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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I often see profiles where they state that they are seeking men who are generous, so they can get better clothes/outfits etc.

Is this not a blatant way of asking for money for services provided?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip. And if a man asked an older lady for money.... where will it end?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I often see profiles where they state that they are seeking men who are generous, so they can get better clothes/outfits etc.

Is this not a blatant way of asking for money for services provided?"

Or just people taking advantage because they can? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often see profiles where they state that they are seeking men who are generous, so they can get better clothes/outfits etc.

Is this not a blatant way of asking for money for services provided?

Or just people taking advantage because they can? ?

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And guys that will cough up cos they want the ride so badly

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By *abblingCouple
over a year ago

aycliffe

my wife sucked cock to get a car radio fitted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its prostitution; and it should be reported to admin. Swinging should not involve the giving of gifts of value or money. There are several other posts on this matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like it. And if everyone ignored their profile they'd sharp stop it - they only do it because they can, because some men are desperate enough to go along with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like the romance of buying gifts for people, i personally don't see the problem?

I know it's mainly NSA on here but a lot of people like some parts of being in a relationship and seek to fulfil them, mostly this is sex but there are other things people miss like cuddling, kissing and other forms of intimacy, watching films or going on dates, or buying gifts.

Yeah it kind of looks like prostitution but if a guy buys his mrs stuff it's also the same thing as that.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Some people like the romance of buying gifts for people, i personally don't see the problem?

I know it's mainly NSA on here but a lot of people like some parts of being in a relationship and seek to fulfil them, mostly this is sex but there are other things people miss like cuddling, kissing and other forms of intimacy, watching films or going on dates, or buying gifts.

Yeah it kind of looks like prostitution but if a guy buys his mrs stuff it's also the same thing as that. "

So you have tried to justify buying gifts, but not quite got there . As, people see it as, 'part of a relationship that they miss, but don't miss enough to actually pursue fully into a relationship'?

To reiterate your points....when in a relationship buying gifts is seen as sign of mutual affection. With NSA sex and no relationship, buying gifts is kind of like prostitution but also like a relationship.

Good call. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fwb takes me out on dates, takes me to a hotels sometimes and buys me a present every so often, I'm not prostituting myself, he's just thoughtful and kind

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By *ustWatchesMan
over a year ago

Newton Aycliffe

Depends how one was to examine this, does a man who turns up with flowers, chocolates and a bottle of nice wine for a meet get classed in the same way? They are gifts?

Also in some circles there is dom and sub aspects such as financial domination of a sub male or cuckold, or a woman wanting to role play being 'pimped out' or being turned on acting out a high class escort fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people like the romance of buying gifts for people, i personally don't see the problem?

I know it's mainly NSA on here but a lot of people like some parts of being in a relationship and seek to fulfil them, mostly this is sex but there are other things people miss like cuddling, kissing and other forms of intimacy, watching films or going on dates, or buying gifts.

Yeah it kind of looks like prostitution but if a guy buys his mrs stuff it's also the same thing as that.

So you have tried to justify buying gifts, but not quite got there . As, people see it as, 'part of a relationship that they miss, but don't miss enough to actually pursue fully into a relationship'?

To reiterate your points....when in a relationship buying gifts is seen as sign of mutual affection. With NSA sex and no relationship, buying gifts is kind of like prostitution but also like a relationship.

Good call. lol"

And some people want to recreate that affection, without the strings? They get the same satisfcaction that they would get buying someone they're attached to gifts. It's the exact same thing as buying something for someone you're attached to, except there is no pressure on either partner for anything more than what's stipulated between themselves.

Love it when people use the word lol during debates though, it often indicates conflict surrounding their own thoughts vs their actual statement.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We were offered "shopping trips me" in return for camming, obviously we reported. If I get sexual with a man it's because I want to not because he's had to coerce me with gifts.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Shopping trips on me that should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are probably escorts, sex should be free unless they mean bring some haribos lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My fwb takes me out on dates, takes me to a hotels sometimes and buys me a present every so often, I'm not prostituting myself, he's just thoughtful and kind"

I think the difference is expectation. You don't expect him to doth,it's a nice gesture. Putting it on your profile as a requirement is an expectation and so on a parr with prostitution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often see profiles where they state that they are seeking men who are generous, so they can get better clothes/outfits etc.

Is this not a blatant way of asking for money for services provided?"

Yep! Effectively prostitution imho! Not confined to women - have seen one or two young tv's/ts's ask for expensive things from 'admirers' on their statuses too! In my opinion they should all be thrown off fab and go onto a sex-for-money site! I've no problem with prostitution, but it should be kept off fab! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think a lot of the comments have veered off my op, I was asking specifically about members asking for generous guys when arranging meets. One in particular openly states they want generous guys so they can buy new stuff, another one that I decided to reply to, was asking to "accommodate a generous gentleman", the reply I got was to please " call me". These types are obviously of the "working" types, hookers, prostitutes, call em what you like.

