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Syntax and Semantics - How much does it bother you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all...i see some of the things people write and wonder how they got through school and made it into adulthood! Im not a snob, but there is something to be said for educated folk...some posts make me shout "you thick twat" out loud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm my day it was called being anal about something. It doesn't bother me how people spell,conjugate verbs,punctuate or anything else. I'm not much cop at it myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol bit snobbish. Many might be typing one-handed

I don't like text speak though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never look down upon someone who was born with the brain they have or missed schooling,for whatever reason. Calling someone thick is small-minded and not something I would expect from a decent,well educated person. One of my regular partners has an English degree from Oxford,he says he's thankful that he was born with an intelligent brain.

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

Absolutely infuriates me and I presumed the writer is unintelligent. It doesn't take much to be able to throw in the odd comma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

Nothing wrong with snobbery x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not at all...i see some of the things people write and wonder how they got through school and made it into adulthood! Im not a snob, but there is something to be said for educated folk...some posts make me shout "you thick twat" out loud! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter to me how someone spells and I think it's pretty snobbish to worry about such things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As one who attempts to display the best possible grammar at all times, i do not believe it to be overly important when said lady happens to be smoking hot! HOWEVER...

it duz kinda de fine peeps in sertan cazes doe coz i mean like its jus showin u stuff bout dem doe init.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think auto correct on phones sometimes doesn't help matters either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As one who attempts to display the best possible grammar at all times, i do not believe it to be overly important when said lady happens to be smoking hot! HOWEVER...

it duz kinda de fine peeps in sertan cazes doe coz i mean like its jus showin u stuff bout dem doe init. "

Lazy like me with the capital I I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Y doz ev ry1 fink dey iz sew soup ear-ier b cuz sum1 rites funnie !?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom "

Kinda?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ur (see wot I did ha ) a snob not every one has parents who push them plus there's dyslexicia

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom "

I think this is the comment that resonates with me most. I personally link it to the other person's lacking in effort; that may translate in-person, too.

At least, with well-written people I've met - there hasn't been an issue in getting along.

Of course, it isn't true 100% of the time. Just because someone isn't an eloquent enigma, doesn't mean they don't know how to blow the socks off you, in person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the people that worry about it are likely to regard their own abilities with grammar among their best attributes.

Pointing out petty spelling mistakes is pretty popular for some in here i've noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom

I think this is the comment that resonates with me most. I personally link it to the other person's lacking in effort; that may translate in-person, too.

At least, with well-written people I've met - there hasn't been an issue in getting along.

Of course, it isn't true 100% of the time. Just because someone isn't an eloquent enigma, doesn't mean they don't know how to blow the socks off you, in person!"

And vice versa. Being literate doesn't mean you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind lack of capitals, and the odd typo or spelling mistake. We can all do them. The meaning is still apparent most of the time. But poor punctuation to the point that its difficult to read is infuriating.

And if its hard for most of us, just think how hard it must be for a dyslexic.

It can make people look stupid, or at the very least lazy. I feel bad but it is hard not to make that assumption.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And vice versa. Being literate doesn't mean you will "

Absolutely. I could have the energy of a dead fish for all you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom

I think this is the comment that resonates with me most. I personally link it to the other person's lacking in effort; that may translate in-person, too.

At least, with well-written people I've met - there hasn't been an issue in getting along.

Of course, it isn't true 100% of the time. Just because someone isn't an eloquent enigma, doesn't mean they don't know how to blow the socks off you, in person!"

I reckon it's something about being able to respond to another person in a similar fashion. It at least then makes you feel as if you may have something in common with each other

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land


"As one who attempts to display the best possible grammar at all times, i do not believe it to be overly important when said lady happens to be smoking hot! HOWEVER...

it duz kinda de fine peeps in sertan cazes doe coz i mean like its jus showin u stuff bout dem doe init. "

What he said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I reckon it's something about being able to respond to another person in a similar fashion. It at least then makes you feel as if you may have something in common with each other "

Very true. If you (at least feel you) are on the same wavelength, at least there's some respect and familiarity there. But hey, it'd be boring if we were all the same.

