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By *ullmycracker1 OP   Man
over a year ago

westmidlands

I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% honest. We both read all messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol"

I think you will find that this will happen to lots of people

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By *ullmycracker1 OP   Man
over a year ago

westmidlands


"I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

I suppose. .. the cheating bitches lol

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol

I think you will find that this will happen to lots of people "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are 100% honest , only play together , and keep nothing hidden .

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By *i 69Man
over a year ago

luton


"I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol

I think you will find that this will happen to lots of people "

Noo it doesn't!!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

100% honest - my partner knows my moves and I know his. We do not need passwords to each other's profiles and we have a joint one, which we both access.

I don't think you can live the lifestyle of swinging (whatever that means to people) successfully and long term unless there is honesty and this in turn supports trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol

I think you will find that this will happen to lots of people

Noo it doesn't!!"

You would be surprised my friend

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Ha, hardly going to get a reply from a couple's profile saying "I often try to set up meets behind my partners back" now, are we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol "

I agree, you probably wont get people stating that they are cheating as this would ruin their credibility on forums lol

The point you are making though is one to think about...

How successful can a relationship be in the medium to long run if honesty is not there?

I don t mean to hijack your thread btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha, hardly going to get a reply from a couple's profile saying "I often try to set up meets behind my partners back" now, are we?"
lol we can always ask when hubby starts work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol

I agree, you probably wont get people stating that they are cheating as this would ruin their credibility on forums lol

The point you are making though is one to think about...

How successful can a relationship be in the medium to long run if honesty is not there?

I don t mean to hijack your thread btw "
lol that's fine, its good with difernet views on it as well. I guess they take the chance and see how long it will last and if few months, they might have the other one they met to fall back on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol

I agree, you probably wont get people stating that they are cheating as this would ruin their credibility on forums lol

The point you are making though is one to think about...

How successful can a relationship be in the medium to long run if honesty is not there?

I don t mean to hijack your thread btw "

I asked a question the other week on a subject similar to this..it was do you think swinging masks a couples problems...me being a single man...i think or in some cases knows it does...the same as i know i've been asked to meet behind the other partners back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is good. Not enough people are honest. Shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha, hardly going to get a reply from a couple's profile saying "I often try to set up meets behind my partners back" now, are we?"

Do you think not??

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol

I agree, you probably wont get people stating that they are cheating as this would ruin their credibility on forums lol

The point you are making though is one to think about...

How successful can a relationship be in the medium to long run if honesty is not there?

I don t mean to hijack your thread btw

I asked a question the other week on a subject similar to this..it was do you think swinging masks a couples problems...me being a single man...i think or in some cases knows it does...the same as i know i've been asked to meet behind the other partners back "

Ah, that is an interesting question. I think sometimes people think swinging can help with problems they have, and I am not sure that that is a good idea. It can be seen a bit like planning a baby to rescue a relationship some ways - it does not work long term.

In my opinion, swinging cannot heal a failing relationship which is where honesty comes in as anything else is glossing over existing problems that would not go away by themselves .I think a healthy relationship can really benefit from swinging though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were you as part of a couple outside fab too? I know many "couples" where the guy plays away and the lady doesnt or vise versa because they're not proper couples but theyre fb couples.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Clearly the relationship was broken before you got here as a couple.

We've been together 20 years and been here for 5.

I posted on another similar thread...

Ultimately if a relationship has cracks then swinging will blow them wide open. If the relationship is solid it will make it stronger.

In the long run if you don't have honesty that is tactfully and willingly shared within a relationship you have nothing and it will fail at some point it's just a matter of when.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP how long had you been together for before getting into swinging?

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. There is no reason for her to see people behind my back (or me to see behind her back) because we are swingers and can do that with our partners full consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been together 30 years this month been swinging on and off for seven years just for a bit of naughty spice . We both read the messages and have nothing to hide .

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By *ullmycracker1 OP   Man
over a year ago

westmidlands

The trust did go.....

when I first found out she said shes stop!... I gave here the benefit of the doubt and guess what..... 3 minths latet I found out they were still at it the pair of b######s lol

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By *ullmycracker1 OP   Man
over a year ago

westmidlands

Thats exactly what I thought. ...

but look what happened

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By *uestandpinkCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

being honest is paramount....but some on here hide friends list that in itself suggests they not honest or at least upfront of who they looking to meet

FB they can go awol too as no one has a idea of where they are going with things too

Shame your partner wasnt upfront to you and then parted on good terms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%. We only ever play as a couple.

