FabSwingers.com forum: To all the lovely men....

By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

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By *aly82Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Personally not in the slightest.... Most people understand that there is a life away from fab. Just getting a reply, even if it is a knock back means more than silence.

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By *ike 1978Man
over a year ago

kettering / Enfield

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

Any reply is a bonus. Seeing an inbox alert always brings a buzz. And when it's not from some guy it's even better

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'd find a message appearing later out of the blue a pleasant unexpected surprise

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I always reply, love it when the response is witty and original..

But I do forget the content of the message sometimes, most men are very happy to remind me thou..

They are the ones you've gotta luv!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I imagine that it would be tempting to deliberately not reply to first time messages for 48 hours, to see if an impatient followup also arrives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not, because I'm terrible for this. I often read them and mark as unread if I want to come back to it at a later date!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

I've left them so long they've deleted themselves sometimes,but I'm being good today

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"I imagine that it would be tempting to deliberately not reply to first time messages for 48 hours, to see if an impatient followup also arrives. "

Gotta love those ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

I've left them so long they've deleted themselves sometimes,but I'm being good today

I always say this, get to message 5 and give up

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By *aly82Man
over a year ago

Norwich

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine that it would be tempting to deliberately not reply to first time messages for 48 hours, to see if an impatient followup also arrives. "

There are a few like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I get Reyt giddy ha and send a right daft message and when reply comes a week later it's lost its mojo if a message ever can lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get that many messages lol - if someone replies days later we just assume they are busy, we understand people have a life outside of Fab

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't normally send preemptive messages, but I received a wink off a right fit hottie last week. I sent a message introducing myself and asked if she fancied a chat etc, the message remains unread. She is a stunner so probably receives 100's a day.

Doesn't really bother me but am thinking about sending another one though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it."

It all depends how messages I have to be honest.. Some go on to page 2 and I forget about them. Some look boring. Some I don't think much of the profile picture.

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By *eepfoughtMan
over a year ago

Burnley

A reply is always welcome, no matter how late. We all have lives away from here after all.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Always nice to get a delayed reply even if I have to sometimes scroll back to remind myself what the original message was

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Sometimes I get Reyt giddy ha and send a right daft message and when reply comes a week later it's lost its mojo if a message ever can lol!"

I totally get that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"I don't normally send preemptive messages, but I received a wink off a right fit hottie last week. I sent a message introducing myself and asked if she fancied a chat etc, the message remains unread. She is a stunner so probably receives 100's a day.

Doesn't really bother me but am thinking about sending another one though

Saying OI! Read my message!!!?

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Doesn't really bother me but am thinking about sending another one though

send, you know you want to

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By *aly82Man
over a year ago

Norwich

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it.

It all depends how messages I have to be honest.. Some go on to page 2 and I forget about them. Some look boring. Some I don't think much of the profile picture."

What's a boring message?

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I'm just chuffed to get a reply even if it takes a while!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not bothered bit I feel its polite when I do get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine that it would be tempting to deliberately not reply to first time messages for 48 hours, to see if an impatient followup also arrives.

Gotta love those ones

Or they go unlos.

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Can everyone stop messaging/disturbing pure honeypot as I'm impatiently waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible for answering mail. I've just replied too one I got 17 hrs ago from a friend. Work and sleep comes first

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've got a reply from this thread already.. Yay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just happy to get a message back, however long it takes

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"Can everyone stop messaging/disturbing pure honeypot as I'm impatiently waiting

I don't know what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, well it doesn't bother me as I'm not sitting there hitting F5 F5 F5 F5... If a reply comes then cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it.

It all depends how messages I have to be honest.. Some go on to page 2 and I forget about them. Some look boring. Some I don't think much of the profile picture.

What's a boring message?"

"Hi"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Can everyone stop messaging/disturbing pure honeypot as I'm impatiently waiting

Haha I will reply,I've said so on this thread in public

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"I imagine that it would be tempting to deliberately not reply to first time messages for 48 hours, to see if an impatient followup also arrives.

