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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Assumptions in any place can be bad.. but I find on here it can cause quite a few problems..

I have quite a few things that as the female are my personal thoughts and preferences.. but people often assume its because Mr doesn't like it or says so..

For me its mostly that while if Mr wanted to meet alone he could and would, but I have no real interest in doing myself.. ( yes I have a few provisos if he did)

People seem to think that its Mr imposing this.. when in reality he encourages me to go out alone.. but as yet I prefer meeting as a couple.

The other thing is that I don't really make a conscious choice to play with bi guys.. Or guys with certain image... again we have had a few times people assume its because Mr is scared that they will touch him... its honestly my sexual preference rather than Mr... as he is quite happy to be around other men and not fear the wandering of hands etc. I just find it not for me.

Do others find this???

the big one I guess is guys assuming if we want another man that Mr isn't satisfying me... I hate to burst their bubble but he more than does and I enjoy this for the variety and for the fact its damned hard work to get airtight with one guy.. although we do have a damned good try with toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main assumption people make with us, is that I don't like to share my man and that he has put me up to it. I get hugely turned on watching him with other women, but not many seem to believe it

Kitty x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The main assumption people make with us, is that I don't like to share my man and that he has put me up to it. I get hugely turned on watching him with other women, but not many seem to believe it

Kitty x"

Im with you on that.. I love to play together... but I also love to watch.. I do get horny and like to join in too.. but Mmmm Love watching.. Its my main Mardy about if he met without me, is I adore watching so much...

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

The assumption folk seem to make with us is that becaude we swing we have problems within our marriage..l This could not be further from the truth as we have been together since 1978 and are more in love and have a stronger relationship than evet.

We both get a thrill out of the other having sex with other people and actively encourage each other to do so but another assumption that I (Babydoll) especially find is that because of this I will fuck anything..

Not true. There has to be a connection and attraction before I will even flirt never mind drop my knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What annoys me is when taxi drivers pick me up from swingers club they assumed because I've just come out of a swinger's club its OK to touch me and talk inappropriate to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What annoys me is when taxi drivers pick me up from swingers club they assumed because I've just come out of a swinger's club its OK to touch me and talk inappropriate to me "
. I've found that myself, when I've got a cab with a partner from a club the driver immediately thinks she is up for it, and had it openly suggested to us numerous times, freaking annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The other thing is that I don't really make a conscious choice to play with bi guys.. Or guys with certain image... again we have had a few times people assume its because Mr is scared that they will touch him... its honestly my sexual preference rather than Mr... as he is quite happy to be around other men and not fear the wandering of hands etc. I just find it not for me.

"

I guess the bi-male version of this: when people use the fact that your bi/bi-curious... Usually something like.. Mr is 100% straight so a bi couple is not for us... Which really annoys when its them that have messaged you first... But its the assumption that firstly your guy is that attractive that a bi guy just wouldn't be able to control himself and would have to grab himself a piece... Don't get me wrong, as you say its not for you and all good as its not for everyone and personal preferences are what this place is all about or there would be no BBC lovers or Asian or big ladies or pretty much anything else on here.

But the assumption that just because a guy is bi he is just so going to want to smash hubbies back doors in, is utterly pathetic and irritates the hell out of me especially when its very clear on the profile...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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The other thing is that I don't really make a conscious choice to play with bi guys.. Or guys with certain image... again we have had a few times people assume its because Mr is scared that they will touch him... its honestly my sexual preference rather than Mr... as he is quite happy to be around other men and not fear the wandering of hands etc. I just find it not for me.

I guess the bi-male version of this: when people use the fact that your bi/bi-curious... Usually something like.. Mr is 100% straight so a bi couple is not for us... Which really annoys when its them that have messaged you first... But its the assumption that firstly your guy is that attractive that a bi guy just wouldn't be able to control himself and would have to grab himself a piece... Don't get me wrong, as you say its not for you and all good as its not for everyone and personal preferences are what this place is all about or there would be no BBC lovers or Asian or big ladies or pretty much anything else on here.

