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Club or Private Meets - your preference?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Personally, I much prefer private meets. I find them easier to arrange, more relaxed and there's no one kicking you out at 2am.

I've been to a fair few clubs now and have just decided to see them as a night out. I can't be arsed with all that looking and sizing each other up bit. Playing with people I haven't built up a rapport with isn't for me.

Which do you prefer and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love both for different reasons,but sadly I dont go to clubs often now

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Certainly clubs. We always find action,are never disappointed by a no show, have a chance to talk (and see people in the flesh) before committing to playing, plus we like watching and being watched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly clubs. We always find action,are never disappointed by a no show, have a chance to talk (and see people in the flesh) before committing to playing, plus we like watching and being watched. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer private can chill out and relax more go chill in front of the telly or make or order food. Or just snuggle up in bed afterwards which isn't exactly something you can do in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I love the social side of clubs,the chance to dress up,the opportunity to meet people face to face and know straight away if you like them

I prefer sex out of clubs though,it's more intimate,less rushed,better surroundings and doesn't have a cut off point

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By *ipsxxCouple
over a year ago

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"Certainly clubs. We always find action,are never disappointed by a no show, have a chance to talk (and see people in the flesh) before committing to playing, plus we like watching and being watched. "

We the same we like to chat n have a bit of banter thata not to say we dnt do meets tho x

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

private as clubs tend to rip single guys off

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I love the social side of clubs,the chance to dress up,the opportunity to meet people face to face and know straight away if you like them

I prefer sex out of clubs though,it's more intimate,less rushed,better surroundings and doesn't have a cut off point "

You said it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love the social side of clubs,the chance to dress up,the opportunity to meet people face to face and know straight away if you like them

I prefer sex out of clubs though,it's more intimate,less rushed,better surroundings and doesn't have a cut off point "

Agree with all that

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Personally, I much prefer private meets. I find them easier to arrange, more relaxed and there's no one kicking you out at 2am.

I've been to a fair few clubs now and have just decided to see them as a night out. I can't be arsed with all that looking and sizing each other up bit. Playing with people I haven't built up a rapport with isn't for me.

Which do you prefer and why?"

I swing

I used to arrange meetings through another site. Then started going to clubs and meeting there only. Joined FabS about 6 months ago and for a while, was only meeting people from here. Now back again to clubs only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Playing with people I haven't built up a rapport with isn't for me. "

This sentence is why I know clubs wouldn't be for me. It's probably a bit different if you're a couple as even if you don't have much of a rapport with the single or other couple you're playing with, you have your partner there to bounce off. But for me I know it wouldn't be as much fun as a private meet that's had a little build up beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy both although lately we find that we will use the club as a way to meet people and do the social bit, and we then arrange to meet them privately to play.

We also find that we don't know we have a 'free' night until last minute which makes it hard to find a meet so we go to the club for ease.

Juicy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would choose a private meet over a club, But I wouldn't mind going to a club having a few drinks then going back to a hotel with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly clubs. We always find action,are never disappointed by a no show, have a chance to talk (and see people in the flesh) before committing to playing, plus we like watching and being watched. "

We could not agree with this more. We enjoy private meets too, but clubs remain our favorite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the mood.. Clubs are sometimes ace...but it depends who is there..

Had some great club meets and some awful ones.. and the same with private meets.. I feel a bit more pressured to play at a private one though.. Where as I am happy to just back away at a club. x

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Personally, I much prefer private meets. I find them easier to arrange, more relaxed and there's no one kicking you out at 2am.

I've been to a fair few clubs now and have just decided to see them as a night out. I can't be arsed with all that looking and sizing each other up bit. Playing with people I haven't built up a rapport with isn't for me.

Which do you prefer and why?"

I prefer private. I'll go to parties but rarely play at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a club meet for me... Not pre-arranged though.. A case of who is in there at the same time.

I don't seem to be able to find the social aspect of a private meet that the clubs offer. Most guys just want you to turn up at their place (under the guise of a social meet) with ulterior motives and expectations. I like being carefree and having a laugh and chat with no pressures.

