FabSwingers.com forum: Is it rude?

By *ev and Trev OP Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

not to answer mail from someone who quite obviously hasn't bothered to read your profile?

OK, I know our profile is quite long but it covers all the basic points you need to know about us!

I used to answer all mail we received (even if it was with a sarcastic reply) but now i really can't be bothered!

If I am going to the trouble of mailing somebody I always read their profile in full!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes it is rude, you should dedicate all your spare time to replying.

park your life and swing swing swing..

even then, you would need to reply to your sent ' no thanks ' messages when they ask ' why babes '... or the 'didn't want to shag you anyway ' ones..

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes and no, its about preference and choice isnt it. It depends on the message, i dont always reply to ones i get where it just says something like a compliment though sometimes i do, gosh this is hard writing it! If i get a message that says i really like your profile, yet its from someone in the 20's age group, i reply and tell them if they had read my profile, they wouldnt have sent me a message. Just depends on the message for me, but not rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope!!

Be yourself.

Personally I answer all my messages, but then I have blocked single men so I dont get hundreds in ... yet....

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

If they have not bothered to read your profile then it is not rude,if you don't reply but it is very rude of them to send you a message when they have not bothered to read your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I only reply to someone if they've obviously read my profile, meet my criteria but I don't feel any physical attraction.

My profile states I'll not reply to anyone outside my criteria, so don't waste time writing to me. If they do, they certainly won't get a reply.

Over the weekend I've deleted without without opening or reading any message. Why?!! The first line of my profile says I'm not meeting for medical reasons until December. If they are that stupid/lazy/dense not to get past the first sentence...well!!

So no, it's not rude!!

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

It sounds like the OP has some personal standards. I can see both sides of the arguement, but in answer, to save the OP from sinking down to the levels of rudeness and ignorance of her correspondents, I'd say that judicious use of the "no thanks" button may be a good idea, as someone has already said. Open all the messages in new tabs in your browser and go click click click...simples, and not rude!

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

I don't think it's rude; maybe more rude to send messages to someone who has excluded me. However, occasionally I might get a message from someone in my exclusion zone that titillates me enough to find out more about them and what we might explore. Maybe I am more open than some to suggestion...

An interesting point raised about not meeting anybody in a set time frame. Maybe they still send to you as you are a dom and they assume that you want them to grovel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they have usually gone offline by the time they have read ours anyhow

.....but in answer to the original question - no it is not rude to not reply - we dont either if they obviously havent read ours (we purposely made it long to see if people do actually read it - and it works for the ones who actually do and match what we are looking for).

So come on peeps - if you are going to mail people, then at least have the decency to read peoples profiles first.

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By *ev and Trev OP Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

An interesting point raised about not meeting anybody in a set time frame. Maybe they still send to you as you are a dom and they assume that you want them to grovel

LOL me a dom? Nah I just know what i like lol xx

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By *ev and Trev OP Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

"not to answer mail from someone who quite obviously hasn't bothered to read your profile?

OK, I know our profile is quite long but it covers all the basic points you need to know about us!

I used to answer all mail we received (even if it was with a sarcastic reply) but now i really can't be bothered!

If I am going to the trouble of mailing somebody I always read their profile in full!"
wow if they went to pics 1st we would just message you its the lovely baps n bottom pics shame your so far from us

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

"Usually I only reply to someone if they've obviously read my profile, meet my criteria but I don't feel any physical attraction.

My profile states I'll not reply to anyone outside my criteria, so don't waste time writing to me. If they do, they certainly won't get a reply.

So no, it's not rude!!

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hmm they could just be get well soon messages

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

There is a swinging rule of thumb:

"That which you do not seek shall ye receive bountifully"

1) Single female seeking males, not interested in couples? You'll be swarmed by couples.

2) Straight guys not interested in any bi activity - you'll be made countless offers to "try it".

3) Couples not seeking single males? Do I even need mention?

Still think its rude not to reply? lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's rude; maybe more rude to send messages to someone who has excluded me. However, occasionally I might get a message from someone in my exclusion zone that titillates me enough to find out more about them and what we might explore. Maybe I am more open than some to suggestion...

An interesting point raised about not meeting anybody in a set time frame. Maybe they still send to you as you are a dom and they assume that you want them to grovel

I've said for medical reasons I'm not meeting. For someone to contact me to play is not grovelling: it's the type of man if you told you couldn't meet due to your period would say no problem a blow job would do or anal!

That type of man is not for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not believe one has to respond to unsolicited mail IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually I only reply to someone if they've obviously read my profile, meet my criteria but I don't feel any physical attraction.

My profile states I'll not reply to anyone outside my criteria, so don't waste time writing to me. If they do, they certainly won't get a reply.

So no, it's not rude!!

hmm they could just be get well soon messages

Starting: "I'm local, fancy meeting up" or "can I serve you"...hmmm perhaps I'm too hasty, it could end "when you're better"! Naaaaaah, don't think so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't answer unsolicited junk mail that arrives throught the door, why would I answer unsolicited mail that comes into my inbox? If they can't read- I'm not interested- why should I be?

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By *hucklevision1Man
over a year ago

Benfleet

Is it rude Hmm mm difficult if someone hasn't read your profile then its not rude they deserve not to be responded to. If they have and are just being friendly or sociable and polite why not reply. But here in lies the quandary how do you filter what is which. If I don't receive a reply I sometimes wonder why then answer myself we cant all get along, I cant see what is going on and how many things people are juggling I do like a polite no thanks though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone reads my profile, but I have no interest in them I will always reply- even if it is in the negative. If tht're unable to read the profile, they don't necessarily require a reply

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By *ev and Trev OP Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

"Is it rude Hmm mm difficult if someone hasn't read your profile then its not rude they deserve not to be responded to. If they have and are just being friendly or sociable and polite why not reply. But here in lies the quandary how do you filter what is which. If I don't receive a reply I sometimes wonder why then answer myself we cant all get along, I cant see what is going on and how many things people are juggling I do like a polite no thanks though.

filtering which is which is relatively easy! we dont meet single guys and that is stated in the 1st line of our profile so a mail that says 'love the profile, can we meet ' is different from 'hi guys, love the pics, if you ever change your mind about single guys please let me know'.

its not just single guys though we get mail from couples who obviously haven't read our profile either!

and a friendly/sociable mail will always get a reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" a friendly/sociable mail will always get a reply!"

"Nods in agreement*

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

Sorry - parts of my reply weren't meant to be serious.

An interesting point raised about not meeting anybody in a set time frame. Maybe they still send to you as you are a dom and they assume that you want them to grovel

I partly meant that in a light-hearted way. I will have to stop using emoticons - I seem to be visually dyslexic.

"I've said for medical reasons I'm not meeting. For someone to contact me to play is not grovelling: it's the type of man if you told you couldn't meet due to your period would say no problem a blow job would do or anal!

That type of man is not for me!"

As you'd specified a timescale as well as medical I was thinking along the lines of "mmm - lets get a booking in quick before the others. She is boiund to be in great demand with looks and attitude like that." ?lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will or won't answer its their choice. If you don't get a reply its obvious they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" a friendly/sociable mail will always get a reply!

"Nods in agreement*

Sadly not true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" a friendly/sociable mail will always get a reply!

"Nods in agreement*

Sadly not true"

How can you say that when I was talking for myself?!!

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