FabSwingers.com forum: Simple good manners?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know people get zillions of messages on here....but surely it doesn't take much effort to have a standard cut-and-paste no thanks reply lined up?

Obviously not for dick-head one liners...but if someone has made a bit of an effort, why not?

And if one has started chatting and it looks as though it isn't going to go further - surely saying so doesn't take much effort and is a damn sight more polite than just walking off?

Or am I hideously old-fashioned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you accept each no response as a no thank you as the site's FAQs tell you to, you'll be much happier!

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, come on. Surely you know? There have been a thousand threads on this subject in the last month alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big part of not replying is when the message sender has totally ignored/ not bothered reading the profile which probably clearly states some conditions that the message ignores. They don't read my profile, I don't read their message etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, come on. Surely you know? There have been a thousand threads on this subject in the last month alone. "

Maybe he doesn't look at the forums everyday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather spend my time communicating with those I'd like to meet, rather than those I don't.

I used to send a polite 'thanks, but no thanks' to those who had taken the time to message message something decent, but then got endless 'why not?' messages in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With an empty inbox I got more time to practise Spanish vocabulary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather spend my time communicating with those I'd like to meet, rather than those I don't.

I used to send a polite 'thanks, but no thanks' to those who had taken the time to message message something decent, but then got endless 'why not?' messages in return. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather spend my time communicating with those I'd like to meet, rather than those I don't.

I used to send a polite 'thanks, but no thanks' to those who had taken the time to message message something decent, but then got endless 'why not?' messages in return. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it is galling to you and others OP. However, take my word as a very polite person that it's impossible to reply to every message. I tried when I first joined but it can't be done. You will have to accept that no reply means no thank you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I know people get zillions of messages on here....but surely it doesn't take much effort to have a standard cut-and-paste no thanks reply lined up?

Obviously not for dick-head one liners...but if someone has made a bit of an effort, why not?

And if one has started chatting and it looks as though it isn't going to go further - surely saying so doesn't take much effort and is a damn sight more polite than just walking off?

Or am I hideously old-fashioned?

It's a source of much discontent on here but I'm afraid there's not a lot that can be done. As much as it rankles I think the best thing any of us can do is accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply means no thank you! simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some cultures giving the thumb up gesture is considered extremely rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just deleted about 30 messages without replying to them, most of them no pic in the message and none on profile either (or only had cock pics). Only another 96 to look through and then i'll start replying to the ones i didn't delete.

Yeah it's polite, i don't wanna be polite and don't have to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big part of not replying is when the message sender has totally ignored/ not bothered reading the profile which probably clearly states some conditions that the message ignores. They don't read my profile, I don't read their message etc"

Oh yes, my biggest bug-bear. Someone who messages me without having read my profile first. (Yes, it's hidden atm, as I am sick to death of no one reading it before messaging me). Then they wonder why and whine about it or get nasty when you knock them back. Much easier to delete the message and block someone who is that ignorant or stupid. Harsh? Maybe, but guys should really read the profile before pressing send message button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you accept each no response as a no thank you as the site's FAQs tell you to, you'll be much happier!

crystal"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read "

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth

Easier to ignore! I have politely said no thank you before, only to be told I was too ugly/fat/boring anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a lady stop's messaging or doesn't reply to me (I know madness right?! Lol) i take it on the chin!

Let's not try & palm our own inadequacies on others lack of common courtesy. If they don't reply it's usually because you haven't given them an incentive too, that's life!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

OP, look at it this way;

Do you reply to every piece of nicely worded junk mail that comes through your letter box? or do you jus throw it in the bin?.

A no reply means no thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?"

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I know people get zillions of messages on here....but surely it doesn't take much effort to have a standard cut-and-paste no thanks reply lined up?

Obviously not for dick-head one liners...but if someone has made a bit of an effort, why not?

And if one has started chatting and it looks as though it isn't going to go further - surely saying so doesn't take much effort and is a damn sight more polite than just walking off?

Or am I hideously old-fashioned?

Fear of the perpetual comeback message probably accounts for what may appear to be bad manners but is actually a sensible approach on here...