My preference would be a private meet with the social aspect of a club, because I struggle to play in a club. See my dilemma?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a club meet for me... Not pre-arranged though.. A case of who is in there at the same time.

I don't seem to be able to find the social aspect of a private meet that the clubs offer. Most guys just want you to turn up at their place (under the guise of a social meet) with ulterior motives and expectations. I like being carefree and having a laugh and chat with no pressures.

My preference would be a private meet with the social aspect of a club, because I struggle to play in a club. See my dilemma? "

Might it not be easier to have a social meet in a neutral place with no expectations of play? I never meet at anyone's home unless I've met them socially first, although I do social/play meets depending on who it is. It can be a little time consuming, but I'd rather that than feeling pressured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer private sex meets as well, feel less in a rush and less nervous as well, all in all a lot better fuck experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a club meet for me... Not pre-arranged though.. A case of who is in there at the same time.

I don't seem to be able to find the social aspect of a private meet that the clubs offer. Most guys just want you to turn up at their place (under the guise of a social meet) with ulterior motives and expectations. I like being carefree and having a laugh and chat with no pressures.

My preference would be a private meet with the social aspect of a club, because I struggle to play in a club. See my dilemma?

Might it not be easier to have a social meet in a neutral place with no expectations of play? I never meet at anyone's home unless I've met them socially first, although I do social/play meets depending on who it is. It can be a little time consuming, but I'd rather that than feeling pressured. "

I'm clearly attracting the wrong type of men who don't meet in a public place. To me the ideal meet would be a few drinks out somewhere and then see what happens. Unfortunately I seem to attract the 'fuck and go' or 'you come to me' species of men! Neither of which are successful with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly clubs. We always find action,are never disappointed by a no show, have a chance to talk (and see people in the flesh) before committing to playing, plus we like watching and being watched. "

the same for us, we prefer clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private nur find Its easier to werden out people who actually play at Clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly clubs. We always find action,are never disappointed by a no show, have a chance to talk (and see people in the flesh) before committing to playing, plus we like watching and being watched. "

Same! And as a single girl, it's a lot less intimidating for me even if going to a club by yourself is scary (I've only done it once!) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm clearly attracting the wrong type of men who don't meet in a public place. To me the ideal meet would be a few drinks out somewhere and then see what happens. Unfortunately I seem to attract the 'fuck and go' or 'you come to me' species of men! Neither of which are successful with me. "

Me too! Maybe I expect too much but I'd love to be wined and dined first, makes it all the more exciting I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs

Safer.

Also if the meet don't turn up or is crap then there are plenty more people there to play with

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Clubs. Not enough men in York meet one on one, and if I get stood up in a club there will be other blokes to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have only been to a club once it was a private party and had a really great time. However its private meets for me much more fulfilling.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Ealing way

Always preferred private meets and not really a fan of clubs.

However I get my social side of things through parties and social get togethers. Always enjoy having a chnce to chat even to those I might never fancy in a thousand years!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it strange when people say about being social in clubs .... i am not sociable at all and find clubs easier than private mets when i have to make conversation with guys lol

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We prefer clubs or a party.

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By *lashersCouple
over a year ago

whitby/scarboro/Occassionaly Harrogate

done the clubs , but we like hotel meets these days, often get across to leeds/Harrogate area.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those who prefer clubs/parties, do you normally know the people who are going or do you just hope there'll be someone there you want to play with?

I've been to clubs where there's been no one I wanted to play with so have been just happy socialising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those who prefer clubs/parties, do you normally know the people who are going or do you just hope there'll be someone there you want to play with?

I've been to clubs where there's been no one I wanted to play with so have been just happy socialising. "

I went to a club by myself on Saturday for the first time, I knew one person (from here) that would be there so I just chatted to him (and we ended up playing!) but I would have been more than happy to just chat to others or float about and see if anybody took my fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first one I went to was V.A and I arranged to meet someone, The second was a fab social at Townhouse so I knew I would at least know people from the forums, I don't think I would go unless it was one of the above, But as for playing, Not unless I liked them,

Happy to just socialise

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

We have only had social and play meets at clubs so far and have had mixed experiences. I agree it's much better if their is a bit of banter and a connection with the female we are meeting. We are looking forward to our first private meet. We will be accomodating so feel it will be much more relaxed. At the very least there wont be anyone climbing on the bed who wasn't invited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a club meet for me... Not pre-arranged though.. A case of who is in there at the same time.

