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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for threesomes and/or anything else "un-vanilla-y"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"for threesomes and/or anything else "un-vanilla-y" "

I'm not the sharpest tool in that box....but you're no single male! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

My luck has been just fine so that's why I'm here..

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By *lutmeup500Woman
over a year ago

London

but you are a single man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you! "

ha haha - nope!

Just giving an educated guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you generalising? Most,as in all who post here saying they can't meet,or have you been doing your research? I wonder what the percentage is of men who haven't met anyone from here.

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By *eepfoughtMan
over a year ago

Burnley

I've met people on here, not many, but enough. I have friends on here who I like to keep in touch with and even though I'm out of the country, I like to keep myself involved for the times I come home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

I stay on here on this site for all the helpful advice like rubbing bacon on things.

Plus the disappointment is character building

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Are you generalising? Most,as in all who post here saying they can't meet,or have you been doing your research? I wonder what the percentage is of men who haven't met anyone from here. "

Judging by the threads you generally see from single guys on here, the percentage who haven't met seems sky-high...

I'm guessing that those that meet post far less often....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just perv!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Are you generalising? Most,as in all who post here saying they can't meet,or have you been doing your research? I wonder what the percentage is of men who haven't met anyone from here.

Judging by the threads you generally see from single guys on here, the percentage who haven't met seems sky-high...

I'm guessing that those that meet post far less often...."

I should add that they do post threads, but not whining ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm doing just fine and I have a nice circle of fab friends and it's not always about finding playmates

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

Most, as in those who use the forums?

If so you are extrapolating from a small sample.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I find it easier to meet here...

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ah..i AM a single guy.....but in a dress..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here because the forums keep me entertained while stuck at work. Plus I like to keep in contact with friends I have made off here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but you are a single man"

Nope, I'm half of a married couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you generalising? Most,as in all who post here saying they can't meet,or have you been doing your research? I wonder what the percentage is of men who haven't met anyone from here. "

Of course I'm generalising! However, i can read the statuses of the many single men who don't use the forum and there is a recurring theme..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but you are a single man

Nope, I'm half of a married couple."

Which half?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but you are a single man

Nope, I'm half of a married couple.

Which half? "

The good looking half!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for threesomes and/or anything else "un-vanilla-y" "

ad infinitum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm doing just fine and I have a nice circle of fab friends and it's not always about finding playmates "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you generalising? Most,as in all who post here saying they can't meet,or have you been doing your research? I wonder what the percentage is of men who haven't met anyone from here.

Of course I'm generalising! However, i can read the statuses of the many single men who don't use the forum and there is a recurring theme.."

So you have done your research then. It would be interesting to know exactly how many men,women and couples are on here and how badly men fare. I've seen loads of profiles where the men have lots of meets. Is there a theme regarding the types of men who don't do well? That's your next project

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do you crave disappointment?"

Plenty aren't disappointed. We just don't rant about how fucking happy we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The good looking half!"

Oh dear!!! and you wonder why you have no luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you generalising? Most,as in all who post here saying they can't meet,or have you been doing your research? I wonder what the percentage is of men who haven't met anyone from here.

Of course I'm generalising! However, i can read the statuses of the many single men who don't use the forum and there is a recurring theme..

So you have done your research then. It would be interesting to know exactly how many men,women and couples are on here and how badly men fare. I've seen loads of profiles where the men have lots of meets. Is there a theme regarding the types of men who don't do well? That's your next project "

I'll have a look next time I'm on the loo. Have a nice day! X

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By *plhunterMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yawnnnn

Why would one even start a thread on a subject that doesn't need any attention

Oh wait.....maybe the attention was required for the OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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The good looking half!

Oh dear!!! and you wonder why you have no luck! "

No i don't wonder that thanks for your concern lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yawnnnn

Why would one even start a thread on a subject that doesn't need any attention

Oh wait.....maybe the attention was required for the OP? "

Bless...no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To give someone a good ol lickaroo.

Are you happy with that answer OP

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I would suggest that the single guys that do well know exactly why that is and keep schtum.

I'd also guess that couples and ladies that meet single men know exactly why they meet the ones that they do.

