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"7 weeks old give her time for Godsake night feeds and every thing else she prob tied" I am the father and participate in both children's up bring, if you read the original message it does suggest its been a ongoing issue since our first child. | |||
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"mr r posting here, miss c mum to two children one being a 7 week old baby. ive noticed from having our first child shes lost interest and now that shes had another baby there is no chance at all! Please help ! any tips from mothering mums be great!!" Selfish cow Fancy not wanting sex 7 weeks after having a baby, I mean its not like she has anything to do all day looking after two children Give her a couple of pro plus and tell her to buck her ideas up These women | |||
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"7 weeks old give her time for Godsake night feeds and every thing else she prob tied I am the father and participate in both children's up bring, if you read the original message it does suggest its been a ongoing issue since our first child." Maybe you dont satisfy her Mr | |||
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"7 weeks old give her time for Godsake night feeds and every thing else she prob tied I am the father and participate in both children's up bring, if you read the original message it does suggest its been a ongoing issue since our first child. Maybe you dont satisfy her Mr" | |||
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"Loads of women go off sex after childbirth its really not uncommon Maybe she's feeling a little tired, frumpy and unsexy, again common so soon after giving birth Have a wank and give her time " I agree! I also agree with the other post about being close in other ways. Slowly but surely things will get back on track. Try to be understanding and try new things, again as the other reply said try sexual massages etc. | |||
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"Why not just give some constructive criticism without slagging him off. He does have a point in his question as the issue has persisted since their 1st child and sex is an important pair bonding tool towards a healthy relationship and with regards to the children. If the parents are getting on well them that transfer back to the children having a better upbringing with less drama in it. My advice mate would be to air out your concerns as you stated here and come to mutually beneficial compromise." He has had constructive criticism. Do you have any idea how hard it is to have a baby and those first few weeks with the new baby.... Not to mention having another child to look after too Yes sex is important between a couple but not that important that you can't wait a bit. Plenty of other ways to have intimacy. | |||
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"Why not just give some constructive criticism without slagging him off. He does have a point in his question as the issue has persisted since their 1st child and sex is an important pair bonding tool towards a healthy relationship and with regards to the children. If the parents are getting on well them that transfer back to the children having a better upbringing with less drama in it. My advice mate would be to air out your concerns as you stated here and come to mutually beneficial compromise." cheers light bulb. funny as I actually supply light bulbs lol. | |||
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"mr r posting here, miss c mum to two children one being a 7 week old baby. ive noticed from having our first child shes lost interest and now that shes had another baby there is no chance at all! Please help ! any tips from mothering mums be great!!" To be brutally honest, not too impressed that you are trying to play solo from a couples profile, that you have a 7 week old baby but want to go play away whilst your missus isn't that interested and that you are bitching about it on here. If I were you and would be stepping back for a while and asking myself some serious questions about myself and the relationship with your partner. Sorry to be so frank, but some things should take priority. . . Mr | |||
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"Sorry to ask an obvious question but, if she's gone off sex, what could you offer as a couple on a swinging site to people that you meet?" I was going to ask exactly the same, especially as she has been off sex since the first child | |||
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"Why not just give some constructive criticism without slagging him off. He does have a point in his question as the issue has persisted since their 1st child and sex is an important pair bonding tool towards a healthy relationship and with regards to the children. If the parents are getting on well them that transfer back to the children having a better upbringing with less drama in it. My advice mate would be to air out your concerns as you stated here and come to mutually beneficial compromise." He hasn't mentioned age of first child, for all we know the age gap between two children could be close. When I had my one and only child I went of sex for years, to bloody knackered, did pretty much every night feed, plus all day long running around after the child. Sorry swinging for me at that time was the last thing on my mind | |||
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"mr r posting here, miss c mum to two children one being a 7 week old baby. ive noticed from having our first child shes lost interest and now that shes had another baby there is no chance at all! Please help ! any tips from mothering mums be great!!" Take a break from fab. I think this is something you should discuss with her, more than asking a forum for the magic ingredient to rekindle her interest. She must have had some interest otherwise the youngest child wouldn't have happened. Give her time, show her support, and hang up your swinging boots until she is ready. If she is feeling a little low and preoccupied, seeing this thread really isn't going to help her. Good luck! | |||