I don't seem to be able to find the social aspect of a private meet that the clubs offer. Most guys just want you to turn up at their place (under the guise of a social meet) with ulterior motives and expectations. I like being carefree and having a laugh and chat with no pressures.

My preference would be a private meet with the social aspect of a club, because I struggle to play in a club. See my dilemma?

Might it not be easier to have a social meet in a neutral place with no expectations of play? I never meet at anyone's home unless I've met them socially first, although I do social/play meets depending on who it is. It can be a little time consuming, but I'd rather that than feeling pressured.

I'm clearly attracting the wrong type of men who don't meet in a public place. To me the ideal meet would be a few drinks out somewhere and then see what happens. Unfortunately I seem to attract the 'fuck and go' or 'you come to me' species of men! Neither of which are successful with me. "

Sounds like YOU need to start being the boss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love the social side of clubs,the chance to dress up,the opportunity to meet people face to face and know straight away if you like them

I prefer sex out of clubs though,it's more intimate,less rushed,better surroundings and doesn't have a cut off point "
This for me too

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth

After attending my first club night over the weekend, I have decided to only meet in clubs. I think I was taking a risk with my safety, and meeting in my own home... I had a bad situation with being stalked by a meet (via text, phone and here) and was genuinely worried, as he knew where I lived.

Just because I'm only meeting in clubs, doesn't mean I can't build up a rapport with someone. What's to stop two people meeting up in a club, that have been chatting beforehand?

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Private meet, not sure if i would be uncomfortable at a club, do not know how Ts are treated.

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"It's a club meet for me... Not pre-arranged though.. A case of who is in there at the same time.

I don't seem to be able to find the social aspect of a private meet that the clubs offer. Most guys just want you to turn up at their place (under the guise of a social meet) with ulterior motives and expectations. I like being carefree and having a laugh and chat with no pressures.

My preference would be a private meet with the social aspect of a club, because I struggle to play in a club. See my dilemma?

Might it not be easier to have a social meet in a neutral place with no expectations of play? I never meet at anyone's home unless I've met them socially first, although I do social/play meets depending on who it is. It can be a little time consuming, but I'd rather that than feeling pressured.

I'm clearly attracting the wrong type of men who don't meet in a public place. To me the ideal meet would be a few drinks out somewhere and then see what happens. Unfortunately I seem to attract the 'fuck and go' or 'you come to me' species of men! Neither of which are successful with me.

Sounds like YOU need to start being the boss! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private, it's not even a question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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What's to stop two people meeting up in a club, that have been chatting beforehand? "

That's the only time I'll go to clubs now, if we've been chatting and neither of us can accom then a club seems the easiest option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club meets for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do clubs, private meets only, I want all they've got to give.... Yes I know I'm greedy, but that's the way it is

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By *ibanditMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Club is "easier" for us single guys, I'd prefer private.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

Clubs for me . Although the people I've always played with at clubs are people I have built a rapport with. No pressure to play and as a single fem It feels safer. I will do private meets but only with people I've got to know through clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get alot of spare time so clubs for me

rare I private meet as don't accommodate and live miles from anyone

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By *ueenandworkerbeeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Clubs. Get to see people in the flesh before committing, safer, more of a night out element. We really can't see the appeal of private meets at all.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"For those who prefer clubs/parties, do you normally know the people who are going or do you just hope there'll be someone there you want to play with?

I've been to clubs where there's been no one I wanted to play with so have been just happy socialising. "

We like the excitement of not knowing who we might play with - and therefore very rarely prearrange a meet. Having said that, there are always the regulars (single men) that we get on well with - and though there are no expectations on either side we often play with them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs, I pretty much don't ever do private meets anymore.

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