I'm all for bringing a bottle wine, or for a fwb to buy them some nice stuff, but only if I initiate it, but not in return for a meet/sex, if it was brought up by the other party, well then I'd question their motifs.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Some people like the romance of buying gifts for people, i personally don't see the problem?

I know it's mainly NSA on here but a lot of people like some parts of being in a relationship and seek to fulfil them, mostly this is sex but there are other things people miss like cuddling, kissing and other forms of intimacy, watching films or going on dates, or buying gifts.

Yeah it kind of looks like prostitution but if a guy buys his mrs stuff it's also the same thing as that.

So you have tried to justify buying gifts, but not quite got there . As, people see it as, 'part of a relationship that they miss, but don't miss enough to actually pursue fully into a relationship'?

To reiterate your points....when in a relationship buying gifts is seen as sign of mutual affection. With NSA sex and no relationship, buying gifts is kind of like prostitution but also like a relationship.

Good call. lol

And some people want to recreate that affection, without the strings? They get the same satisfcaction that they would get buying someone they're attached to gifts. It's the exact same thing as buying something for someone you're attached to, except there is no pressure on either partner for anything more than what's stipulated between themselves.

Love it when people use the word lol during debates though, it often indicates conflict surrounding their own thoughts vs their actual statement."

I wasn't debating. I was laughing at what you said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see why it's prostitution? You're presuming gifts = sex. This is a very old fashioned view from the times where you had to open your legs if a guy paid for your dinner, drinks, or whatever.

I've been taken shopping by a guy, not off this site but another fuck site, and you could have shopping as your interests on there, all legal. Never even fucked the guy and i never intended to, he knew the score before he took me out. Some people genuinely like buying people stuff and having that you like having stuff bought for you on your profile means that those people can find you.

I've also had guys pay for me a hotel room so we could have sex, i don't think that was prostitution either, despite me not contributing financially.

Yeah some people probably would fuck the guys who buy them stuff, or some people are looking for lovers who buy them stuff because being bought things is one way they feel cherished and they would give someone like that sex because they need to feel something for those they fuck. It's not prostitution.

Now if they said i will not fuck you unless you buy/give me...blah blah blah then yeah that's prostitution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't debating. I was laughing at what you said! "

Whatever, still makes you look like a joker that can't debate.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

And this is why my profile says, specifically that I am a man of limited means.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Don't see why it's prostitution? You're presuming gifts = sex. This is a very old fashioned view from the times where you had to open your legs if a guy paid for your dinner, drinks, or whatever.

I've been taken shopping by a guy, not off this site but another fuck site, and you could have shopping as your interests on there, all legal. Never even fucked the guy and i never intended to, he knew the score before he took me out. Some people genuinely like buying people stuff and having that you like having stuff bought for you on your profile means that those people can find you.

I've also had guys pay for me a hotel room so we could have sex, i don't think that was prostitution either, despite me not contributing financially.

Yeah some people probably would fuck the guys who buy them stuff, or some people are looking for lovers who buy them stuff because being bought things is one way they feel cherished and they would give someone like that sex because they need to feel something for those they fuck. It's not prostitution.

Now if they said i will not fuck you unless you buy/give me...blah blah blah then yeah that's prostitution. "

so you are saying that someone can spend an entire fortune on you and not expect anything in return, except the hint of a relationship for the time you are with them. Pull the other one.

They are paying for the stuff in the hope that one day, those knickers will fly off and their generosity will have PAID off and paid for whoever.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I wasn't debating. I was laughing at what you said!

Whatever, still makes you look like a joker that can't debate."

Oh the, "whatevs" ... you were saying something about people not being able to debate? But, but, but,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so you are saying that someone can spend an entire fortune on you and not expect anything in return, except the hint of a relationship for the time you are with them. Pull the other one.

They are paying for the stuff in the hope that one day, those knickers will fly off and their generosity will have PAID off and paid for whoever. "

Yes i am.

Most people are not very altrusistic and do ultimately do things for others to benefit themselves, so i can see why you don't get it, but some people genuinely get off on only giving pleasure to others. They really do enjoy giving and expect nothing in return. the giving itself is enough for them and pleasurable to them.

They might actually miss buying things for someone as that is their way of giving affection and feeling for other people.

Some of these people just want someone elses company, and can afford to do this however they want to.

Some of these people have loads of money and giving it away and making someone else happy makes them happy, they wanna be there when that happens.

Some of these people just enjoy womens company and find shopping for them fun.

Some of them cannot have sex, for medical reasons, or don't care to have sex any more yet still want a woman in their life.

Also, just because someone wants gifts doesn't mean they're gonna fuck just anyone for them. They probably wanna find the guy attractive as well, and that also makes it different from prostitution. People are being cheeky asking for stuff, but if it gets them and their meets what it wants then i don't see why it's prostitution, it isn't. It's just being cheeky and appealing to those who don't mind cheeky beggars.

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