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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

Threads that claim to be seeking advice on how to get a reply or meet, or what to put in the profile or in the first message, seem so rarely to be doing any more than just trying to attract attention and sympathy leading to a meet, usually in vain, via the forum.

Genuine advice-seekers regularly acknowledge the sound advice given and apply it.

Attention-seekers either carp and find reasons why they cannot go to socials or follow any other advice, stay silent not acknowledging advice, or go and start another thread harping on the same theme seeking sympathy and attention elsewhere.

The forums seem to have more of the latter than the former right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also noticed that the vast majority of these are "single" guys (giggle) who cannot accommodate.

Can't take advice on (e.g. Socials) because can't get out due to partner etc....

Most are in the category of fake/cheat/wannabe/dreamer.........best to ignore?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

first to comment

agree with you though.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

*drat

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney


"Threads that claim to be seeking advice on how to get a reply or meet, or what to put in the profile or in the first message, seem so rarely to be doing any more than just trying to attract attention and sympathy leading to a meet, usually in vain, via the forum.

Genuine advice-seekers regularly acknowledge the sound advice given and apply it.

Attention-seekers either carp and find reasons why they cannot go to socials or follow any other advice, stay silent not acknowledging advice, or go and start another thread harping on the same theme seeking sympathy and attention elsewhere.

The forums seem to have more of the latter than the former right now.

"

Isn't everyone on here seeking attention of one sort or other?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Is this the right place for the look at me thread?

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney


"Is this the right place for the look at me thread? "

A very good question, but it seems to work. Although some people don't get the kind of attention they bargained for. Which is why these threads can be so much fun.

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"Is this the right place for the look at me thread?

A very good question, but it seems to work. Although some people don't get the kind of attention they bargained for. Which is why these threads can be so much fun."

Agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Threads that claim to be seeking advice on how to get a reply or meet, or what to put in the profile or in the first message, seem so rarely to be doing any more than just trying to attract attention and sympathy leading to a meet, usually in vain, via the forum.

Genuine advice-seekers regularly acknowledge the sound advice given and apply it.

Attention-seekers either carp and find reasons why they cannot go to socials or follow any other advice, stay silent not acknowledging advice, or go and start another thread harping on the same theme seeking sympathy and attention elsewhere.

The forums seem to have more of the latter than the former right now.

"

I think I can see the argumemt both ways. As a single man you need to try stamd out a bit to get attention. I can see the motivation and reasoning there. However, not taking on board the advice given is counter productive and is badically like a fuck or pass thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Threads that claim to be seeking advice on how to get a reply or meet, or what to put in the profile or in the first message, seem so rarely to be doing any more than just trying to attract attention and sympathy leading to a meet, usually in vain, via the forum.

Genuine advice-seekers regularly acknowledge the sound advice given and apply it.

Attention-seekers either carp and find reasons why they cannot go to socials or follow any other advice, stay silent not acknowledging advice, or go and start another thread harping on the same theme seeking sympathy and attention elsewhere.

The forums seem to have more of the latter than the former right now.

"

A little presumptious for you to assume their efforts are 'in vain' as you say.

I personally love the 'know it alls' who state the obvious or those who's question the less experienced, but surely...it's not about attention or trying to get any acceptance, it's constructive right? Lol

Seems to bother you guys are trying to use your precious forum to get themselves somewhere on here which really is a bit petty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A vast amount of threads on here are 'look at me ones' some are very obviously so and others not.

Depends on the OP as to whether the thread has they desired effect or whether it implodes into fabicide!

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


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A little presumptious for you to assume their efforts are 'in vain' as you say.

"

Well we only know their efforts are in vain because they keep telling us they are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's the thing .... The % of those on fab that use the forum is incredibly low . If you look at the amount of users online now at any given time you will realise it's maybe 1%:.

And the same regular posters roll out the same advice time after time . But is this advice any use ? Given that 99% of fab users never come on the forums it's open to conjecture .

So if the people who post are looking for attention , do they even get that given the small numbers seeing their post ?

It's an interesting thought , and perhaps any attention is better than none at all , as is any advice is better than none at all too . But in the grand scheme of fab , whatever motive and result that occurs on the forum is not that important really .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also noticed that the vast majority of these are "single" guys (giggle) who cannot accommodate.

Can't take advice on (e.g. Socials) because can't get out due to partner etc....

Most are in the category of fake/cheat/wannabe/dreamer.........best to ignore?"

