FabSwingers.com forum: Soft Swingers = inhibited?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As full swingers do you feel less fun to be had with soft swingers & is this fair?

Or are they soft swingers for a reason.....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We soft and full swap, we have had equal fun at both, most of the time it depends on the situation, sometimes soft swing can be much more erotic and sexy rather than wham bang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i tend do full swap, but one of my best meets was a soft swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this fair? "

Why shouldn't it be fair to the people involved?!! Is there a rule book that states how people should swing?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

your thinking it means just playing with your partner in the same room as othersand not swapping? arnt you

but no its all other fun but penetration, so oral etc is allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

your thinking it means just playing with your partner in the same room as othersand not swapping? arnt you

but no its all other fun but penetration, so oral etc is allowed"

It is to some but you will find others look at soft swinging as no physical contact between couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

your thinking it means just playing with your partner in the same room as othersand not swapping? arnt you

but no its all other fun but penetration, so oral etc is allowed

It is to some but you will find others look at soft swinging as no physical contact between couples."

Now you have lost me

i thought soft swing meant in separate rooms and doesnt involve full sex so what is the point in meeting someone and not touching them, how is that fun?? Its like buying a bar of chocolate but not eating it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

your thinking it means just playing with your partner in the same room as othersand not swapping? arnt you

but no its all other fun but penetration, so oral etc is allowed

It is to some but you will find others look at soft swinging as no physical contact between couples."

personally i wouldnt call that soft swing, i would just call it having sex infront of others haha

so i hope that answerd you that yes you can soft swing as a single

p.s i have to say i have learnt a few other techniuqes through soft swinging

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

What is soft swing and what is not?

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Everyone has their reasons for whatever they preferences are I guess...when we swung we just felt that the 'ultimate' was more of a personal thing and saved for our our partner...they also felt the same way.

There is also the health aspect to be considered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well im only looking for softswing fun and i would consider that as doing just about everything but not full intercourse, so hands and oral fun both ways...i thought that was softswing no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well im only looking for softswing fun and i would consider that as doing just about everything but not full intercourse, so hands and oral fun both ways...i thought that was softswing no?"

We've played softswing with another couple and that was indeed what the evening consisted of. We had never tried it before but found it to be very erotic and a major turn-on, would definitely arrange another meet like this if that was somebody's preference.

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

We love to do both soft swing and full swing as we always have a lot of fun Mmmmmmm

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By *raceyntonyCouple
over a year ago

london

"Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

your thinking it means just playing with your partner in the same room as othersand not swapping? arnt you

but no its all other fun but penetration, so oral etc is allowed

It is to some but you will find others look at soft swinging as no physical contact between couples.

Now you have lost me

we soft swing with couples what we call soft is everything but not intercause get your point no touching only with own partner would be boaring u can do that at home

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By *untime twoCouple
over a year ago

blackwood

We soft swap and full swap enjoy both we respect other couples we meet who soft swap and say that they only let partener penetrate them but can still have good sexy fun.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

"Soft Swingers = inhibited?"

We have a similar view to JedandSasha ,Chancer08 , _aravancouple and _untime two in that we both soft swap and full swing depending on the likes/dislikes of the other couple(or single) and how the mood is as well.We have had just as much fun soft swapping as we have had with full swing...sometimes we will do both with the same couple on the same meet...if we havnt used up all our energies.

The main thing is that it has to be enjoyable,relaxed and sexy full for all

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i have soft swung as a single with a couple and found my self a bit bored as they had sex and i didn;t

if i did it again i would want to have a partner with me so i at least get some lovin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swing is as diverse as Full swing.

Full swing - does that mean watersports, anal sex, scat, BDSM, kissing, everytime, of course it doesn't it is whatever your all comfortable doing.

The same applies to soft swap, generally it is everything except penetration which is something you do with your own partner, but some people just like to do same room sex with own partners that they also class as soft play, for others it is girl on girl but anything else with your own partner, ie again it is what your all comfortable with doing.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"i have soft swung as a single with a couple and found my self a bit bored as they had sex and i didn;t

if i did it again i would want to have a partner with me so i at least get some lovin

You haven't got time...get on with the decorating!!

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"What is soft swing and what is not?"

For us soft swing everything apart from shagging.

but alot of people when we say soft swop, they think its just palying with on partners and touching the other couple or stroking.

each couple have their own ideas of soft swop.

Sue

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"Can you soft swing as a single? Or is it wanking with an audience?

your thinking it means just playing with your partner in the same room as othersand not swapping? arnt you

but no its all other fun but penetration, so oral etc is allowed

It is to some but you will find others look at soft swinging as no physical contact between couples.

Now you have lost me

we soft swing with couples what we call soft is everything but not intercause get your point no touching only with own partner would be boaring u can do that at home"

LOL we agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this fair?

Why shouldn't it be fair to the people involved?!! Is there a rule book that states how people should swing?!!

tch tch - can't answer a question with a question or two even?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we feel there is a lot less fun to be had with soft swingers for many reasons. We have tried it and it was not for us.

