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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many times do you get let down by someone (to meet) on here untill you stop bothering or realise their a time waster. I have been let down 3 times now by the same person(1 reason seemed genuine, 1 sounded iffy, and the last she didnt even give a reason) do I continue or just put her in my ever expanding time wasting bin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice."

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested "

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

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Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun "

She may not be over-sensitive she may be cautious if you haven't met you don't know. Often you have to gain someone's trust to turn potential into a meet.

So if you do quite well on here why the need to put this thread up? What you have posted on it subsequently looks like a double negative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun

She may not be over-sensitive she may be cautious if you haven't met you don't know. Often you have to gain someone's trust to turn potential into a meet.

So if you do quite well on here why the need to put this thread up? What you have posted on it subsequently looks like a double negative."

Double negative, explain? I posted it because i wanted to read other peoples views (read the OP), for example how many times they get let down before they stop trying to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun

She may not be over-sensitive she may be cautious if you haven't met you don't know. Often you have to gain someone's trust to turn potential into a meet.

So if you do quite well on here why the need to put this thread up? What you have posted on it subsequently looks like a double negative.

Double negative, explain? I posted it because i wanted to read other peoples views (read the OP), for example how many times they get let down before they stop trying to meet someone. "

Looks like i will have to keep it simple for you.

You put up a thread which is either asking for advice or complaining about being let down, or maybe its a combination of both. Its in swingers chat so its not the lounge and its for more serious topics.

You then later post in here "after all its only a bit of fun "

Now that's a double negative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun

She may not be over-sensitive she may be cautious if you haven't met you don't know. Often you have to gain someone's trust to turn potential into a meet.

So if you do quite well on here why the need to put this thread up? What you have posted on it subsequently looks like a double negative.

Double negative, explain? I posted it because i wanted to read other peoples views (read the OP), for example how many times they get let down before they stop trying to meet someone.

Looks like i will have to keep it simple for you.

You put up a thread which is either asking for advice or complaining about being let down, or maybe its a combination of both. Its in swingers chat so its not the lounge and its for more serious topics.

You then later post in here "after all its only a bit of fun "

Now that's a double negative."

Thanks for keeping it simple, and I do enjoy your superior knowledge on all aspects of the swinging world. What does confuse me is the fact you completly ignored the OP in your initial reply, and instead refered to things I have posted in the past, if you refer to the OP i simply asked how many times do you get let down untill you stop trying, simple enough for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun

She may not be over-sensitive she may be cautious if you haven't met you don't know. Often you have to gain someone's trust to turn potential into a meet.

So if you do quite well on here why the need to put this thread up? What you have posted on it subsequently looks like a double negative.

Double negative, explain? I posted it because i wanted to read other peoples views (read the OP), for example how many times they get let down before they stop trying to meet someone.

Looks like i will have to keep it simple for you.

You put up a thread which is either asking for advice or complaining about being let down, or maybe its a combination of both. Its in swingers chat so its not the lounge and its for more serious topics.

You then later post in here "after all its only a bit of fun "

Now that's a double negative.

Thanks for keeping it simple, and I do enjoy your superior knowledge on all aspects of the swinging world. What does confuse me is the fact you completly ignored the OP in your initial reply, and instead refered to things I have posted in the past, if you refer to the OP i simply asked how many times do you get let down untill you stop trying, simple enough for you? "

Your welcome i am glad you appreciated my effort not to over complicate things.

Now if you ask a question then you use a "?" mark as it lets others know your intent. Without inserting it the original post comes across as slightly whiney about being let down and not as a question.

Your attempt at sarcasm is a little feeble though, can i ask why you felt the need to ad it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested

Well after reading some of your posts on here you do use the expression "maybe im cynical" often. Now if she reads the forums she may fine that is too negative for her tastes. She may be wavering on meeting, who knows. But if she does read the forums and sees this i would think your chances of meeting are very slim.

Ahh right, well luckily for me I do quite well on here as the poeple i meet are not judgemental and over sensitive and tend to take what I write in the forums with a pinch of salt, after all its only a bit of fun

She may not be over-sensitive she may be cautious if you haven't met you don't know. Often you have to gain someone's trust to turn potential into a meet.