Besides I have never met anyone who can turn me on in the way she does so I would never risk losing that!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol"

Yeah, like the cheating half of a couple is going to fess up on this thread!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Ha, hardly going to get a reply from a couple's profile saying "I often try to set up meets behind my partners back" now, are we?"

Not just me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always honest, and it has sometimes lost me the chance to meet some one.

I also would not see a married person behind their partners back. Having been cheated on myself a while back i know how much it hurts.

I will chat to married people, but that is as far as i would go. Of course as a single gentleman i find meets hard to get so i can understand some falling into the trap of getting a shag.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"OP how long had you been together for before getting into swinging?

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. There is no reason for her to see people behind my back (or me to see behind her back) because we are swingers and can do that with our partners full consent. "

Thing is for some the thrill is the deception. There are swinging couples who "do everything together, swing every week, yet seek to meet behind their partners back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on here as part of a couple a while back.

One day she decided to come off and said shed had enough so I accepted her decision and our profile was deleted.

little did I know she'd took the contact numbers of two men on here and started seeing them behind my back.

so my question is "how many people on here as a couple are 100% honest" ?

Has This happened to anyone else? Lol"

Out of interest, does she know that you then kept a single male's profile? Why couldn;t she just be honest as presumably you wouldn't object to her playing alone if you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex had a secret profile and after we broke up it appeared in local updates and was obvious it had been set up while we were together and that she had met behind my back. I'll be honest I was oblivious at the time - as others have said some people get off on the deceit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are totally 100% honest and up front with each other about everything - we both read all messages on here and on our phones, we both have to be happy to play and respect each other.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"100% honest - my partner knows my moves and I know his. We do not need passwords to each other's profiles and we have a joint one, which we both access.

I don't think you can live the lifestyle of swinging (whatever that means to people) successfully and long term unless there is honesty and this in turn supports trust. "

^^^This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP how long had you been together for before getting into swinging?

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. There is no reason for her to see people behind my back (or me to see behind her back) because we are swingers and can do that with our partners full consent.

Thing is for some the thrill is the deception. There are swinging couples who "do everything together, swing every week, yet seek to meet behind their partners back."

This ^^^

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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago

Nether regions of the back of beyond

Imho you can only be 100% sure if you're handcuffed and shackled to the other half 24/7

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol "

there are many other ways/means to tell/no/find out if your other half is cheating, a deleted message on a website is nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone will ofcourse say they are honest, I bet many are emailing members here to fuck behind their partners back, all they need to do is to delete the msg in the inbox and the other wouldn't know lol "

Im honest, as is my fb. He is working away, and I have promised not to meet other men at all, ever, as he has promised not to meet other women. We trust each other totally. He has been gone since November and ive seen him once since then. I have met no one and neither has he. Its not perfect and I dont like him being gone for so long but its unavoidable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha, hardly going to get a reply from a couple's profile saying "I often try to set up meets behind my partners back" now, are we?"
yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are 100% honest with each other (although we're sure all couples say that!) We both use fab on our phones and reply to messages separately but never delete anything so we both know what's been said. We share kik & other apps which again we use separately but there are no secrets on it.

Swinging should be based on trust and if you cant trust each other enough to always be honest with each other then there's no trust at all.

Ofcourse there will always be some people in swinging who end up doing things behind their partners back but we feel like if that's the case, there's probably a deeper rooted issue somewhere behind the scenes in that relationship.

Juicy x

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By *emonWoman84Woman
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"100% honest - my partner knows my moves and I know his. We do not need passwords to each other's profiles and we have a joint one, which we both access.

I don't think you can live the lifestyle of swinging (whatever that means to people) successfully and long term unless there is honesty and this in turn supports trust. "

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100%. We only ever play as a couple.

Besides I have never met anyone who can turn me on in the way she does so I would never risk losing that! "

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"We are 100% honest with each other (although we're sure all couples say that!) We both use fab on our phones and reply to messages separately but never delete anything so we both know what's been said. We share kik & other apps which again we use separately but there are no secrets on it.

Swinging should be based on trust and if you cant trust each other enough to always be honest with each other then there's no trust at all.

Ofcourse there will always be some people in swinging who end up doing things behind their partners back but we feel like if that's the case, there's probably a deeper rooted issue somewhere behind the scenes in that relationship.

Juicy x"

Never known there not to be a deeper routed issue in the background with every couple we have known something go wrong for in the scene...

100% agree.

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