I definitely ignore. Plus it's soooo boring and needy ZzzzzzzzzZZZZZZZZZZZ

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rub some bacon it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rub some bacon it."

As ever , advice which which will help anyone in any predicament

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me laugh how a forum full of people seeking attention, whines about attention seekers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clem hits the nail on the head....as always!

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"A vast amount of threads on here are 'look at me ones' some are very obviously so and others not.

Depends on the OP as to whether the thread has they desired effect or whether it implodes into fabicide!"

I couldn't agree more.

When advice is sought and accepted, which then leads to the poster getting some success, then it is very gratifying all round, although it seems the implosions are more frequent...

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

The thing which irritates in so many cases is the ignoring of all advice and the whiner that does not take on the easy profile changes suggested...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's the thing .... The % of those on fab that use the forum is incredibly low . If you look at the amount of users online now at any given time you will realise it's maybe 1%:.

And the same regular posters roll out the same advice time after time . But is this advice any use ? Given that 99% of fab users never come on the forums it's open to conjecture .

So if the people who post are looking for attention , do they even get that given the small numbers seeing their post ?

It's an interesting thought , and perhaps any attention is better than none at all , as is any advice is better than none at all too . But in the grand scheme of fab , whatever motive and result that occurs on the forum is not that important really ."
Well done well written and full of sense you are obviously an intelligent lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's the thing .... The % of those on fab that use the forum is incredibly low . If you look at the amount of users online now at any given time you will realise it's maybe 1%:.

And the same regular posters roll out the same advice time after time . But is this advice any use ? Given that 99% of fab users never come on the forums it's open to conjecture .

So if the people who post are looking for attention , do they even get that given the small numbers seeing their post ?

It's an interesting thought , and perhaps any attention is better than none at all , as is any advice is better than none at all too . But in the grand scheme of fab , whatever motive and result that occurs on the forum is not that important really ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Threads that claim to be seeking advice on how to get a reply or meet, or what to put in the profile or in the first message, seem so rarely to be doing any more than just trying to attract attention and sympathy leading to a meet, usually in vain, via the forum.

Genuine advice-seekers regularly acknowledge the sound advice given and apply it.

Attention-seekers either carp and find reasons why they cannot go to socials or follow any other advice, stay silent not acknowledging advice, or go and start another thread harping on the same theme seeking sympathy and attention elsewhere.

The forums seem to have more of the latter than the former right now.

"

Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The thing which irritates in so many cases is the ignoring of all advice and the whiner that does not take on the easy profile changes suggested..."

Maybe they thing it's better to have the wrong sort of attention than no attention at all

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"The thing which irritates in so many cases is the ignoring of all advice and the whiner that does not take on the easy profile changes suggested...

Maybe they thing it's better to have the wrong sort of attention than no attention at all "

Not in the many cases of Fabicide that have happened on here...

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"Here's the thing .... The % of those on fab that use the forum is incredibly low . If you look at the amount of users online now at any given time you will realise it's maybe 1%:.

And the same regular posters roll out the same advice time after time . But is this advice any use ? Given that 99% of fab users never come on the forums it's open to conjecture .

So if the people who post are looking for attention , do they even get that given the small numbers seeing their post ?

It's an interesting thought , and perhaps any attention is better than none at all , as is any advice is better than none at all too . But in the grand scheme of fab , whatever motive and result that occurs on the forum is not that important really . Well done well written and full of sense you are obviously an intelligent lady "

You DO have a long tongue!

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

A lot of recent help me threads have lead me to revive this old thread and my original post

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Attention, deffo

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"Attention, deffo "

I get the strong impression that you're definitely not a help me poster

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

We prefer creating a thread, whereby you put pros and cons about the profile above, used to do this ages ago when we first came on fab, but it's not been done since.

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

There are a lot of help me threads just seeking attention not advice....running multiple threads concurrently is a big clue....

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"The thing which irritates in so many cases is the ignoring of all advice and the whiner that does not take on the easy profile changes suggested...

Maybe they thing it's better to have the wrong sort of attention than no attention at all "

I wonder if that's true.

There have recently been quite a few diabolical threads that can't have done the OPs any good and most likely have repelled many....

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•


"The thing which irritates in so many cases is the ignoring of all advice and the whiner that does not take on the easy profile changes suggested...

Maybe they thing it's better to have the wrong sort of attention than no attention at all

I wonder if that's true.

There have recently been quite a few diabolical threads that can't have done the OPs any good and most likely have repelled many...."

only if everyone on the site reads the forums, which they don't. and some of them do have meets already so must be doing something right.

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