So if you do quite well on here why the need to put this thread up? What you have posted on it subsequently looks like a double negative.

Double negative, explain? I posted it because i wanted to read other peoples views (read the OP), for example how many times they get let down before they stop trying to meet someone.

Looks like i will have to keep it simple for you.

You put up a thread which is either asking for advice or complaining about being let down, or maybe its a combination of both. Its in swingers chat so its not the lounge and its for more serious topics.

You then later post in here "after all its only a bit of fun "

Now that's a double negative.

Thanks for keeping it simple, and I do enjoy your superior knowledge on all aspects of the swinging world. What does confuse me is the fact you completly ignored the OP in your initial reply, and instead refered to things I have posted in the past, if you refer to the OP i simply asked how many times do you get let down untill you stop trying, simple enough for you?

Your welcome i am glad you appreciated my effort not to over complicate things.

Now if you ask a question then you use a "?" mark as it lets others know your intent. Without inserting it the original post comes across as slightly whiney about being let down and not as a question.

Your attempt at sarcasm is a little feeble though, can i ask why you felt the need to ad it?"

Sarcasm? I was being sincere, and your right I missed out the all important ? mark , can I ask why you felt the need to respend to my OP, if it came across as whiney?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Your attempt at sarcasm is a little feeble though, can i ask why you felt the need to ad it?

Sarcasm? I was being sincere, and your right I missed out the all important ? mark , can I ask why you felt the need to respend to my OP, if it came across as whiney?"

Ahh your the sort of boy who doesn't like negative responses. That makes your style of response much clearer.

And yes a "?" denotes its a question not a rhetorical question.

Why did i post? Well its a public forum and not an invites only one. Do i need to ask permission. (Note no question mark as i know the answer on that)

Sincerity......really don't be so childish as we both know it was supposed to be a sarcastic reply. If your not prepared to at least be honest then there is little point in letting you know why women cancel as your unlikely to take the information onboard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Your attempt at sarcasm is a little feeble though, can i ask why you felt the need to ad it?

Sarcasm? I was being sincere, and your right I missed out the all important ? mark , can I ask why you felt the need to respend to my OP, if it came across as whiney?

Ahh your the sort of boy who doesn't like negative responses. That makes your style of response much clearer.

And yes a "?" denotes its a question not a rhetorical question.

Why did i post? Well its a public forum and not an invites only one. Do i need to ask permission. (Note no question mark as i know the answer on that)

Sincerity......really don't be so childish as we both know it was supposed to be a sarcastic reply. If your not prepared to at least be honest then there is little point in letting you know why women cancel as your unlikely to take the information onboard."

Lol, o dear stop taking it all so serious, do you have to much pent up sexual frustration? Iam not be dragged into a pointless argumnet, as I have said before , its all just a bit of fun, chill out

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Get a room you 2!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Your attempt at sarcasm is a little feeble though, can i ask why you felt the need to ad it?

Sarcasm? I was being sincere, and your right I missed out the all important ? mark , can I ask why you felt the need to respend to my OP, if it came across as whiney?

Ahh your the sort of boy who doesn't like negative responses. That makes your style of response much clearer.

And yes a "?" denotes its a question not a rhetorical question.

Why did i post? Well its a public forum and not an invites only one. Do i need to ask permission. (Note no question mark as i know the answer on that)

Sincerity......really don't be so childish as we both know it was supposed to be a sarcastic reply. If your not prepared to at least be honest then there is little point in letting you know why women cancel as your unlikely to take the information onboard.

Lol, o dear stop taking it all so serious, do you have to much pent up sexual frustration? Iam not be dragged into a pointless argumnet, as I have said before , its all just a bit of fun, chill out "

I am not the one who is frustrated to the point of putting up a thread complaining about cancellations so i don't see any relevance in trying to insinuate i have any sexual frustration. Its a little immature but not really unexpected.