Gotta love those ones

Or they go unlos. "

I did say a while back that due to the number of unlos I wouldn't reply to any messages for 6 weeks to ensure they were serious about being here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"I'm terrible for answering mail. I've just replied too one I got 17 hrs ago from a friend. Work and sleep comes first

I'm sure they understand that x

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By *aly82Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Breakfast can wait; yeah your right that is boring... Zzzzzzz

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

I'd be wondering whether or not to bother replying with the same gusto, if it takes that amount of time to get a reply. When I first see a profile I like it takes me a good 10-15+ mins to write a message to that profile... if you reply in a few days - I'd think I hadn't hit the mark, so I would probably reply to you though, it'd be a forced reply trying to catch your attention better - putting you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really really hurts when you spend time composing one liner's and then never get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine that it would be tempting to deliberately not reply to first time messages for 48 hours, to see if an impatient followup also arrives.

Gotta love those ones

Or they go unlos.

I did say a while back that due to the number of unlos I wouldn't reply to any messages for 6 weeks to ensure they were serious about being here

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"Can everyone stop messaging/disturbing pure honeypot as I'm impatiently waiting

Haha I will reply,I've said so on this thread in public

I thought you would - I just saw an opportunity for a little quip

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Doesn't really bother me but am thinking about sending another one though

Man receives spontaneous wink from apparently hot lady?

Well, I hope she's genuine, let's put it that way....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

Well I never send a copy and paste message, I put alot of thought into mine, If I notice it has been read and deleted, she is not interested, which is ok, a no thanks would have been better but no problem.

however, if it's been read, not deleted I activate a mental timer, no reply within 36hrs, I block as I was obviously not that interesting to them to even send a quick message saying that life is hectic, or even a wink. I understand people have busy life's etc, but I don't go blanket messaging, I message one person at a time and wait for a reply!

just how I do things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

Good answer,it's a bit difficult to reply to lots at the same time though to stop people feeling as though they've been ignored,someone will always be first middle and last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it.

It all depends how messages I have to be honest.. Some go on to page 2 and I forget about them. Some look boring. Some I don't think much of the profile picture.

What's a boring message?"

Hello how are you?

how are you finding this site?

anything about weather...

please look at my pics/ profile....

etc....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

just how I do things."

What about if it's not been read for the 36 hrs? Would you still block?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky in that the women whom I message respond in the same evening. Sometimes I have messages in the morning which is great to wake up to

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

I don't expect a reply so if / when one comes it's nice.

My question is if my message is unread but not deleted does that mean it may have gone onto page 2 or further and may never get read so after how long is it reasonable to try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, it's just nice to get a response. Like others have said even if that response is just to say not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about if it's not been read for the 36 hrs? Would you still block?

No, if it's not been read then I leave alone, as people have busy and hectic lives, I just hate people reading, not deleting and not sending a reply. winds me up haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"I don't expect a reply so if / when one comes it's nice.

My question is if my message is unread but not deleted does that mean it may have gone onto page 2 or further and may never get read so after how long is it reasonable to try again "

Personally I believe that if they want to reply to you then they will,a second message to remind isn't always appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

What about if it's not been read for the 36 hrs? Would you still block?

No, if it's not been read then I leave alone, as people have busy and hectic lives, I just hate people reading, not deleting and not sending a reply. winds me up haha

That's fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"I'm lucky in that the women whom I message respond in the same evening. Sometimes I have messages in the morning which is great to wake up to

You are lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it.

It all depends how messages I have to be honest.. Some go on to page 2 and I forget about them. Some look boring. Some I don't think much of the profile picture."
a second page of unread messages!!!!!!! We are lucky if we have more than 2 messages let alone 2 pages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some I read right away.. Some i don't.

I always have some unread for at least a week

A week??? I would be putting my hair out!!! ??

Like Whitevanman said the unknown mail alert always has a buzz to it.

