FabSwingers.com forum: morals and sex with others?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why do we have to be a married couple and not lovers to fuck others??????? what sort of twisted morals have some swingers got ,is this not a site for peeps to have fun with others (SEX basically and social if you get on ,even friends)so its ok to have fun with a stranger ie fuck a guys wife. But not with a guys girl friend, beats the shit out of me, cant get my head around that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren't married, but tbh have not found that fact a problem

In what way are you encountering problems?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

k&C

i totally agree with you we are b/f & g/f we dont find any problems with our frends or at clubs but we get a bit pi77ed off with people who look down there noses at us some times both our partners know what we do but are not into swinging we dont lie to people

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

is it not called 'preference' some do, some don't meet fb/non married couples.

you seem to be VERY SPECIFIC in what you are looking for.. why can't others ?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

When we did meet with couples we did'nt have a problem with them not being married,but we just don't like scary shouty profiles

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Who says you have to be married?

The only couples I prefer not to meet are the 'manufactured couples'... i.e. two fuck buddies. I find this type of pairing often has a female who wants her normal portion and lots of attention from her fuck buddy and then lets you have whats left over

usually because they have not met up for a while before meeting with you.

This doesn't apply to all fb couples, but I'd sooner avoid finding out on the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow!!! Don't you just love it?!! YOU can have preferences: AND MAKE SURE EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE, but you have the audacity to question others theirs?!!

I'm not part of a couple, but I can understand married couples only wanting to meet other married couples. I don't think it's an easy decision allowing other people into your relationship. Some will want to meet people with equal to "lose": that doesn't apply to fuck buddies!

Instead of slating people in the forums and on your profile for THEIR preferences, check yourselves and adapt your profile to attract people YOU want, and who WANT to play with you.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"why do we have to be a married couple and not lovers to fuck others??????? what sort of twisted morals have some swingers got ,is this not a site for peeps to have fun with others (SEX basically and social if you get on ,even friends)so its ok to have fun with a stranger ie fuck a guys wife. But not with a guys girl friend, beats the shit out of me, cant get my head around that one.

for some people there is a difference between a couple and a "Fuck Buddy" couple...... and if that is there preference then so be it and walk on by.....

personally I am more offended by the shouty and very agressive profile you have... and to be honest I sometimes do play with friends as part of a couple, and to be frank I'd walk past yours without a 2nd look and it is probably doing you no favours at all...

concentrate on the things YOU can control.....

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

we are not married (though we do live together and have kids!) and can't say we have ever encountered a problem because of this.

I do agree with some of the above comments though that there is a vast difference between b/f and g/f couple and a f/b couple.

personally we have no interest with playing with f/b and don't feel the need to explain why, its our preference, we have met some great f/b couples socially (at parties etc.) who we get on with really well and when we've been asked to play and declined they have been fine as they understand its our preference.

we can't all want the same things from this site and getting so worked up about the fact that you don't meet some peoples preferences is a pointless exercise!

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

OP seems to have definite choices; that's up to them.

In general, perhaps be less restrictive in profile requirements, then find out who the others are and what they offer/want before excluding them from your choice? Many a priceless pearl has been thrown away because the oyster looked unattractive at first glance.

Some of the answers seem to indicate that our perception of "marriage" is as different as our life choices in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never been asked to produce our marriage license, and neither have we requested the same.

We are here to enjoy a little adult fun with couples, that is a man and a woman. It doesn't matter to us if you're married, courting, fuck buddies or have just met at the bus stop. If you have issues, then they are your issues.

But, just as previous posters have already said, we all have preferences, and we don't have a problem with any people who play within their own parameters what ever they may be.

Right, anybody fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with others, there's a difference between unmarried couples and couples who only meet to swing.

I guess the objection is that 'fuckbuddies' have little or no emotional investment in each other, whilst established couples (married or not) do.

So in a swinging situation with fuckbuddys you might find that one party may have a different agenda to the other and possibly at their expense which results in an uncomfortable encounter. That's not to say it doesn't happen with established couples, but it's less likely since they have to go home afterwards and carry on with their real lives together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such an aggressive OPs profile then comes on to diss people who wont meet married couples.

Yet the couple in question wont meet single guys!!!!!!

What kind of morals have you got.

Kind of you can shag my wife but only if i can shag yours!!!!

Bit of a no brainer really.

i think the problem you maybe encountering is with shit profile text.