I am still not sure what "argumnet" is but in all honesty your failing to capture my interest. So i will leave you to this thread so you can make sure you have the last word as you will more than likely feel the need to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to the OPs question, I think you have given this lady enough chances. If she had changed her mind, she shouldnt keep making arrangements to meet, she should say, shes decided against meeting.

As to the rest of the the thread, to the OP, to me you didnt come across as whiney, it sounded like your were asking a genuine question. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Your attempt at sarcasm is a little feeble though, can i ask why you felt the need to ad it?

Sarcasm? I was being sincere, and your right I missed out the all important ? mark , can I ask why you felt the need to respend to my OP, if it came across as whiney?

Ahh your the sort of boy who doesn't like negative responses. That makes your style of response much clearer.

And yes a "?" denotes its a question not a rhetorical question.

Why did i post? Well its a public forum and not an invites only one. Do i need to ask permission. (Note no question mark as i know the answer on that)

Sincerity......really don't be so childish as we both know it was supposed to be a sarcastic reply. If your not prepared to at least be honest then there is little point in letting you know why women cancel as your unlikely to take the information onboard.

Lol, o dear stop taking it all so serious, do you have to much pent up sexual frustration? Iam not be dragged into a pointless argumnet, as I have said before , its all just a bit of fun, chill out

I am not the one who is frustrated to the point of putting up a thread complaining about cancellations so i don't see any relevance in trying to insinuate i have any sexual frustration. Its a little immature but not really unexpected.

I am still not sure what "argumnet" is but in all honesty your failing to capture my interest. So i will leave you to this thread so you can make sure you have the last word as you will more than likely feel the need to do.

"

Lol, at what point was I complaing about anything, re read the OP, if you choose to find the negatives in it, then thats up to you, if your just looking for an argument then go elsewhere, and again just chill out a bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In answer to the OPs question, I think you have given this lady enough chances. If she had changed her mind, she shouldnt keep making arrangements to meet, she should say, shes decided against meeting.

As to the rest of the the thread, to the OP, to me you didnt come across as whiney, it sounded like your were asking a genuine question. x"

Thanks, it wasnt meant to be either whiney or complaining,

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Phew - The Love-In seems to have ended!

I just didn't know where to look for a while it was getting so heated & passionate and I just didn't know where it was going to end up, it looked like a hotel room for 2 was needed at one point though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Phew - The Love-In seems to have ended!

I just didn't know where to look for a while it was getting so heated & passionate and I just didn't know where it was going to end up, it looked like a hotel room for 2 was needed at one point though! "
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Lol, I think he fancies me realy, just in denial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your dignity and don't make any more arrangements to meet her unless she contacts you.

For me, a no show once without contacting to say there was/had been a problem is a definate candidate for the block list.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keep your dignity and don't make any more arrangements to meet her unless she contacts you.

For me, a no show once without contacting to say there was/had been a problem is a definate candidate for the block list."

True, I think 3 chances is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In answer to the OPs question, I think you have given this lady enough chances. If she had changed her mind, she shouldnt keep making arrangements to meet, she should say, shes decided against meeting.

As to the rest of the the thread, to the OP, to me you didnt come across as whiney, it sounded like your were asking a genuine question. x"

ditto, and 3 chances is more than enough !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In answer to the OPs question, I think you have given this lady enough chances. If she had changed her mind, she shouldnt keep making arrangements to meet, she should say, shes decided against meeting.

As to the rest of the the thread, to the OP, to me you didnt come across as whiney, it sounded like your were asking a genuine question. x"

Same here.Sounded like a genuine question to me also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice.

Maybe your right, however is she was not a time waster she would have had the courtesy to let me know that she was not longer interested "

To be fair, of all the people I have talked to and never met. I think only one has ever been straight up enough to say she's changed her mind, possibly 2 actually.

People don't want to have to say that sort of stuff to other people... you could say that it's cowardly or even disrespectful, and maybe in some cases it is. On the other hand, they could well have had past experiences where they tried to be honest... and it only ended in nastyness after.

As Jed said, keep your dignity... and take the hint. If you really think their excuses are valid, then just leave it up to them to arrange when is best to meet. You'll soon find out if they really want to.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

As a "rule" - 2 chances (assuming the first reason is legit). Only exception being if no reason given first time.