They may well be soft swingers for a reason and that is their business but we like really naughty fun which involves full swap.

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By *mcouple1Couple
over a year ago

nr warrington

well as a cpl of softies we find playtime to be very very sensual as we do everything apart from penatration x

but guess we r second class swingers ??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was a couple i was equally happy with full or soft swap, because at the end of the day your still getting everything just with soft swap full sex is with your own partner only

As a single female i wouldnt meet a guy or couple who only soft swapped because even tho i love the forplay, as good as it is to me its the build up and the better the build up the better the sex, with no sex i would feel i had been short changed lol

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

It is not for anyone to define what the word 'Swinging' means to someone, it is for them to define it for themselves, and whatever they feel comfortable with.

We've gone out one night and done every thing under the sun, and another time we have only played with each other. Its whatever it means to you.

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

we have only ever soft swung so far i like being watched and playing with a couple but we just havent yet felt the need to go further, we dont play apart either, though i will get my wish of having 2 in the right situation, our defintion of soft swing is a mass tangle on a bed with hands and tongues and mouths all over, no mm though guy is compltley straight though was funny when they accidentally touch each other leg and realised it was hairy and jumped a mile, we very much happy doing what we do as we still very much into one another, and what we do at a club is more a warm up for when we get home, though have met a couple of nice couples that we get on with very well and it would be interesting for us more so to know what someone else felt like, shagging is not the be all and end all for us anyway xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually people who think soft swapping is some how less than "full" are the kind of people who lack the imagination to provide erotic encounters, lusting only after a good fuck.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Usually people who think soft swapping is some how less than "full" are the kind of people who lack the imagination to provide erotic encounters, lusting only after a good fuck."

I have been struggling to say this as well and as concisely! Can't say we're inhibited or have 'other reasons' for not meeting people who prefer soft swinging only - if anything it's the opposite!! Z

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The situation.... laying back in an open play room enjoying the sensation of hands and fingers and tongues all over me.... after having explained I just wanted to be a lazy bitch and be pleasured.... one guy complained that it wasn't fair. He complained that I was getting all the attention and his cock was getting none. He complained that if he and all these other guys were going to pleasure me with hands and tongues then I should at least let him have a shag. My reply to him was a simple one, and I believe not too much unlike one which some of the soft-swing folk might be thinking right now....

"No one is forcing you to frig me off!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually people who think soft swapping is some how less than "full" are the kind of people who lack the imagination to provide erotic encounters, lusting only after a good fuck."

hollyhocks

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Some of my most erotic,kinky,fulfilling imaginative encounters have been soft play,well I use the term soft loosely because the word soft is a bit bland and wishy washy whereas the reality I have experienced is far from that

Of course there are also times when nothing beats a full on play session

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"As full swingers do you feel less fun to be had with soft swingers & is this fair?

Or are they soft swingers for a reason.....?"

This seems to be assuming that all on here are 'full' swingers - what do you mean by 'is this fair' and what reason do you think 'soft' swingers have for having that preference? Can't see anything not being fair as before you make arrangments to meet you make sure you're all singing from the same hymm sheet so it shouldn't be a surprise! Intrigued that the OP hasn't posted again on this as it's an interesting topic. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each to their own. We have been swinging for about 10 months now and have only just, in the last week, had a full swap. Previous to that we soft swung, which to us means touching, licking etc but only having penetrative sex with each other. We didnt feel ready to go the full hog straight away, we feel ready now and its happened and we were both very turned on by it. Had we done it too soon or when one of us wasnt ready it would have been disastrous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of my most erotic,kinky,fulfilling imaginative encounters have been soft play,well I use the term soft loosely because the word soft is a bit bland and wishy washy whereas the reality I have experienced is far from that

Of course there are also times when nothing beats a full on play session

aha, so it could be called "vanilla swinging"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually people who think soft swapping is some how less than "full" are the kind of people who lack the imagination to provide erotic encounters, lusting only after a good fuck."

Can't speak for those who won't consider doing it but agree with the opposite of what you say - that with imagination the erotic encounters can be just as or more fullfilling with soft play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As full swingers do you feel less fun to be had with soft swingers & is this fair?

Or are they soft swingers for a reason.....?"

Soft swing is as much fun, sometimes even more fun, than full swinging.

And yes it is fair ... and yes some folks are soft swingers for a reason and that reason is .....

Good old fashioned personal choice innit ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a "soft swap" couple (personal choice) and have met folk that hadn`t considered playing "soft" prior to meeting us. Now they have soft swap listed as one of there preferences.

Therefore we must be doing something right (for hours n` hours).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind soft swap

Takes us back to our courting days, lol.

Bet you all remember petting in the car, or in the front porch, or down the entry, before going into the house?

They were great times... I bet a lot of you guys have limped home with a stiffy because the "diddling" session was cut short by her old man shouting "what time do you call this?"

Yes, soft swing is good too

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