys who think i will fuck them. Your last paragraph kind of sums it up: Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Women in general are fussier, even if they are not that attractive themselves.That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. Some are " This. ![]() | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" Yep. I find myself perving lots of super hot guys on here but don't have the courage to mail them as I feel they are way out of my league! | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'?? Yep. I find myself perving lots of super hot guys on here but don't have the courage to mail them as I feel they are way out of my league!" I'm the same but with the women ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'?? Yep. I find myself perving lots of super hot guys on here but don't have the courage to mail them as I feel they are way out of my league!" We are all equal here I hope ![]() | |||
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" Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag." Speak for yourself. I myself do not fall into the 'will fuck anything' club. I need to be attracted to someone if I am going to play with them. | |||
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" Men, in general, aren't particularly fussed who they fuck, even if they are a lot better looking than the women they shag. Speak for yourself. I myself do not fall into the 'will fuck anything' club. I need to be attracted to someone if I am going to play with them." Yes, I've read many of your posts and know you need harps and violins playing in the background to get an erection but I did say "in general". That's not 'all'. You're excluded. | |||
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"You have to be in it to win it..at the very least you've had fun flirting with someone you find hot/interesting. That always makes me feel good ![]() We messaged a certain somebody the other day, we thought she was miles out of our league but gave it a go anyways.just waiting for her to read it and get back to us....let us know what you think ![]() | |||
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"You should never be put off approaching someone you may consider to be out of your league. They may be one of those that occasionally like to slum it." This is why I never approach guys out of my league, I'd hate to be one of their "better than nothing" meets | |||
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"You should never be put off approaching someone you may consider to be out of your league. They may be one of those that occasionally like to slum it. This is why I never approach guys out of my league, I'd hate to be one of their "better than nothing" meets" Us too ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Why does a black band appear through my comment ![]() Oh its gone now !!!! ![]() | |||
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"I dont think I'm in anyones league, I dont think its even the same sport, I'm judging this on messages I have sent that are polite and deleted straight away, its knocked my confidence in PM'ing " I put that down to sheer pig ignorance on their part, mate. Best thing to do is palm them off and carry on. | |||
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"I dont think I'm in anyones league, I dont think its even the same sport, I'm judging this on messages I have sent that are polite and deleted straight away, its knocked my confidence in PM'ing " Why do u think that looks like you've had plenty of meets to me and recently too! Not judging you in the slightest but I would prefer to meet someone on a regular basis so quality not quantity for me again not commenting on your meets in any way, but I suppose I want to be attracted to that person I think in that respect I hope it's someone out of my league ! | |||
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"Well... I always Think there out my league... And then get a shock when they want to play with me... Does it come down to confidence not really... You either appeal and attract.. I put myself at a average 5.5 because That's what I am" If youre a 5.5 then im a 1...god ![]() | |||
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"I used to think this a lot, surely he can't be interested in me etc but I think perceptions change as you age - or certainly mine do. I think there's an attraction there or there isn't regardless of looks, may be to personality or maybe there's just a 'thing'. You know 'that' thing that sometimes happens? ![]() a big hard on? ![]() | |||
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"The way I see it there's always a compromise. If you're going to enjoy a smoke a drink and a pizza you're not going to end up being as fit as someone who is more driven to stay healthy and eat well, the trade off is that you're either a fat slob at one extreme or a neurotic egomaniac at the other or somewhere in between. I'd say at least 85% of the time people have the option to do something about what eats away at their self esteem. Personally I'm somewhere in the middle, I like a smoke, although I don't drink I do like a pizza and I'm also quite fond of sitting on my arse for a while but I do get out and about and I at least have a conscience about my health. So I would argue that your appearance is a reflection of your life priorities and that influences who you've got things in common with, ego, who you will get on with. Personally I would feel intimidated and insecure around an overly confident and sexy woman but I would identify with a woman who knows she isn't perfect but has the sense to not let it get her down. Now if I could find a sex goddess who is perfect in every way and got turned on by watching me get head-shots on the 360 then I'd be a happy bunny but I'm realistic and I'd be happy to cuddle up with someone who thinks a weekend spent watching netflix in bed is more fun than a walk in the country. It stands to reason that she's not likely to be a size 0 supermodel. - not that I'd find much use for one of those either." You my good fellow are singing from the same hymn sheet as me ! I don't usually 'big up' other peoples posts, but yours is a very well thought out and well presented opinion which is worth of praise. | |||
