FabSwingers.com forum: Is booking a hotel like paying for sex?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?

My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?

My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a

different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.

I'm with you on this one I'd say it's just providing a neutral places for everyone conceited to play and have fun

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Why would anyone think that was like paying for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.

its not atall but u both gona enjoy it togeda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well in that case both should pay or else its like paying for a shag lol.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Because the cash goes to the hotel company and not into your pocket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now this is difficult, if you both agree to say half and agree beforehand what's happening then no it's not,

There are people on here who expect any meet to book and pay for the hotel, now that is paying for sex in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not at all - if that was the case so would going to a club be and it isnt - and in either case it isnt a guaranteed outcome that sex will occur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've paid, been paid for and gone halves in the past and none of those occasions have ever felt paying or being paid for sex.

But I only meet people I like, so I kind of think of it as the same thing as if I go for tea with a friend and I pay, I'm not paying for their time, the money isn't an important part of the equation so we just do whatever is easiest.

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

If costs are shared then I agree entirely.

I see a few adds which say that they expect the other party to cover any hotel costs ect. That is along the same lines as prostituting oneself out though I feel.

But hey what's wrong with being paid for it if that's what you wanna do..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?"

noooooooooo - thats saying thanks but very nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?

noooooooooo - thats saying thanks but very nicely

joke by the way for the pouncers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's about the demands made - the profiles that say they won't meet unless they get x - that feels a bit iffy to me. But if someone offers to book and pay for a hotel, because they want to, (not because I've told them in shouty capitals that I won't meet them otherwise) well that's a different thing.

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?"

Depends if you buy him one back...

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

So, if you`re accommodating, your mortgage/rent/council tax is like paying for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?"
No it is returning the favour lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think it is like paying for sex - to me it's paying for a place which makes it possible for two consenting people to enjoy a good time with each other, when no other place is available.

On the other hand, If you invited me to your house and when I got to the door you asked me for 50 quid before I came over your step - then I would consider it paying for sex.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

no your paying for the hotel not sex ..is buying the fuel to go to someones house for sex paying for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, if you`re accommodating, your mortgage/rent/council tax is like paying for sex?"

bloody hell - weve been running a knocking shop and didnt realise it

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Sometimes simple things are so over thought that they make what should be fun a logistical pain in the arse

I don't think that getting a room so that you can meet someone is paying for sex

Its for each parties convenience or you wouldn't be able to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never let a lady pay x

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"I think it's about the demands made - the profiles that say they won't meet unless they get x - that feels a bit iffy to me. But if someone offers to book and pay for a hotel, because they want to, (not because I've told them in shouty capitals that I won't meet them otherwise) well that's a different thing. "

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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

Love hotel meets the best sex happens in hotels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its even ground no hang ups for anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're paying for a room in a hotel, not sex, paying for sex only counts if you're handing the money to the person you're gonna have sex with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love hotel meets the best sex happens in hotels

Too right fella - I made the bell boys eyes water I'll tell ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having recently enjoyed a cpl of nights in hotels with female playmates I certainly don't see it as paying for sex.

As long as both parties feel things are fair then who pays for what really doesn't really matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who gives a shit lol if you get fucked thats all that matters no?

However nope even if one pays you're not paying for sexyou're paying for a room if you choose to share it then your being nice

Mrs P

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

You're just paying for the room not for the sex...obviously

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I wouldn't think so, you'd think the arrangements were agreed beforehand and it's not transactional in that sense to me.

If it suits all parties it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion is they pay hotel I buy the kinky gear they like seems fair to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i wouldnt say so, your paying for accomadation the sex is just a benefit of having a room

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By *ierre1Man
over a year ago

Hinckley

Not at all but I can accomodate so I rarely need to book hotels for meets. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always select, book and pay for the hotel because we don't want to end up in Bates Motel or something even worse, like a bloody Travelodge.

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By *biza007Man
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have paid for a hotel before and not got sex (Stood me up and unlos)

I had a couple book and pay for the hotel and not turn up (she backed out then unlos)

Had work pay for the hotel, now THAT was a meet

Sex is never guaranteed so you are not paying for anything other than the room.

Moral of my story is get work to foot the bill

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes simple things are so over thought that they make what should be fun a logistical pain in the arse

I think this knocks the nail on the head!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Halves is just sharing the moment

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

Saying that paying for a hotel is like paying for sex.. Is like saying buying dinner or paying a mortgage in order to fuck your partner is like paying for sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?