Telling no-hopers why would only encourage them to fake it which would benefit no-one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would suggest that the single guys that do well know exactly why that is and keep schtum.

I'd also guess that couples and ladies that meet single men know exactly why they meet the ones that they do.

Telling no-hopers why would only encourage them to fake it which would benefit no-one."

Great answer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having a blast tbh. Wish I would have found fab years ago. I'm here because I want to be not because I hav to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why I am I here?

So I can make new friends, meet people, join in the forums, write the odd story and generally have fun!

Perhaps I'm not in the majority the op is thinking of!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Think most of the so called single chaps on here are just here to get there Fantacy out of there head .we find most are just time waster s . We were fooled at first but soon got wise . We now just meet guys at club unless recommend by other couples . Don't know why they don't just try there luck out in clubs. The site would be so much better with genuine guys for us couples that do like to invite gents for fun too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

Pub isn't my thing, plus I don't want a d*unk woman. Here to chat to women and hopefully a meet will come from it. Have pictures which gives women something to perve at. I crave ice cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it."

Very insightful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get any success being polite, in life or on here.. May start being a cunt again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here till my itch has been scratched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it."

Very well put.

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it."

Agree totally. Well written sir! There are so many hobbies we can have but the friends with properly shared benefits is potentially something we can be open about on Fab and achieve more than in the vanilla world. Nature has given us the tools for more than simply reproducing the species so why not enjoy responsibly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a single on hete for a couple of years, I was here for many reasons...I found I made friends and meets easily enough and obviously really enjoyed that, I discovered the forums too and the banter therein, so it's become like my Facebook. Also I'm very interested in sex as a passtime or one of my hobbys if you will, and this is as good a place as any to add to my knowledge and learn new things. I then met a wonderful g.f Dr here so I'm progressing in the lifestyle I enjoy.....good times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dr here?! Wtf....on here...sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dr here?! Wtf....on here...sorry"

Hello doc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it."

You having a moan again my ol' china?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get any success being polite, in life or on here.. May start being a cunt again.

"

Don't be a cunt.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I used to be half of a couple on Here, made many great acquaintances and lived out one or two fantasys.

I've grown to like the lifestyle and still have a few more experiences to live out, that's why I'm still here.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I used to be half of a couple on Here, made many great acquaintances and lived out one or two fantasys.

I've grown to like the lifestyle and still have a few more experiences to live out, that's why I'm still here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

There are over 18000 profiles online right now on fab...prob safe to assume half of those might be single men. You spot the odd thread of status update from time to time about not being able to get a meet...u really think thats an accurate representation of single men on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get any success being polite, in life or on here.. May start being a cunt again.

Don't be a cunt."

Good advice there's rarely a need

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Single guys are the best things since sliced bread Luv them and hope they keep joining!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single guys are the best things since sliced bread Luv them and hope they keep joining! "

Yes you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys are the best things since sliced bread Luv them and hope they keep joining! "

I'm quite sure single guys pre-date sliced bread, in fact, the concept of cutting hunks of bread into more manageable slices was probably conceived by some bright spark who realised that such a demonstration of practical intelligence would probably impress the ladies

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it."

For me, it's time. I've have to plan meets and dates as I work long and unsociable hours. Combine that with the issues above and... I've missed out on my personal interpretation of the "good" ones because I can't pursue with the intensity that other guys can.

I thank Fabs for keeping me sane...just!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op ..there are lots of couples only here for the single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it.

For me, it's time. I've have to plan meets and dates as I work long and unsociable hours. Combine that with the issues above and... I've missed out on my personal interpretation of the "good" ones because I can't pursue with the intensity that other guys can."

This is another reason why I feel some guys do better on here than others. This isn't some sort of thinly veiled 'low standards' criticism, rather I think they just have WIDER standards, as in, they have a much broader range of women they're attracted to, and so find that the talent pool, for them at least, is a lot deeper and they don't find it particularly hard as a result to find meets they can enjoy. For guys like me though, who are fairly specific in what we like, not just this site but life in general can prove frustrating when we seek to satisfy our needs - it makes sense that the kind of girls I've mentioned I like rarely stay single for long, so not only is that deeper feeling of attraction an issue, you then have TIMING thrown into an already complicated mix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Craving disapointment I love feelibg low haha

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it.

