FabSwingers.com forum: ignorance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I try to reply to every message simply because i feel it's the polite thing to do, even if I'm not interested I will inform them.

It would be nice if people would extend the same courtesy sometimes as while I can take a no, everybody has different tastes after all, it would be nice to be told so

anybody else feel the same way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ugartitsandhimCouple
over a year ago

North West

No !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How come?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

general consensus seems I am wrong then

perhaps I should just ignore the people I'm not interested in?

is that what you feel is the 'done thing'?

just curious really, this wasn't an accusation

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

It might not be ignorance it might just be practicality.

Like you I answer all emails, even if it is a polite no thank you, but then I receive a low number and can deal with it without it taking over my day/evening.

If I got, say 50, a day I might take a different view. I'm sure there are plenty of females and couples who get way more than that!

At the end of the day we are all here for fun. Answering endless emails with a polite no thanks isn't really it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is that, whereas most blokes on here will get a handful of messages so can reply to them if they want to, the women on here can get hundreds of messages within a couple of hours.

My view is, just be grateful if you get any replies at all and keep everything polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply but get so few it's hardly a particularly onerous task!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, if a person doesn't reply then they aren't interested, simple really, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It might not be ignorance it might just be practicality.

Like you I answer all emails, even if it is a polite no thank you, but then I receive a low number and can deal with it without it taking over my day/evening.

If I got, say 50, a day I might take a different view. I'm sure there are plenty of females and couples who get way more than that!

At the end of the day we are all here for fun. Answering endless emails with a polite no thanks isn't really it."

I do hope that's not our field your Rod thrusting about in your pics!! Something has scared the horses lately round our ends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if I replied to every message I got I'd have to quit my job. Or hire a PA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ye gods this subject has been done to death. no reply=no thankyou!! this is stated in the site FAQ's.

My time is my own it is not for anybody else to dictate how I spend it, so when I get 1-2 word messages, messages from guys several hndred miles away, couples in their 50's etc etc, all people who if they had read my profile would know that they wee wasting their time, then I just delete and block instead of wasting my own time.

also when I have replied to messages that sort of meet my criteria but Im still not interested, Iv had but why not? or just plain rude responses, so now it is incredibely rare that I respond to anybody that I am not interested in.

I also dont understand why guys seem to think that an inbox with no thanks messages in is in anyway better that no messages!!!!

and breathe....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess it's true males won't receive even half as many emails and so have more time to reply

I can understand that, hadn't thought of it that way

if I get ignored I just usually take it as a no anyway haha

each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to reply to every message simply because i feel it's the polite thing to do, even if I'm not interested I will inform them.

It would be nice if people would extend the same courtesy sometimes as while I can take a no, everybody has different tastes after all, it would be nice to be told so

anybody else feel the same way?"

Yeah it's nice to do that - until you get someone dickish who doesn't like being told no. Some days you're just not in the mood to be told why they wouldn't fuck you anyway, even though they approached you.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

The problem with replying is it removes the site warning not to message someone again and then you get follow up messages.

I've even had messages saying 'we spoke a month ago, how are you?' trying to start a new convo, when all we had was two messages - one 'hello' and one me saying 'no thanks'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The problem with replying is it removes the site warning not to message someone again and then you get follow up messages.

I've even had messages saying 'we spoke a month ago, how are you?' trying to start a new convo, when all we had was two messages - one 'hello' and one me saying 'no thanks'."

hadn't thought of that either

as iv said I'm relatively new to the scene and asking to find out opinions

but I fully appreciate why now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem with it, is some here get hundreds of messages, they would be spending their whole days replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply even if its a no ....but then I don't get lots of messages .Might be different if I did .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your behind a computer

Her

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

"I do hope that's not our field your Rod thrusting about in your pics!! Something has scared the horses lately round our ends. "

I don't think so, but it could be arranged

as long as your horses don't mistake my old fella for a carrot and go for a crunch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always reply even if its a no ....but then I don't get lots of messages .Might be different if I did ."
i wonder if guys read your profile?

ps nice bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do hope that's not our field your Rod thrusting about in your pics!! Something has scared the horses lately round our ends.

I don't think so, but it could be arranged

as long as your horses don't mistake my old fella for a carrot and go for a crunch!

"
giggidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always reply even if its a no ....but then I don't get lots of messages .Might be different if I did ."

Maybe you don't get many messages because people read the bit in your profile where it says you're not looking for meets at the moment and only here for the forums, so they don't want to bury you under mountains of junk mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah its even funnie when they say they cant reply to all emails, its like they think they are special and don't know most women get the same amount looool

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

What an interesting and original thread

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

if they send a face pic and in our age range we always reply even if it is a polite no. If they are out of our range or no pic we delete. MrsH has her own profile and struggles with the 100+ emails she gets every day!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can't reply to most but would definitely reply to Shags, as he's a legend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't reply to most but would definitely reply to Shags, as he's a legend

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Thanks and you are right there

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"The problem with replying is it removes the site warning not to message someone again and then you get follow up messages.

I've even had messages saying 'we spoke a month ago, how are you?' trying to start a new convo, when all we had was two messages - one 'hello' and one me saying 'no thanks'.

hadn't thought of that either

as iv said I'm relatively new to the scene and asking to find out opinions

but I fully appreciate why now "

That's a good attitude to have

Try not to worry too much about how other people behave,not everyone replies,it's not personal to you

Good luck

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