Depends if you buy him one back..."

I cost a lot more than a pint for a shag

Buying someone a drink on a social meet is just manners, seeing it as paying for sex seems a very immature attitude to me

I have paid for rooms, paid the fees into clubs and bough drinks in the past I don't feel I have paid for sex, it just how it goes at times, if I'm meeting a guy and he can't afford to go half's on a room I will pay, my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accom in house but love horny hotel fun too,nice place,evening out getting adventurous then continue in room great fun!

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By *hristine and MarieCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Somewhere north of Spalding

Who gives a fuck so long as you get fucked?! M

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?

noooooooooo - thats saying thanks but very nicely

I like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is a one on one meet or a mmf/mff or two couples then I can understand that it is for their mutual convenience.

The only time I'd see it as paying for sex is if it was a couple seeking multiple men and asking for contributions at a rate that far exceeds the actual cost of the room once you add up the dozen or so guys that go through.

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?

Depends if you buy him one back...

I cost a lot more than a pint for a shag

Buying someone a drink on a social meet is just manners, seeing it as paying for sex seems a very immature attitude to me

Completely agree it's all about attitude. The attitude that "if we are going to meet you have to pay" translates to "if you want us to enjoy sex together, then you must pay a premium".

In that respect it is similar to paying for sex. I don't think that theoretically, paying for sex is such a problem though anyway.

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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago

northampton

My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.

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if it was paying for sex then you could claim that sex at home is if you paid for the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i never let a lady pay x

Sexist pig.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i never let a lady pay x

What if she insisted

For example you mailed me and we swapped pics, got on well arranged to meet and got into where and when and I said if you book a room I'll give you some money on at the meet and you said no its OK I'll pay and I said I'd rather pay my way or not meet, would you call off the meet if I insisted on paying my way or even booked the room from this end myself

And no sarky replies like you wouldn't meet me anyway its just an example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.

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Nope. You're paying for a venue, not for what happens there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i never let a lady pay x

What if she insisted

And no sarky replies like you wouldn't meet me anyway its just an example

I'd let you pay. It shows that we have a level of trust built through conversation which can be like foreplay...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Is buying condoms paying for sex?

Is buying fuel to get to a meet paying for sex?

Is paying for entry to a club paying for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been paying for it since the day we met!

Seemed to go to the higher tariff when we got married too!!

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Not at all, I've booked many a hotel and will continue to do so xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No

Because the cash goes to the hotel company and not into your pocket

I agree.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

We go halves or not at all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not. If he books and pays for the hotel he's booking a room. I still have the choice as to what the sex act is and I can up and leave at anytime. You can't do that in sex work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is buying condoms paying for sex?

Is buying fuel to get to a meet paying for sex?

Is paying for entry to a club paying for sex?"

Yes

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Nope, it's not paying for sex

To paraphrase an earlier comment

"less thinking, more playing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Typically, no. It's similar in principal to just buying a drink or going out for a meal on a date or something. It's a bit different however, if a profile demands a hotel meet, or insists as a rule, that the other party pays. That would make me feel like I was kind of paying for sex, so I'd avoid those people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not atall but u both gona enjoy it togeda

While not wanting to sound like the spelling / grammar inspectorate of fab, is nobody else in the slightest bit concerned at the quite brazen use of "togeda", never mind u and gona?

I mean, for fucks sake bawheid! Get a grip!

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

"We always select, book and pay for the hotel because we don't want to end up in Bates Motel or something even worse, like a bloody Travelodge.

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.

My view would be no also.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Is buying condoms paying for sex?

Is buying fuel to get to a meet paying for sex?

Is paying for entry to a club paying for sex?

Yes

Oh be quiet you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes It would be.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I've only met 1 woman in an hotel and she paid...... I travelled about 40 miles to meet her. I asked her if she wanted half or if she wanted me to book my own room. But she said that'd be silly, her rich hubby probably picked up the bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is buying a hot lingerie paying for sex?

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I've let quite a few stay at my place in Turkey, I let them pay me in kind....... Happy days

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Does it matter I wonder, what other people think?

If I considered a hotel meet was paying for sex and if I were not comfortable with it then so be it, I would not do it.

If I WERE comfortable with it, it would not matter what other people thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is taking a date out for dinner paying for sex? Buying lingerie for your other half? Regardless of who pays for the room ultimately its 2 consenting adults finding a location where they can have sex so no.

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