I stopped worrying about that a long time ago and just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up "

Or they use that as their filters,the ones that ignore their profile,add a private note,that's what we do.sneaky,but works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather spend my time communicating with those I'd like to meet, rather than those I don't.

I used to send a polite 'thanks, but no thanks' to those who had taken the time to message message something decent, but then got endless 'why not?' messages in return. "

what debs said is spot on sometimes no thankyou just doesn't cut it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok Ive just put a meet request up. Within the last 5 mins I've had 20 messages. 15 haven't read my profile. 3 don't meet my requirement and 2 have been abusive. 5 fuckin minutes!! Good manners - give me one good reason why I should when the site is like that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have active filters

Your filters mean that people must be all the following to message you:

Can't be single ladies (account type Female)

Can't be male and female couple (account type MF Couple)

Can't be TV/TS/CD (account type TV/TS/CD)

Can't be female couples (account type FF Couple)

Can't be newbies (must have been on site for a few days)

They must have public photos on their profile

They must be verified (or photo verified)

I have all these filters on right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up "

Yes like single blokes about not getting a reply or a meet so it's simple read and see what they want ..... No single males in that case I won't waste my time sending message simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have active filters

Your filters mean that people must be all the following to message you:

Can't be single ladies (account type Female)

Can't be male and female couple (account type MF Couple)

Can't be TV/TS/CD (account type TV/TS/CD)

Can't be female couples (account type FF Couple)

Can't be newbies (must have been on site for a few days)

They must have public photos on their profile

They must be verified (or photo verified)

I have all these filters on right now."

Like you I have plenty of filters activated and don't have any issues with the messages I get

I actually answer every message even the dumb and rude ones and have made many man who is typing with one hand on his cock, think about what they are doing, apologize for the content of his message and become rather polite and better mannered

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I know people get zillions of messages on here....but surely it doesn't take much effort to have a standard cut-and-paste no thanks reply lined up?

Obviously not for dick-head one liners...but if someone has made a bit of an effort, why not?

And if one has started chatting and it looks as though it isn't going to go further - surely saying so doesn't take much effort and is a damn sight more polite than just walking off?

Or am I hideously old-fashioned?

We always look at the profile of the sender before reading the message - and if there's been little/no effort put into the text and pics - we'll most likely delete without reading.

So no.

It's not rude.

As to whether you're hideously old fashioned? Who knows! But if you've been here before then surely you'd know how sites like Fab work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think guys don't appreciate the amount of messages ladies get on here !

Even themingers get swamped coz us blokes will fuk anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some messages just don't warrant any reply and I make no apologies to guys who don't read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think guys don't appreciate the amount of messages ladies get on here !

Even themingers get swamped coz us blokes will fuk anything "

I agree the munters definitely do better on here than in general life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you reply to every piece of mail put through your door or that lands in your e- mail in box

jo x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

When visible my profile states I won't reply to anyone outwith what I'm looking for. Therefore, if someone wants to waste their time messaging me and expect a response when they're not what I'm looking for they'll have a l-o-n-g wait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was talking to a woman the other day and all she gave was a couple of word answers, which was hard work. Took it as she wasn't interested but was being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think guys don't appreciate the amount of messages ladies get on here !

Even themingers get swamped coz us blokes will fuk anything

I agree the munters definitely do better on here than in general life."

...Quoth Adonis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have active filters

Your filters mean that people must be all the following to message you:

Can't be single ladies (account type Female)

Can't be male and female couple (account type MF Couple)

Can't be TV/TS/CD (account type TV/TS/CD)

Can't be female couples (account type FF Couple)

Can't be newbies (must have been on site for a few days)

They must have public photos on their profile

They must be verified (or photo verified)

I have all these filters on right now.

Like you I have plenty of filters activated and don't have any issues with the messages I get

I might do that next week coz i won't be meeting, looking for a fuck right now so just deleting and going through messages as fast as possible really.

Do usually get a lot of good messages, just at the minute nothing that great, a lot of cruddy ones and a few alright ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always try and reply if we get a well thought out message it is only polite but sometimes we forget or get that snowed under its impossible.