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By *ovepieceMan
over a year ago

Borth

I can get quite aroused by the way someone writes, not just from what they write but the style and use of grammar and punctuation. So, yes, it's important to me in that sense. However, I've met very sexy and compatible people who struggle with the written word but are nonetheless interesting and witty in spoken word. Text speak is a turn off for me though, it feels lazy. Maybe that's a generational thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can get quite aroused by the way someone writes, not just from what they write but the style and use of grammar and punctuation. So, yes, it's important to me in that sense. However, I've met very sexy and compatible people who struggle with the written word but are nonetheless interesting and witty in spoken word. Text speak is a turn off for me though, it feels lazy. Maybe that's a generational thing."

Using wit and language to your advantage is very sexy to an English student I'll tell you that for free

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

I try and make an effort with my spelling and grammar.

It's not because I'm a snob. It's because I have something to say and I want to be understood. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom "

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By *ovepieceMan
over a year ago

Borth


"I can get quite aroused by the way someone writes, not just from what they write but the style and use of grammar and punctuation. So, yes, it's important to me in that sense. However, I've met very sexy and compatible people who struggle with the written word but are nonetheless interesting and witty in spoken word. Text speak is a turn off for me though, it feels lazy. Maybe that's a generational thing.

Using wit and language to your advantage is very sexy to an English student I'll tell you that for free "

Pray tell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And vice versa. Being literate doesn't mean you will

Absolutely. I could have the energy of a dead fish for all you know! "

You should try eating instead of reading

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

My phone has vicious auto correct and I am currently wielding overlong nails since I'm treating myself to a manicure on Saturday. My posts and messages have been full of errors for at least a week but I don't see the point of editing them after the fact when the gist is obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

No not snobbish at all. i mean this with no disrespect at all, but if your here looking for someone you can socialise with and be friends with rather than just a quick fuck, then we naturally seek someone of a similar educational level. i personally am somewhat of a grammar nazi lol and get really frustrated by text speak and plain bad English.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are always full of mistakes....fat thumbs, bad autocarrot and no proof reading....I don't care much, it's not a c.v

The one single thing that bothers me is people who don't know the difference between woman and women, that's about all, unless of course it's that bad it becomes illegible.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally snobbish , we don't give a flying fuck about how well constructed a message is when ultimately we are looking for a hot sexy session !

And as for grammar , spelling , and punctuation , again that matters not one iota . As long as there's a pic attached and the sender is hot we are happy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesn't bother me so long as you can tell what they said.

i've actually got typing qualifications but because i'm used to chatting to loads of people at once i cut right back on using keys i don't have to to make chatting quicker and help my hands keep up with my brain and what it's thinking about. works well for me and nobody has complained, if they did i wouldn't change for them. i do what works for me.

i try to use more proper grammar when i have time, which isn't very often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish?

No not snobbish at all. i mean this with no disrespect at all, but if your here looking for someone you can socialise with and be friends with rather than just a quick fuck, then we naturally seek someone of a similar educational level. i personally am somewhat of a grammar nazi lol and get really frustrated by text speak and plain bad English. "

You're and a capital I. Bloody hell you uneducated people really raise my hackles!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a few things though, sometimes i actually don't know how to spell sometimes because of the internet and what has caught on in grammer, lose is often spelt loose and yeah sometimes i'm not sure how it's spelt.

american spellcheck pisses me off too, it's making me think i spell loads of stuff wrong when i haven't. really would like and english english spellcheck bvut they don't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish?

No not snobbish at all. i mean this with no disrespect at all, but if your here looking for someone you can socialise with and be friends with rather than just a quick fuck, then we naturally seek someone of a similar educational level. i personally am somewhat of a grammar nazi lol and get really frustrated by text speak and plain bad English. "

Do we?

I couldn't care if they had no education and were on the dole, or if they were educated to masters level, on here or in real life...in fact, that's pretty much the range of people I call friends, I'll happily sit in someone's coulcil flat who's on benefits (as one or two of my friends are) or will quite happily sit in the million pound converted barn of a company director, whom one of my friends is....

