FabSwingers.com forum: Do some men charm women with money?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just interested to know if guys have a thing where they want to pay for a womens time. Weve had messages from men offering money for our/her time.

Is this because you feel that you wouldnt be able to meet that person so money may be the only way to interact with them?

or is this because you feel if money is involved their will most definetely be no strings attached where you dont feel a connection and only a one-off?

would be interested to hear your _iews.

please no moaning or arguments if your not interested or have bad messages id rather you commented on another forum.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all they have to offer imo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"yes........."

do explain your _iews on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had offers of money for sex but I said no as I'm not a escort I'm on here to swing not sell sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive spoke to a couple before that play with men for money, have said that they feel that by charging a guy for their time assures their is so attraction or intimacy/relationship. Its purely to fulfil their fantasies aswell as please the guy with his.

im not saying this is right or wrong, but I dont feel that ALL women/guys or couples that accept money for meeting are ALL escorts or prostitutes. Yes, technically speaking its debatable but I only think it is if your out looking to make money from sex as a job. Just my _iews.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come across this as couples fantasies on fab before so I do agree but it's a bit seedy charging lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

where there is a market for it, there will be sellers and buyers........

and there is in swinging, sadly.

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By *ridmusCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

hey one wants to charge one wants to pay let them get on with it if both parties happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one guy on here quite blatantly say that he'd pay me for sex...

I hope that he was a masochist because I gave him a right earbashing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of my fab female friends get asked if they want money or gifts. I've even been asked if I wanted £50 to get blown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt do it 2 cents for the life of me.... I've got better stuff to spend my money on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hey one wants to charge one wants to pay let them get on with it if both parties happy "

They are dedicated sites for that sort or transaction already. I'd rather Fab stay just socials and swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then again the male half of this couple offers me €50 every now again for a blowjob.. Gets dodgier every message he sends....

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I think as a man it would be one of the most depressing things I could imagine. Having to pay a woman to spend time or sleep with me. Soul destroying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I hope they give a vat receipt atleast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get offered money for sex!

So unfair!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Their is dedicated sites for escorts your correct, but do some guys really want a "dedicated full time escort" ?

i personally see that their could be two different attractions their.

a escort is abit more I want my money and heres my list of extras and times/prices. Lol

id guess meeting someone off fab but paying would maybe be abit more chilled and relaxed. Well, id assume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't use the word charm myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been offered money once, when i first joined so didn't know to report him, just asked him why he was offering me money and he said he had a fantasy of paying for sex...not sure why he didn't just go find an escort then?

But yeah i think some people it would cut out on any attachment with others, it's just a business transaction to them and nothing more.

Some people might also enjoy that power paying for sex gives them, and feel they can push other peoples limits to make them do what they want them to do, i'd think this is the down side. I've been in relationships with guys who think paying for me stuff means i should do what they want, wouldn't mnind but the things they bought me where things they wanted that beenfitted them, soon fucked them off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think as a man it would be one of the most depressing things I could imagine. Having to pay a woman to spend time or sleep with me. Soul destroying."

I could only imagine that but I think there is always somebody willing to have sex without payment no matter what you don't have going for you.

I get offered money for sex regular but at the point in my life where no matter the sum I couldn't put a price on my time so decline.

I do however think some people think because they have money to throw around they can get what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had a fantasy to pay a woman ... Never have done but my fantasy is 'Cus I've paid her, I can do what I like to her'

Maybe men have that _iew too???

May I add this is just fantasy for anyone that deems my fantasy unacceptable lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never get offered money for sex!

So unfair!

you and me both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money for sex usually has a negative cultural stigma associated with it. Maybe it goes back to slavery or beyond. Since both are invariably connected; instead of linking the idealism that money equals power which can be simplistic, seeing as most power goes to the banks.... You are not owed a blowjob just because you give somebody money.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I kinda want to ask this then,

you seem to have the idea its wrong to actually hand over cash in return for sex or a meet.

what if a guy offers to treat the women, where he isnt interested in the escort or receiving what he wants as he has paid. Lets say a guy says that hell treat her to a nice outfit or a pair of shoes, dinner or cinema whatever it is, would this be wrong too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I kinda want to ask this then,

you seem to have the idea its wrong to actually hand over cash in return for sex or a meet.