It all depends how messages I have to be honest.. Some go on to page 2 and I forget about them. Some look boring. Some I don't think much of the profile picture.a second page of unread messages!!!!!!! We are lucky if we have more than 2 messages let alone 2 pages"

Aaaaw I will send u a message! :D x

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By *aly82Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Geordie I feel your pain!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we need a button to block incoming messages from individuals, rather than block the whole profile. Some people don't like sending a rejection message because they get a barrage back. A message block would let them send a friendly rejection so everyone is happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha not me because expecting a reply will not make her definitely reply I have site supporter so delete all my sent messages i've better things to be doing than to be praying for some reply...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Haha not me because expecting a reply will not make her definitely reply I have site supporter so delete all my sent messages i've better things to be doing than to be praying for some reply..."

Thanks my little ray of sunshine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Maybe we need a button to block incoming messages from individuals, rather than block the whole profile. Some people don't like sending a rejection message because they get a barrage back. A message block would let them send a friendly rejection so everyone is happy

I have never had any abuse for saying no thanks in 7 years,most people are very nice about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had any abuse for saying no thanks in 7 years,most people are very nice about it

Can't believe u beeping rejected me u beeping beep!... beep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a responce came a week later I'd be over the moon !! Yep even if it's "dude ! You are not putting that thing anywhere near me , in a month of Sundays!"

Honestly there is part of me itching to send you a message , just to see if my inbox works..,

I can see you all reaching for your violins.... Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

couldn't resist

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

couldn't resist"

Cruel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm lucky in that the women whom I message respond in the same evening. Sometimes I have messages in the morning which is great to wake up to

You are lucky

It's taken me three months of nothing so the work to become lucky has paid off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a problem with delayed replies at all.

I find it does help if they use the last message I sent to reply back to me with though, as I've probably deleted the original and It reminds me of the conversation.

I always reply to winks and messages but not always straight away when I'm on the mobile as I prefer to sit and use a keyboard.

All this reminds me, I have a couple of replies to do.

I have to admit I probably need the odd nudge now and then as non fab things do keep me busy.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

What about if it's not been read for the 36 hrs? Would you still block?

No, if it's not been read then I leave alone, as people have busy and hectic lives, I just hate people reading, not deleting and not sending a reply. winds me up haha

36 hours! Bloody hell I'd never get anywhere if everyone blocked me after 36 hours!! I've got messages I intented to reply to from 12 weeks ago somewhere in the inbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

12 weeks?

I'd be thinking who the hell are you again!

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

It is nice to get a reply , and time doesn't matter 1day 1week or a month , , lol and its also nice to get a message ,

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"12 weeks?

I'd be thinking who the hell are you again!

I know, I probably won't reply to those! It's more if I like the look of someone so I know that I can contact them in the future when I'm less busy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to get the reply straight away to avoid "blonde" moments. But people aren't on here 24/7 so a days wait is always worth it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really bother me but am thinking about sending another one though

I cant remember winking at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What annoys me is many message me and their profile is hidden. They're photo verified and all sorts but want to know all about me and see my pictures. They reply back but they'd never sent a picture or the like back.

Doesn't bother me when or if someone replies back. If they reply back, then all good. If they don't, then i guess i don't tick their boxes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

I had over 250 messages and I've still got about 60 left,I got waylaid by a few gorgeous people,but every single man has been wonderful,every response back from a rejection has been gracious,and almost everyone has said thank you for replying

Men ......hats off to you xxx

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

You are a fun and engaging lady and I'm sure are well respected for your time and effort in replying to all messages on here as well as your positive posts on the forum.

In my opinion there are lots of genuine people on Fab who are all very friendly and polite and will help other Fabbers out on all topics - sex to shopping quandaries lol

The Fab forumites/forumees are top notch in my book

and won't let the odd bad egg ruin the site for others.