Im no literary genius but ffs be informative state likes and dis likes,

We know because of something we enjoy we can be frowned upon. we enjoy bareback, we are carefull and have reg checks but people turn there nose at us.

SO WHAT

we dont meet half of a couple. we turn our nose up at that. SO WHAT

Get a grip grow up and give ya head a wobble.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

heres one for you guys how about fuck buddy cpls who arent together but are still married to other people and there partners dont know but there swingers and playing away

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Good sex is good sex, whether it be for 4 mins or 4 hours, whether it be MF, FF, MM, or any combo of MMFF etc. Any such union is a wonderful thing, baby.

There is hardly a shortage of married "vanilla" people getting off is there?

The limiting fcator for many people must be STI's, HIV etc rather than morals. I'd be knackered otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, thank you, thank you ALL. Some good points and positive , others bugger off lol .Have changed our nasty horrid profile to something a little more freindly, we hope you all agree.

Nothing wrong with a little banter to brighten the day is there , MWAH to you all .

ps have fun

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By *entcouple4550Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

I would just add that we tend to shy away from FBs as the logistics of actually meeting up can be very problematic, particulary if they are married to/co-habiting with other people. Lets face it, it can be difficult enough to arrange a meeting with a traditional married couple when there are kids and 4 individual jobs/hobbies/pastimes involved ! Its nothing to do with morality its just a practical thing. By the by we are not married but we do live together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have a problem playing with couples who are not married/living together...

BUT I avoid people who state on their profiles that they are "fuck buddies" why???? because I loathe that phrase!!!!

Yea I know....fickle bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a couple that really are a couple and it makes no odds as to whether they are married or live together, as long as it does not involve cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont have a problem playing with couples who are not married/living together...

BUT I avoid people who state on their profiles that they are "fuck buddies" why???? because I loathe that phrase!!!!

Yea I know....fickle bitch

You're not alone: I don't like it either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont have a problem playing with couples who are not married/living together...

BUT I avoid people who state on their profiles that they are "fuck buddies" why???? because I loathe that phrase!!!!

Yea I know....fickle bitch

You're not alone: I don't like it either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who says you have to be married?

usually because they have not met up for a while before meeting with you.

This doesn't apply to all fb couples, but I'd sooner avoid finding out on the night."

I can understand what you mean, but in a way this is how a single female on the scene is anyway when she meets couples - isnt she? If the couple are in a partnership, he is going to show his own partner more affection and attention because its about enhancing their sex life, if hes married, hes not gonna show a single woman more attention is he? Or do you think he should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And i dont know if Ive expressed myself very well in the last post, but im not deleting it again. Of course when meeting someone it is hoped that all 3 or 4 or however many there are, all have a great time together, but I do think that couples are going to look out for each other rather than put a single male or female first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know friends of mine don't like as someone else put it "manufactured couples" who are 2 fuck buddies. And i can understand why as they spoke to a so called couple once or rather the guy who kept making excuses that his fuck buddy wasn't available but that he was on certain nights and that they also played alone. When they said ok thats great perhaps she can come alone the emails went quiet lol

Spooky that!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Who says you have to be married?

usually because they have not met up for a while before meeting with you.

This doesn't apply to all fb couples, but I'd sooner avoid finding out on the night.

Some couples treat a 3rd person as a guest.

Some couples enjoy making their guest centre of attention.

Most couples who regularly play with single fems know how to play fair so no one feels like a spare.

Some women like seeing their partner with another woman and enjoy taking a secondary role... after all they can fuck eachother anytime. However, it does take a secure relationship.... less likely in a manufactured partnership... IME

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you are totally right. When singles play with couples they shouldnt feel left out in any way, hopefully all three will have equal amounts of pleasure, or if the woman wants to watch, or the guy wants to watch his wife, then thats fair enough. In our case, we have both had situations of there being 2 guys and me, or 2 women and him, and its been a really good experience. But it both makes us really horny to see each other with someone else and we end up having sex with each other. I am definitely an active partner id say, I wouldnt be happy to sit there and let my guy have sex with another woman and not be involved - im not that kind and sharing, but I accept that about myself and thats why we tend to swing with couples, its equal. Though in our last situation, the guy of the other couple, after he had had a good time, liked to rest while the 3 of us carried on, it was a win win situation and thats what all swinging sessions should hopefully be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

God peeps got you lot going didnt I thats enough now get fucking not chatting ,you never know when it will be your last

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