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"Give the poor guy a break! You people need to get off your high horse!!! " Do you know how hard it is to look after a child? I looked after my nephew like he was my own, I did night feeds, bathed, fed and looked after him, to help his parents out, he's 7 now | |||
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"mr r posting here, miss c mum to two children one being a 7 week old baby. ive noticed from having our first child shes lost interest and now that shes had another baby there is no chance at all! Please help ! any tips from mothering mums be great!!To be brutally honest, not too impressed that you are trying to play solo from a couples profile, that you have a 7 week old baby but want to go play away whilst your missus isn't that interested and that you are bitching about it on here. If I were you and would be stepping back for a while and asking myself some serious questions about myself and the relationship with your partner. Sorry to be so frank, but some things should take priority. . . Mr" | |||
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"Your partner is only 22, to me this would suggest both children born pretty close together. Instead of looking for party invites would you not be better staying at home and letting your wife go out so she can have a few hours break from the children. There's also the possibility that she "swing" before children were born more to please you than wanting to, I've no idea if this is the case but it's a possibility. She may have decided since children were born that swinging isn't her priority. I think it's selfish of you to go out looking and attending meets leaving your partner at home bringing up your two children. A question for you, is swinging more important than your family? " | |||
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"mr r posting here, miss c mum to two children one being a 7 week old baby. ive noticed from having our first child shes lost interest and now that shes had another baby there is no chance at all! Please help ! any tips from mothering mums be great!! Selfish cow Fancy not wanting sex 7 weeks after having a baby, I mean its not like she has anything to do all day looking after two children Give her a couple of pro plus and tell her to buck her ideas up These women " I was thinking the same thing. I'd play away myself and seek sympathy on a swingers site: that'd teach the frigid mare! | |||
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"mr r posting here, miss c mum to two children one being a 7 week old baby. ive noticed from having our first child shes lost interest and now that shes had another baby there is no chance at all! Please help ! any tips from mothering mums be great!! lost sexual interest I should say " You are right to be concerned; any loving partner would be concerned about the matter. The birth of a child may alter the new mother's sex drive. Some mothers want sex straight after the birth some go off sex for a while. This is normal sometimes due impart to the changing hormones in pregnancy rebalancing after childbirth. However they may be other reasons some such as postnatal depression which may need the intervention of counselling or even drugs to overcome. It is advised that for the first four to six weeks after childbirth sexual intercourse should (if attempted) be gentle and loving as there is a chance of haemorrhage lubricant may have to be used due to lowering of estrogen levels at this time. The problem of low sex drive may only be short term then return to pre pregnancy level if that is the case then nothing needs to be done, or it may be long term. In the case of long term loss of sex drives there are many ways to “improve” the situation. These include simple measures such as having a nap during the day, the male partner sharing the care of the child (children), talking to your partner. Even the chance to pamper herself by having a long warm bath or a glass of wine to help change from being in mummy mode to wife and lover mode may help. Lack of sex drive after birth of a child may resolve by itself but it may require help from a GP | |||
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"7 weeks old give her time for Godsake night feeds and every thing else she prob tied" | |||
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"Your partner is only 22, to me this would suggest both children born pretty close together. Instead of looking for party invites would you not be better staying at home and letting your wife go out so she can have a few hours break from the children. There's also the possibility that she "swing" before children were born more to please you than wanting to, I've no idea if this is the case but it's a possibility. She may have decided since children were born that swinging isn't her priority. I think it's selfish of you to go out looking and attending meets leaving your partner at home bringing up your two children. A question for you, is swinging more important than your family? " Indeed! I was 22 when I had my first child. The "trauma" of the birth scared me from even going to the loo as I had stitches. Six weeks to the day my husband said you can have sex now. He'd never heard me swear! Sex was the last thing on my mind. Him helping around the house, looking after the baby, being supportive made a he'll of a difference and our sex life resumed! | |||
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"There are plenty of other ways to be close. It's exhausting having a baby and some women go off sex for a very long time. Don't pressure her and just be there for her. Give her plenty of time and support... Run her a bath, look after baby... Give her a none sexual massage or something. Cook her a nice meal. " A fair point ... It really is about being selfless right now | |||
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"She must have had sex at some point after the first child cus she has just had baby number 2 " I thought that! | |||
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