But the assumption that just because a guy is bi he is just so going to want to smash hubbies back doors in, is utterly pathetic and irritates the hell out of me especially when its very clear on the profile...

"

You see for me its nothing to do with thinking the guy will jump Mr... It's just me not wanting to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The other thing is that I don't really make a conscious choice to play with bi guys.. Or guys with certain image... again we have had a few times people assume its because Mr is scared that they will touch him... its honestly my sexual preference rather than Mr... as he is quite happy to be around other men and not fear the wandering of hands etc. I just find it not for me.

I guess the bi-male version of this: when people use the fact that your bi/bi-curious... Usually something like.. Mr is 100% straight so a bi couple is not for us... Which really annoys when its them that have messaged you first... But its the assumption that firstly your guy is that attractive that a bi guy just wouldn't be able to control himself and would have to grab himself a piece... Don't get me wrong, as you say its not for you and all good as its not for everyone and personal preferences are what this place is all about or there would be no BBC lovers or Asian or big ladies or pretty much anything else on here.

But the assumption that just because a guy is bi he is just so going to want to smash hubbies back doors in, is utterly pathetic and irritates the hell out of me especially when its very clear on the profile...

You see for me its nothing to do with thinking the guy will jump Mr... It's just me not wanting to x"
No as I say I have no issue with it, personal preferences are what this site is all about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I get annoyed with men who assume that because we're at a naturist spa it's ok to climb in the hot tub next to me and start wanking or at a naturist beach it's fine to stare open mouthed, in one case from a distance of about two feet until told to go away.

Women who assume I'm bi even after being told several times I'm not. Women who assume that because I sometimes have sex with men other than my husband I can't wait to jump their husbands bones.

People who assume that because I'm older im going to be nicer.

I could be here all day .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Flik regularly gets messages but there's often a "if your Mr will allow" or something similar. Flik is an independent woman who makes her own choices in life quite rightly. We are always respectful of each other and communicate but surely subservience is a thing of the past...particularly on a swingers site.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Flik regularly gets messages but there's often a "if your Mr will allow" or something similar. Flik is an independent woman who makes her own choices in life quite rightly. We are always respectful of each other and communicate but surely subservience is a thing of the past...particularly on a swingers site."

You'd think wouldn't you.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

My personal irritation is the assumption made by lots of people that ALL black men are hung like Shane Diesel and assume its ok to casually ask how big my cock is as an opening question.

I wouldn't dream of approaching a woman on here by asking how tight she is. Its just rude.

Yes it nice to know but a bit of tact goes a long way

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford


"What annoys me is when taxi drivers pick me up from swingers club they assumed because I've just come out of a swinger's club its OK to touch me and talk inappropriate to me "

That's bloody illegal, I'd be tempted to report them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The other thing is that I don't really make a conscious choice to play with bi guys.. Or guys with certain image... again we have had a few times people assume its because Mr is scared that they will touch him... its honestly my sexual preference rather than Mr... as he is quite happy to be around other men and not fear the wandering of hands etc. I just find it not for me.

I guess the bi-male version of this: when people use the fact that your bi/bi-curious... Usually something like.. Mr is 100% straight so a bi couple is not for us... Which really annoys when its them that have messaged you first... But its the assumption that firstly your guy is that attractive that a bi guy just wouldn't be able to control himself and would have to grab himself a piece... Don't get me wrong, as you say its not for you and all good as its not for everyone and personal preferences are what this place is all about or there would be no BBC lovers or Asian or big ladies or pretty much anything else on here.

But the assumption that just because a guy is bi he is just so going to want to smash hubbies back doors in, is utterly pathetic and irritates the hell out of me especially when its very clear on the profile...

"

Utterly pathetic it may be. But it's an in general thing.

Most men will make the assumption that a gay or bi man will automatically fancy them. It's a life hang up that goes back for ever. Something that is both totally irrational and hard to get over.

Confession time. I have had this stupid mental hang up for years.

Over the last few years I've met and made friends with a number of gay men and women and i can finally say I have woken the feck up. I'm not proud of how I was, but I am proud of what I've become.

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