Happy Fabbing All

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The second most irritating thing is when your message shows as read but not deleted then a couple of days later it is then deleted. Those in between days you had your hopes up. This pales in comparison to my number one pet hate which is the old message tennis before they dissappear trick. That's when you really think where they just messing with my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice to you (and anyone) would be once you send a message, if you can remember, delete it from your sent box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

You are a fun and engaging lady and I'm sure are well respected for your time and effort in replying to all messages on here as well as your positive posts on the forum.

In my opinion there are lots of genuine people on Fab who are all very friendly and polite and will help other Fabbers out on all topics - sex to shopping quandaries lol

The Fab forumites/forumees are top notch in my book

and won't let the odd bad egg ruin the site for others.

Happy Fabbing All

there's something Brown on your nose

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over a year ago

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

You are a fun and engaging lady and I'm sure are well respected for your time and effort in replying to all messages on here as well as your positive posts on the forum.

In my opinion there are lots of genuine people on Fab who are all very friendly and polite and will help other Fabbers out on all topics - sex to shopping quandaries lol

The Fab forumites/forumees are top notch in my book

and won't let the odd bad egg ruin the site for others.

Happy Fabbing All

Cheque is in the post....we did say a tenner didn't we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

You are a fun and engaging lady and I'm sure are well respected for your time and effort in replying to all messages on here as well as your positive posts on the forum.

In my opinion there are lots of genuine people on Fab who are all very friendly and polite and will help other Fabbers out on all topics - sex to shopping quandaries lol

The Fab forumites/forumees are top notch in my book

and won't let the odd bad egg ruin the site for others.

Happy Fabbing All

there's something Brown on your nose

I guess that makes me a bad egg?

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

You are a fun and engaging lady and I'm sure are well respected for your time and effort in replying to all messages on here as well as your positive posts on the forum.

In my opinion there are lots of genuine people on Fab who are all very friendly and polite and will help other Fabbers out on all topics - sex to shopping quandaries lol

The Fab forumites/forumees are top notch in my book

and won't let the odd bad egg ruin the site for others.

Happy Fabbing All

Cheque is in the post....we did say a tenner didn't we?

Haha

Yep but you said you'd hand deliver

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

You are a fun and engaging lady and I'm sure are well respected for your time and effort in replying to all messages on here as well as your positive posts on the forum.

In my opinion there are lots of genuine people on Fab who are all very friendly and polite and will help other Fabbers out on all topics - sex to shopping quandaries lol

The Fab forumites/forumees are top notch in my book

and won't let the odd bad egg ruin the site for others.

Happy Fabbing All

there's something Brown on your nose

I guess that makes me a bad egg?

I'd say more a cheeky chops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it doesn't bother me as I completely understand that those whom I message are likely inundated and that we all have lives away from fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never reply to messages unless I read and reply straight away, I open an unread one earlier that was 3 days old, he was rather nice but I just thought ....I can't reply 3 days later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me how long it takes someone to reply, and never bothers me if I don't get a reply.

No pressure no hassles from my end so if someone isn't interested it isn't a problem and if everyday life means a quick reply ends up taking a few days to arrive then so be it.

I think most genuine guys can appreciate how much mail females/cpls recieve so patience and a laid back approach makes life on fab much more fun,which it's meant to be anyway

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By *az191000Man
over a year ago

Carluke

Any reply is better than none or being deleted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im happy to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never reply to messages unless I read and reply straight away, I open an unread one earlier that was 3 days old, he was rather nice but I just thought ....I can't reply 3 days later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it takes you three days to reply i will think about my response for 2 days then reply on the third day...Just to fuel the illusion that I have a life too!

Oh...unless your really sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block if message read and deleted and delete all messages sent unread next day! Think i should be more patient?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I've been having a conversation with someone and dont log on for a few days when I log back on if there is a message from them in my inbox that's the tail end of the conversation we had when I was last on I don't reply, I just can't see the point in carrying on a few days later the conversation has ended

I think that's why I speak to so few people on here I tend to have some really good conversations with guys but once I log off the conversations over and never re mail them the next time I'm on

If we don't arrange a meet the first day of speaking it tends to not happen

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

I understand that couples and especially single females have "message overload"each time they log on.

