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It's not the size its how you use it... Discuss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% size

the only people who say size doesnt count are men with little willies

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Both

But someone using a teeny one wont do much for me lol so has to be decent sized

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What size do you class as large like myself many men don't really know what the average woman class as a big willy

Is it 7"or 8"or even 9"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% size

the only people who say size doesnt count are men with little willies"

Nice1, I always wondered that, the whole motion of the ocean thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im going 9+ is large...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?"

lets find out

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

For me its about skills.

I don't like big cocks, they hurt me - so anything above 8 inches is a no go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust me it's both...

It's more about the build up and Turing each other on.....

Yes a 4" cock won't reach areas a 9" cock will reach....?

But it also make a difference if the man actually knows what to do and when?

))))))))) wink wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me its about skills.

I don't like big cocks, they hurt me - so anything above 8 inches is a no go."

"smiles" hehe xxxx (Im at your max)

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Depends.

If a guy thinks he's got the gurff and length then clearly he'll believe and try to convince that you need the right tool for job and he has it.

If a guy is more modestly endowed then he's going to believe and try to convince that it's not what you get but how it's given that matters and he knows how to give it to you.

If a guy has something more like a baby karat then... who really cares what he thinks or believes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a 7" pecker with average shag skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes more than a cock to be a good lover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they sell small vibrators?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?"
tend to avoid over 7 inches as dont like my cervix belted in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do they sell small vibrators?"

Yep, they usually refer to them as 'slim'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?tend to avoid over 7 inches as dont like my cervix belted in "

hehe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To look at it a different way I always prefer smaller vaginas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me its about skills.

I don't like big cocks, they hurt me - so anything above 8 inches is a no go."

thats me out lovely pictures btw

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By *octorManMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Men just don't have willies you know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is my point.. I have played with large toys but never a well endowed male. So was just wondering...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Never had any complaints about how I use mine... and I can't do anything about it's size anyway

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go to a club.. find the owner of a big one and find out for yourself...

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By *oleLottaLoveCouple
over a year ago

Warrington

Size matters.. if that's all the man's got.. skill conection and knowing how to touch and stimulate a lady to bring her to many different orgasms wins always in my book..but what do I know..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you're big you become deeply aware on how to use it otherwise it can create problems.

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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago

Nether regions of the back of beyond


"Do they sell small vibrators?

Yep, they usually refer to them as 'slim'..."

Or a bullet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found in the past men with big cocks seem to lack everything else they think their huge cock is all they need to bring to the party and everything else is your job, I have never met a guy with a big cock who gives oral, they are very keen and watching you suck their cock and seeing how far they can rqm it down your throat but that's where oral stops

Plus I find sex with big guys painful I would sooner meet a guy with a 2inch cock and good oral skills than a guy who's 8inch +

*fab disclaimer*

I haven't shagged every guy with a big cock so all of the above is purely from my own personal experiences or those I have

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I am fairy big, and I'd say it's a toss up. On one hand, sometimes you you dont have to do much apart from rest your cock in and within a few strokes the woman is screaming - other times, the expectation is there that you are going to monster her, so I dont, and I instead tease the fuck out of her; and my cock is the bonus. It's always good to have variety.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"When you're big you become deeply aware on how to use it otherwise it can create problems. "

pmsl yep. The problem is: it doesn't go in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes more than a cock to be a good lover. "

Not on here looking for a lover , looking for a good time !

So for me size matters , and a small cock doesn't give me anything . And before you think it , I haven't got a bucket fanny either .

Anything less than 6 inches makes me feel I am just playing with him for his pleasure , not mine .

I like a bigger cock , and offer no apologies for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good point well made...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way they use it counts obviously.

Got to say i've had a lot of big cocks. Love how they look, love how they feel inside me (in my mouth and up my pussy). Also had one small guy and wasn't happy at all when it came to doing anything with his cock. So size does matter to me as well as how he uses it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my cock. Is proportionate to my body. Does the job well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?tend to avoid over 7 inches as dont like my cervix belted in "

I have a small pussy and if too big and banging away it does hurt my cervix too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has had sex with all sizes, sometimes the guys are too big, and she has some discomfort. However recently she had sex with a man who was too big for her but the way he used it gave her immense satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it doesn't.. It is all down to how much of a good lover he and you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never had a really big 1, and don't think I would want too, prefer average cock attached to guy interested in mutual satisfaction....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?"
how they use it.

ive had big and small.....and inbetween and to be honest the big was crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's how they use it for me too but if it is small and they followed a big guy I do feel it less. They have to be hard though as semi-hard guys get squeezed out, which is very frustrating when i am close to cuming....

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"A good big one beats a good small one, every time" is an adage that applies to most things in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol mines not small at all .

Lol

Its not just penetration its the foreplay too

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"My wife has had sex with all sizes, sometimes the guys are too big, and she has some discomfort. However recently she had sex with a man who was too big for her but the way he used it gave her immense satisfaction."

Exactly ... its what u do with it that counts ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife has had sex with all sizes, sometimes the guys are too big, and she has some discomfort. However recently she had sex with a man who was too big for her but the way he used it gave her immense satisfaction.

