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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I often read posts from people saying that people have asked them to pay for a hotel room, or make a contribution, until now had never had the scenario happen until this......

After some chat with a couple they sent a email to my personal email, discussed meeting up and said they don't play at home but would meet at their boat, but wanted a £25 contribution towards the mooring fee!

Seems a strange thing to ask! Now I am not against sharing costs if meeting at a hotel but this seems a little cheeky! Its like asking for a contribution towards your rent or mortgage if you play at home, or if you travel to ask for petrol or train fares lol.

What are others thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often read posts from people saying that people have asked them to pay for a hotel room, or make a contribution, until now had never had the scenario happen until this......

After some chat with a couple they sent a email to my personal email, discussed meeting up and said they don't play at home but would meet at their boat, but wanted a £25 contribution towards the mooring fee!

Seems a strange thing to ask! Now I am not against sharing costs if meeting at a hotel but this seems a little cheeky! Its like asking for a contribution towards your rent or mortgage if you play at home, or if you travel to ask for petrol or train fares lol.

What are others thoughts? "

.........tell captain pugwash to buggar off.....the cheeky nautical numbskull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell him you own a blow up dingy but would he slip you a fiver for the foot pump hire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they state clearly in their profile that they do not play at home, and would be asking for contribution towards the cost of hotel accommodation, then yes, I believe it is reasonable to ask for it.

However, if they don't specify it in their profile, then I believe it is down to you whether to accept their conditions or not.

Regardless whether to accept or not, I would advise strongly against paying anything upfront, and insist on paying cash on the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so....you pay a fee, you get sex?

there's some folk you don't have to put so much effort into meeting for that particular service...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PMSL -- gotta give em ten out of ten for pure cheek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo, with rooms as cheap as 9.00 GBP a night for Travelodge, I believe it is rather cheeky for peeps to ask for contributions myself.

I have booked rooms for 12.50 GBP and am happy to cough it up myself.

It saves me having to clean and tidy my house for sure!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they state clearly in their profile that they do not play at home, and would be asking for contribution towards the cost of hotel accommodation, then yes, I believe it is reasonable to ask for it.

However, if they don't specify it in their profile, then I believe it is down to you whether to accept their conditions or not.

Regardless whether to accept or not, I would advise strongly against paying anything upfront, and insist on paying cash on the day. "

Actually thought about invoicing for my time and travel lol

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Have you got to wear those shoes that look like mops when you go on deck to keep it nice and shiny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does not cost that much to moor a boat overnight. That I know for definate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually thought about invoicing for my time and travel lol"

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Perhaps you should say that in your reply and see what sort of response you'll get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops, sorry! I mis-read the OP's message!!!

Asking for contribution towards the mooring fee is taking the piss, sorry, as it does not cost that much to moor a boat for the night.

I have not come across many pay per night moorings, however, that is not to say there aren't any.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Ask if they will take payment in goods and offer them a bag of turnips and a cauliflower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does not cost that much to moor a boat overnight. That I know for definate."

depends where you are and how big your boat is. It'll cost you at least £150 for a 30ft boat in Falmouth for a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does not cost that much to moor a boat overnight. That I know for definate.

depends where you are and how big your boat is. It'll cost you at least £150 for a 30ft boat in Falmouth for a day "

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A canal boat or a boat for sailing in the sea/ocean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does not cost that much to moor a boat overnight. That I know for definate.

depends where you are and how big your boat is. It'll cost you at least £150 for a 30ft boat in Falmouth for a day "

My mistake obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its wrong to ask for a contribution, its really cheeky. Swinging should be about fun and not about making a profit.

I think that if a couple message you asking to meet in a hotel, then the couple should foot the bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its wrong to ask for a contribution, its really cheeky. Swinging should be about fun and not about making a profit.

I think that if a couple message you asking to meet in a hotel, then the couple should foot the bill. "

yes Iconic we agree, but many do not. Although, if you are friends and it is a mutual meet then it's nice to share.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no no no, this is the chosen place of meeting for the evening and they will be paying the mooring fee wether they meet you or not, it is to all intents and purposes thier home for the evening, paying towards the mooring fee is tantamount to meeting anyone else at thier home and paying part of the rent or mortgage.

Sharing costs paid to a 3rd party such as a hotel in understandable but not paying it to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does not cost that much to moor a boat overnight. That I know for definate.

depends where you are and how big your boat is. It'll cost you at least £150 for a 30ft boat in Falmouth for a day "

going rate down here for a 30 footer overnight is around 35 quid ...u must be posh down there in falmouth !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

From what i understand the boat is moored there anyway, not like they are mooring it there to meet me so I don't see why I should be asked to make a contribution. People don't ask for contributions towards their mortgage or rent!

If we were meeting at a third parties location, hotel for example, then I would pay my share.

Just seems crazy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be worse, they could have asked you to meet them in a swinging club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems bloody cheeky to me if they're moored there anyway!! Next thing, they'll be asking you scrub their poop deck while you're there!

Avoid at all costs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it isn’t actually their boat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it tax allowable ?

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