For me, it's time. I've have to plan meets and dates as I work long and unsociable hours. Combine that with the issues above and... I've missed out on my personal interpretation of the "good" ones because I can't pursue with the intensity that other guys can.

This is another reason why I feel some guys do better on here than others. This isn't some sort of thinly veiled 'low standards' criticism, rather I think they just have WIDER standards, as in, they have a much broader range of women they're attracted to, and so find that the talent pool, for them at least, is a lot deeper and they don't find it particularly hard as a result to find meets they can enjoy. For guys like me though, who are fairly specific in what we like, not just this site but life in general can prove frustrating when we seek to satisfy our needs - it makes sense that the kind of girls I've mentioned I like rarely stay single for long, so not only is that deeper feeling of attraction an issue, you then have TIMING thrown into an already complicated mix."

Life's a bitch!

Still smiling though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am here for the single ladies. For the couples who enjoy mmf. I'm here for the cuckold couples. I'm here to host parties......and yes, believe it or not, to have sex.

I have had lots of all of the above.

I am here because without single men like me, who get out there, who are successful and who enjoy the whole scene then FAB would not be the site it is.

Hope that answers your question fully OP. And no....I'm NOT on here for disappointment because that is something that people bring upon themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I singed up yearsssss ago, cos I thought it would be easy to meet horney women lol but after some time you realised thats not the case. So now I am just having my profile hovering in cyber space as a fantasy. On another note. I do enjoy to upload loads of pics of me in the gym and 6pack here and as well to post in the forum. I do beleive in fate tho that some get lucky and some don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was part of a cpl on here for last 4 years

Enjoy the site , chat , forums etc so back on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a few above, mostly out of habit now. I signed up fresh faced and with a huge fantasy for threesomes, expecting couples to fall at my feet. Quickly realised that isn't the case. I've let and come back a few times and really believe I'd have more luck by taking the plunge and going to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it.

For me, it's time. I've have to plan meets and dates as I work long and unsociable hours. Combine that with the issues above and... I've missed out on my personal interpretation of the "good" ones because I can't pursue with the intensity that other guys can.

This is another reason why I feel some guys do better on here than others. This isn't some sort of thinly veiled 'low standards' criticism, rather I think they just have WIDER standards, as in, they have a much broader range of women they're attracted to, and so find that the talent pool, for them at least, is a lot deeper and they don't find it particularly hard as a result to find meets they can enjoy. For guys like me though, who are fairly specific in what we like, not just this site but life in general can prove frustrating when we seek to satisfy our needs - it makes sense that the kind of girls I've mentioned I like rarely stay single for long, so not only is that deeper feeling of attraction an issue, you then have TIMING thrown into an already complicated mix."

Is that a nice way of saying you wont just shag any ol' bit of pussy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The beard threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I AM NOT HERE JUST FR THE FUCK AND CHUCK AS IM A VERY GENUINE GUY WHO JUST LOVES THE SWINGING GAME

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was looking for a fab swing so I went on Google and this came up,

I still haven't found a good swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but you are a single man

Nope, I'm half of a married couple.

Which half?

The good looking half!"

so your them fem then

everyone has a right to be on here for whatever reason that floats their boat , maybe you have missed the point of this site its a social site aswell not just a shag fest, and you cant blame anyone for trying, good luck to all on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come here more out of habit these days I suppose.

There was a time when I used to use swinging sites simply to make the process of meeting women for sex a lot more straightforward, but of course, it's never REALLY been that way even on a site specifically intended for that, as you have so many other guys to outshine, have to present yourself in the most attractive light, consider the distance between you and other swingers, do they find YOU attractive, do you find THEM attractive, are they single and available, how well would you get on in person, do you find each other interesting etc.

But then, I simply don't meet many women in the offline world. Nights out have never really been my thing, too much drink and noise, the sort of intelligent, characterful, but also good looking girls I like always seem to be hidden away more specifically, but sadly when I DO find them - you guessed it, they're already spoken for by the guys who got there first.