Didn't say it's wrong or right. What people do is their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I kinda want to ask this then,

you seem to have the idea its wrong to actually hand over cash in return for sex or a meet.

That's a swings and round-abouts one, if he's buying something with just the intention of having sex then really he's forking out for sex, however if I guy just likes spoiling women I don't see this as wrong... Cup of coffee and a cake - handbag and a pair of shoes, some people have a different value on money.

But then if you look at it that if you meet for sex and a guy pays £150 for a hotel and £60 for a bottle of champagne, £50 for flowers... That's likely more than a handbag and shoes and cost him for his wanted sex session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab I've been taken out for meals and drinks but that's just guys being generous I didn't ask them to pay or anything lol I think it's ok some didn't get sex as I was too fill up with 3 course meal lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have never been offered money - dont know whether we feel left out or flattered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I kinda want to ask this then,

you seem to have the idea its wrong to actually hand over cash in return for sex or a meet.

Realistically the shoes would be the most expensive thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the thought of an indecent proposal fantasy But I certainly wouldn't go out looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was shocked first time I got offered cash but second time I reported it to Admin that's what you are suppose to do lol

I accept meals hotel paid for drinks etc but that's different in my _iew

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was shocked first time I got offered cash but second time I reported it to Admin that's what you are suppose to do lol

I accept meals hotel paid for drinks etc but that's different in my _iew

its only different because thats what "you" want to accept.realistically thats still cost the guy £50/100(however much) to meet you.

so by you accepting an offer off the guy paying for a hotel drinks and dinner for your meet is any different to a guy not needing a hotel (saves instantly) but offering you somthing else? I.e lingerie/heels/money. He would have still paid the same....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people miss the point when it comes to the appeal of money, including those who have it, those who value it, and those who want it.

Money is basically a form of power and influence (though of course, it is far from the sole dictator of these things), as it can be exchanged for a large number of goods and services, and understandably this means money has a strong appeal for those who desire it, however, that desire is for the money itself, not the person it belongs to.

What breeds the attraction to the PERSON who has the money is their SUCCESS in acquiring it (which of course doesn't apply to money which was simply inherited or won by luck), the effort they had to put in to making their fortune and the rewards of those efforts both in financial terms and the personal satisfaction of setting goals and achieving them - these are attributes of a successful being, a survivor and a winner in life, and it is in those qualities that the true attraction lies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people miss the point when it comes to the appeal of money, including those who have it, those who value it, and those who want it.

so what are you saying? People only pay for sex if theyve won their money or those who havnt put money in and become successful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people miss the point when it comes to the appeal of money, including those who have it, those who value it, and those who want it.

I get what your trying to say bit the post is about what you think is acceptable in terms of receiving money or goods.

I accept presents by the way never had any but a nice handbag or shoes will do Me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol if you dont ask you dont get?

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"I've had one guy on here quite blatantly say that he'd pay me for sex...

I hope that he was a masochist because I gave him a right earbashing!!!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol if you dont ask you dont get? "

True but I don't put it on my profile lol but on occasion I've put on my staus update who wants to wine n dine me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lol if you dont ask you dont get?

True but I don't put it on my profile lol but on occasion I've put on my staus update who wants to wine n dine me lol"

lool,

well maube if you asked for someone to buy you a sexy corset (or somthing) for your meet that theyd love to ser you in might work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've paid for sex dozens of times, although I wouldn't ask anybody on Fab because it's not the place for it.

Only reason I do it is because it's often impossible to get it anywhere else.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

Im getting asked this alot as I do porn so guys think i will do sex for money..I Wont..Im ONLY interested in FemDomme or girl girl fun..

My _iew is ,If its between 2 consenting adults,and both are getting what they want,I have no problem with it..

What girl wouldnt like a nice present,a gift,other...

And,everyone being different makes it interesting..Do wish more wealthy guys would message me tho-I love shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy many years ago who left cash to pay for the hotel room and went while I was in the shower. I felt awful when I saw it on the dresser with the keys. Never again.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Its against site rules to offer/ask for money and also to ask for gifts and expenses in exchange for meets so any requests like that should be reported to Admin..

Ive removed posts and as these threads usually end up with someone using them to tout for business Im closing it now sorry

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