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"The way I see it there's always a compromise. If you're going to enjoy a smoke a drink and a pizza you're not going to end up being as fit as someone who is more driven to stay healthy and eat well, the trade off is that you're either a fat slob at one extreme or a neurotic egomaniac at the other or somewhere in between. I'd say at least 85% of the time people have the option to do something about what eats away at their self esteem. Personally I'm somewhere in the middle, I like a smoke, although I don't drink I do like a pizza and I'm also quite fond of sitting on my arse for a while but I do get out and about and I at least have a conscience about my health. So I would argue that your appearance is a reflection of your life priorities and that influences who you've got things in common with, ego, who you will get on with. Personally I would feel intimidated and insecure around an overly confident and sexy woman but I would identify with a woman who knows she isn't perfect but has the sense to not let it get her down. Now if I could find a sex goddess who is perfect in every way and got turned on by watching me get head-shots on the 360 then I'd be a happy bunny but I'm realistic and I'd be happy to cuddle up with someone who thinks a weekend spent watching netflix in bed is more fun than a walk in the country. It stands to reason that she's not likely to be a size 0 supermodel. - not that I'd find much use for one of those either." ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I used to think this a lot, surely he can't be interested in me etc but I think perceptions change as you age - or certainly mine do. I think there's an attraction there or there isn't regardless of looks, may be to personality or maybe there's just a 'thing'. You know 'that' thing that sometimes happens? ![]() ![]() Haha well I was talking about a connection but I guess that's a link for a connection! | |||
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"I know my place." Likewise, at the bottom of the food chain | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" No one is out of my league. They merely think they are. | |||
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"I know my place. Likewise, at the bottom of the food chain" so you get "eaten" by those above? ![]() | |||
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"There will always be someone you like but they don't like you, And someone who likes you but you don't like them, There has to be something that attracts me to them I wont just sleep with someone just so I can have sex ![]() True & don't I know it | |||
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"Its not about leagues for me... but I do sometimes wonder why anyone would be interested in me (self esteem, and always think I'm a bit plain jane and boring compared to some of my friends)" Your hot body perhaps?? ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well... I always Think there out my league... And then get a shock when they want to play with me... Does it come down to confidence not really... You either appeal and attract.. I put myself at a average 5.5 because That's what I am" 8 ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well... I always Think there out my league... And then get a shock when they want to play with me... Does it come down to confidence not really... You either appeal and attract.. I put myself at a average 5.5 because That's what I am" ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Plus there are plenty of people we've liked the look of and then been completely put of after chatting to them, there has to be an attraction for us but we have to like them too ![]() Totally agree ! Not all about looks once you start chattingx | |||
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"I personally think it's more about chemistry & what kind of sex partner you're after in that moment, rather than perfect looks & body " ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" No! ![]() | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm the same on this one!..guys or couples who are extremely attractive message me & they think from my face pic & body pics I look great...but I've got a mummy tummy with a road map across it.... | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() so am I misunderstanding what people mean by league, is it that you have something that you feel they will find unattractive about you rather than they are in any way better than you? | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() Haha in my opinion your hot ![]() | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'??" Some people click. Some don't. I don't think it's any more complicated than that. | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() ....I personally have issues with my tummy area so I guess yes..that's just me though.. | |||
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"Is there such a thing as someone being 'out of your league'?? Good Lord, yes! I'm not even in the same league as Mrs ddc (Why else do you think we don't have face pics of me?) ![]() ![]() You're very kind, we were once, but she's definitely worn better than me physically. And while she may value my complex sense of humour, if I wanted to make any lady on here laugh, I only need to drop my trousers ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"so am I misunderstanding what people mean by league, is it that you have something that you feel they will find unattractive about you rather than they are in any way better than you?" Sounds like two sides of the same coin to me. If you feel somebody is unlikely to find you attractive I'd say you're in different leagues. Of course they may disagree and then you can enter a knockout cup... or maybe a relegation battle.. | |||
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"so am I misunderstanding what people mean by league, is it that you have something that you feel they will find unattractive about you rather than they are in any way better than you?" Yeah i wouldn't say anyone is 'better' than me, better is a really vague word to describe a whole person anyway- it's a word you'd use to apply to something that can be measured. But there are people out there more attractive than me and i'm pretty sure they would look at me and think ew. Same as guys i find very unattractive, i wonder why they think i would fancy them? | |||
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"Well we recently got chatting to a couple, when they sent their private pic's it became very apparent that they where in a total different league to us. They would be champions league and us div Two in the auto windscreens league. We did point out that they were way hotter than us. Jools and I both agreed that we would find it intimidating to play with a couple who were so frigging hot. Funny enough when we sent our pic's we have not heard back. ![]() ![]() ![]() I would put u guys in the champions league x ![]() | |||
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"Nope, take the 'bull' by the horns and hang on for the ride! shouting Yeeehaaaawwww!! ![]() Well howdy purty laydee.. ![]() | |||
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"That's so right, us men aint bothered about looks. You can speak for yourself shag. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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