It ultimately leaves me in a circle of frustration, like a guy who's spend years improving and polishing up his car, but can find nowhere to drive it.

For me, it's time. I've have to plan meets and dates as I work long and unsociable hours. Combine that with the issues above and... I've missed out on my personal interpretation of the "good" ones because I can't pursue with the intensity that other guys can.

This is another reason why I feel some guys do better on here than others. This isn't some sort of thinly veiled 'low standards' criticism, rather I think they just have WIDER standards, as in, they have a much broader range of women they're attracted to, and so find that the talent pool, for them at least, is a lot deeper and they don't find it particularly hard as a result to find meets they can enjoy. For guys like me though, who are fairly specific in what we like, not just this site but life in general can prove frustrating when we seek to satisfy our needs - it makes sense that the kind of girls I've mentioned I like rarely stay single for long, so not only is that deeper feeling of attraction an issue, you then have TIMING thrown into an already complicated mix.

Is that a nice way of saying you wont just shag any ol' bit of pussy? "

I'm simply saying that I know what I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on here as my social life sucks penis at minute it's bloody awful haha! So I'm just passing time on my boring nights lol. And now I'm bloody addicted I don't no why as I message hardly anyone ha!

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By *ral.steveMan
over a year ago

LEEDS

I have my needs met from here and I like the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"single guys, why are you here?"

Because I don't think pics of my cock would go down too well on Facebook.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I'm mostly here for the chats and forums, I love how open the community is.

Plus, I despise Dramabook and the idea my information is being sold so deleted my account years ago.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm no longer on here with the idea of getting meets. If it happens it happens but I no longer chase it. The constant disappointment is too crushing.

Just here for a bit of a chat and fun on the forums, and I'm really enjoying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here cos fab is an excellent way to meet like minded cool women.

I find that I make more friends than on a vanilla dating site, I guess because the expectation for most people is that any relationships will be casual.

On vanilla dating sites I've found that if your not exactly husband/boyfriend material a lot of women won't both with being friends.

Where as on fab I've met women who I don't play with but still like to chat and joke with.

Plus of course there are the ladies who do want to play, and I like those most of all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's meeting people with similar tastes ... I don't want the hassle of clubs or dating sites .. I find friends on here go to parties and clubs. And have some disappointments and some surprises

I have a saying you never lose .. You win or you learn ... Some days are more educating than others ....

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I'm on here because my preference is for bi men and there are many here - some don't state in their profile and sone do - but this is the best place to chat to like-minded men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are any of us here? Maybe none of us are...perhaps this is just a massive Turing Test.

Think about that for a moment. Let it sink in. Digest it.

Anyway I'm ostensibly here for fun with like minded people. And sometimes it's fun, and other times it's a crashing bore. But there we go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here for sex. Simple as. Met lots of women under my old profile. Ended up dating one so I left. That ended so I rejoined and do alright now.

Have no trouble meeting women in bars/pubs. Problem is, you take them home and then they want your number to pester you. Here, NSA is exactly nsa.

I do not understand why guys cannot get meets here. It is pretty easy to strike up a conversation. A nice face photo, a nice message and you usually get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a single female is like a needle in a haystack

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Well I'm not a single female

But I'm here because lots of men are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because I want to meet older women or couples, not many channels to do that through student life.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm on here just for the banter at the minute. Was loving it. Though I've really screwed things up today on that front as well

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By *onConformistLikeUMan
over a year ago

Chorley

Cos you generally can't find a vanilla dating site where girls sit around with their tits out on cam, unless you know any better. lol

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Single guys are here to make you women feel and seem sexy ! Hello god best creation . Mmmmm .... point being again ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good sex good laugh and making friends in that order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding a single female is like a needle in a haystack "

Here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio of men to women must be 100 to 1 obviously that means ladies are spoilt for choice.

What a single guy does have going for him is that a lot of his competition isn't of high quality.

This is according to the ladies I have talked to.

Make an effort with your profile, persevere and be funny interesting and articulate when you do get a response.