I don't understand though why people get so upset about no reply though? It's just reinforcing rejection surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think guys don't appreciate the amount of messages ladies get on here !

Even themingers get swamped coz us blokes will fuk anything

I agree the munters definitely do better on here than in general life."

Must be hard being rejected by people you have such a low opinion of?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, look at it this way;

Do you reply to every piece of nicely worded junk mail that comes through your letter box? or do you jus throw it in the bin?.

A no reply means no thankyou"

That actually does make sense......although I do try and reply to anything where an individual has made an effort......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhhh how it must hurt that Mingers and Munters all get meets and have a great time.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"OP, look at it this way;

Do you reply to every piece of nicely worded junk mail that comes through your letter box? or do you jus throw it in the bin?.

A no reply means no thankyou

That actually does make sense......although I do try and reply to anything where an individual has made an effort......"

Even women that have filters set like myself still get a lot of messages daily. 30-80+ so it can feel like a tedious day at the office trying to reply to all and were here for fun afterall, so for most time focussed on.people you are interested in is time more efficiently spent. Without filters set the inbox gets flooded, my first day as a naive fab newbie i got 397 messages, 127 came in the first half hour before id uploaded a pic, with me not upgrading to site supporter i could only send a max of 100 messages a day, so it was impossible to politely say no thanks to even the first 127 let alone all 397.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think guys don't appreciate the amount of messages ladies get on here !

Even themingers get swamped coz us blokes will fuk anything

I agree the munters definitely do better on here than in general life.

Must be hard being rejected by people you have such a low opinion of?"

No I never send any messages asking to meet them.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"OP, look at it this way;

Do you reply to every piece of nicely worded junk mail that comes through your letter box? or do you jus throw it in the bin?.

A no reply means no thankyou

That actually does make sense......although I do try and reply to anything where an individual has made an effort......"

I've always thought the junk-mail analogy to be totally apt in this case.

Each company that sends you mail has carefully drafted their message and believe they've targeted it appropriately.

I don't know about you but I've never written a reply to one of them.

Not one.

Unless of course I want what they're selling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you accept each no response as a no thank you as the site's FAQs tell you to, you'll be much happier!

crystal

Here you go OP, i'll make it even easier for you.

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

FAQ

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the FAQ's said to jump off a bridge, this place would be like a ghost town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the FAQ's said to jump off a bridge, this place would be like a ghost town.

Fab admin are gods. If they wrote it, it must be true

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up "

The amount of unread emails directly relates to the size of a woman's/ couple's ego....

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up

The amount of unread emails directly relates to the size of a woman's/ couple's ego....

I have loads unread. It directly relates to my laziness not my ego. If I wanted an ego boost, I'd read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up

The amount of unread emails directly relates to the size of a woman's/ couple's ego....

That's not fair, Scarlet. In our case it's entirely down to laziness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up

The amount of unread emails directly relates to the size of a woman's/ couple's ego....

I have loads unread. It directly relates to my laziness not my ego. If I wanted an ego boost, I'd read them."

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up

The amount of unread emails directly relates to the size of a woman's/ couple's ego....

That's not fair, Scarlet. In our case it's entirely down to laziness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think guys don't appreciate the amount of messages ladies get on here !

Even themingers get swamped coz us blokes will fuk anything "

You couldnt have put the 2nd paragraph any better...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why should you have to reply no thanks Everytime when in our profile we say no single guys !!!! But still get them every day mailing or winking . Maybe they need to learn to read

Is it not possible to filter out that problem?

Of course it is...they just rather have a moan about it here than put the filter up

The amount of unread emails directly relates to the size of a woman's/ couple's ego....

That's not fair, Scarlet. In our case it's entirely down to laziness

in our case its directly down to not receiving so many messages that we can't read them easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like you I have plenty of filters activated and don't have any issues with the messages I get

Cleared out my inbox and i am doing this now, it's not that bad so far, and block is there if i need it.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Even though the site rules state replies are not necessary good manners require us to answer.

It was just the way we were brought up.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We try to answer every message and match the style of the original. If they say 'hi' we say 'hi'. Doesn't go very far we find.

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