Messages I have sent are probably lost in there somewhere.

The fact that I do get a reply, whether it takes minutes, days or even a week, tells me they have manners.

A thanks but no thanks costs nothing apart from effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to get thanks but no thanks, its the only ones i get, and i dont get any of those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a thanks but no thanks yesterday otherwise all are just deleted

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Would not bother me if reply was slow better late than never I guess

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By *ez_91Man
over a year ago

derby

All the men on here are vultures! If I get a inbox 95% of the time it's a fella when he can see profile says straitjacket still try it... I can't imagine being a girl on this site I feel ya pain honey

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By *ez_91Man
over a year ago

derby

Aslong as u don't blank them, to me being blanked by a wan is worse ten me trying to send her a cock pic on the first message, if u dnt like them then tell them why u dnt Wna talk dnt blank them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the men on here are vultures! If I get a inbox 95% of the time it's a fella when he can see profile says straitjacket still try it... I can't imagine being a girl on this site I feel ya pain honey"

Block single men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never reply to messages unless I read and reply straight away, I open an unread one earlier that was 3 days old, he was rather nice but I just thought ....I can't reply 3 days later

Why not?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Aslong as u don't blank them, to me being blanked by a wan is worse ten me trying to send her a cock pic on the first message, if u dnt like them then tell them why u dnt Wna talk dnt blank them."

Why? When visible my profile clearly states what I'm looking for and I'll not reply to anyone outside of that.

If someone wants to try their luck, it's their time to waste, I'm certainly not wasting mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

My sent messages are usually replies to friend or messages from new people. I'm not good at waiting for replies but I'm learning as people have a life and one man's replies are worth waiting for

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By *argaret JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"We don't get that many messages lol - if someone replies days later we just assume they are busy, we understand people have a life outside of Fab

Has the world gone mad I've seen your pics and you don't get many messages struth I'll message you every day for a week and play with my tits just thinking about you reading them. I won't really text you but I think you get the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest ....If you've sent a message to someone does it bother you if a reply comes maybe days later or by that time have you forgotten you even sent the message?

I'm being good and trying to reply to everyone but I have messages that are a good few days old

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yes it does bug me not the initial message when your first trying to speak to a woman but once contact has been established and it would appear you like eachother yes ,besides anything else you've forgotten what you were talking about when the answer comes back ,I was chatting to a woman I chat to regularly and she asked me a question I answered her straight away and without saying she went into a chatroom havnt heard from her for days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate that couples and single women in particular must get inundated with messages everyday and replying to all will take forever and an age

I do however feel a little

when I know i've taken time to select a member and write to them.

For me; a simple no or not interested as a reply goes a long way

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

To be honest to get a reply is a miracle. Have quite a few sent messages still unread. Will get a buzz if I receive any replies. I understand though that you ladies have busy lives and receive lots of messages. What does fustrate me is seeing my message unread and a new status update asking for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned to expect ignored/deleted messages as the norm. It can be irritating but just have to assume I'm not what they want.

So far, I've only had 1 reply, from all my messages. "hi thank you for the message, we are just off to work now but will answer in full later xxx "... Two weeks later, inbox is still empty. C'est la vie.

btw - had to laugh at reference to 'page 2' - sheesh... didnt know inbox had pages - haha

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By *tallionExoticaMan
over a year ago

Islington

"Ok 12 hours later,I've been on and off all day

Men ......hats off to you xxx

This is what I like. Even if someone rejects another and give a polite response on it, its really nice common courtesy to appreciate it.

Be respectful of each other and it all ends up being good for everyone. : )

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By *acLe0dMan
over a year ago

Preston

It's always nice to get a reply, even if it's a No Thanks. Sure I know women get far more than men do and can't reply to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about a "thanks but no thanks" button against the message in the mailbox, just press, message autofilled and sent, and it deletes the message too, so everybody is happy, sender gets a polite message, recipient gets to say no, politely, with no more clicks than them just pressing the delete button

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