And their spelling has no bearing on weather I like them or not either....I'm a people person, not an education and money person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish?

No not snobbish at all. i mean this with no disrespect at all, but if your here looking for someone you can socialise with and be friends with rather than just a quick fuck, then we naturally seek someone of a similar educational level. i personally am somewhat of a grammar nazi lol and get really frustrated by text speak and plain bad English. "

For a 'Grammar Nazi' I would have thought the use of capital I's important. Isn't 'lol' text speak?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Y doz ev ry1 fink dey iz sew soup ear-ier b cuz sum1 rites funnie !?!

"

Because we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone's grammar or spelling is sloppy it kinda gives the air that they aren't bothered to do things properly - which is the last thing you want in the bedroom

Kinda? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Syntax is perfectly safe until its connected to a Fuse and as for Semantics a persons Religion is no business of mine.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since the beggining, verbal or gestural communications have been created to make oneself understood.

Master a language is certainly a great achievement yet it doesn't assert your intellectual superiority over someone who doesn't.

Some people are "intellectual" other "manual". The manual ones can surely teach the intellectual ones how to use a simple tool such as a hammer.

To paraphrase Baltasar Gracian: Even a monarch must be willing to be taught.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

It does not bother me as such. It just demonstrates to me that either that person is lazy or is uneducated and therefore, is not my type

Roughly half of the messages I receive are in 'txt spk' and the vast majority don't make any sense to me so I just delete those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish?

No not snobbish at all. i mean this with no disrespect at all, but if your here looking for someone you can socialise with and be friends with rather than just a quick fuck, then we naturally seek someone of a similar educational level. i personally am somewhat of a grammar nazi lol and get really frustrated by text speak and plain bad English.

For a 'Grammar Nazi' I would have thought the use of capital I's important. Isn't 'lol' text speak? "

It is also "if you're here"!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of those two things particularly bother me.

It's when people comment on things they have almost ZERO clue about that piss me off on here.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

As long as our partners have had a good sex education we don't think about their literacy skills.

Nothing worse than having to show someone where to put it!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

I totally agreed with you. This infuriates me too. I can live with the odd spelling mistake. Fair enough but some messages are totally incomprehensible. And it's totally unforgivable when your profile is full of errors. Can't these people just quickly read back what they've typed before hitting the send button. Just makes them look like complete halfwits as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

Generally, if a person can't make sense in their message then they're unlikely to be for me. I am a writer and I like to think that I at least put a little care and attention into my posts, and that others should do the same.

However my nesting partner is heavily dyslexic and rarely makes sense in messages. I know him well enough to decipher what he means though - which is the crucial difference to someone mailing you out of the blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Some people are "intellectual" other "manual". The manual ones can surely teach the intellectual ones how to use a simple tool such as a hammer.

"

Some of us were brought up to know that a balance of both ways are important. I'm both academic and practical, because that's what my Dad taught me I should be in order to get on in life (he used to say 'you don't want to be relying on a man do to things for you, do you?')

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Hello all!

Especially of late I've been reading some horrifically written forum posts. Perhaps it's just because I'm foolishly paying attention to it - but personally, it always irks me.

How much does spelling and grammar matter to you?

How often do you see it in messages, profiles and the forums?

Do you think it tells you much about a person?

Am I just being plain snobbish? "

The forums are just that - they are not sexual approaches, or an academic work. They are often just sporadic thoughts on a page and if the thread is worth replying to and I can be bothered, I will. Some people do treat them as an exercise in dictum, (as they like a challenge) when they 1. have no intention of meeting them. 2. Even if they had intention of meeting them, logistics/preferences would probably intervene anyway.

On a profile it's a different matter. I can forgive the odd spelling mistake for what they actually say. I am put off by bitchiness, over expectation, excessive demands or a simple lack of an attempt to write anything at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forums are not an English test but where the wrong word is used, or the spelling is plain wrong, it is not writing too fast or autocorrect causing it; is is often they simply do not know the right spelling.

If you are posting for others to read you are communicating so you should try and make it clear and understandable.

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