Exactly ... its what u do with it that counts .... "

Do what should he do with it other than the slide in and out of your vagina that is the accepted mechanism for intercourse? Does a small man juggle with his, s!ap it about on your thighs, maybe whip up a cocktail with it? No, he usually does the same as a large nan and xceot you can't feel him doing it!

I think people mean that small men have to make up for it in other ways, like more foreplay, teasing etc. But that's not "how he's using it" it's him being a more attentive lover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?tend to avoid over 7 inches as dont like my cervix belted in

I have a small pussy and if too big and banging away it does hurt my cervix too"

You done have to ram it all the way in you know ladies...

I've never had a complaint about hurting a cervix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife has had sex with all sizes, sometimes the guys are too big, and she has some discomfort. However recently she had sex with a man who was too big for her but the way he used it gave her immense satisfaction.

Exactly ... its what u do with it that counts ....

Do what should he do with it other than the slide in and out of your vagina that is the accepted mechanism for intercourse? Does a small man juggle with his, s!ap it about on your thighs, maybe whip up a cocktail with it? No, he usually does the same as a large nan and xceot you can't feel him doing it!

I think people mean that small men have to make up for it in other ways, like more foreplay, teasing etc. But that's not "how he's using it" it's him being a more attentive lover "

One thing i've noticed is the big guys can't really get close to your pubis with theirs, so your clit does need stimulation from something else (fingers will do), but yeah basically that is all guys do is put their bits in yours and it feels good, personally it feels better with bigger for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes more than a cock to be a good lover.

Not on here looking for a lover , looking for a good time !

So for me size matters , and a small cock doesn't give me anything . And before you think it , I haven't got a bucket fanny either .

Anything less than 6 inches makes me feel I am just playing with him for his pleasure , not mine .

I like a bigger cock , and offer no apologies for that "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough everyone has different preferences and experiences, threads that ask for a consensus will get nothing.

On the subject of size, I have a 5 inch cock that of a decent girth, I'm remarkably average and have never had any complaints, nor I imagine will I ever. I stay away from size queens as I prefer not to meet with people who discriminate based upon a persons 'size' I prefer to meet a person that I will have a connection with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do have a really small tight pussy though....makes guys come quickly if they are not ready for it ha ha

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By *octorManMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Most horses are very well endowed, but that does not necessarily make them sensitive lovers.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"Most horses are very well endowed, but that does not necessarily make them sensitive lovers."

This is exactly what I meant ..its not just about the hokey y is it !!!

There has to be a technique ..

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"My wife has had sex with all sizes, sometimes the guys are too big, and she has some discomfort. However recently she had sex with a man who was too big for her but the way he used it gave her immense satisfaction.

Exactly ... its what u do with it that counts ....

Do what should he do with it other than the slide in and out of your vagina that is the accepted mechanism for intercourse? Does a small man juggle with his, s!ap it about on your thighs, maybe whip up a cocktail with it?

"

With the exception of whipping up a cocktail with it I've always thought that juggling with it and slapping her thighs with it was just normal foreplay!

Guess I must be small after all.


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No, he usually does the same as a large nan and xceot you can't feel him doing it!

I think people mean that small men have to make up for it in other ways, like more foreplay, teasing etc. But that's not "how he's using it" it's him being a more attentive lover

One thing i've noticed is the big guys can't really get close to your pubis with theirs, so your clit does need stimulation from something else (fingers will do), but yeah basically that is all guys do is put their bits in yours and it feels good, personally it feels better with bigger for me."

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By *octorManMan
over a year ago

Swansea

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By *octorManMan
over a year ago

Swansea

I'm not massively endowed and never been bothered by it. I am what I am, and there are other means to satisfy my ladies ! Come to think of it, I prefer using the other means....although I will do my best with what I have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only very little, but much prefer the bigger man. Bigger the better, like huge!!! Just ticks it for me.

But guys with smaller, if they know what they're doing can also be just as good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, big cocks are better, seriously, look inside your heart, you KNOW it to be true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only 4 ins, so I have to bring my A game into bed, I go for loads of foreplay to make sure she enjoys herself

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I'm only 4 ins, so I have to bring my A game into bed, I go for loads of foreplay to make sure she enjoys herself "

To be honest - though yes I have a few inches. I have never thought myself different to anyone else. It's a cock. It gets hard and it goes in - don't know what the deal is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different women have different opinions. I'm on the bigger side of things, my current fb has had cocks even bigger than mine (I think the biggest was around 10") and she just hated fucking some of those.

On the other side of things I was too big for one of my exes and caused quite a bit of pain every time we fucked and I have had girls who have said they'd have preferred a little extra.

It really depends on you and how you like it. Just don't take too many guys words for it, they tend to get a bit of an ego when it comes to this kind of thing.