And above all save cock pics to your private pictures, an you will have a great time on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I come on here cause the airial on my telly is dodgy

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

I do ok on here, and enjoying my time on Fab so why would i want to leave?

Fab is not the be all and end all though, i also go out to swingers clubs, and vanilla clubs and pubs too. Fab is just an extension of that, a tool to be used to make more contacts, and keep in contact with people i meet at clubs. Plus i like the banter on the forum too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am here for the single ladies. For the couples who enjoy mmf. I'm here for the cuckold couples. I'm here to host parties......and yes, believe it or not, to have sex.

I have had lots of all of the above.

I am here because without single men like me, who get out there, who are successful and who enjoy the whole scene then FAB would not be the site it is.

Hope that answers your question fully OP. And no....I'm NOT on here for disappointment because that is something that people bring upon themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always difficult being the male finding fb /partners/ gf etc even outside of fab. The lady usually has an idea of the type of guy they go for, some want a lookalike of someone else or has to be spanish waiter type or maybe someone that their friends wouldn't poke fun at, yes those things do happen. They say its a mans world, not when it comes to relationships and fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok ill have a go,

A bi sub male originally came here looking to explore the sub side outside the relationship, changed my mind and no longer interested in doing that but got tinkering in forums while here now here purely for the forums.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Because what I'm looking for would be even harder to find through more conventional dating or social situations.

To be specific I'm currently looking for couples where the male is bi for FWB relationship or a women who at least accepts my sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work for Sydney university, it's my job to be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because I meet lotsa brill folk and I get shags.

the end.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Forums seldom meet now work shifts but have good friends on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I travel a lot - was in Sicily before UK - in September will be in West Cork.

So, using this gives me a shot at meeting people before I arrive.

I can change location in preferences and mingle with different sets people.

So for UK & ROIreland it works fine for me.

Life is Wicked Good ~ LOVE ~

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone


"Finding a single female is like a needle in a haystack "

Finding a single female is not as hard as many make out - the problem is finding one that doesn't confuse this site with a dating site.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

.

It's actually not that difficult when it comes to genuine's tbh. For some maybe it is for one reason or another. I'm sure some here only have endless letdowns and disappointments whilst others have endless joy, moans & groans.

Vanilla clubbers & pubbers are usually very different sexually to home, hotel or club swingers. In one instance vanilla cpls in pubs are clubs are rarely looking for another guy to join them for an mfm

One thing is for sure and that's no two swinging couples or two singles experience of this scene is going to be exactly the same so cannot be bunched the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but you are a single man

Nope, I'm half of a married couple.

Which half? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

In my case for bi threesomes. Not so much disappointment as waiting for something to come along. Patience is the name of the game.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"do you crave disappointment?

Plenty aren't disappointed. We just don't rant about how fucking happy we are "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do you crave disappointment?

Plenty aren't disappointed. We just don't rant about how fucking happy we are

This "

I actually point out I have great times..without going into detail..

my advice to anyone is to loosen up..and go for it

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"for threesomes and/or anything else "un-vanilla-y"

I'm not the sharpest tool in that box.... X"

You said it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you want to know ?. Are you seeking the best answe so when you get asked why you are here you can use it.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"Most seem to find it hard to meet, have better luck at clubs, or reckon they can do much better just in a vanilla club or pub. So why are you still on fab? Is it just the banter? Or do you crave disappointment? "

I have just checked my old single guys profile ( still kept for chat rooms with OH on this one )

and I had 58 veris from meets in two years

so some of us single guys do have a lot of success on here.

we just don't usually shout about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Imagine, if you can, 2 months ago when i started this thread, a forum landscape littered with tales of woe from single guys. Questions of why is it so hard to meet? Why will no one answer my mails? So i asked the question. Obviously it doesn't apply to all you class acts who have answered, although maybe it did apply to those who have become unlos since i did...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread is old but still relevant. Clubs aren't my thing. This site seemed an happy medium when I joined over a year ago. Whilst there hasn't been a line of ladies banging down my door, I have met one lovely lass and made a great friend with another. I do speak to them both off site now but there's a few that I speak to on here still. Forums keep me entertained. Send the odd message to new people should they catch my eye. Simple as that really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a ball cheers

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