In this day and age of logisitics, numbers, ratios, women have even more choice and "power" (as explained by a few women to me)... if a lady sees a guy she wants to meet, she'll at least make it clear (in any number of ways) including clearing a date that same week - if you're the one doing the running around or spending month's at a time then its time to stop and move to greener pastures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfectly reasonable question not sure what that guys problem was, maybe he's jealous he's got none to ask about

It's easy to say leave it but for us men we're sometimes stupid and the thought of chasing and capturing this bird will always make us keep wanting it however many times she cancels. I think women are better at saying no for any reason then men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe she reassessed you after having doubts and chose not to meet you. That is not a time waster that is someone making a personal choice."

actually i think after reassessing 3 times and still not turning up, id class them a time waster and im sure you would too if it was you they had reassesed 3 times lol

once you have decided not to meet someone you dont go on and arrange another 2 meets!! well dont know about you but i dont

I'll give anyone the benifit of the doubt but if they let me down on the second time i wouldnt arrange to meet them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perfectly reasonable question not sure what that guys problem was, maybe he's jealous he's got none to ask about

It's easy to say leave it but for us men we're sometimes stupid and the thought of chasing and capturing this bird will always make us keep wanting it however many times she cancels. I think women are better at saying no for any reason then men "

Men love the pursuit so we sometimes leave room for whatever it is to happen even though it keeps eluding us lol.girl power lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think you giving her 3 chances is more than fair, move on chap and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three chances is two too many

Unless of course death was one excuse :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times do you get let down by someone (to meet) on here untill you stop bothering or realise their a time waster. I have been let down 3 times now by the same person(1 reason seemed genuine, 1 sounded iffy, and the last she didnt even give a reason) do I continue or just put her in my ever expanding time wasting bin "

people get 3 chances with me

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Wow and I thought women were bitchy!

Anyway...

I think 3 chances is pleanty. If she has decided for whatever reason that you aren't for her then she should have the decency just to say so rather than keep you hangin on there. That, not the fact she doesn't want to meet, makes her a timewaster in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Id give it up as a bad job,its got to the stage where she can't even be bothered to give a reason for not turning up

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I think you've been patient but wouldn't arrange to meet this person again, she may have legitimate reasons for not meeting you, possibly cold feet or whatever but pretty bad not to let you know the last time. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it depends on the legitimacy of the excuse.

i won't arrange to meet someone until i've a basis of trust established and you kind of get to know when you're being chucked a flan.

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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"How many times do you get let down by someone (to meet) on here untill you stop bothering or realise their a time waster. I have been let down 3 times now by the same person(1 reason seemed genuine, 1 sounded iffy, and the last she didnt even give a reason) do I continue or just put her in my ever expanding time wasting bin "

Wow I thought handbags at dawn was going to happen at the beginning.

Anyway to your question.

We had to cancel a meet once at the last minute and re arranged, the next meet was cancelled by the man, we then had to cancel again, and he cancelled when we had rearranged again ( are you with me up to now? ) We then arranged yet another meet and had great fun on that meet and future meets.

If we had given up or he had we would have missed out on some great fun.........but........I think if he had cancelled the last arranged meet or we had cancelled we had both given up arranging a fourth one.

Maybe she has changed her mind and decided against it and hasn't the bottle to tell you, I would do what Jed says , keep your dignity and take it she has changed her mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was waiting for Harry Hill to shout "fight" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single girls thoughts:

i once arranged to meet a guy, (dogging location!!), and he didnt show, even though he had chased me with messages to agree,

FYI, no one came, so its not like I got a drive through (and thought i was a minger lol), just didnt show. When i text him later he claimed he was there!! lol

Good job i didnt run anyone over whilst driving home then, because i was obviously blind!!

But seriously, i was more upset at myslef, putting myself at risk, late at night, pitch black. Not Good.

Again, im not daft, i know im kinda doing that whenever i go out alone dogging, but this particular evening it was so late. Sigh, still hasnt put me off. ANd if i had ever met him i would now have his bollocks as an attractive play toy for my sisters lab lol

LP xx

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