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By *D-1Man
over a year ago

London

I think the psychological side of it is also a major factor. Girls who like big cocks for whatever reason are gonna be disappointed with a small one or an average size one that doesn't turn her on. It's one of the bonuses of this lifestyle that we can all find what we want. I love that about the scene ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite small n tempted to let the missus try a big one, she might be disappointed with mine after tho lol

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By *D-1Man
over a year ago

London


"I'm quite small n tempted to let the missus try a big one, she might be disappointed with mine after tho lol"

That's a crossover between your relationship and love with a partner and what amounts to a just sexual encounter with a swinging partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got 8"with 6"girth and I've heard many a time that that's about the perfect size. Anyone care to comment?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I've got 8"with 6"girth and I've heard many a time that that's about the perfect size. Anyone care to comment?"

I'm 8.5" with 6.5" and I'm told I'm the perfect size so someone has been lying to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% size

the only people who say size doesnt count are men with little willies"

Absolute rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do they sell small vibrators?"
Actually Yes, they do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?"
Mr here. . .

I would fall into the "how you use it" camp. I base this on the fact that I am of average size and have had no complaints.

In addition the women I have had sex with have repeatedly come back for more, which would seem to indicate that I must be doing something right and clearly don't need an 8 inch plus cock to do it...

obviously there are women for whom size is a major issue/factor and I can respect that, but I would say, based on my own experience, that it is not the only thing men should worry about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

size for me, anything less than 6 inches is useless to me, anything above is going nowhere near me!

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I've got 8"with 6"girth and I've heard many a time that that's about the perfect size. Anyone care to comment?

I'm 8.5" with 6.5" and I'm told I'm the perfect size so someone has been lying to you "

I've never measured mine but I'm sure it's less in both length and girth than either and I'm told I'm the perfect size to!

Maybe they're just massaging our egos!!

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By *oung-dreamCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

I agree around 8" length is plenty enough and 6" girth is amazing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% size

the only people who say size doesnt count are men with little willies"
nope its not the size of the hammer its the nail your throwing it at, also im 8 inches so that little theory's disproved

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By *oung-dreamCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Well I have been with small, average and large guys and I would say perfect size for me is 8" 6" girth it's a nice feeling to be full and stretched its a completely different feeling to me with big cocks and it's one I crave but I ageee I have been with big guys that are shit but a good small, average or big guy the big guy wins hands down for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I have been with small, average and large guys and I would say perfect size for me is 8" 6" girth it's a nice feeling to be full and stretched its a completely different feeling to me with big cocks and it's one I crave but I ageee I have been with big guys that are shit but a good small, average or big guy the big guy wins hands down for me "

Phew!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies!!! You Havet seen mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol alot of guys commenting here unless your secretly a woman your opinion matters nil...

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By *ort_AdmiralMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Do what should he do with it other than the slide in and out of your vagina that is the accepted mechanism for intercourse? Does a small man juggle with his, s!ap it about on your thighs, maybe whip up a cocktail with it? No, he usually does the same as a large nan and xceot you can't feel him doing it!

I think people mean that small men have to make up for it in other ways, like more foreplay, teasing etc. But that's not "how he's using it" it's him being a more attentive lover "

Seriously? I'm lucky to not be small (and that is not me boasting about being gigantic either), but what you do with it is certainly a factor, from varying the angle, speed, depth, changing position to alter pressure and the point of stimulus. It's also important, during foreplay, to get to know what you're dealing with. Knowing what a woman's preferences are can be gained with a little attention and exploration before intercourse comes into play. That way you can indeed use what you have to your advantage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines not huge but its not tiny, feel free to hop on it and find out for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I like a sizeable mind over the cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having never had a "large" male... I was just wondering if it is the size or the way you use it that counts?"

I'd say the way you use it, these porn stars will tell you otherwise but as an average sized chap my experiences tell me the motion in the ocean is just as important as the size of the boat

Of course, it's all down to what your partner wants so no real right or wrong in this, just opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife told me that her ex boyfriend had a massive cock, almost 11" and quite thick. She said at first the attraction was size but he was careless when fucking her. He just banged away until he cum and didn't take heed of her telling him he was hurting her. She ditched him because all he wanted was a hard fuck, he didn't take care and make love.

My wife is quite happy with my almost 8" cock. She says its nice to have a smaller cock inside her and have enjoyment instead of her pussy being battered by a huge cock and suffering afterwards.

So perhaps the answer for OP is that sometimes size does matter if comfort is desired as well as being made love to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm only 4 ins, so I have to bring my A game into bed, I go for loads of foreplay to make sure she enjoys herself "

See that's ideal for me, I'm not really that into penatrive sex anyway, I find it painful at the best of times a big cock is just more than I'm prepared to put up with, I prefer guys with smaller cocks as sex does not hurt as much and I have always found small guys put far more effort into the oral and foreplay is which I love, I really wouldnt care if I met a guy who didn't even want to fuck me so long as we have loads of kissing, licking, Sucking and touching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is 8" 'large'

I touch 8" if I'm really enjoying myself but I'm a short arse at 5'4"

Girls say to me oo that thing about feet and hands isn't true then.... Disproportionate is what the call me.

Not that it matter mostly what I do with mine is attach my locker key to it when I go swimming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having read this.....i'm happy I'm me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read this.....i'm happy I'm me. "

nothing wrong with what you've got!

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